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 imanorangetiger
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"I can't get a date because all the women here are prissy little c0ckteasers. Or feminists. Or princesses. Or... I just want a 'traditional woman'. Is that so hard? I only get messages from fat, ugly and / or old women."

The forums are full of posts like this. And full of 10kys, leons, and npws. Invariably, the posters have a sense of entitlement and self-importance that doesn't quite match up to what they're offering in return. Of course, some women are no different. However, the situation is the same. As are the induhviduals.
 10ky
Joined: 11/15/2012
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Posted: 10/28/2017 6:27:20 AM
-paul
Yeah, you must be right Pauline given that fatso is agreeing with you. He is well informed on this matter. After all, he's a "counsellor" who actually is a shop assistant selling porn magazines and illicit cigies under the table. xD xD
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 10/28/2017 6:34:37 AM
And you're an idiot who can't get a girlfriend, and spends his waking days and sleepless nights whinging about it, without taking some self responsibility for it.

At least my posts are factual.


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 10ky
Joined: 11/15/2012
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Posted: 10/28/2017 6:50:28 AM
^^
Gutted......
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 10/28/2017 7:50:47 AM

Don Hennessy, a relationship counsellor who has researched domestic violence for his book, How He Gets into Her Head: The Mind of the Male Intimate Abuser.
Through his research he has built up a chilling profile of the types of men who abuse their partners. His work focuses on men who abuse their female partners.
"The essential thing that we learned that there was a hidden process that was not available either to us or to the women. The men confirmed for us a number of things and what we learned was quite startling really," he told Independent.ie

"The male intimate abuser actually follows exactly the same tactics as the pedophile.
"The initial thing is that they would select the same type of target... the people who were being abused were always kind people, the type of people who would put others before themselves.

"The kind people were the people who were targeted and subsequent to that there was a process of setting-up.
This setting up was “quite detailed” and protracted - it doesn't happen overnight.

"It sets out the terms and conditions by which the relationship will develop. The woman knows exactly what she can do, what she cannot do, the sanctions that will be applied if she doesn’t do what he wants," he said.
"It’s done in a way which gets her to take responsibility and take the blame when things go wrong between them.


https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/men-who-abuse-women-use-the-same-tactics-as-pedophiles-and-ive-never-met-one-who-wanted-to-change-says-author-of-how-he-gets-in-her-head-35681098.html

Sounds familiar, doesn't it?

I've heard many accounts of emotional abuse from women, and from their children who have to witness it. I'm working with two clients at present, who are still going through it. It's not pleasant.
 10ky
Joined: 11/15/2012
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Posted: 10/28/2017 8:16:57 AM
lol! This is hilarious! If the link below is true, in the UK anyone is legally allowed to practice as a counsellor because counselling is not recognised as a profession. It's a bit like tarot reading. It is totally unregulated and it takes absolutely no qualifications to be a so called "counsellor". This is crazy! People like fatso are not even breaking the law with their quackery! smh.

http://www.icounsellor.co.uk/articles/2011/10/how-to-vet-a-counsellor/
 10ky
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Posted: 10/28/2017 9:03:09 AM
I don't really care what you think or believe of me paul at this point. It's entirely up to you... cheerio

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 Jacknher
Joined: 3/16/2017
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Posted: 10/28/2017 9:17:40 AM
This women preferring a "bad boy" is a load of rubbish perpetuated by Hollywood and escapist fiction.

Women do not want to be tied to the kitchen sink.....nor do they want to be seen and not heard.....nor do they want to be "traditional" wives....nor do they want to shack up with violent or even arrogant men. The whole "bad boys" thing is escapism, an illusion, nothing any sane woman would take seriously.

