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 NewYorker58
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Look at you, all of a sudden you're scaredy-cat and have to use the old man as a way to express how you feel. Loser, LOL
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 477
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Posted: 12/15/2017 3:21:44 AM


(AT) Never said that it was. I stated that no *RATIONAL* person would argue as you had said; the implication being, that anyone who did argue against your position would be not rational.


(Wilbur) Yes, I said the contrarian would be a liar, and I don't believe it would be a stretch to associate irrationality with such a person.


Once again, let me remind you that you were in that Sweet Spot of having me agree with you, letting you bask in the warm glow of being 1) right; and, 2) having me confirm that you are, indeed, right..

You're welcome.


(Wilbur) Your "issue" was with my making the remark to begin with, despite it being made in a most fitting place.


I was expressing mild surprise that such eloquence could flow from you. Confirms the "infinite number of monkeys on typewriters" postulate, I suppose...




(AT) HS, you may not brag about the same particulars that NewYorker58 does, but you *DO* brag, and shamelessly. You become an instant expert on *EVERYTHING*: airline seats, gambling, financial terminology... the only reason the list isn't longer, is that you haven't found a way to shoe-horn *MORE* about your high-flying, jet-setting lifestyle, where you travel non-stop, yet still have time to be a real-estate broker.


(halcyon_skies) AT, you're exaggerating, as usual. I know more about gambling than the average bear simply because of my proximity to Las Vegas casinos. I also happen to be acquainted with people who are expert video poker and blackjack players. One of my friends actually wrote a few books on video poker. I don't see how that's considered to be bragging.

Also, I never implied that I lived a jet-setting lifestyle. I worked as a flight attendant, but that was a number of years ago. I do go on a nice two-week vacation once a year, but that hardly makes me a jet-setter. A jet-setter is someone in high society, usually super wealthy, who travels around the world for leisure on a regular basis--often on private jets. That's not me.


I simply *LOVE* how blithely ignorant you are, of how gratingly obnoxious you are in your presentation. Your every "contribution" is written as if we mere mortals should be grateful that you deign to bless us with your semi-divine presence.



(NewYorker58) HS, you're an exaggerator and a liar. I feel sorry for the old guy. He got the bad end of this deal


(halcyon_skies) I told my guy what you said about him looking old. He took one look at your pics and concluded that you're frumpy-looking, big-hipped, have a resting b!tch face, and coarse, frizzy hair that resembles pubic hair.


What low-class gutter-swipes. It speaks to how NewYorker58 cut your guy (and you) to the quick. Is this the type of dialogue that is common between a 59 year-old "lady" and her older (as described by her) man?
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 12/15/2017 12:55:57 PM


you are, indeed, right..


Studies have shown that by responding to my posts with only the quote above, you can reduce stress in your life by up to 35%, maybe even more.

Oh, and I'm not one to use online acronyms, but "lmfao" at "scaredy-cat".

Geez, I haven't used that one since the days of trying to talk my brother into lighting his farts with a fireplace lighter. Way to go, Yorkie.
 SS4544Spd
Joined: 8/31/2016
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Posted: 12/15/2017 5:27:13 PM
NY58 wrote:

NG, a cheap guy with no interests only wants to have sex.
But that guy doesn't have "no interests." His interest is sex.


You think a cheap guy cares about showing his off dates, lol? I only had the 1 POF date be like that. We did go out though. We went out to the movies and out to eat several times.
You do have a preoccupation with cheap men, it seems, NY58..... If your date took you out to eat, and the movies, is he really that cheap, then? Unless he goes through the drive in at McD's ..with coupons...and wants to then park and watch a DVD on his laptop, in the back seat.........then a dinner and a movie isn't what I would consider an "el cheapo" date. Is this the same guy who wanted you to drink water out of jugs out of the trunk of his car?! If so...that IS cheap. (I think that was one of the only posts I did agree with you on, hopefully I am not mixing up "cheap men bashers" here lol)


