Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Dating and Love Advice  > What do you get out of this forum?      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 51
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?Page 3 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
A good laugh
Some heartache
A time or two a love connection
A great place to write my (Hallmark) poems lol
 PennyAnte
Joined: 4/17/2016
Msg: 52
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 4:13:20 AM
PIG.. We had mods at one time that went by the RULES. So if you were naughty you got a time out. There was a forum to report people and there were "groups" or should I say a "clique" and if you pissed off one of them with the truth... they all became flying monkeys to go and report you.
Now they all just gang up on you in a free for all. Lest we offend. God forbid we offend anyone even if it has nothing to do with them at all. Some people here are narcissistic and think every word is about them and every word they print should be cherished and revered and honored as advice from a guru. Too many people here that are too self important. It's changed the vibe of the whole forum and not to many people want to create a new thread anymore because the cliques have become vapid.

Cowboy was a good mod. I heard he passed. So sorry to hear that. There were other mods that ran these pages like the Gestapo. They all sucked... In 2008, one of my friends got banned until 2022. LOL. Will POF even be here then? Who knows?
 Manofsubstance1970
Joined: 7/8/2017
Msg: 53
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 1:00:38 PM

We had mods at one time that went by the RULES. So if you were naughty you got a time out. There was a forum to report people and there were "groups" or should I say a "clique" and if you pissed off one of them with the truth... they all became flying monkeys to go and report you.
Now they all just gang up on you in a free for all. Lest we offend. God forbid we offend anyone even if it has nothing to do with them at all. Some people here are narcissistic and think every word is about them and every word they print should be cherished and revered and honored as advice from a guru. Too many people here that are too self important. It's changed the vibe of the whole forum and not to many people want to create a new thread anymore because the cliques have become vapid.

Cowboy was a good mod. I heard he passed. So sorry to hear that. There were other mods that ran these pages like the Gestapo. They all sucked... In 2008, one of my friends got banned until 2022. LOL. Will POF even be here then? Who knows?

"I agree 100% with your words Penny and haters will be haters"
"Don't give these trolls and losers the time of day, because they feed off negative reactions"
"They like to snipe, gang up and attack innocent people for no reason, because they have serious issues"
"Don't feed the trolls"
"The gang you told about the red pill movie will never watch it and remain ignorant to the facts, because in their Narcissistic minds, they are always right and nothing will change with their rotten attitudes"
"They all have closed minds, have a lot of hate for the truth and facts"
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 54
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 1:32:07 PM

Cowboy was a good mod.


At the risk of disrespecting the dead, I didn't think Cowboy was a good mod. He once wrote that he loved posting in the "Ask a Girl" forum because slamming the thread-starters was like "shooting fish in a barrel". With women he was a doll - with men he was mean spirited, at least in my experience.


There were other mods that ran these pages like the Gestapo. They all sucked... In 2008, one of my friends got banned until 2022. LOL.


There was one in particular - she was the worst. Melissa, something like that? Ms. Allison, wasn't it? Would have done Himmler proud. She booted me out with regularity.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 55
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 2:02:41 PM
I remember Cowboy always SIGNED his posts " Cowboy " and then this poster emerged named " Westernguy " who would always sign HIS posts " Westernguy "....I think he was mocking him
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 56
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 2:20:39 PM


At the risk of disrespecting the dead, I didn't think Cowboy was a good mod. He once wrote that he loved posting in the "Ask a Girl" forum because slamming the thread-starters was like "shooting fish in a barrel". With women he was a doll - with men he was mean spirited, at least in my experience.


Completely accurate. I can't count how many times I saw him f*ck with male posters after he stopped modding, then they got banned for retaliating, yet he never did. Then he got Allison breathing down my neck for making him look like a fool when he was chasing that Canadian woman, CheezyChik.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 57
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 4:13:37 PM

At the risk of disrespecting the dead, I didn't think Cowboy was a good mod. He once wrote that he loved posting in the "Ask a Girl" forum because slamming the thread-starters was like "shooting fish in a barrel". With women he was a doll - with men he was mean spirited, at least in my experience.


Sometimes he was harsh towards others. In particular people that didn't always agree with him or asked questions like "Why I am not getting any responses?". There is a difference between constructive criticism and being rude.
 PennyAnte
Joined: 4/17/2016
Msg: 58
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 4:50:57 PM
There were mod a$$ kissers and they ran the show. They all followed suit so none of them would get the boot and if they wanted to oust one person they kissed up to mods in every forum, cosigning his/her bullshit. Agreeing all squawking like ducks. Even if the advice was out in left field. Some of the mods became self appointed gurus. It was a lot of hot air and a lot of big heads. It was a personality contest FFS. I couldn't win back then. I spoke my mind like shoveling shit against the tide.. People would instigate and then report you for mere infractions of the rules. People had stalkers that eyed on every word they said waiting to get them banned. The mods caused more of a circus than when we have no mods at all. Banned Camp they called it, how juvenile?


