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 Nezz123
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.....This topic is something I've wondered about before. Thanks for sharing!


I think he is in shock that I feel confident (it's like how dare I)

Yes! I have definitely experienced a version of this. I think guys are sort of shocked--maybe even taken aback--when women reach a point where they're satisfied (or even happy) with some aspect of themselves.


How do I continue with a man who feels as strongly as he does about a woman's body?

I'd say--and really, I'd tell this to anyone--find out what his values *really* are. How does he *truly* measure a person's worth? Their job/CEO title? Chest size? Cash? Stuff? ...Or is it compassion? Hard work? Loyalty to a cause? Doing the right thing? Then, answer those questions for yourself. Compare your values to his and see where they match.

And here's the thing. I don't know him. He might be shallow jerk. Or he might be a decent person who is tempted by status / has an extreme love of boobs. Even good people have frailties like that. I'd say...seek that answer. Ask him questions like:

1. What characteristics do you look for in others?
2. Do you have any heroes? Who are they?
3. What would you want people to say about you when you're not there?
4. What traits do you admire in a woman?
5. What's his definition of a "good life"?

Then don't just take his word for it. People can say all kinds of noble things, then act the opposite. Listen to his answers and compare them to his actions. After you've known him a while, evaluate his role in your life ^_^.

P.S. Take my word for it, you don't need big boobs to work in Vegas.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 302
Am I being made to feel less than a woman for lack of 'assets'?
Posted: 7/25/2017 9:21:30 AM
Look, this is not terribly complicated, no matter how many Forum people try their best to make it.

Why don't one of you Forum ladies who can still ask questions, simply post a Q. (Obviously for the men)

Is a BBB your idea of the ideal woman? (that's Buxom, Blonde, Bimbo)

How about is Big knockers on your wish list for a mate?

There have been many such questions over the years. Some might still be buried. Usually the answers were.....

And if someone does post it, it will be safe (from the silly Forum Gestapo) if it's posted in the Site Sug/Help Forum. Threads there are UNdeletable...
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 303
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Posted: 7/25/2017 10:15:41 AM
>>>driving old cars does have a cost. I live in a snow belt where such vehicle only go out a few months a year, tho I drove my 1986 GT all year around, and sure learned how to drift and hang the tail end out :) Like any other antique, people do not respect them, but they are such a time machine. Driving with all that old technology makes a new minivan seem like less of an appliance. Like making ice cream the old fashioned way instead of just grabbing a quart from the inconvenience store.

"I think guys are shocked by a woman who is happy with some aspect of herself"

>>I guess for those who grew up with a sister always complaining, its a relief. For those guys hoping to prey upon the insecurity, it probably makes them feel like they lose an important leverage. It is, without a doubt, good to find someone's true worth, unless you just want to get laid. now for the slaffa test:

Is a BBB your idea of the ideal woman?

>>>Ideal for bed, yes. who doesn't want a sexy body next to them? but for every other aspect of dating? not necessarily. what's above the shoulders and under the $75 haircut is what's important, and sadly, many (not all) who have a porn star body don't seem to develop in much other areas....b/c why do they need to, there's always a fellow ready to run over and bail them out of whatever their irresponsibility got them into. they can have a "put all your troubles in your old kit bag and smile, smile, smile" outlook on life....but when the chips are down, you'll see the real them.

Big knockers on your wish list for a mate?

>>>since someone told me last week Santa doesn't exist, I've learned there's a wide gap between what I wish, and what I get :) My first gf was slender, and I learned that cuddling with bones isn't funny, and I prefer my gals voluptuous.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/25/2017 10:28:06 AM
Slaffa, I would not ask them what they are interested in their fantasies in their head for what they want a woman to look like. What would be the point of that? It would be more opportunity for men to say things that would be demeaning to the OP. She is a beautiful woman with a beautiful figure, but whatever her figure would be, it doesn't make a difference because this is what she is born with like we all have the bodies we're born with that appeal to different people. Public opinion doesn't matter.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 7/25/2017 10:31:10 AM
BBB for me is black, brown, and beautiful. My blonde would be Mary J. Blige.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 7/25/2017 10:47:38 AM

Then don't just take his word for it. People can say all kinds of noble things, then act the opposite. Listen to his answers and compare them to his actions.

