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 Manofsubstance1970
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I would not date a liar no and I do notice a number of female profile, that lie about their age, weight, height, profession, dating criteria.

Some women just create a profile to get a massive ego boost, from the thousands of messages they receive, from suitable candidates, but those women choose not to date any of those guys, because they are living in a fantasy world(They have princess syndrome and looking for the prince who has all the money and the great looks) The funny thing is most of these women's profiles are purely negative and the only thing they have going for them are the sexy photos of their cleavage and legs, so why would Mr perfect want to date any of these deluded women, when he can have the cream of a women, with supermodel looks, a positive attitude and are great bed?

Some tend to write a massive laundry list of requirements and some women have no idea what they really want and never will, because they lack the ability to make the right choices for themselves and always pick the wrong guy, because some have abandonment issues.

Being brought up in a single parent family, would indeed create abandonment issues for boys and girls, but if those issues are not resolved, then these people go on to be destructive in relationships and very rarely would ever have healthy one's, because they are repeating a cycle and the chance are the cycle, will be passed down to their children and so on.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
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Posted: 11/22/2017 10:11:24 AM

Well, OP (that's arwen52) hasn't been back to clarify why she was canoodling with a man whom she thought was 13 years her junior (hello, HS! ), so we're going to have to speculate. Myself, I'm of the "She was looking for an ambulatory s-e-x toy, and is all torqued because she thinks he can't go all Energizer Bunny on her." So, that square is taken.

Everyone, feel free to let your imaginations run wild! *WHY* was she doing it?


Well, Arlo, I guess I must not have as vivid and colorful an imagination as you. Define the word, "canoodling" and what it means to you.

Is responding to someone's message considered canoodling? Is initiating contact with someone considered canoodling? Is wearing open-toed sandals in your presence considered canoodling? Do tell.
 dpwesu
Joined: 3/25/2013
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Posted: 11/22/2017 10:21:37 AM
while I didn't read the whole post......if a person lies about one thing.....they will lie about most things......

I now have a new policy.....that if you lie to me on here.....your screen name will make the "liars list" on my profile.....
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 11/22/2017 10:52:53 AM

while I didn't read the whole post......if a person lies about one thing.....they will lie about most things......

If you're talking about technically lying about Anything -- that's quite incorrect to say. We all lie. You do, I do, everyone posting here does (and not posting). It's human nature. That's why we hesitate to call certain things "lies" and more like "What else was I supposed to say?" or "You're not supposed to say [that], you're supposed to say [this]," when [this] is knowingly not 100% true. It's What we lie about that's key.
 dpwesu
Joined: 3/25/2013
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Posted: 11/22/2017 2:34:48 PM
^^^

Well that may be true....but I've just come across too many married men masquerading as single.....and those who say they don't have kids....but actually do.....- now those things will get you inducted on my liars list.......
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
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Posted: 11/22/2017 2:37:45 PM


(AT) Well, OP (that's arwen52) hasn't been back to clarify why she was canoodling with a man whom she thought was 13 years her junior (hello, HS! ), so we're going to have to speculate. Myself, I'm of the "She was looking for an ambulatory s-e-x toy, and is all torqued because she thinks he can't go all Energizer Bunny on her." So, that square is taken.

Everyone, feel free to let your imaginations run wild! *WHY* was she doing it?


(halcyon_skies) Well, Arlo, I guess I must not have as vivid and colorful an imagination as you. Define the word, "canoodling" and what it means to you.


Flirting, with the objective of getting a little slap-and-tickle. I contend that this was OP's goal; and, since she's not clarifying, it's a valid supposition.


(halcyon_skies) Is responding to someone's message considered canoodling? Is initiating contact with someone considered canoodling? Is wearing open-toed sandals in your presence considered canoodling? Do tell.


Depends; depends; and, OH GAWD YES!!!
 halcyon_skies
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Posted: 11/22/2017 4:39:56 PM

Depends; depends; and, OH GAWD YES!!!


