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 NewYorker58
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My ex was trying to cum around, but I said no, then starting checking caller ID to avoid him. If he wasn't a horrendous person, I wouldn't care if he kept in touch, but he was trying to keep me as his side piece. I'm very good friends with 1 ex for 30 years.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 12/21/2017 4:01:12 PM


My ex was trying to cum around


Hmmm…. Curiouser and curiouser.

I have never known a woman who talked (or wrote) that way in public. In private, yeah, absolutely, but not in public. Add in some other statements, such as “sex is better with someone new”, and I’m really beginning to have doubts here.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 12/21/2017 4:09:25 PM

NG, I don't care. What I did find illuminating was to see him start a new relationship

"I don't care about that, except that I find it illuminating..." ;)

and see that he had no plans of being faithful from day one. To me, it showed he most likely did the same thing to me, and I think it was good for me to know.

"Hey babe, this 1st date's going great. By the way, I don't plan on being faithful to you if we ever become a couple. I mean, I will, but once I wet my whistle, it's going to get old real quick. In the end, I'm going to want to ejaculate on more than 1 woman's quivering belly at a time. You understand, right?" Yeah, I don't think guys are going to say that. :)

And to be fair, most people who cheat don't plan on cheating -- or think they will, when starting to date someone they Like. It's just after it gets old -- ya don't have the nerve or want to break up, you just add more ingredients to the recipe. ;)

The truth is, the signs are generally all over the place in the early stages and women choose to ignore them because the "big two" on the must have list are covered - the physical attraction and the fun factor. If these two are present, things like actual character and integrity can go f*ck themselves.

Absolutely right!
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/21/2017 8:52:52 PM
Site, I said to myself, it looks like he could be a cheater, and then I said, THAT is what I want!☺

Pig, I never said it was 15 years of hell. But, he was always a scumbag, even though I didn't see what he was doing. The guys he works with said it took years to see him for what he is, a braggart, a liar and a gossip. Hmm, doesn't sound like Romeo to me, sounds like an @hole

He saw my carefree lifestyle of being a confident s/w/f, that I had the world by the balls, and he wanted to be part of it. He saw me traveling and partying and wanted me to swoop him up like a knight in shining armour to show him the good life. That's behind me. I'm back on my horse with a handful of balls
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/21/2017 9:34:21 PM
NG, I don't care means I have no feelings for something. Illuminating means one is taking in knowledge. My friend is complaining about my ex, I can't tell him to STFU.

My ex doesn't cheat, because a relationship gets old. He's never faithful to begin with. He tries keeping everyone hanging around that he can, because he doesn't want to end up alone. He has never been alone or lived alone. Some men never mature.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 12/22/2017 8:49:04 AM

NewYorker58
My ex doesn't cheat, because a relationship gets old. He's never faithful to begin with. He tries keeping everyone hanging around that he can, because he doesn't want to end up alone. He has never been alone or lived alone. Some men never mature.


Ahhh! I can identify with this. No, not me personally, someone I was friends with many years ago. Just trying to be his friend was rather difficult, trying to be “the woman in his life” would have to be some kind of rolling disaster.

People who cannot be alone, who have to have someone to entertain them 16 hours a day, 7 days a week, … That gets old rather quickly. Very old.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/22/2017 9:52:49 AM
That's why I say in my profile that I don't want a high energy person, as in 24/7 can't sit still. Those people really are better matched with each other if it's for a LTR.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 12/22/2017 12:10:09 PM


The truth is, the signs are generally all over the place in the early stages and women choose to ignore them because the "big two" on the must have list are covered - the physical attraction and the fun factor. If these two are present, things like actual character and integrity can go f*ck themselves.



Absolutely right!


You might notice women never actually own up to this, either, and they continue trying to coach men they don't want into bringing their inner Wally Cleaver to the table to attract a woman. It's a complete crock of shit, and the poor fools still listen to these women.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 12/22/2017 1:22:28 PM

I don't care means I have no feelings for something. Illuminating means one is taking in knowledge. My friend is complaining about my ex, I can't tell him to STFU.

