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 10ky
Joined: 11/15/2012
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ok; everyone calm down. I revoke my post n apologise.
-pauline
No, I am absolutely not violent. I reject that claim vehemently.
 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
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Posted: 10/14/2017 5:29:56 AM

Well, woman, I've never hit on a kid in me life with one exception: a 16 year old who looked at least 24 to me. Massive pair of t1ts.


Yet more objectification - you just don't know when to quit, do you? It's this sort of behaviour that makes any 'apology' you made then or since immediately dishonest and hollow. You're talking about a minor, for god's sake. What is wrong with you??


Regarding violent men, well, I think that that is the kind of dude women like. Bad boy allure and all that jazz? Rings a bell? All it takes is some brains. You see a dude is violent all you've gotta do is to stay away. Men don't turn violent over night.


No, it's learned behaviour propping up a weak sense of self-esteem and character. I often see the results in my therapy sessions. As do the police, social services, hospitals, women's refuges and children's homes. As scarey says, why should the expectation be on women staying away from violence? That's simply passing the buck. The expectation should be that men should grow up not to be violent in the first place.

Scarey also mentions a concept called paternalism. One would think that paternalism would convey a sense of protection and support, nut no - the only protection and support on offer from a paternalist is towards themselves. What's paternal about that? In contrast, maternalism does convey a sense of protection and support, and is the backbone of true feminism, and the idea that equality and freedom is for all.


No, I am absolutely not violent. I reject that claim vehemently.


Of that I have no doubt. Even a packet of crisps would be able to relax there... However, I also have no doubt that you would like to be a violent person, in the mistaken belief that it would bring you kudos and women. Your posts and threads reek of it.
 scareymush
Joined: 8/9/2011
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Posted: 10/14/2017 5:31:51 AM
You are violent, you are abusive and like a typical emotional torturer and a physically violent abuser you wrote a post which you're now revoking having elicited the reaction you wanted....the post was intended to deliver a punch...it was a nasty **** slap across the face, it was a gut-wrenching, sickening kick in the stomach...you almost floored us with it, but we're not down and we haven't been knocked out just yet.

Pauline, I hoped your giving that poster the benefit of the doubt would prove my first instincts about him wrong...I hoped that he was taking the mick and that having tested our collective mettle he'd stop being a prick and carry on by being normal...but nah, he's sexist through and through in the very worst way.

@ Orange, he might not be physically able or he may be too much of a coward to put himself in a situation where he'd be rightly walloped back...but he's definitely a bully and unfortunately his words are having a dreadful impact on people who deserve better...so in that way I perceive him as violent.
 scareymush
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Posted: 10/15/2017 3:38:11 PM
This is a good article from the Washinton Post titled "Harvey Weinstein's 30-year Pattern of abuse in Hollywood"

There's lots of accounts of various abuses he subjected a myriad of people to, I think Orange will recognise a certain modus operandi and certain personality traits that befit people with a certain personality disorder in this excerpt:

"Brewer, Weinstein’s long-ago producer, is now 64 and living in Hermosa Beach, Calif. On Tuesday, when the New Yorker published a 2015 audio recording of Weinstein trying to lure a model into his hotel room, Brewer was stopped cold.

It took him back to the day before the “Playing for Keeps” premiere, in Miramax’s cramped Manhattan office. Weinstein, enraged that he had been out of pocket for a few hours, lunged at him and began punching him in the head, Brewer said; the skirmish tumbled into the corridor and then the elevator. By the time Brewer reached the street, intent on never associating with the Weinsteins again, he said, Harvey was pleading for him to stay and help ensure that their film got launched.

“Listening to the audiotape, it gave me this visceral reaction to my experience that day,” Brewer said by phone Thursday. “This alternating between violence, threats, commands and then begging, mock-crying, trying anything — any angle to get what he wanted.”[i/]
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 10/16/2017 2:55:43 AM
It's behaviour seen in the cycle of abuse: https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2015/05/the-narcissistic-cycle-of-abuse/

It's all about maintaining control over others. When a narcissist doesn't feel they're getting the attention they expect, they threaten and abuse others, then adopt a victim role to garner sympathy for themselves. Note that there is a difference between making yourself appear a victim and declaring your vulnerability. Once others acquiesce, the narcissist thinks they've won, and restarts the cycle.

