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 flyover_boy
Joined: 12/28/2016
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Anyone who has found someone they are happy with, I'm truly glad for them. But if they say that they have only dated or looked for someone in a certain age range and they call that "age appropriate" they are imposing a value judgement on others. There IS no one appropriate age range except for any given individual or couple.



I think you made some progress in the ‘hidden’ part of this conversation. That is the subjective judgment of others as to ‘what’s age appropriate.’ Regardless of POF’s policy, men will continue to date much younger women.

But, I don’t understand the tension with this. It’s POF’s policy, it is what it is, move on. As a newsflash to many here, excuse my raised voice, THERE ARE OTHER DATINGS SITES ! You want to date a woman 20 years your junior, there’s MATCH and eHarmony to name a few. There is a practical loophole, however, and I’ve seen it on many of women’s profiles. We’ve talked about lying on ages, but many women I’ve seen will list 35 as their age and the first line in the profile reads, ‘I’m really 45...but I am attracted to younger men.’ Which leads to the ‘disappointment at the first meeting.’

Regardless, it is POF’s policy and that’s that, no big deal. I haven’t heard this huge chorus of women saying POF is sooooo much better now with that restriction than before (I think it does more for the narrative of some), and as we demonstrated, it can be circumvented. But, age lying is endemic on dating sites. As to the so-called 'old, creepy guys,’ do what I do when I get...humm, emails from the 'old, ugly wildebeest,’ 'you’re very handsome and attractive.’ Delete/block...it works like a charm.
 Mark_It_Up
Joined: 3/15/2011
Msg: 26
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Posted: 1/14/2018 12:26:26 AM

I haven’t heard this huge chorus of women saying POF is sooooo much better now with that restriction than before

Likewise I haven't heard any chorus (or in fact one single complaint ever) from women saying that they want the restriction lifted because they can't find the older man they are looking for any more.
 flyover_boy
Joined: 12/28/2016
Msg: 27
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Posted: 1/14/2018 3:25:40 PM
This is your narrative, Marky Mark ? You have one complaint from me. My opinion is the talent here has gone down hill. Correlation ?
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Posted: 6/21/2018 11:15:49 AM
So if your view is correct then why do you all keep replying and defending something that to your own admission "No one who can change anything sees"? Are y'all the Pof Police or something? Just wondering because everyone against this dumb ass restriction are making valid points and y'all reaction is " it's a free site , no one is making you stay" and no one is making you respond to us. You're obviously no body's as well since you can't affect an actual change so why don't y'all continue to hack into marks system and jerk off to 19 year olds and let us have our view.
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Posted: 6/21/2018 11:21:02 AM
And you never have to pay a dime unless you're a male. Funny how males have all the blocks to " protect" women but where are all these same blocks against women with OBVIOUS pornographic ads and solicitation going on? Ohhh that's right Mark we don't matter as much as your pockets huh? As long as the women keep signing up and the men keep upgrading to earn you more money huh? Makes sense. Keep your investment safe man
 My_Witty_ScreenName
Joined: 6/28/2018
Msg: 30
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Posted: 7/8/2018 1:46:35 PM
I'm 44 and the site wont let me email anyone under 29 or 30....so yeah like others have said there's like a 14 or 15 year limit. Is that right/fair....eh just depends on how you look at it and there's really no 1 single correct answer. On the 1 hand everyone knows that girls normally prefer older guys and on the other hand the owners of the site have to look out for the overall best interests of the site....as in if a lot of women are leaving because of a shit-ton of emails from older guys, then that's not good for anyone.

So what I do is add girls to my favorite list so that way they can see that and then check me out if they are interested even with the age difference. Recently I had a girl that was 49 and I couldn't message her because she had her lower age range set to 45. I added her to my fav list and she wrote me and we are talking now. She pointed out how smart that was.....but I'm like well it's smart but not brilliant lol. Anyways, the people at POF need to put more thought into this issue, because the vast majority of girls wont do what that 1 did just because most girls never make the first move. There's another girl that I added to my fav list and then she added me to hers....but I STILL can't message her and that's the type of change that needs to happen.