Her problem was that he WAS saying what he meant -- and she didn't like it, understandably... but she wanted to keep seeing him. In essence, she felt like she didn't have "the assets" he liked, thus, wanted what she couldn't Sufficiently get -- which is why she asked how she could "continue" with him. Her problem is that she wanted to continue with what she couldn't quite "get" -- which to one degree or another -- is a natural for just about everyone (but to her it's way out in left field, IF her story was true).
 Manofsubstance1970
Joined: 7/8/2017
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Posted: 7/25/2017 3:23:15 PM
“It’s so boring reading postmenopausal prudes not liking sex or masturbation and opposing people who do enjoy it”
“If some women don’t want sex anymore, then what is the point of dating men? Why bother wasting men’s time, if all you can offer is friendship and no sex?”
“If they have a very low libido, then they might as well get help, so they can learn to enjoy sex again or stay miserable and asexual, they have the choice, so they can’t complain, when options are available to them”

http://www.34-menopause-symptoms.com/postmenopause-treatments.htm

“If you are a woman who finds you don’t enjoy sex or talking about sex at all, then clearly you need help or you will never, ever have a healthy and fulfilling relationship with a man”
“I could safely say if a woman never masturbates and orgasms, then clearly she will not know what turns her on, how to stimulate her body, how to penetrate her vagina and how to reach an orgasm, because she won’t even learn to do it herself and enjoy the touch of her own body and make herself orgasm, so how can she experience it with another and enjoy another touching her body?"

"If a woman has a problem with self masturbation, then I question her sexual market value, knowledge, attitude towards sex and I would consider it to be a red flag”
“Nothing worse than dating a woman who has a hang up about sex and has a very low libido, because like I said before, some women don’t like sex or masturbation, touching their own bodies, they don’t like talking or thinking about sex, so they are past dating anyone, unless they get the help they need or the dating game is over for them”

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_sexual_activity
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 308
Am I being made to feel less than a woman for lack of 'assets'?
Posted: 7/25/2017 3:42:00 PM
"It would be more opportunity for men to say mean things about her body"

>>>but it sounds like that is the type of man she seeks out. If that is the case, then ironically, the men here who have posted they actually like her figure...may be the men who have no chance with her. regardless of the fact they might treat her like a princess and overlook little niggling things b/c they love her figure. Not that I am saying those individuals overlook things due to looks, i'm just saying they're human--we all do it :) I was listening to Billy Joel's song "she's always a woman to me", and just listening to the lyrics...wow, what a selfish b1tch! who would find that attractive?

but some will overlook how the woman he is singing about, treats the narrator b/c perhaps those people also laugh when someone is hurt, etc. and others will overlook it b/c wow whatta rack she has. some might find a woman who dates men who treat her poorly attractive, but I see her and I see that personality and it turns me off. I lose respect, and see such a person more for their physical attributes than the personal traits I don't respect...b/c what's left for me to respect than their physical attributes, if they have any I am looking for?

"public opinion doesn't matter"

>>>it shouldn't. but life can be a popularity contest at times. Some people can get away with shooting someone on 5th avenue.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 309
Am I being made to feel less than a woman for lack of 'assets'?
Posted: 7/25/2017 3:57:12 PM
Well let's be accurate, noone can MAKE you feel a certain way, particularly about yourself. Now if you think he is implying you shouldn't feel as good about yourself then why would you consider wasting your time listening to any more of his blither? You say you get along well with him, that just doesn't make sense. Maybe you meant that you don't argue, or something like that but I wouldn't give anyone another second of my attention that spoke to me like that. What bothers me is why you would spend any more time with this person, it should bother you.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 310
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Posted: 7/25/2017 4:00:08 PM

Nothing worse than dating a woman who has a hang up about sex and has a very low libido,


This reminds me of an incident I experienced a few years ago. I was out with a woman and everything was great. She was smoldering hot, fun to talk to, upbeat personality, etc. As we were taking our seats at the bar, I put both of my hands on her shoulders as I was getting ready to sit down. She said "oh my God, your hands are so warm.", so I left them there. Then she said "mmm, this is better than sex".