Worth reading about transactional analysis and drama triangles.
 scareymush
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Msg: 76
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Posted: 10/16/2017 8:36:29 AM
Its so fvcked up isn't it?

Pauline has related her and her mother's experience of one such a man and the difficulty her mother had in getting him away...he refused to leave the family home! Meanwhile, he subjected Pauline's family to dreadful horrors such as beatings and murderous intentions. My belief is that Pauline should feel immensely proud of her mother for finally extricating herself and her little ones from that horrendous bully.

I'd love to meet Pauline's mother and say to her "Well done, you're an inspiration!"

I honestly do not understand how this life and the living of it we all share has a place in it for bullies of this caliber ....why do we have to suffer such horrible fvckwits at all?

Observing 10ky's abuse of us and the auspices of this forum and the various reactions to the disgusting sh1t he comes out with is somewhat interesting...in general, we all want to believe he's better than this and some of us excuse his behaviour but he's relentless and an unashamed psychopathic narcissist and he won't change his ways and he won't fvck off and it appears to me that he imagines he and Pauline are somehow bonded and on very friendly terms with each other...I read what Pauline writes and I know quite well that that is absolutely not the impression she'd like him to have, She's more or less told him to go and fvck himself numerous times but he responds with Xx's and puzzlement as to Pauline's unkind words and what might have inspired them....what the feckin' heck is going on there?
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 10/17/2017 1:56:32 AM
Pleased to see you're still here Pauline. There are just too many topics in this tread to reply to them all.

Hillary Clinton was saying this weekend that this whole mysogynistic approach links Trump, Brexit, Weinstein. North Korea etc and I see a certain amount of sense in that.

I've met all sorts of people over the years with bizarre views on life. I remember getting a severe bollocking back in my 20's for attempting to save the company thousands of pounds. It was explained in no uncertain terms that was the responsibility of the purchasing manager and I would have to apologise to him. Which I did and got a lecture from him for a few hours on how to behave. Anyone still here? Anyway, he explained that he was a god fearing christian and believed god would always provide. He gave me an example of needing a new car. He looked through the papers and found someone selling her recently deceased husband's car. He said that she knew nothing about cars and so he was able to get it for bugger all.

Most people here will see that as a disgusting way to behave but there's another gang of people (called the Tories - joke) who would see that as perfectly sensible.
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 10/17/2017 2:25:47 AM

Hillary Clinton was saying this weekend that this whole mysogynistic approach links Trump, Brexit, Weinstein. North Korea etc and I see a certain amount of sense in that.


Indeed. All it comes down to is willy-waggling.
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 6/19/2018 5:08:58 AM
I didn't have to look very far to find a thread started by 10KY (Paul) which quickly degenerated down to his level. This is from October 2017 - just 8 months ago.

As Pauline said, you flatter yourself to think we hate you 10KY. You are just a boring, racist troll.
 10ky
Joined: 11/15/2012
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Posted: 6/19/2018 7:48:37 AM
PS: Where's Pauline gone? Haven't seen/spoken to her in a while. Since we met up last in fact. She was sweet <3 x
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 6/20/2018 3:35:40 AM
Pretty obvious that she realised what a fool she'd been and now wants to be anywhere you're not.



In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.
Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread.
 10ky
Joined: 11/15/2012
Msg: 82
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Posted: 6/20/2018 4:04:29 AM
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Getting wittier by the minute pops! Amazing xD

PS: Pauline is here.. somewhere.
-Pauline
Get in touch *NOW*
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 6/20/2018 5:09:29 AM
You only have to read the last couple of pages of this thread to know what Pauline thinks of you. And just about everyone else come to that.
 Paulineandzeus
Joined: 8/6/2018
Msg: 84
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Posted: 8/9/2018 4:52:09 PM

Pretty obvious that she realised what a fool she'd been and now wants to be anywhere you're not.


Actually no. I don't feel like a fool in the slightest, I tried to be friends with someone who didn't deserve my friendship in the end.

But yes, spot on, I really have not wanted to be around him, the fact that I've not posted on here since last Christmas might indicate that Paul ended up being a bit of a twat towards me and I'd rather have boiled my head in a vat of molten lava than exchange pleasantries with him.

