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 saintclara
Joined: 5/30/2017
Msg: 126
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Well you see dude it's like this men ask for pictures from women all the time despite having sometimes three or more pictures up and are shallow men! Women have caught this from you dudes and now are also asking if you have anymore pictures and things:) if you can't take the heat but yes we got that from guys so it's your fault we now demand more than a few to see if it's worth our time meeting:)
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 127
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Posted: 12/18/2017 8:48:41 PM
I would say that women can think for themselves and asking for more shots if the ones loaded are suss, old or blurred is the way to go. Then the guy needs to get our number pronto or we lose interest....
 alpha__waves
Joined: 11/6/2017
Msg: 128
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Posted: 12/19/2017 11:57:45 PM
Are women really that shallow... or are men like me just that ugly?
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 129
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Posted: 12/20/2017 4:26:11 PM

Are women really that shallow... or are men like me just that ugly?


You should consider changing your profile headline from:

"alpha__waves: Fishing for a mermaid."

to:

"alpha__waves: Fishing for a compliment."
 alpha__waves
Joined: 11/6/2017
Msg: 130
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Posted: 12/20/2017 6:42:48 PM
I haven't had a date going on five years here. I doubt a compliment would make much difference, ha ha!
 fullmoonguy2
Joined: 6/14/2017
Msg: 131
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Posted: 12/20/2017 6:51:42 PM

Are women really that shallow..


Yes.


Then the guy needs to get our number pronto or we lose interest....


And there's your proof.

The attention span of a gnat.

No depth.

The opposite of deep is.......shallow.
 saintclara
Joined: 5/30/2017
Msg: 132
Dating sure has changed , shallow women
Posted: 12/21/2017 10:04:56 PM
Women must always be shallow they must never invest on a deep level with a dude because dudes can't handle that type of treatment they will grow cold and distant or become abusive they just can't handle it they will end up looking like they stepped out of an institution for the criminally insane . Don't invest because they just don't like it they will become mental
 goldenknight14
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 133
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Posted: 12/22/2017 10:03:19 PM
I have read profiles where women have criticized men for being shallow but yet when I have had a profile on here with no picture posted regardless of how well written it was, I couldn't even get a woman to look at my profile. Not only are women shallow but they are hippocrits
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 134
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Posted: 12/23/2017 5:25:25 AM
^^^^And that surprises you how?

Men lie to women.
That's a given, because they want to get into their pants. Enter the guy that's willing to bide his time, until she invites him to. She doesn't trust him to wait. The last three didn't, why would you be any different? Confronting that issue head on, only raises her eyebrows- you're lying. They have been conditioned that way, from other men. It's worthless to cry foul. They won't listen. Or care, for that matter.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/23/2017 10:15:00 AM

purplerider1200
Men lie to women.
That's a given, because they want to get into their pants. Enter the guy that's willing to bide his time, until she invites him to. She doesn't trust him to wait. The last three didn't, why would you be any different? Confronting that issue head on, only raises her eyebrows- you're lying. They have been conditioned that way, from other men. It's worthless to cry foul. They won't listen. Or care, for that matter.

You may be right, I wouldn’t know as I have never been “that man”. And I’m sure as hell not going to change now.

Good luck with that. Oh, wait, you’re not having any luck at all. Have you considered changing your style?
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 136
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Posted: 12/23/2017 7:13:28 PM
Nope.

If I did, then I might end up in a situation that I don't want to be in. Putting up with a woman in my life, now. Gads, what a horrifying thought. Six years without has changed me. I won't cater to them anymore. I'll let them get close, and critical of other men. Groveling isn't my cup of tea anymore. You go do it, I'll stick with just me.
 forumzfishonly
Joined: 12/17/2017
Msg: 137
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Posted: 12/24/2017 9:26:55 AM
Great outlook PR, at first being single and alone is scary business, but like you I have learned to embrace my freedom to do what I want and where..and for however long I feel like it.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/24/2017 9:50:34 AM

purplerider1200
If I did, then I might end up in a situation that I don't want to be in. Putting up with a woman in my life, now. Gads, what a horrifying thought.

This is just silly, and counter productive. Quite obviously, what you’re talking about is putting up with the WRONG woman in your life. I have never, and will never, advocate for putting up with the “wrong woman”.