Hmmm... I wonder if a foot would bounce off your azz in the same way a coin would?
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
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Posted: 11/22/2017 6:05:20 PM


(AT) Depends; depends; and, OH GAWD YES!!!


(halcyon_skies) Hmmm... I wonder if a foot would bounce off your azz in the same way a coin would?


Meh -- mere foreplay...
 Coma_White
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Posted: 11/22/2017 11:19:15 PM
I met someone that put their age way younger so they could message younger people. Trust me, they were definitely as crazy in person as they were on their profile.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 11/23/2017 7:52:59 AM
"trust me, they were as crazy in person, as their personality made their profile look crazy"

>>>I do get the fine fellows here to who tell me, "go out there, GTO, take a chance, you never know what you'll find."

the problem is, no one is surprised by what I find :) I took a gamble on the long-shot women when I was young, and the payoff was really rare. now, in a heavily-populated area like NY or FL, the odds of finding diamonds in that coal dust go up. but i'm not fishing in those waters. people who represent poorly...tend to do so for a reason, 90% of the time. label me a pessimist for being a realist :)

I complain about not finding someone. others come here to complain about how much money they spent to get similar results. we're all in the same basket.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 11/23/2017 1:27:18 PM

gtomustang
I complain about not finding someone. others come here to complain about how much money they spent to get similar results.

I do sometimes mention spending a fair bit of money on women and dating, but I don’t really complain. To me, the results I get are well worth the money spent.



we're all in the same basket.

Well, no, that’s not really the case. There are a number of people on here who are paired up and happy about it. And then there are those of us who are enjoying our dating lives.



>>>I do get the fine fellows here to who tell me, "go out there, GTO, take a chance, you never know what you'll find."

I will admit to engaging in that behavior. But I think I’m going to give it up, you don’t seem to want any advice / encouragement / whatever.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 11/23/2017 2:53:33 PM
I will give you that credit, Henry, there are others who have turned bitter these last few months about dating. Indeed, there are attractive people who are enjoying their natural success, and there seems to be people who also enjoy "dinner-dating" and activity buddies. I already have that, I wish to move beyond it. I appreciate the advice, I've seen it work for attractive men to get attractive women. I've seen it work for me to attract women I have little interest in. In a populated area, the odds of finding the attractive women who cares little about looks and much about personality are better--I had to search the entire country to get those odds in my favor, but i'm sick of having to hop a plane to get laid. TSA takes the fun out of everything :)

I'd be happy if the next 47 years would be different than the last 47 years of chasing beautiful women. But I think I've learned all there is to learn. Who knows, I won't mind being proven wrong :)
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 11/24/2017 11:36:47 AM

Well that may be true....but I've just come across too many married men masquerading as single.....and those who say they don't have kids....but actually do.....- now those things will get you inducted on my liars list.......

Yeah, but they may not be lying about everything under the sun in life. They're just looking for a good time -- and like others (about their body type, peace in their life when it's hectic, etc), they're just trying to sell themselves get some attention. I can understand being swiftly turned off by the outstanding false things put out there, yeah. I wouldn't put being 43 and putting 39 in there, on the level of being married but being single. It's more on the level of putting where they live in an adjacent town 10-15 minutes away from where they do live, since they work there and it'll get them more bites (and/or not wanting people to know they live in a super small town a bit outside where they could easily be found).

I do sometimes mention spending a fair bit of money on women and dating, but I don’t really complain. To me, the results I get are well worth the money spent.

Yeah, but that doesn't mean it is well worth it though. I think the key is objectively questioning (to oneself, with the help of peers) -- Is It? Sometimes our comfort zone will make us do things too much to get too little, but stepping outside our comfort zone seems like "too much". The concept of "Well, if he feels [X] is worth it, then it's worth it," isn't necessarily true. It can be, there's leeway on that, but it may not be so.

Sometimes in our lives when things change in how we operate, do things -- usually not from our control -- we can look back and say "Why was I doing [that] and so OK about it? I was wasting my time. I should have just done [this] and [that] when it came to these particular situations. Sheesh!"


