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 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
Msg: 51
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It’s like playing Where’s Waldo, only instead trying to find the tranny in your search results :D
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 52
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Posted: 3/4/2018 10:01:25 AM

I took another look and realized the OP looks a bit like an older version of the singer Darius Rucker, too...


We shall call him Hootie Woods.
 yourstillhere
Joined: 7/30/2008
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Posted: 3/8/2018 7:49:31 PM

Why would it be different for someone who identifies as male/female, regardless of the genitalia identified at birth, and wants the company of the same or different male/female identification?


Can someone please explain the process by which someone "identifies" their gender?

And explain by what they have come to the finding that they are, in fact, the opposite to which they were biologically born with?
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 3/10/2018 3:02:20 AM
Brief explanation of concepts and terminology
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/sexual-orientation-gender/gender-gender-identity/what-are-gender-roles-and-stereotypes

Children identify their gender by age 4 usually. Links on bottom of page are for further reading, including about children who identify as the gender opposite of their sex.
https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/gradeschool/Pages/Gender-Identity-and-Gender-Confusion-In-Children.aspx
 whostolemynickname
Joined: 5/21/2016
Msg: 55
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Posted: 3/27/2018 8:52:22 AM
I'm with the original poster. If you are a gay man then look for a gay man. And yes a tg with a penis is a gay man and there's nothing on this earth or in the bible that will change my way on thinking that way. Why bother posting in a section where men are looking for women. There is a lot of nasty people out there that will message back. Transphobia does exist. If a gay man or tg hits on me in a section that I'm looking for a woman, then yes I am offended and if that makes me transphobia or homophobic so be it. It's a mental disorder period. It's Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve or Amanda and Eve.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
Msg: 56
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Posted: 3/27/2018 12:08:47 PM
I think there should be separate categories for transgendered people. What's the matter with an Other column?
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 57
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Posted: 3/27/2018 12:20:10 PM

I'm with the original poster. If you are a gay man then look for a gay man. And yes a tg with a penis is a gay man and there's nothing on this earth or in the bible that will change my way on thinking that way. Why bother posting in a section where men are looking for women. There is a lot of nasty people out there that will message back. Transphobia does exist. If a gay man or tg hits on me in a section that I'm looking for a woman, then yes I am offended and if that makes me transphobia or homophobic so be it. It's a mental disorder period. It's Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve or Amanda and Eve.


I do agree there's nothing an individual born as a man could do to make me think of them as a woman. However, f*ck your Bible. With the garbage it condones, transsexuals should be the least of your concerns.
 whostolemynickname
Joined: 5/21/2016
Msg: 58
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Posted: 3/27/2018 12:40:06 PM
But you're wearing a cross bud!
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 3/27/2018 1:21:09 PM
Yes, and it's not a Christian cross. It's also covered in spikes.

 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 3/28/2018 1:20:33 AM

If a gay man or tg hits on me in a section that I'm looking for a woman, then yes I am offended and if that makes me transphobia or homophobic so be it.

Offended? I would say there's some issues with you though, if that's the case. Just as much as getting Offended if a 300lb chick who wouldn't even have a half-way decent face if she lost 150lbs, sent you a flirty message online. Should just be in the category of "Ehhh, no way, not for me." Getting "offended" shows some anger towards those who are gay or tranny.

I think there should be separate categories for transgendered people. What's the matter with an Other column?

They could, but there'd hardly be any. I would think just a filter, to flag yourself as a tranny, which would be rarely used as there's so few. But at least it'd draw attention, nobody would be "caught by surprise" because they had their hopes up that a pretty "girl" wrote them - lol.
 MadameBoisseau
Joined: 5/11/2017
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Posted: 4/2/2018 8:08:38 PM
The word Female has a definition: the sex that bears ova gametes, has the capacity to bear young.

Men can NEVER be female, no matter how much make up they wear, or how much of their penis they invert with surgery - there is NO such thing as a gamete transplant. Acting out stereotypical feminine gender roles is NOT the same as actually being a female and having a gestational tract.
 basilisk123
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Posted: 4/7/2018 8:49:08 AM
That maybe so, but I don't think that is the point. They are trying to get as close to the person they are on the inside. It has nothing to do with our opinions of them. They are doing it for themselves, and that is how it should be. Live and let live. If someone wants to be referred to by a specific pronoun, how does that affect you? How is it detrimental to you to have to use a pronoun? It isn't, so let them do what they want.
 MadameBoisseau
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Posted: 4/7/2018 3:01:00 PM
It most certainly IS the point if you are a straight or homosexual person, which the bulk of humanity is. Most people do NOT want a surprise in the genital department.

It IS detrimental to women when men with penises invade women's organizations and start demanding we change the words for women (look up how the midwives association was sued so that "mother" is considered sexist and biological women are now called "uterus bearers"), when they start branding any kind of conversation about female anatomy "sexist" and so they shut down productions, conversations, and fund raisers which raise awareness about the health of women's reproductive systems (these men have sued saying women's lactation rooms are unfair separatist spaces, they protested and shut down the vagina monologues, women's music festivals and women's fund raisers as well as sued feminine hygiene manufacturers and education committees.) When they don themselves women and steal women's spaces on sports teams, their scholarships and opportunities, actually hurt women in competition (look up the male MMA fighter falon fox who is now legally brutalizing real women in the boxing ring). Worse? When they kill and rape females in their spaces - there has been law suits all over america and Europe because so many men who claim they are women have used that claim to enter spaces where women are vulnerable and assault them. Look up the recent fiasco in Great Britain where a male who "felt" like a woman was let into a female jail and raped many real women, or the recent attack right here in America on an 8 year old in a Target bathroom.