Those that need to show off their good-looking dates have low self-esteem. My ex-husband was that way. Quite a lot of men out there get their self esteem from who they're dating and what they look like.
So you married a "low self-esteem" guy? That's what you seem to be saying......Generally, men are attracted to who they are attracted to. And there is something to be said about enjoying being out...."seeing and being seen".....I see nothing wrong with that at all....not much different than women enjoying showing off their man of $$ or status....or their stuff purchased by said man.
 __TEXASCHICK__
Joined: 11/9/2011
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Posted: 12/15/2017 5:32:23 PM
[I told my guy what you said about him looking old. He took one look at your pics and concluded that you're frumpy-looking, big-hipped, have a resting b!tch face, and coarse, frizzy hair that resembles pubic hair. He also said to tell you that you're in no position to be judging other people's looks. I agree with his assessment.]

good lord bless his heart
 SS4544Spd
Joined: 8/31/2016
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Posted: 12/15/2017 5:37:56 PM
Norwegian wrote:


I think you're thinking way-ahead of things. IF/when you do get a chance for a date -- never expect it's going to go from that to being settled into a serious relationship.
Yes, I agree. I know guys who won't approach a woman unless they can envision walking down the aisle with her. They're still single.

Henry:


And being seen as a “bank account” is not the worst thing that has ever happened to me. As long as I’m a “bank account with a penis attached”, we have some common ground to work from.
As long as she has um, interest in the penis that er, comes with the bank account. Otherwise, it would be...um.. insufficient fun for you.

Henry also wrote:


GTO, hit on that hot teller! I’m telling you man go for it! Just jump in there with both feet, but smoothly.
Yes, I'm inclined to agree. GTO needs to make a deposit.
 SS4544Spd
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Posted: 12/15/2017 5:48:12 PM
Henry wrote:
And let us not forget line dances, always very popular. There are always more women wanting to dance than men willing to dance. Men being idiots for the most part. But I digress…
Country dancing is vastly underrated as a way to have fun, and to meet women....especially for the ~40+ crowd. I continue to be surprised at the lack of country music clubs out there. I hate line dancing, but I can see how it's a fun way to meet people....and I have seen how guys who are good at it can work the M/W ratio to their advantage to talk to , and meet women. And country couples dancing.....two step, double two, stationary cha-cha......great fun...and women love it if you know how to do it cuz it makes them look good out there and they can show off to their friends.........Funny thing is, I really don't like the music that much, but the dancing is a whole lotta fun, and a very social thing......
 cooldog65
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Posted: 12/15/2017 8:10:47 PM

GTO needs to make a deposit.


Deposit those liquid assets!
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/15/2017 9:54:41 PM
Pig, the good old days, lol. I may have known a guy or 2 that wanted to turn their butt into a blow torch☺

SS4544, that was him. He ruined every date by saying women want to be whined and dined, and complained about women he dated that wanted to do things, even though our dates involved just a few dollars or no money. The movie was free per a pass he had from work, and we did a hike on another date. One gf went on vacation without him. You can't enjoy yourself with someone that's always whinging. He didn't call his mom for mother's day, didn't send a card. He spoke poorly about women. Initially, I thought his complaining was gonna be a one date thing, but he was a professional whinger. He was overall a very annoying person.

No laptop, or he'd probably do that. Everything he owns is old; it's like stepping back in time, because he fixes everything. He's not interested in current technology, it costs money you know. He doesn't get that new things like tv's have better pics and sound quality. He was amazed by my flat screen tv, like a person that's been in prison for 30 years and is seeing all the new things out there since his incarceration. With his 6-figure salary, he had dial-up internet. Judging by the preponderance of the evidence, he didn't like women and he was cheap. He had to go
 9Pluto
Joined: 10/15/2007
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Posted: 12/16/2017 12:21:40 AM

Judging by the preponderance of the evidence, he didn't like women and he was cheap. He had to go

I understand how you came to view this bloke. Reading between the lines, though, there is something very unsettling about the narrative. The gaping hole in the story -- why you would continue to go out with someone to keep learning all these different things about them after the first dose being so repulsive to you and tasting disagreeably?