I do get the fine fellows here to who tell me, "go out there, GTO, take a chance, you never know what you'll find."
I will admit to engaging in that behavior.

I think that's an example, though, with GTO in another boat. His comfort zone puts him in a position where he's not getting dates, heeds on chasing things or barking up certain trees VS others, etc. He can FEEL what he's doing is in the ballpark range of optimal for him -- but from my POV (and I believe yours has been), that "No GTO, you'll be thanking yourself if you go about things differently in [this] mode. It's supposed to feel uncomfortable, otherwise nothing would be changing."

To your situation, it isn't about spending a decent amount of $$ on dating, but the level of "bang for the buck", as you know. And I'm sure much of yours is Just Fine, of course... but barking up some trees that conceptually doesn't get anything in return and basically never really ever does, doing that more than "yeah, I've done that before once or twice, ehh so what," isn't a good endeavor -- even if it is kosher with our comfort-zone.
 ThroatLozenge
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Posted: 11/24/2017 11:42:47 AM
After dinner sex is often a lethargic and gaseous affair
 gtomustang
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Posted: 11/24/2017 2:49:51 PM
"GTO's comfort zone puts him in a position to not get dates"

>>>I suspect we all have a line we won't cross, where we "won't do anything for love" to misquote Meatloaf :) For example, some will rationalize doing a drunk girl, or a promiscuous wife, or some other "opportunity", and other guys will not. Some guys will "Settle", others will be too picky. Some guys are looking to score, some are looking for confirmation about their worth. some are looking to date, have company, and companionship, others are looking to get laid.

"no GTO, you'll be thanking yourself if you go about things differently"

>>alas, I did spend my youth following the advice of the fellows here, b/c it was advice I heard from other fellows before I cam here :) The advice is the same, even if the advisor is not. The results are what I explained. That's why I say, just doing the action doesn't make magic. if a woman isn't attracted, then she ain't attracted. I keep asking, however, b/c I don't give up. if I did, i'd never bother asking, but believe I knew everything. I ask to find out if I missed something somewhere, and the more details I hear, the more it sounds like, I didn't. For example, not to pick on Henry, but he posted lately that meetups don't really work for him getting dates. Maybe they worked before when he suggested them, and now they don't. Other people have chimed in with their experiences. maybe some tricks work in some places and not others, which makes sense.

people want different things out of relationships. its quite possible that certain social events, attract certain people looking for certain things. I wouldn't be surprised if some meetups are meat markets, and others are not. Its why I pester :) the more we discuss, the more facts and details come out.

"its supposed to feel uncomfortable"

>>>yes...and no. If I walk into a group feeling uncomfortable...who wants me around trying to hit them up for a date? :) better I look confident. better that I come off as relaxed, not worried or a bundle of nerves. I've witnessed better responses from women I approached when I looked comfortable. They rejected me, but at least I wasn't uncomfortable making them feel uncomfortable. But that moment before approaching a woman, yeah, I can see that requiring a quick shot of liquid courage before marching over to make an attempt :) but there still should be a little swagger in the walk over.


vvvYou are correct, Henry, he mentioned something about mortgages, and got called out.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 11/24/2017 2:55:58 PM
^^^^ is this another incarnation of ClooneysTutor???

ON EDIT: Ooops, gto posted while I was typing. I meant the post above gto, ConjugalVisits

And in response to gto’s post, I don’t think I ever promoted Meetup as a way to get dates. It is a good way to meet people, to make friends, to socialize, to get out of the house, to get your social skills into high gear.


norwegianguy456


I do sometimes mention spending a fair bit of money on women and dating, but I don’t really complain. To me, the results I get are well worth the money spent.