"Sometimes he was harsh towards others. In particular people that didn't always agree with him or asked questions like "Why I am not getting any responses?"."

Yes, that was the most redundant question and was asked over and over and over again so people in Ask A Girl were rude to new posters or young kids trying this out as a newbie with certain expectations. Some women there and men thrived on this and had a crude way to explain the dating ratios, profile mistakes, first messages. The things a new guy would get perplexed about when POF was relatively new. The people were sometimes outright bullies on that forum. Now they are dead forums. You go there and here the tumbleweeds.

There was a time too that the last 5 forum posts that you made would appear on your profile and the forums were on the main menu. Marcus did away with that after a few years because the forums were like the Jerry Springer Show and not what he wanted to promote. I'm sure there are back dated forums from when he changed the format. People that were regulars were outraged over the change. More self importance.... it was kind of hilarious now that I think back on it.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 59
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 5:11:16 PM
Oh, he definitely acted like he was burned out, men who asked a simple question, you could hear the sneer at their nieviete in his answer. And if you were not sure if you should ask a woman out or not? Boy, did he question your manhood, but when it was his time? He posted publically about not having the guts to meet someone--I mean, you'd think you'd keep it to yourself you thought someone wasn't worth spending the money on. and then there were the stories. BUT, he did have a good line--"it isn't real until you meet". Boy, is that one true.

I'm not sure how I avoided the Great Stalinist Purges, but now that people are free to say whatever they want, especially in this political climate...posters are showing their true colors. If I was out to date one, i'd know as much as I need to :) still, its nice to see people for who they are. i'm sure its rough for some. But there's still diamonds in the coal.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 60
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 5:54:17 PM
I remember Cowboy's big love affair with a forumite. He would pick on guys looking for reviews ( one once told him he looked like a 70s porn star and I nearly swallowed my wine glass. )
Ms A was always sending me to ban camp, still have a 10 post limit as nothing was removed when the Mods left.
btw, I refused to change my user name to get around the limit
Then there was the Battle of the wannabemods, few prisoners were taken
Bet the one still is around somewhere
 yourstillhere
Joined: 7/30/2008
Msg: 61
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 6:31:11 PM
Free and easy Test Subjects :)
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 62
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 6:33:57 PM
I kept watching things the mods did, also. One forumite that was talking directly to me in here got sent to ban camp for five days. Why, I'll never know, they must have seen something I didn't.

Why I got banned from starting new threads just puzzled the daylights out of me. Did I remind them of someone they didn't like? Or was I just one of those low creatures that deserved to be ignored. Since no one ever came out and presented a reason to me, it was just something I learned to live with.
 forumslady
Joined: 12/7/2016
Msg: 63
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 6:54:44 PM
Being honest, don't miss the mods, even a little.

I got banned, as bama, after an exchange with Dee. I'm not sure she had it done, I also suspect someone else. (K - Cough J- Cough)

I am told, the forums used to be much more interesting and active. The presence of the mods seems to have killed that.

Unpaid mods, really?! Who would want to be a mod?

Guess what guys, the answer to that is people with nothing better to do.
Including pick on better men and women, than they are. The TRUE answer to why good men and women, got banned.
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 64
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 7:17:18 PM

The TRUE answer to why good men and women, got banned.


Then line me up for knighthood because I pulled a 10 year ban, twice.

The first one, I don't even remember what I did. Guess it was bad.

The second time, I took on Allison directly. She butted her nose into the PR forum, reiterating a point that had already been made, which irked me because it was redundant and seemed as if she was doing nothing more than throwing her weight around. I said as much. Poof. Gone again.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 65
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 7:19:03 PM
KJ?

She never struck me as the reporting type.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 66
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 7:20:15 PM
fullmoonguy

and let us not forget the balding, paunchy older man who wants the younger hotter and expects to get it when he has no career, personality or social graces lol!
 forumslady
Joined: 12/7/2016
Msg: 67
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 7:52:51 PM
chromis-
Smart, hard working, the type most would either respect, or not mess with.
Envy takes many forms, one can be power when a person has none, otherwise. You know, like an unpaid mod;)
Consider your banning's a compliment, because it is. :)
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 68
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 8:31:05 PM
I'm still lost in the cracks....
I can't start a thread. Miss A deleted a thread of mine when it was like 18 pages cuz one A hole was being an azz.
Cowboy was in the Poem and Quote forum but never engaged.
I like the no Mods till I see the bulling then I think where's the principle's office lol
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 69
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 11:22:19 PM

I also suspect someone else. (K - Cough J- Cough)


She's never been one to report anyone.

I don't know if it still exists, but I remember former forum member known as Effervescent once sent me a URL that showed a list of forum violators and their violations. I had 32 at that time. Such a crowning achievement.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
Msg: 70
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 11:23:54 PM

If it was up to me, people's (if any) posts would be at the top of their profile and/or they would have some type of profile notation that they were a Forum participant.