Oh, wait (continues reading...)

With his 6-figure salary, he had


Now it is all finally making sense

And as an aside:

The movie was free per a pass he had from work

The aforementioned oxymoron, as per agreement by the second party with the party of the first ...

NY, I personally think you're pretty in a Gina Gillotti way, love to see you put on a turtleneck and purple headband, so here's a gelato 🍨 for you no need to go dutch

--Dennis the Menace
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 486
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Posted: 12/16/2017 7:20:11 AM
Ah, I remember back in the day... (Arlo gets a dreamy, nostalgic look)

POF would link to one's last five forum posts to one's profile.

Most of you should be glad that they've long discontinued that practice...
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 487
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Posted: 12/16/2017 7:20:13 AM
"good lord, bless his heart"

>>>Thank you, I was wondering when that would come in.

Alas, SS454, the bank teller is taken. Out here in the sticks, rural living either costs money or requires a strong back, so if one finds a lass here, she tends to have a second income helping to pay for lawn mowing, plowing the snow out of the driveway, and so on. But I appreciate the pun opportunity.

I assume, the country dancing involves the upbeat "Bro" country, not the cry in your beer, I lost everything country music? :)

sometimes, when a partner who could invest in you, does not...that's a bad sign of their interest in you. But when they won't even invest in themselves...sounds like someone who is just miserable about life in general. Must have been a poor childhood, and maybe that's why they hoard or save a money cushion. Or maybe it is a "Dirty John" thing, the nurse who pretends to be a doctor who can't afford a car or good clothes.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 12/16/2017 9:57:09 AM

I told my guy what you said about him looking old. He took one look at your pics and concluded that you're frumpy-looking, big-hipped, have a resting b!tch face, and coarse, frizzy hair that resembles pubic hair. He also said to tell you that you're in no position to be judging other people's looks. I agree with his assessment.


This is the equivalent of a left hook right uppercut counterpunch to a feeble jab. Ouch!
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/16/2017 10:00:25 AM
Pluto, we had a good first date. Things came out slowly. That's what dating is about, taking time to know someone.

You got that right, skippy☺ Yes, I require that a guy can support himself. A person's salary counts, but not exclusively. My profile states I want someone financially stable. It's not a secret.

Mustang, I see some of the most generous people in life are those with little money. They have no problem helping others and donating to those in need. I've also seen those raised with less, that then made money and would never help someone in need. I've heard it more than once from cheap people......no one helped me, I made my own money, blah, blah, blah, like everyone else doesn't work and make their own money? It's a great excuse to be a cheap b@stard. Selfish people are a turnoff to me.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 490
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Posted: 12/16/2017 10:03:13 AM

Things came out slowly


There’s a blue pill for that
 cooldog65
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Posted: 12/16/2017 10:13:24 AM

A person's salary counts, but not exclusively. My profile states I want someone financially stable. It's not a secret.


Living within your means is more important than the size of one's salary.
 spot4username
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Posted: 12/16/2017 10:17:45 AM

Living within your means is more important than the size of one's salary.

Truth.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/16/2017 10:47:07 AM
I totally agree, that's why an ample salary means nothing to someone that has spending problems. They can never have enough money. I know a lot of people that have good incomes, but are always broke, and don't pay their bills. Look at all those lottery winners that are broke.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
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Posted: 12/16/2017 1:46:06 PM
So someone on disability is the same as being retired?