Sometimes people cross a line you really should not cross (and that has nothing to do with my personal safety, I was never unsafe around him at any point).

You owed me an apology Paul (not that I think you'll ever say sorry, you are way too arrogant for that). But the time to do that is well over. And I'm not that dense that I think you'll act like that towards every female friend you have, you just did to me, because you thought I liked you enough to put up with it and still want to talk to you.

I am still gobsmacked that you had the ****ing nerve to be that offensive to me and think I would still want to speak to you afterwards. For nothing, for wanting to see you to say cheerio before you left Scotland, I am absolutely sorry I bothered my arse in the first place.

I hope you learn lessons, you won't though, because I can't think of anyone I know who is as intelligent as you are on so many levels who would think it appropriate to be that ****ing stupid in the first place.

Oh and Paul, when you read this, if you think you are going to respond by giving me more cheek/shite/insults, don't, because if I had said what you said to me (and you know what I'm talking about), I'd still be ****ing cringing. You have my address, you know where I am and you've had plenty of time to say sorry for being such a**** You've chosen not to. That's your call.

Your Frankie Boyle style patter is a pile of crap, you wouldn't have the balls to post what you said to me on here, because it might spoil your mr nice guy image with the few women on the board who for some reason still don't think you are a tit.
 Paulineandzeus
Joined: 8/6/2018
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Posted: 8/9/2018 4:58:30 PM

PS: Where's Pauline gone? Haven't seen/spoken to her in a while. Since we met up last in fact. She was sweet <3 x


You live in some kind of weird parallel universe, are you on something? Did someone hack your facebook? Steal your phone?

Have you forgotten why I gave you the boot from my social media, unless you were pissed the last time we spoke, you really shouldn't be under any illusion why I've not spoken a word to you since last effing Christmas.

Rocket (that's Scottish for complete idiot incase anyone is wondering). That's an insult to rockets.
 Paulineandzeus
Joined: 8/6/2018
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Posted: 8/10/2018 2:08:21 AM
Oh and having slept on this, I'll post it. This isn't why we fell out but it's connected. I've spoken about this on the boards so it's no biggie. When I was 20 I dated someone I had known briefly a few years earlier. We went out on a night out and he went upstairs to get his car keys and his brother made a pass at me. That's the abbreviated version. I just ran out of the house. I told the guy what had happened and he lost the plot. He started shouting at me. He lifted his hands to me. Didn't make contact but at one point I thought he was going to batter me. And he was a strong guy. If he had really wanted to he would have kicked the shit out of me.

I told him to leave me alone and eventually flagged a taxi down. Which wasn't easy as they lived in a village and I was nowhere near a taxi rank.

It later transpired that his brother had been accused of rape and charged when he was 14 and acquitted. The girl was also 14 I believe I had no idea. His brother had no interest in hearing what happened. I was to blame. The relationship ended like that.

I was terrified of the pair of them. I live in a small enough town that I was terrified of bumping into either of them. I remember being on a night out with mates and saying I have to go home. Probably took a year for me to feel comfortable socialising. Given how small my town is.

In conversation you were more interested in whether I had led this guy on in any way. Whether I had come onto him and then backed off. Because you are the absolute authority on all things women and how they behave. Like I'm going to do that with a complete stranger who I had never met before in my life.

Chick's got a temper? You don't have the first clue what people go through thanks to other people's anger issues. Or their alcohol issues, or their violence. You've got a lot to learn. You really have.

And the issue for me is, isn't how you view women. It's that you diminish people's experiences by trying to re write them because you are on some kind of crusade of all women are awful and it can't be the man's fault. No matter how badly they behave.

This isn't why we fell out but it's not far off and maybe you'll get why what you said to me was so offensive. Because it was. And I don't believe youd say any different to me or to any other female now. I doubt that you'll care but I'm not asking you to.

Because in your view, if something like this happens there must be more to it. There wasn't. I was in the wrong place at the wrong time and the blame was entirely on him. Not me.

I've spent a lot of my life forgiving people when they've been crap to me. I refuse to do that these days. Because some things cut quite deep and should not be joked about. Full stop.

No one deserves an experience like that. Or worse. No one. Male or female.
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