Also too, this age limit thing is automatic, and I can promise you that some girls don't even realize this and don't get that a guy wants to email them, but can't. Then too there's the "meet me" thing. I've had younger girls click yes on that and I STILL can't email them because of the restrictions. I mean really....how hard is this stuff to figure out??? I know I'm smart and all but these are simple things here. What I don't get is that why is it automatic? Have something at the top of the messages page that explains there are no age limits set in place and to set yours do "this or that". Then caution them that they can also be blocking people that their age doesn't match, but that people don't always look or act their age. So there's PLENTY of things that can be done to make things better for everyone....but will they pull their heads out of their asses and actually "try".....doubtful, but who knows.
 AdaManticus
Joined: 3/29/2017
Msg: 31
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Posted: 7/11/2018 2:03:43 PM
That's messed up.
 dark_n_juju
Joined: 8/30/2017
Msg: 32
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Posted: 8/16/2018 5:05:42 AM
Have they changed this? I am 52 and I just had an email from a guy 67. That is a 15-year difference. Did they drop this rule? PLEASE tell they did not.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 33
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Posted: 8/16/2018 1:38:58 PM
I could be wrong but I believe the age restriction is lifted, after 50. Someone else can confirm?
 JoeyT2870
Joined: 1/17/2012
Msg: 34
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Posted: 8/16/2018 3:47:34 PM
To me ....the solution is simple. Let the USER themselves determine who they want to be contacted by and what their age range is. That way no one complains about POF being out of line. If you see the person says the don't want someone in your age range contacting them....pretty simple answer.....go find another fish :)
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Posted: 8/25/2018 11:02:11 AM
"Have they changed this? I am 52 and I just had an email from a guy 67. That is a 15-year difference. Did they drop this rule? PLEASE tell they did not."

Miss Juju, I'd take it as a compliment that you're so charming that men of all ages adore you.

There are some ladies in here that appear to be man magnets and it is easy to see why.

No disrespect to my girlfriend, but I do admire you.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 8/25/2018 11:21:14 AM
The "age range" seems to not be in effect for us "older", oops I meant to say "wiser" geezers, in the Forums.
 dark_n_juju
Joined: 8/30/2017
Msg: 37
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Posted: 8/28/2018 3:11:35 PM

Miss Juju, I'd take it as a compliment that you're so charming that men of all ages adore you.



I_Am_Con_S_Tip_ated Thank you for the compliment. I can say that being attractive can and always has been a double edge sword. Rarely do men see me as a real person and women don't want you as a friend. I have been fired from jobs because of sexual harassment. But I have also been let out of tickets.
 EvansFromHeaven
Joined: 7/4/2015
Msg: 38
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Posted: 11/5/2018 9:04:41 PM
You can easily search AND message any age person on POF. Check the instructions at: https://nbots.me/bd37
 _Batmån
Joined: 12/12/2017
Msg: 39
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Posted: 11/6/2018 8:04:03 AM
You can easily search AND message any age person on POF. Msg: 39

You are totally wrong. Simply viewing a profile does not allow a user to send a message if the recipient is outside the age requirements set by POF.
 Kevin116
Joined: 8/7/2018
Msg: 40
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Posted: 11/11/2018 11:14:15 PM
Could it be that POF sets an "adequate age range" for you?
When I try to start a conversation with someone below 23 it seems to automatically say that this person doesn't want this contact - no matter which person.
Before I turned one year older, the same was with any person below 22, a year before below 21...

I'm just wondering...is there some sort of paternalism? Aren't people 18+ able to decide for themselves whom they want to get in contact with and whom they don't?
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POF blocks cut and paste messages and you may only contact 55 new people in a 24 hour period. Please refine your message as it will dramatically improve the chances that you will get a reply. Return to your inbox "

The simple fact Pof hates men with a passion. lol, I'm a paid member still get this idiotic message.
 Kevin116
Joined: 8/7/2018
Msg: 41
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Posted: 11/11/2018 11:23:35 PM

Except the majority of women, who prefer not to be contacted by old men.

It was implemented because a large number of female users were quitting and cancelling their subscriptions due to the huge number of sexual and inappropriate messages they were getting from men old enough to be their fathers.

I'm sure a few old men cancelled their memberships due to this change, but hey, the needs of the many vs the needs of the few etc.

If you don't like it then I'm sure there are other sites that will suit you better.

You do realize women can say up email qualification so they don't get an email for those guys.
 Kevin116
Joined: 8/7/2018
Msg: 42
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Posted: 11/11/2018 11:33:38 PM

Why not just hide profiles that don't fall into your specified age range? It's probably only a few lines of code. Most of the other sites just do this. What the hell? Are the programmers here mentally handicapped or something?

I think they just hate men and like to design a really bad website.
 DerekCapri
Joined: 9/10/2018
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Posted: 11/16/2018 5:19:31 AM
The best thing pof could have done is let the user decide the age range. Make an age range mandatory when you sign up. So if a younger woman or man wants to talk an older woman or man then they can set the age. We're all adults.
 Stuperfied
Joined: 6/29/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2018 1:51:44 PM
I like to make friends on this site also. Infact last time I used this site, I made a couple of friends which were well outside my local area. After my birthday, I was no longer able to contact them because neither of us knew about this built in feature.
 Mr_Jackazz_Cash
Joined: 10/27/2018
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Posted: 11/18/2018 5:47:43 PM
Ahh, the ‘Birthday Conundrum’.

If you are in communication with someone who is right on the edge of the 14 year age difference and one of you has a birthday that puts you two over the 14 year age difference then communication is cut off. What I do not know is if the emails are deleted (??). Also, if they are deleted, do they come back if the two people reconnect when the second one has a birthday thus returning them to less than 14 years difference(??).
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