No we don't want Rhett Butler with his snide comments or his "Frankly my dear I don't give a damn" attitude.
And we don't want Brian Mills. We'd spend all our time worrying about how exactly he came to acquire his particular set of skills
Nor so we want John McClane. We don't need the dirty laundry from him constantly dodging explosions and getting blood splattered.
You can keep Maximus Desimus Meriduis.....It costs a small fortune to take out life insurance on a husband who is into extreme sports.
Then there's Ashley "Ash" Williams.....not fancying snuggling up in bed with some bloke who has a chainsaw for a hand.
And James Dalton...we'd always be stressing about burning the dinner if the other half had a penchant for ripping people's throats out.
Travis Bickle...where do I start....dodgy hair style, porn addiction, and all that talking to himself...he doesn't seem too bright anyway.
Tony Montana...loopy, no morals, and has the hots for his sister. Really wouldn't fancy saying hello to his "little friend" ;) ;)
Tyler Durden...we can rule him straight out as he was imaginary anyway.
Michael Corleone No thanks.....the family get-togethers would be an absolute nightmare.
Indiana Jones...meh....I personally would be bit worried about him always carrying a whip.
Han Solo....all that travelling...he'd probably never be home.
Murphy McManus......seems to have let his personal hygiene standards slide these days
Uylsses Everett McGill Is apparently "A Man of Constant Sorrow"....so I doubt he'd be very good company.
Eric Northman.....has a drinking problem
Damon Salvator....ditto
Jaime Lannister....incest
Dean Winchester...wanted for credit card fraud and murder
etc etc
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 10/28/2017 9:18:32 AM

lol! This is hilarious! If the link below is true, in the UK anyone is legally allowed to practice as a counsellor because counselling is not recognised as a profession. It's a bit like tarot reading. It is totally unregulated and it takes absolutely no qualifications to be a so called "counsellor". This is crazy! People like fatso are not even breaking the law with their quackery! smh.


I agree that it isn't a protected profession. Just as someone here can claim to have a PhD, or a twelve inch willy, anyone can call themselves a counsellor. However, the grape headed dwarf misses out (deliberately of course) where the link points to where it describes counsellors with qualifications and association memberships (of which I have both). Qualified counsellors also carry on with their continual professional development and have regular supervision between clients (another requirement of association membership), and access their own personal therapy where needed. It's not like tarot reading and it's not quackery. Qualified counsellors work with proven models, neuroscience and have sound knowledge of developmental theories and mental health.

So nice try, but he's out of his depth here and it still doesn't detract from the fact that 10ky is an idiot with unsuccessful track record with women, and for good reason. Perhaps I pricked him with the last quoted article...
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 10/28/2017 9:47:48 AM
Rape and sexual assault is about control, rather than attraction. It's about someone wanting something they think they're entitled to, and if it's not given to them on a plate, then by God, they're going to take it anyway. Don Hennessy is absolutely correct in saying that the mindset is exactly the same as an offending paedophile.

Men being groped and harassed in public by women is often seen as absolutely nothing. By other men, of course. I think more men fantasise about it, rather than experience it, whereas women experience it more than fantasise about it. I know that if I was being leered at by women as I was alone and minding my own business, having sexual comments thrown towards me,and being touched, I would feel very uncomfortable about it. It's unwarranted attention. It's creepy. I can imagine how that would feel for a woman, by imagining myself in that situation. That's empathy. 10ky has none.
 scareymush
Joined: 8/9/2011
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Posted: 10/28/2017 10:14:08 AM
The truth is that most men turn to complete mush if they are that attracted to a woman, it's only mentally disturbed perverts who make a grab for women on the pretence that they were that overwhelmed by her beauty, which goes back to that victim blaming thing where women are made to feel it's their fault for being so irresistible.

It's utterly ridiculous and insulting to other men/actual norman human men!

And that was an interesting piece you put up Orange about how victims of abusive partners are deliberately targeted and groomed in the same way paedophiles snare their victims. Pauline's article about Philpott in msg 117 on page 5 seems to prove that theory.

I'm sure every woman on here knows exactly what it's like to be desired...it's often sweet and nice to be aware some bloke thinks you're gorgeous. It's part of the fun of human interaction, we're supposed to enjoy each other in the nicest way possible and the majority of men are not brash or pushy.