I was mainly razzing ya about it -- although if you find something illuminating, and talk about it a lot -- there is at least some level of caring about it. 100% not caring = how much You care about which trash can I threw my gas station receipt in at my place, on Wed afternoon. Instead, you're making the argument that you really don't care that much. But I do agree with you on taking heed with guys who can't sit still and seemingly always need a fix of excitement. Girls & guys in that dept -- are going to "get bored" rather quick with 99% of the people they even find dateable.

You might notice women never actually own up to this either, and they continue trying to coach men they don't want into bringing their inner Wally Cleaver to the table to attract a woman.

Totally true. I think they believe that's what they Should want (like, what they'd tell their daughter or little sis on what she Should Want in a guy) -- thus, she herself falsely believes that Is what she wants, when that's almost always Not the case. I think this false belief centers around the focus of what NOT to want -- don't go for Eddie Haskel, we've been burned by him, thus, be like Wally Cleaver to get to the Beaver. :)

It's a complete crock of shit, and the poor fools still listen to these women.

I think many women themselves at least half-way believe it, or believe they believe it, when they really don't underneath it all, when the rubber meats the road. It is a crock of sh!t. Which is why PUA books, tapes, and lectures exist. It originates from the Fact that what women generally say they want -- Is Not True. So ya can't blame guys coming up with their own stuff at least based on men succeeding. In the late 90s from which PUA spawned from, was just nerds observing their non-nerd friends who could get girls, and doing some reverse-engineering upon observation -- and the core of it was accurate. But of course, PUA then got into gear and went over-the-top, etc. But even some of that wacky stuff is better than believing with Mother Hen Martha tells ya what women want.
 saintclara
Joined: 5/30/2017
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Posted: 12/22/2017 6:10:51 PM
You know rather than go around these forums calling me an it why don't you come and say I'm an It to my face! That ten year old picture where you once did something sporty is false advertising judging by your long posts on here:)
 TheEvolutionOfJessi
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Posted: 12/22/2017 8:27:19 PM
and ding ding ding... we have a winner.....


I'm off to bulk up on mark-down mince pies and check the coffee cache.... Could be an interesting silly season session....
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/22/2017 8:33:11 PM
My advice to women is like it or leave. People can make small changers, but don't expect it.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 12/23/2017 8:26:34 AM
"You might notice women never actually own up to this, either, and they continue trying to coach men they don't want into bringing their inner Wally Cleaver to the table to attract a woman."
"I think many women, themselves, at least half way believe it"

>>>maybe 20 yr old girls hear it from their mothers, who are old enough and mature enough to be sick of drama and BS and just want the stability a decent guy may provide (compared to some bad boy). But the young ladies are still loving the rush of emotions that comes from drama, so they want the rush but they speak the lessons that were handed down to them. Sort of like the people who tell you they don't like drinking and how they are when they drink, but at a party will imbibe. What we say, and what we do, do not always jive, b/c instinct isn't always conscious thought.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/23/2017 2:09:18 PM
No guy wants a woman like his mom, that was probably a caregiver, that cooked and cleaned and took care of him? When I was out shopping the other day, I heard these two young guys talking, and the guy was saying he needs to find a girlfriend that likes to clean and do laundry, because he doesn't like to. It isn't like I haven't seen that before, where a guy wants to use a woman as a housekeeper/cook. That's okay if the woman wants to assume that role. A lot of men are looking for what would be June Cleaver. Everyone loved June and her Beaver.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 12/24/2017 11:10:36 AM


A lot of men are looking for what would be June Cleaver. Everyone loved June and her Beaver.

Well, no, not really. June Cleaver never got it up for me. Now “I Dream of Jeannie”, that was more my style. When I was in junior high and high school, several of my friends had moms that were … interesting!


norwegianguy


they continue trying to coach men they don't want into bringing their inner Wally Cleaver to the table to attract a woman.