There are entire sites dedicated solely to tracking the thousands of assaults on females that Men who use the "pronoun of woman" are doing. Feel free to search up gender identity watch or gender trender. There are a ton out there, once you start sticking your nose into how often straight men are using the "pronoun" to get into spaces where little school girls are - your mind will be blown.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
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Posted: 4/7/2018 3:31:40 PM
^^^ Madame, suppose you had a son who told you one that he felt like a female trapped in a male’s body? Are you going to disown your own son?
 basilisk123
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Posted: 4/7/2018 3:44:18 PM
MadameBoisseau, I don't know, it is starting to sound like fearful bigotry to me. Are you actually fearful that transgenders are going to "replace" women? really? How about you get some exposure to the transgender community and see if your fear of being "replaced" as a women is true. Go out to meet them, and genuinely talk to them. You will find that all they want to do is live their life and be who they are. They have no interest in threatening or replacing your place in society. Hell, anyone who goes through the surgeries, the medication, the therapy, the mental/physical agony, all while knowing full well that they may be assaulted or killed by bigots, has my upmost respect.

As for the going in women's bathrooms. They have always been doing it since they came to be. How is it a problem only now? You probably shared a bathroom many times with a transgender and not even known about it. Hell, I would take a shit in women's bathroom if I could. Yall's bathroom don't have piss and toilet paper everywhere on the walls, seat, and floor, I bet. Probably clean and scented. That must be a great place to take a dump. ROFLMAO
 dondea
Joined: 12/10/2007
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Posted: 4/7/2018 4:02:48 PM
@basilisk123: I used to clean the restrooms when I worked in a department store in upstate NY many, many years ago. I'd rather clean the men's room over the women's room any time. Maybe someone has a different experience or opinion, but I never was exposed to a clean and scented women's restroom. They were always dirtier and nastier than the men's restroom when I had to clean them. I'm glad I don't do that anymore, LOL!
 basilisk123
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Posted: 4/8/2018 2:13:41 AM
^^^ Lol, the only female restrooms I know about are the porta potties for females in refineries. Once, I was curious so I looked in an unoccupied one. It was immaculate. It was roomy, it had scented toilette paper, and a freaking air freshener. I was like, "woah!!!". In the refinery porta potties for men, you are lucky if you found one that didn't smell like 10 day old hot piss, or have shit on top of the seat. Let me say that again. MEN WERE TAKING SHITS ON TOP OF THE TOILET SEATS!!! Yeah... Happy I am out of there.
Transgendered Woman Appearing in Search Results
Posted: 4/8/2018 7:54:34 AM
After viewing a good number of profiles and images, I suspect that I've found at least a couple of either transvestite or transgendered individuals advertising in the personals.

An Adams apple, and heavy makeup over a five o-clock shadow are good indications of "authenticity" of a man posing as a woman.

I feel it would be nice to be able to filter people who are transvestites or transgendered when searching through the personals (similar to age, height, location, etc.).

This presumes that those who register with POF will be honest about their gender identity ... past and present. Perhaps there are those who seek relationships with this category of individual, however I do not. (call me old fashioned)

POF should consider adding an "alternative" gender selection / search filter.
 MadameBoisseau
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Posted: 4/8/2018 2:21:08 PM

Madame, suppose you had a son who told you one that he felt like a female trapped in a male’s body? Are you going to disown your own son?


I'd tell him to dress and present himself however he wants, but I'd also remind him that acting out stereotypes women fought against doesn't make him actually a woman - and that he has a social obligation to never put his desire to act out female stereotypes above the rights of real women.
 MadameBoisseau
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Posted: 4/8/2018 2:35:45 PM

Are you actually fearful that transgenders are going to "replace" women? really? How about you get some exposure to the transgender community and see if your fear of being "replaced" as a women is true. Go out to meet them, and genuinely talk to them. You will find that all they want to do is live their life and be who they are.


I do not fear men replacing women, no amount of make up can ever make a male an ova creator. I do however resent that the stereotypes women fought because they were oppressive - are now being trotted back out and used as the definition of womanhood and I am expected to shut up about it or else men in skirts will brand me a "bigot". Which frankly is as stupid as a white person painting their face black and then acting out all the crappy stereotypes about blacks, then screaming at real black people that this is the same as ACTUALLY being born black and raised in a racist society.

As to telling me to expose myself to the LGBT community - i was a founding member in my city. I've been involved in LGB rights since I was a child - you really have no idea how heavily I have been involved and WHY that exposure actually led me to this position.

As to your bathroom commentary: Little school girls experiencing their first time menstruation do not need grown men coming into their bathroom and violating the privacy they need to deal with a biological process a person porn with testicles will NEVER understand. Before telling me who I need to socialize with - I suggest you look up how women had to fight for segregation of bathrooms because it was used to keep women out of the work force and education fields. I suggest you look up how toilet segregation is STILL an issue in many places in the world and is among the TOP places for assaults upon women.

Studies show that men who cross dress have the SAME assault rates on women as regular males. So if you think its necessary to separate men from women because of the statistics of crime on women - the SAME argument applies to men who like to wear skirts. Even more so - because studies reveal most cross dressing is a sexual act, not a matter of "identity".
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