There's been a recent court case here about a well known and respected sports journalist called Tom Humphries who groomed a 14 year old girl. Story here:

https://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/tom-humphries-jailed-for-2-years-for-grooming-and-sexual-abuse-of-girl-1.3266856

The same newspaper wrote a sort of eulogy for the convicted paedophile after his sentencing:

https://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/courts/district-court/tom-humphries-a-sports-writer-who-became-a-national-figure-1.3267087

I feel sickened by the old guard of Irish society and how they have tried to justify that person's actions and the fact that he got such a light sentence because his fall from grace came from such a high place....rotten b@stards.
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 10/28/2017 10:20:30 AM
I think we are still in the infancy of recognising just how big a problem this is and how many people are affected by it.

I don't know if you saw it but the London Fire Commissioner, a woman, dared to suggest that the program fireman Sam could be renamed to Firefighter Sam. Her reasoning is that from an early age we are conditioned to believe that certain roles are for men and others for women. I think that's right and I argued on facebook with people who added to the discussion with "**** off its only a program". I was perplexed that a lot of females couldn't see that it is all part of societies conditioning. I'm not suggesting that there is some government department thinking how to put women in their place but that it is what we have grown up with since forever. Nor am i suggesting that changing the name to Firefighter Sam will stop the violence against women but it is recognising that women have an equal role in our lives early on that will help.


I did a survey amongst friends many years ago and discovered that around 1 in 4 women of my acquaintance had or thought they had been raped (too drunk to actually know). That was back in my twenties nd quite an eye opener.

Anyway, I'm off to brush up on my niceness and try to regain some street cred by scaring old ladies (and men) this evening. see you Monday.
 duracell_bunny_one
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Posted: 10/28/2017 11:01:15 AM
Seriously, is there any chance that combatants could type within the space available?
I don't post much anymore; this has become one of those sites that consist of
about six people having a fight.
It's just so bloody boring (so is the cut 'n' paste).........

 scareymush
Joined: 8/9/2011
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Posted: 10/28/2017 11:16:09 AM
We wouldn't have to go to such lengths if some person (10ky) wasn't so wilfully pig ignorant.

There'd be no need to rely on actual c&p from articles to illustrate our point if he was a thinking person, but we're dealing with a mentally deficient subhuman who hates women.

I might have screwed up the page with my links but they're important and here's hoping that the proof of Leon being 10ky that was shown to Pauline has finally driven the idiot away.

But who knows.....

Besides which, I am glad to have learnt more myself and I appreciate Pauline and Orange's efforts.
 Mikitaka
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Posted: 10/28/2017 12:50:14 PM
Shades of grey, no not the book. Life in general. A few years back I was having a leaving do with friends. I'm usually last to finish my drink as I'm a bit of a girly drinker. So the other guys were leaving ahead of me when an attractive, smartly dressed woman of my age entered the bar. One of those instant attraction moments when we both caught sight of each other. So exchanged smiles and I walked to the exit when she grabbed my crotch totally unexpectedly on the way past. When I turned she was yards away with a cheeky smile on her face. Was that an assault ? Hell no! I was very flattered. Ok maybe if she'd fallen from the ugly tree I'd have thought differently but that is what I'd call consensual and acceptable.
Now to the shades of grey. If I was getting cosy with a woman and my hand started to wander and she said no and nothing else. (Like she could have said "no, it's the wrong time." or some other qualifier. But a simple no would be a forever no to me unless she instigated manoeuvres next time. 10ky however, I don't think would understand this no, as he seems to be missing a few links in his genome, judging by his posts. He does seem to miss the concept of empathy so I don't think I should criticise him for it. So badgering him for not understanding is fruitless. If he can't read the emotion of the situation, he needs to recognise any no is a stop. He could be of the opinion it's a playful no, playing hard to get in his view. So he has to learn that no means no all the time in his case.
Now I must apologise to 10ky for using him as the foil but he does seem to have acquired the devil incarnate title of late. I don't know if he is narcissist, sociopath or just a good pretender but he fits the bill for the bad guy here.
 RoxyMoronic
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Posted: 10/28/2017 1:24:27 PM
I’m not on mens case or owt but how many have a friend who speaks crudely of/to women and they never challenge them, often laugh along with them.
Now they’re all on the bandwagon speaking about how wrong someone’s behaviour is (Harvey)
It’s hardly surprising this behaviour is tolerated after all one guy bragged about being a sexual predator last year and was elected president.
It’s incomprehensible that Sa-Vile was ‘allowed’ to get away with the stuff he did.
People protecting their careers/friends more than their morals/principles.
 10ky
Joined: 11/15/2012
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Posted: 10/28/2017 2:24:13 PM
This is a form of Stalinistic terror. Women and women rights activists are oppressive. Freedom of speech? Remember? Yes, a joke about rape is hilarious. It's just a joke. Yes, what trump said about women is hilarious (given that he was joking) and yes, we have every right in the world to laugh at whatever we find funny without being persecuted. If you don't like our jokes, then tap you ears. Simples.