You expect men to pay because you can’t

Utter nonsense
 daynadaze
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Posted: 12/16/2017 3:07:03 PM
I agree you have to live within your means, but what happens with a lot of sad-story lottery winners is that they don't understand the limit they must live in. First, you don't get even half of what the original prize says, you have to pay a very hefty tax right off the top. Second, it's a one-time deal, you are not part of the rich who keep making that kind of money, when it's spent, it's gone. And third, watch what you buy, can you afford to keep it up after using your prize money. If you can't pay the taxes, upkeep, utilities, property maintance, repairs, etc., you will be broke in no time. There is no lottery curse, it's all about how you handle that one-drop prize money. And, of course, the blood suckers coming out of the woodwork latching onto your money.
 SS4544Spd
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Posted: 12/16/2017 4:01:24 PM
Halcyon Skies wrote:
I don’t care if a man uses coupons.


Coupons are fine. But a dude springing a coupon out on the first few dates or so is cheap, and IS a red flag. I have agreed with NY58 on that one in the past.

Early on in relationships, everyone is on their best behaviour. "Fake" behaviour, if you will. True tendencies, especially tendencies that could be considered negative, only creep in over time as the relationship develops. If a date exhibits ANY behaviour that could be construed as being "cheap" on the FIRST bleeping date, that is a red flag.

It's equivalent to the ol' belch or fart scenario.....there is a right time to belch or fart, and there is a wrong time.....if a guy belches in front of you on the FIRST date, that's a red flag. Likewise, FIRST time in bed, if a guy farts and traps you under the blankets to breathe it, that's a red flag.

All guys know that once you've proven yourself a worthy mate, you can generally get away with a thunderous belch every once in awhile, or savagely inflicting a "dutch oven" on a poor, unsuspecting mate. Behaviour that certainly would be classified as "red flag" (and that flag certainly would be flapping in the ..um..wind, lol) very early in a relationship. Same with coupons, or generally cheap behaviour.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/16/2017 4:25:28 PM
A lot of people winning the lottery don't invest their money. They don't have the skills or foresight to do so. If they did, they'd have an income for life and would always be well off. They don't bother to seek out someone who's knowledgeable with helping them invest the money, or get a financial advisor. This isn't just lottery winners though. Some people feel uncomfortable tying up their money, even though they're not using it. Such was the case with a relative of mine. I mentioned some safe options to him, but he didn't want to do it.

Years ago, there was a show where they did an experiment and gave a man, I forget how much money, and they provided him with a financial advisor and he still blew all of it. He ended up homeless.

It said that financial problems are one of the biggest reasons for couples having problems. I'm not signing up for those problems, not at my age. If someone didn't do the right thing all their life and save and invest, by starting that now with the low return on investments, they'll just be saving enough money to have a decent funeral
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 12/16/2017 4:26:27 PM
^^^^^^ To me, that sounds like you don't want to show the whole truth of the matter when you are first representing yourself.

I know, I know. First impressions.

Problem with that is that a few of us see thru them before you even put the effort in.
 saintclara
Joined: 5/30/2017
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Posted: 12/16/2017 4:29:00 PM
Clearly a Joke post !
 Arlo_Troutman
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Posted: 12/16/2017 6:26:20 PM


(halcyon_skies) A jet-setter is someone in high society, usually super wealthy, who travels around the world for leisure on a regular basis--often on private jets. That's not me.


(Kj521) Me, either. But....it could be. :D

Listen...listen....listen....ladies! Lots of beautiful women with lots to brag about in these forums...own it and brag on! :)

Okay....lots of guys to be proud of here, too. ;)


Pay attention to what HS is doing: she's taking my term, and then re-defining it to exclude herself, so that she can pretend that her arrogant, grating condescension, *ISN'T* arrogant, grating, and condescending. She does this all the time, where she lets slip some snippet of information that's intended to make us poor mortals stand in awe of her; then, she acts all innocent when called on her BS, and alleges that she in no way meant what she very clearly did. I'm surprised, and saddened, that so many people fall for it. They must be putting Dum-Dum Juice in the water...
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