I believe, very strongly, when you find the right person, you will know it, and you will be willing to do whatever it takes to be with her. And if she is indeed the right person for you, then she will not be asking you to change your life for her. Now circumstances may require some changes. For instance, you might have to relocate, but if she is the right one, you will be happy to do so. If you’re really lucky, all you will have to give up will be half your closet space and your premium subscription to youporn.

Finding the right person is the hard part. And unless you’re very, very lucky, you will have to make some efforts, and change your life a bit just in order to have dates and actually have a chance of finding the right one.

Added on edit: And if you’re really, really lucky, you might not have to give up the premium subscription to youporn. She just might want to watch with you, pick up some pointers, some new ideas! Now wouldn’t that be fun!
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 139
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Posted: 12/24/2017 2:23:19 PM
"What you are talking about is putting up with the wrong partner"

>>>shoot, if it was easy to find the right one, we'd have done it already :) But for a lot of people, they find the partner who makes them feel comfortable about their own way of doing things. the wrong partner turns out to be the right type of wrong for them :) Even when we work on ourselves, there's still more wrong people out there to meet, then right ones. And is there really a guarantee that there is a right person out there who didn't get married a long time ago? We can't even agree that God exists :)

There are people who allegedly don't find anyone b/c their standards are too high. They claim to be happy alone, but they also complain about what they don't have in life. There are also posters who's standards are relatively lower, they get more dates, and yet...they also complain about being frustrated from time to time. So...who's happier?

assuming both groups are telling the truth, they are both happy and frustrated with their individual achievements.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 12/24/2017 6:47:14 PM
I've spent more than half my life without women, be it dating or married. Plenty of times I asked myself why I decided to do it. More often than not, it was a bad move on my part. Relocate for someone???? There's a snowball's chance in hell that I'd do that. When I find somebody? I'm not looking. Or asking. Or changing. I like where I'm at right now. Why screw up a good thing?
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 141
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Posted: 12/26/2017 5:05:56 AM

I believe, very strongly, when you find the right person, you will know it, and you will be willing to do whatever it takes to be with her.


To those who find relationships to be a "wrong" concept, there is no "right one". Not to mention, the whole "whatever it takes" aspect pedestalizes her and leaves the man playing the role of hoop jumper. There are men who just don't want to play that role, especially in the era of "equality".
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 142
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Posted: 12/26/2017 7:17:34 AM
Another problem is the older a person gets, the more dates become like job interviews. A lot of people in the second half of their lives don't want to date just to have fun. They're looking for a marriage partner-especially for the people who put in their profiles "Looking for someone to marry/Looking for my Prince Charming/Looking for that special someone" etc. Finding Mr./Miss Right becomes a business. So dates become job interviews for the position of spouse, and some people feel they have to find someone to marry immediately, before their looks start to fade away. But a lot of times, it boils down to who is the best date entertainer, rather than who is the most compatible.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 143
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Posted: 12/26/2017 7:55:52 AM


To those who find relationships to be a "wrong" concept, there is no "right one". Not to mention, the whole "whatever it takes" aspect pedestalizes her and leaves the man playing the role of hoop jumper. There are men who just don't want to play that role, especially in the era of "equality".


If you do want someone to share your life (which is an open question, and entirely your decision) – but if you do, then you are going to have to make compromises. Anyone who has been married, who has been in a successful marriage, successful even if it didn’t last forever, knows that you have to make compromises. Period. End of story. You have to be willing to make compromises, you cannot always get your way.

But if you do find the “right person”, or at least someone who comes reasonably close, the compromises will be tolerable. And if she is the right person for you, then she will be equally willing to make compromises, to meet in the middle. Any woman who wants you to “jump through hoops” is automatically disqualified, cannot possibly be the right one.

Put it another way: If you find the right one, “whatever it takes” will actually be pretty damned easy.


from site to sight
Another problem is the older a person gets, the more dates become like job interviews. A lot of people in the second half of their lives don't want to date just to have fun. They're looking for a marriage partner-especially for the people who put in their profiles "Looking for someone to marry/Looking for my Prince Charming/Looking for that special someone" etc. Finding Mr./Miss Right becomes a business. So dates become job interviews for the position of spouse

Amen, brother. Been there, done that, did not buy the t-shirt. I really wouldn’t mind finding someone to spend the rest of my life with. But in the meantime, I intend to enjoy life, to go out on dates with women I find attractive, to chase women for immoral purposes, and to hell with the “job interview dates”.