PS: I'm not the only one who has this kind of humour. Frankie Boyles shows are packed with people from all over the world both men n women n they all come out with wet pants. It's just a couple of disgruntled ugly women who are propagating these ideas out of frustration at their inability to attract male attention.

-Mikitaka
Erm, were u really flattered that a lady grouped your balls? That's utter rape! She should be hunted down n exposed on the papers for the nefarious rapist she is. She must have traumatised you for life, aye?

As for what I'm missing or not, I do not think that you or anyone on here is educated enough to come to a sensible conclusion on the matter. Repeating what you hear on the telly is stuff for parrots.

NOW CAN ANYONE TELL ME HOW A BLOG ABOUT THR WAY WOMEN REJECT MEN ONLINE ENDED UP HERE? YOU FOLK CANNAE STICK TO A TITLE CAN YA? OUTRAGEOUS!
 scareymush
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Posted: 10/28/2017 3:02:50 PM
^^^^^^ Shut up you cretinous fvck!


@ Roxy

It's pure unadulterated sycophancy, that allows those kinds of men get away with it. As with their victims, they choose their yes men and women accordingly.

The case of Tom Humphries in Ireland where his ex-colleagues were lauding him after his sentencing in the papers and on TV, behaving as if the ruining of a 14-year-old girl's life is not as tragic as his losing his position in society and the loss of respect etc.

The man ruined his daughter's life too...she found his messages to the child on his old phones and that young girl had to turn her father into the Gardai...that's a mindfvck.

Because Humphries pals rallied around him...a large proportion of the population was disgusted, so there's been a fair bit of backpedalling on the part of the good old boy's network. I wonder if defending the indefensible or turning a blind eye to the truth is about self-preservation ultimately...those men might be just as guilty as the ones unlucky enough to get caught.

Sinead O'Connor claimed an Irish film director, Jim Sheridan, made an inappropriate pass at her some years ago...she has a blog and wrote an open letter to him calling him out on taking advantage of her when she was vulnerable...she was crying on his shoulder about some matter and he french kissed her or something which upset her as she was very close to his wife...the usual thing creepy men do. But Sheridan immediately got in touch with his lawyers and her open letter was removed from public view.

Now I don't know the truth but I think Sinead O'Connor is very truthful...but people get away with calling her mad, problem solved for the bad guys then.

Hopefully, we'll all be braver than before now in the face of evil like Weinstein et al.
 10ky
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Posted: 10/28/2017 3:30:46 PM
^^
When will you realise that taking out your frustration and anger at your situation on random people online or your sister is useless? I didn't beat you up and abandon you with a disabled child. It was your ex. I didn't make you fat and big. It was nature. You're targeting the wrong person. Target yourself instead. Work on yourself. That might help.
 scareymush
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Posted: 10/28/2017 3:51:50 PM

^^
When will you realise that taking out your frustration and anger at your situation on random people online or your sister is useless? I didn't beat you up and abandon you with a disabled child. It was your ex. I didn't make you fat and big. It was nature. You're targeting the wrong person. Target yourself instead. Work on yourself. That might help.

Well, well, well.....if that comment doesn't seel his fate i.e. having everybody finally understand full well what a prick he is I don't know what will.

Go away leonsky, you despicable piece of shit!