Yeah, but that doesn't mean it is well worth it though. I think the key is objectively questioning (to oneself, with the help of peers) -- Is It? Sometimes our comfort zone will make us do things too much to get too little, but stepping outside our comfort zone seems like "too much". The concept of "Well, if he feels [X] is worth it, then it's worth it," isn't necessarily true. It can be, there's leeway on that, but it may not be so.

To your situation, it isn't about spending a decent amount of $$ on dating, but the level of "bang for the buck", as you know. And I'm sure much of yours is Just Fine, of course... but barking up some trees that conceptually doesn't get anything in return and basically never really ever does, doing that more than "yeah, I've done that before once or twice, ehh so what," isn't a good endeavor -- even if it is kosher with our comfort-zone.

Hmmm….

I’m not sure if I agree. It is something to think about, there are occasions where I toss money at a problem not really expecting any tangible results. Just sort of, “What the hell, let’s try this and see what happens.” And I might be better off sticking to an agenda with more proven results.

But you know what? If you go very far down that path, then the best “bang for the buck” is going to be paying directly to an escort or call girl. And I don’t think I want to go there, not yet anyway. I do have some successes, and I enjoy the living hell out of those successes.
 gtomustang
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Posted: 11/26/2017 6:47:41 AM
"sometimes I throw money at a problem, not expecting results. I might be better off sticking to an agenda with proven results"

>>>it depends upon what each individual is looking for. There's two casinos nearby me, so I hear often people saying they just go to throw a quarter into a slot machine and see what happens. Literally, a cheap thrill. They get out of the house, check out a free show, people-watch, and try their luck. nothing wrong with a fun time-waster. I think it was Alexis DeToqueville, back in colonial times, claiming we invented time saving devices, then invented new toys to waste the time we gained :) I don't think its automatically harmful.

now, if someone wants to be goal oriented...then yes, it makes sense to not wander around looking for the goal, but to beeline right for it. That leaves us time to...waste on fun things :)

on a tangent...went to one of those casinos to catch Peter Noone. Confirmed that an event most couples think of as date night, may not be the best place to expect the attractive women you see are single :)
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 11/26/2017 7:14:06 AM
Peter Noone concert? I would think the age difference would have been a bigger issue than the number of single women.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 11/26/2017 9:29:02 AM

ThePigOFYourDreams
Peter Noone concert? I would think the age difference would have been a bigger issue than the number of single women.

Not so! The nostalgia craze draws in a lot of people, of all ages. Here in Houston (fourth largest metro area in US), the most popular live band for several years running is a Beatles tribute band. And when I go to one of their shows, there are a lot of women my age, a lot of women your age (I note you’re the same age as gto), and a lot of women too young for any of us here.


gotmustang
went to one of those casinos to catch Peter Noone. Confirmed that an event most couples think of as date night, may not be the best place to expect the attractive women you see are single :)

I never go to casinos, so let me ask, what does the venue look like? Is there dancing, or are you seated auditorium style, or ??

When I go hear the tribute bands, and other live bands playing the older music I like, there is almost always a dance floor. And a dance floor, and the chance to dance, brings out a lot of single women.

As always, YMMV
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 11/26/2017 12:22:51 PM

there are occasions where I toss money at a problem not really expecting any tangible results. Just sort of, “What the hell, let’s try this and see what happens.” And I might be better off sticking to an agenda with more proven results.

I think the issue is frequency & true chances. Nothing wrong with throwing the Long Bomb down field once in a good while, as our assessments aren't exact of course. I just would make them all just a quaint "date" (no wining & dining) if I was doing it more than once in a great great while, even if not too often. Because it's about Odds. And like being in Vegas (my other thread argument), you can totally know the odds are not in your favor, but it provides entertainment value... which is fine! As long as it doesn't go too far, is all. And sometimes our feelings will end up pulling us more astray going too much in that direction as fine, when we would be better off if it was less.

But you know what? If you go very far down that path, then the best “bang for the buck” is going to be paying directly to an escort or call girl.