A lot of forum users don't date so they don't care too much what people think about what they are posting.

However, if I were an active dater and my posting appeared on my profile I would tailor my forum posting to make myself look good, and I am sure many would do it. So the forum posting would just ben an extended propaganda and be no more effective than reading their profile.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
Msg: 71
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/14/2017 11:50:55 PM

At the risk of disrespecting the dead, I didn't think Cowboy was a good mod. He once wrote that he loved posting in the "Ask a Girl" forum because slamming the thread-starters was like "shooting fish in a barrel". With women he was a doll - with men he was mean spirited, at least in my experience.


I agree, cowboy had a huge soft spot for women and would go out of his way to help them yet had a bias against men. I thought he was an OK guy but that part was also obvious.

Ms. Allison was also OK, though I get why people thought she was like Himmler, she certainly obsessed about being a POF Mod and being overly controlling.

I got banned or limited in some way numerous times, mostly by Allison, and their limited power went to their heads, and "friends" used them to get revenge over other posters. It was kind of a game posters would play.

Though most of the time I did do something that I agree broke some rule, often it was picayune, trivial infraction. Once I said some poster was cantankerous, wow, that was a biggie. On the other hand, I would appeal my ban to allison, most of the time she would restore my abilities. I did get a 10 year ban, but appealed it and she reduced it to 30 days.

I thought the most annoying thing the mods would do was delete entire threads or delete huge number of posts in the thread. Makes threads kind of totally useless.

I though it was like in shawshank redemption, and when a new "fish" would enter the forums some posters would try and make the new fish "crack". Get all emotional, upset and defensive.

I don't think any of the mods since as least as long as i have been here 2010 were really well balanced people.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 72
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/15/2017 10:51:33 AM

Yes, that was the most redundant question and was asked over and over and over again so people in Ask A Girl were rude to new posters or young kids trying this out as a newbie with certain expectations. Some women there and men thrived on this and had a crude way to explain the dating ratios, profile mistakes, first messages. The things a new guy would get perplexed about when POF was relatively new. The people were sometimes outright bullies on that forum. Now they are dead forums. You go there and here the tumbleweeds.


Whenever there was a thread topic I didn't like or wasn't interested in, I simply ignored those threads. Constantly badgering people about doing a thread search and the other rude comments that were made by Cowboy and others were more annoying than the redundant threads.
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
Msg: 73
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/15/2017 4:18:18 PM

At the risk of disrespecting the dead, I didn't think Cowboy was a good mod. He once wrote that he loved posting in the "Ask a Girl" forum because slamming the thread-starters was like "shooting fish in a barrel". With women he was a doll - with men he was mean spirited, at least in my experience.

A doll? *shudder* After a number of unwanted messages I blocked him. I had hesitated to do so because some forums will not allow you to block a mod. I went so far as to contact the big fish over the content of the messages he sent me.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 74
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/15/2017 6:25:30 PM
"I am told the forums used to be much more interesting and active"

>>>perhaps it felt that way b/c we were all newer to it, and now we've seen it all, posted it all, responded to it all. The forums may have become like a TV re-run to us--we watch it for the minor distraction as entertainment, but we already know the ending, the parts we like, the parts that bore us.

that's just a guess.

"unpaid mods, really, who would want to be a mod?"

>>>put on your psychology hat, and ask what TYPE of person wants the unpaid job of having control :)

but that's only a guess. Some people like something and want to protect it. others have a totally different reason. I remember once my former boss telling me about a married couple raising hell in the committees helping out the church, banging heads with the pastor. It got to the point another church's pastor had to be called in to mediate, and he gave the couple the ultimatum--stay and not be on any committee, or leave. The couple practically left a dust cloud in their exit. My boss couldn't understand it, the people in the church got along so well. I pointed out what was really important to the couple.

"consider your banning a compliment"

>>>is that like the old line, "if they're shooting at you, you're doing something right?" :)

Cowboy a creeper stalker...hmm....
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
Msg: 75
view profile
History
What do you get out of this forum?
Posted: 7/15/2017 6:37:11 PM

"unpaid mods, really, who would want to be a mod?"

>>>put on your psychology hat, and ask what TYPE of person wants the unpaid job of having control :)

but that's only a guess. Some people like something and want to protect it. others have a totally different reason.


I have been a mod for a number of different groups. The "protect" angle was where I was coming from. At one point back when I still utilized fb I was one of the mods for a large and very active group. If we didn't stay on top of the sh!tposting it would quickly devolve. It was a wonderful resource and we all legitimately cared about keeping it that way for the people who needed it.

I have served as a mod for a few different reddit subs and as organizer for a couple different meetup groups. I have found that most of the people I worked with genuinely cared about what they were doing. Very rarely have I come across someone on a "power trip". This is one of the only forums where I have witnessed mods who behaved the way these did before they went the way of the dinosaur.
Show ALL Forums  > Dating and Love Advice  > What do you get out of this forum?