I tell you what.....your mother ought to hang her head in shame for giving birth to the monster you are with your strange gerontophilia which your alter ego went on and about...was it your mother who damaged you?

Is that it? The reason for your Oedipus complex? How do you get on with your daddy? Do you hate him because your mother spends her nights in his bed instead of yours?
 10ky
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Posted: 10/28/2017 4:07:55 PM
^^
Just some advice to alleviate your anger towards me, jo_van and Leon and the hate you harbour towards your very own sister and your neighbours as per your own admission. Not to mention your, rather conspicuous paranoid personality and repetitiveness which is symptomatic of some damn serious mental disorders... That to me sounds very abnormal.


-orange
Orange? We need a shop assistant/counsellor here xD

VVV
I'm not afraid to admit to the truth, pal. Never been. I'm not acting a role like you.

Indeed, I can laugh my head off at a joke about rape or homosexuality or short dudes or fat women or disable people or bald men or the queen or racism or old people .... It's all game. It's called having a sense of humour and not being easily influenced by the brainwashing and propaganda. If more people were like that, the holocaust wouldn't have happened to give u an example. The Germans would have seen that barbarity for what it truly is.

In short, there are the followers like you who will follow the perceived authorities and whoever without as much as a thought and then there's the thinkers like comedians and intellectuals and educated people. Take your pick.
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 10/28/2017 4:11:04 PM

Yes, a joke about rape is hilarious. It's just a joke.


Oh

My

God.

Considering that remark will be around on the internet for ever, that's such a dumb admission to make. And considering the fool's jibes at "women's rights activists and feminists", he doesn't have much of a clue about what oppression actually means, coming out with this.

You're right, scarey: he's a prick. Just a disgruntled ugly little boy attempting to propagate these ideas out of frustration at his inability to attract female attention. Hence the title of this thread. That he started.
 scareymush
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Posted: 10/28/2017 4:31:30 PM


^^
Just some advice to alleviate your anger towards me, jo_van and Leon and the hate you harbour towards your very own sister and your neighbours as per your own admission. Not to mention your, rather conspicuous paranoid personality and repetitiveness which is symptomatic of some damn serious mental disorders... That to me sounds very abnormal.

The drowning man grasping at straws.....

Go away you silly little man, you sad embittered pathetic little gimp.


You're right, scarey: he's a prick. Just a disgruntled ugly little boy attempting to propagate these ideas out of frustration at his inability to attract female attention. Hence the title of this thread. That he started.

Yep...he's being particularly vengeful tonight and has forgotten to ignore us both....I sense the naughty little boy is unravelling and losing control.

I wonder what other personal insults he's going to hit me with? His projecting his inadequacies and mental issues onto me is a very funny joke though...oh how I have laughed.

It's strange how when people defend women it drives him even crazier than usual....maybe he was bullied by his five sisters, Pam and I can't remember the names of the other four.

vvvvvv...Didn't take long for numbnuts to concede defeat and backtrack like mad to save his blushes.
 10ky
Joined: 11/15/2012
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Posted: 10/28/2017 4:38:51 PM
^^

I was just trying to help you to come to terms with your anger is all. Vengeful? Why should I be vengeful to you? What have you ever done to me? Your anger towards me and many other people is your problem. Besides, there's probably physical cause for the way you act. It don't affect me one wee bit.

-Paul
Yeah, prolly they weren't but the jokes are just plain funny. Don't u agree with that at least? If someone takes offence at them, they can always ignore them, no?
 10ky
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Posted: 10/28/2017 4:52:48 PM
-paul
VVV
Not odd. It's just that you got carried away by the hash attitude about these things and gave in to the oppression and suppression of freedom which we are all experiencing in the name of liberty these days.

INDEED, IF ANYONE IS FOUND GUILTY OF RAPE OR ANY SORT OF VIOLENCE WHATSOEVER, SHE OR HE SHOULD BE PUNISHED ACCORDINGLY TO PROTECT SOCIETY. No question about that but it's quiet a long shot from laughing at a joke to actually acting violently.
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