Well, if the value of the bang for the buck is only about Banging -- then I agree with that, if one chooses the right way, sure. Especially when one is genuinely happy being single + active female sexual interaction, which is nothing to look down on. All that would have to be done is scraping away the social guilt-factor of occasionally partaking, even when they are higher-class gals (and not virtual street gals). I had some older friends post-divorce who dabbled in that.

But in the end, my point is that our comfort zone in-the-now may not be the best suited thing. Nothing wrong with a little variety and throwing down the long ball once in a great while to keep things different to ourselves in the dating scene... but definitely overall should be something we should not utilize time chasing & then talking to online, spending money on a date, all to get an even much lower chance of "action" that would almost certainly be short-lived anyway, and virtually no-chance level of coupling up (sans her being truly crazy) if that's what we'd ideally want.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 11/26/2017 4:00:41 PM

Not so! The nostalgia craze draws in a lot of people, of all ages. Here in Houston (fourth largest metro area in US), the most popular live band for several years running is a Beatles tribute band. And when I go to one of their shows, there are a lot of women my age, a lot of women your age (I note you’re the same age as gto), and a lot of women too young for any of us here.


We're talking about the single most influential band in music history versus a single member of a band most in my age bracket have never listened to, though. I would venture to say I would be hard-pressed to discover anyone I know who has ever owned a Herman's Hermits CD. Anything Beatles related will always be a huge draw. (even though I'm not a huge fan, myself)


there is almost always a dance floor. And a dance floor, and the chance to dance, brings out a lot of single women.


This, on the other hand - everyone has heard of a dance floor, and they will never go out of style. "Get the f*ck out there" can't be stated enough.
 9Pluto
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Posted: 11/26/2017 7:51:41 PM

I never go to casinos, so let me ask, what does the venue look like? Is there dancing, or are you seated auditorium style, or ??


Both depending on the demand and location. If it is high demand, you can spend a lot of time waiting in line, which opens up new opportunities of meeting someone. The difficulty with casinos is the events are usually earlier than the excitement ends for most people. Sometimes out of town normal visitors looking for excitement have cycles and well after midnight is when it heats up. Getting back to a little gambling can be more addictive than finding a date for those going to a casino. Henry, from what you post and your profile, I think you could really get triple 7's at a casino.

Don't underestimate a $2, $3, or $5 blackjack table with single women at it, and learn a strategy to minimize loss. With a bankroll of $200, If played right (memorize the optimal hits, splits, dds, and stands), you can usually play all night and probably not even lose half of your money. Pick a table that is mostly full, 3X2 BJ, and preferably S17, where dealer must hit on "soft 17", and stick to the minimum bets if you want to last long. I haven't gambled in a few years so I don't know if the 3X2 payouts are still available on the low betting tables. These are the tables I usually saw the tourists at anyway, that are least addicted to the game and just trying to have fun.

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 nba24
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Posted: 11/26/2017 11:23:58 PM
No I wouldn't want to. First I think any thing over around a 10 year difference in age to date some one is just odd and so if they are saying that then that means they are going to be 10+ years older then me. 2nd if they lied about something like that who knows what else they may be lying about.
 halcyon_skies
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Posted: 11/27/2017 8:13:41 AM

Pick a table that is mostly full, 3X2 BJ, and preferably S17, where dealer must hit on "soft 17", and stick to the minimum bets if you want to last long.


If you want to last a longer time at blackjack, the correct strategy is to pick a table where the dealer must stand on "soft 17". They're much harder to find, but still exist in Las Vegas.

https://mikeaponte.com/game-selection/hit-soft-17-friend-or-foe/
 9Pluto
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Posted: 11/27/2017 9:02:27 AM
9:
Pick a table that is mostly full, 3X2 BJ, and preferably S17, where dealer must hit on "soft 17", and stick to the minimum bets if you want to last long.

halycon:
If you want to last a longer time at blackjack, the correct strategy is to pick a table where the dealer must stand on "soft 17". They're much harder to find, but still exist in Las Vegas.


My typo and thanks for fixing the S17 definition.
Cheers
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