I replied "it is?!", then she said "yeah, I'm not really into sex that much".

She may as well have told me she had a penis.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/25/2017 4:19:46 PM
Mustang man, my Mustang is a 2013. I sold my old work horse, which was a Honda Accord. Another vehicle was a Subaru Forester, which had good clearance when driving up mountains and to trailheads. It was the right time for me to get a sports car. I have a lot of fun driving it, and believe it or not, have not gotten one ticket. Doesn't matter what I drive, I'm always going a little too fast☺ Same applied when I had my motorcycle. I did get stopped on that, but didn't get a ticket.

Rick was a whiner. I like the way those two guys played off each other. Yeah, Richard is after the money. He's got a pretty big ego. With how some of these cars are patched up, they look like if they got into a small accident, the work would fall apart.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 7/25/2017 5:07:44 PM

Then she said "mmm, this is better than sex".

I replied "it is?!", then she said "yeah, I'm not really into sex that much".

She may as well have told me she had a penis.

I would have replied with, "I have another appendage that just may change your mind on that." Any continuing conversation on her not liking sex, I'd just play it like I'm not trying to bed her, but, just like My hands on your shoulders VS others', experiences differ (while wanting to swiftly switch to another topic).

The only reason that comes up is because I've had several gals say they're not into a guy going down on them -- it doesn't do it for them. But, thanks to taking notes from some instructional videos, I've totally turned a 180 on a couple of them. Food for thought (lol).
 forumslady
Joined: 12/7/2016
Msg: 313
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Posted: 7/25/2017 6:38:00 PM
norwegianguy456-
" The only reason that comes up is because I've had several gals say they're not into a guy going down on them -- it doesn't do it for them. But, thanks to taking notes from some instructional videos, I've totally turned a 180 on a couple of them. Food for thought (lol)."

Yeah, well, SOME women don't get into it. I can't help wondering if those women haven't met the right man.

There was a documentary I watched on Netflix, titled "Unhung hero" (Don't criticize me, he came up with the title, not me).

It was about a man who made a public proposal to his girlfriend, who turned him down, later he found out it was because he had a small penis.
At one point, in the documentary, he did a street interview type thing and asked people's advice, as to how he could keep a girlfriend, having a small 'ick.
Several people suggested that he get really good at, um, his..........oral skills.

I'm still an "To each their own" type person, but excuse me if I feel a tad sorry for women who don't like it. That's too bad, for them. ;)

Two hour porn movies?! Good God, please tell me they used stand ins. :o :D
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 7/25/2017 6:51:41 PM
I think 2 hour porn movies are made over a day or two and have a lot of editing for obvious reasons. "movie magic" and all that.
 forumslady
Joined: 12/7/2016
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Posted: 7/25/2017 7:01:25 PM
basilisk123- " I think 2 hour porn movies are made over a day or two and have a lot of editing for obvious reasons. "movie magic" and all that."

Good to know. :0

Is it possible to file workman's comp, for sex related overtime? What if you "injure" yourself? Can they get disability?

"Well, you see, I can't work, 'cause I recently had a penis injury, I over worked it."
(Sorry, this is hilarious, to me, can't help it. ;D)
 LOLTrump
Joined: 3/7/2017
Msg: 316
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Posted: 7/25/2017 7:03:44 PM

Two hour porn movies?! Good God, please tell me they used stand ins. :o :D


Prior to the VHS Home player boom, porn produced both short feature and full length features where it was actually more store and less sex.

Some of these where feature length films.