What was it the Grateful Dead said, “I may be going to hell in a bucket, but at least I’m enjoying the ride!”
 Nestaron
Joined: 10/11/2017
Msg: 144
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Posted: 12/27/2017 1:08:47 AM
@goldenknight So a woman who don't even look at your profile is shallow? How do you come to that conclusion if they aren't even acknowledging your existence? Here's a thought put on a red or marooned collared shirt tucked in wear pants that fit and don't have any slack that would take it past the toes. You are suppose to wear clothes their not suppose to wear you if you don't fit your clothes snuggly get some you do take new pictures and see how that works.

Woman aren't shallow any more then men are we all have our own preferences but one thing all women have neat, tidy, clean, and don't be a slob near the top of their list.
 forumzfishonly
Joined: 12/17/2017
Msg: 145
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Posted: 12/27/2017 6:00:53 AM
^^^^ even closer to the top is they don’t like smokers, stinky disgusting habit..since it’s give out advice day, I’ll help you out too 🤨
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 146
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Posted: 12/27/2017 6:14:07 AM
if you meet the right person, you will have to make compromises....but THEY will have to, as well. When you both cover the bridge between you two, you should be meeting someplace near the middle, not all the way across and on their side. Henry did make this point, but I think instead of "whatever it takes", it should be, "Whatever makes me a better person." Ultimately, the coupling shouldn't be to avoid being alone, but to become a better person.

For example, I have a female friend who does things from time to time that are silly. not pointing them out constantly, gives me practice in how to keep my mouth shut around other people as well. but if for some reason my friend wanted to get married, i'd say NFW, we aren't meant to be. The best role we can have together is "Friend". I wouldn't do "whatever it takes" to move our relationship into a different role.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 147
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Posted: 12/27/2017 7:21:44 AM
Someone like Purplerider, who says he hasn't been involved with women for half his life, won't likely find themselves happy within the confines of a relationship. It will likely end up stifling and more of a hindrance rather than an enhancement to their lives.

Me personally, I have very little "compromise" in me. I am unapologetically greedy with my time, and I *need* to have alone time whenever I feel the need for it, which is incredibly difficult to achieve in a relationship.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 148
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Posted: 12/27/2017 8:05:09 AM
Gto makes a very good point, in message 148.


Ultimately, the coupling shouldn't be to avoid being alone, but to become a better person.

My initial reaction was to disagree. But the more I tried to draft words for the disagreement, the harder it became to disagree and still remain logical and coherent. This will require more thought.

TPOYD
Someone like Purplerider, who says he hasn't been involved with women for half his life, won't likely find themselves happy within the confines of a relationship. It will likely end up stifling and more of a hindrance rather than an enhancement to their lives.

Which naturally makes you wonder why he has a profile on a dating site, and why he finds it necessary to tell us over and over that no woman would ever have him as a gift.

TPOYD
Me personally, I have very little "compromise" in me. I am unapologetically greedy with my time, and I *need* to have alone time whenever I feel the need for it, which is incredibly difficult to achieve in a relationship.

I may not (probably don’t) require as much alone time as you, but I have found over the course of my life, and my many different relationships with women, if you’re with the right person you will have enough “me time”. Some people do require constant or almost constant companionship. Such people are not a match for me, so simply “swipe left”, and “Next!”.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 149
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Posted: 12/27/2017 8:49:19 AM

Which naturally makes you wonder why he has a profile on a dating site, and why he finds it necessary to tell us over and over that no woman would ever have him as a gift.


Hmm. I can't answer that. He will have to tackle that one.


Some people do require constant or almost constant companionship.


That seems to be the vast majority for me, and the first time we run into the issue of them wanting to get together and I don't feel like it, that's always when the shitstorm ensues.

I do admit my personality is a bit on the extreme side, though. I'll go out 2-3 times a week, and I'm over the top, highly energetic, social, etc., but when that's all over with, I need solitude to recover and recharge my batteries to be that person again the next time around.
 Nestaron
Joined: 10/11/2017
Msg: 150
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Posted: 12/27/2017 10:40:55 AM
@forumzfishonly Really they don't like smokers? Personally I don't give 2 sh!ts whether or not they like smokers or not anymore then they care whether or not their fragrances can cause me serious harm. Will they give up their fragrance sh!t for me somehow I don't see that happening so your point is absolutely mute I can quit smoking and have 1 year there 4 months here but not once has any women ever stopped using fragrances for me. So you know where you can stick that smoking sh!t!!!
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