Totally true. I think they believe that's what they Should want (like, what they'd tell their daughter or little sis on what she Should Want in a guy) -- thus, she herself falsely believes that Is what she wants, when that's almost always Not the case.

And let us not forget, what a woman wants will vary, day by day.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 12/24/2017 11:21:36 AM
"a guy wants to use a woman as a cook and housekeeper"

>>well, if she can cook better, and hates mowing the lawn and cleaning the gutters and fixing stuff around the house..then I guess its a decent trade, even if it does seem sexist on the surface :) We should be "helpmeets", our yin and their yang join together to present a whole to the world. Hopefully, one partner can counterbalance the shortcomings of the other.

http://www.womeninthescriptures.com/2010/11/real-meaning-of-term-help-meet.html
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 12/24/2017 1:09:07 PM

No guy wants a woman like his mom, that was probably a caregiver, that cooked and cleaned and took care of him?

There are guys who want that concept, only of a gal who wants to be that Stepford wife too. But it's Not a "what guys want" thing at all. More on the outside, not the standard norm.

June Cleaver never got it up for me.

Oh, I liked her. I'd happily clean her beaver like a fat kid eating cake -- but I think her persona gave off the "she ain't putting out until LTR" vibe... although sometimes that can be appealing from a semi-fantasy POV. To tune into a cute mom's naughty side executed.

And let us not forget, what a woman wants will vary, day by day.

I read an article about different times of the month will alter what a gal wants, surrounding the "period". Being more sex-driven at one point (rough-n-tumble hot guy wanted), and then afterward, in another gear wanting something closer to the "nice guy", who'd look great on Xmas cards to send to maw & paw.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 93
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Posted: 12/24/2017 3:43:54 PM
now, imagine what birth control based on hormones can potentially do :)

"some women who don't use hormonal contraception have a heightened sense of attraction toward ultra-masculine guys during stages of peak fertility—but that shift isn't seen among women using hormonal contraceptives. “This suggests that the hormonal contraceptive pill may alter, at least to a small extent, what traits women find appealing in a partner."

Plus, consider this: A U.K. study found women tend to prefer the scents of men who have immunity genes different from their own. Your nose and brain can pick up on scent-based genetic info even though you’re not aware of it, says Sheril Kirshenbaum, author of The Science of Kissing. And it makes sense that you’d feel attracted to men with unfamiliar immunity genes—in terms of offspring, your kids will have more protection from a wider array of diseases if you and your partner have a dissimilar genetic profile, she explains. But here’s the shocker: Women on hormonal contraceptives tend to go for guys with genetic profiles similar to their own, the U.K. study shows.
Exactly how might the Pill mess with your choice of man? As the name suggests, hormonal contraceptives work by changing your body’s levels of hormones like estrogen and progesterone, Welling explains. While this is fine if your goal is to avoid having children, these hormones play a part when it comes to your sex drive and the type of guy you’re attracted to, she says. These hormones may even affect your self-esteem and jealousy levels, Welling explains—though she’s quick to point out that, at this point, this is speculative."

https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/how-pill-impacts-your-relationship
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/25/2017 1:37:25 PM
Mustang, what do you think of that article you posted about women being helpers for men? It said women are a "gift" from God to men. None were too happy here when I said women were gifts. The are indeed and they give life. You can't get more special than that.

Mustang and NG, are you looking for confirmation of your hormone theory to be able to target women more efficiently, LOL:)???

Henry, yeah, no brainer based on looks, I Dream of Jeannie. But, you know those reserved types......I'm just sayin'. Maybe you were too young at the time to think what was under those piles of material for a dress that she often wore. She's a woman like any other woman. You think Ward never propped her up on that table where she made the Beaver his sandwiches and piled drived her?
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 12/25/2017 2:10:51 PM
"what do you think of that article?"