It was not just pizza guy at the door plot line.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 317
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Posted: 7/25/2017 8:01:40 PM
Yeah, Mustangs used inline 6 cylinders until 1974, and then tried it again in 82 or 83. Otherwise, they used a V6 made in Cologne Germany I believe and later a bigger V6 that looks a lot like the one GM borrowed from Buick in a lot of its cars, both rear and now front drive.

as for introducing new partners to the sex we think they've been missing out on their lives...sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't. Its fun for those of us well over the age of 18 to be their "first".

Two hour porn? I think those were "See Suzy and her friends". Just like rockbands have an opening act.
 forumslady
Joined: 12/7/2016
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Posted: 7/25/2017 8:14:25 PM
gtomustang- "Yeah, Mustangs used inline 6 cylinders until 1974, and then tried it again in 82 or 83. Otherwise, they used a V6 made in Cologne Germany I believe and later a bigger V6 that looks a lot like the one GM borrowed from Buick in a lot of its cars, both rear and now front drive.

as for introducing new partners to the sex we think they've been missing out on their lives...sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't. Its fun for those of us well over the age of 18 to be their "first".

Two hour porn? I think those were "See Suzy and her friends". Just like rockbands have an opening act."

Yeah, well, a 1968 Mustang, Red, with black interior, has been my dream car, for a very long time.

'Two hour porn? I think those were "See Suzy and her friends". Just like rockbands have an opening act."

If I were to pay attention to what some of the lead singer's of some rockbands said about their fans and what went on, backstage, with groupies, if half if it were true, they could have made their own movies. ;)
 basilisk123
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Posted: 7/25/2017 9:00:19 PM
There was that famous groupie artist that made molds of all the rockstars' penises so she can create dildos. I saw her on the TV, she had quite a collection which includes Jimmy Hendrix among others.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 7/25/2017 11:31:00 PM

Yeah, well, SOME women don't get into it. I can't help wondering if those women haven't met the right man.

I think it's a combination of that and other things, notably when there's other issues like "gross" effect to it that was never overridden... but just generally not being into it, it's IMO, usually some combination of not finding the right guy + them opening up (which would allow any semi-adequate guy to at least get it going to sufficient pleasure).

I do know from sex, having bad sex with a not a great looking gal has affected me in terms of not wanting sex... then having sex with a real cute girl and it being great making me like a dog looking for a fire hydrant to take advantage of. So I can see an effect Bad can have in combination with not having Good for a long while.

Two hour porn movies?! Good God, please tell me they used stand ins. :o :D

Ummm, I don't think it's just One Scene for 2 hours -- unless he's Really bad at going down on the gal, but darnit, she's going to tough it out with him until she cums! ;)
 Manofsubstance1970
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Posted: 7/26/2017 2:20:37 AM

Is it possible to file workman's comp, for sex related overtime? What if you "injure" yourself? Can they get disability?

"Well, you see, I can't work, 'cause I recently had a penis injury, I over worked it."
(Sorry, this is hilarious, to me, can't help it. ;D)

"Funny you say that, but insurance exists for a reason and I'm pretty sure a male porn star could insure his manhood against injuries, because many actors, musicians, models, insure their bodies and some are worth millions"

"I can safely say that Viagra play's a part in a male porn stars ability to keep going lol"
"Let's not forget that women also could occur injuries to their vagina's during intercourse, especially if a guy has a very large**** so I'm pretty sure insurance exists for both male and female porn stars"

"It's so cool when women display opened minds towards talking about sex and porn:)"
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 7/26/2017 7:06:24 AM
Coming soon: "Plenty of Fornication" - featuring the POF Forums All-Stars
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Coming soon: "Plenty of Fornication" - featuring the POF Forums All-Stars

 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 7/26/2017 7:23:04 AM
hahaha. F*ck, it's a good thing I wasn't drinking anything when I saw that little icon.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 7/26/2017 9:50:45 AM
Speaking of Mustangs...


https://youtu.be/bDp4MNXd-4g
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