>>To answer that, would be to get into an argument of evolution versus Creationism. I tend towards evolution, b/c from a design standpoint, we should have our spines thru the center of our torso, but the hollow stomach cavity makes sense if we descended from animals who are bent over as they walk. Personally, I think both genders should compliment each other. Two puzzled pieces that join together to make the picture clear.

Am I thinking the hormone theory helps in getting laid? I think it explains a few things :)

as for Ward and June...missionary, no doubt. Back then, prostitutes were the women you went to for things your wife wouldn't do, like polish your knob.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 12/25/2017 4:13:47 PM
I don’t know, June Cleaver just never did it for me. Now Winona Ryder as the Mom in Stranger Things, oh hell yeah, I want some of that!!! What was it NG said? Oh, yeah, like a fat kid eating cake.

Gto, there has been a lot of research about scent, smell, pheromones and their effect on sexual attraction. I think the cologne / perfume manufacturers fund a lot of the research, but for whatever reason, there has been a lot. I have been seeing articles on that subject for decades. And most of the results of the research have been controversial, with other scientists arguing against whatever point is being made.

One thing for sure – our sense of smell can arouse memories, sharply and very clearly. And memories can be ungodly erotic, so …


gtomustang
as for Ward and June...missionary, no doubt. Back then, prostitutes were the women you went to for things your wife wouldn't do, like polish your knob.

I have lived through a lot of changes in attitudes towards sex. When I was a young man, I had lived through many experiences, had a number of girl friends before I encountered a woman who would actually perform oral. Which reminds me of something I haven’t thought about in a very long time.

When I was about 14, and was first allowed to hang around and hear the adult men talking about sex, a man who would perform oral sex on a woman was considered to be some kind of … I’m not sure what words to use. “Pervert” doesn’t quite convey the right meaning. Any man who would do that was not a man, he was a lower form of animal.

My, we have come a long way in the last 53 years!
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 12/25/2017 7:12:10 PM

Maybe you were too young at the time to think what was under those piles of material for a dress that she often wore. She's a woman like any other woman.

I wasn't too young to think that @ 5. Re-run or not, in my time first seeing, when young. Also -- no, she's not a woman like any other woman. That would mean looks don't matter. Looks matter. Even to 5 year olds.

You think Ward never propped her up on that table where she made the Beaver his sandwiches and piled drived her?

Heck yeah, he'd turn her beaver into a salami sandwich -- if they were a RL couple. And who knows, maybe he did. They're actors. They weren't all Santa's little sweet helpers. Greg banged Mrs Brady IRL, so... who knows, maybe the beaver came inside June! :)

Now Winona Ryder as the Mom in Stranger Things, oh hell yeah

Sure, I'd pork her in a heartbeat and all, but, that goes for a lot of 'em. She's a little worn down and they did a good job not making her a sexual entity in the show.

"Pervert” doesn’t quite convey the right meaning. Any man who would do that was not a man, he was a lower form of animal.

Well, I will say that by the time the late 60s rolled around, when you were sprouting as a young adult -- and seeing some old-school porn... it never shyed away from oral one bit. However, I will say that most people shyed away from real porn though back when things were starting to change.

That said, I remember reading about the 70s, and how it's a decade with the highest level of people who were Swinging. The 70s were one of the naughiest times. And porn became a little too "norm" then too it seems. Cultural change... so at least in more modern society, I don't think going down on a gal would be that "omg".
 NewYorker58
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If you guys like that petite brunette, you must like the doe-eyed, large breasted, Christian Ricci: http://www.hecklerspray.com/christina-ricci-nude
 spot4username
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Posted: 12/26/2017 4:49:06 AM
^^
So... the woman who has referred to other women as wh0res and skanks for working in a coffee kiosk wearing bikinis is now posting links to nude images?

Good gosh. You could get whiplash trying to keep up with all the flip flopping.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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If you guys like that petite brunette, you must like the doe-eyed, large breasted, Christian Ricci: http://www.hecklerspray.com/christina-ricci-nude


What the hell? Out of ALL the pictures you could have posted, you went with nudes??
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