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 ohenryx
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Usually the older man is happy just to stay at home watching the game on TV. Older women, on the other hand, never seem to lose their desire to look for a relationship.

I have said the same thing, many times. And I make the argument that this, ^^^, is the real reason why it is so easy for an older man such as myself to get dates.

I mean, you still have to be acceptable. Good hygiene, clean clothes, reasonable behavior, but it is easier, far easier, for me to get dates now that at any previous time in my life.

And on a side note, I attribute this lack of interest on the part of men to lowered libidos. Lowered testosterone, lowered sex drive. I mean, if you’re not horny, why in god’s name would you spend all of your time and money chasing after women the way you did when you WERE young and horny?

And before I get crucified (yet again), yes, I am fully aware that women are valuable for more than just sex. But if you’re looking for a friend, for companionship, you are not going to be in “pursuit mode”, paying for all of the dates, giving compliments, buying flowers, etc, etc, etc.
 sun___flower
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Posted: 5/5/2018 10:47:43 AM
Henry
I wound up with a Grand Marquis, about 9 years old with 150k miles. Very clean, well maintained, and did the job. I didn’t plan to keep it for long, but it worked so well and gave so little trouble I wound up driving it for better than 2 years. And then sold it for $400 less than I paid for it. Two years of trouble free driving for $400 is a heck of a good deal.

Great job on that purchase, Henry, especially under pressure. I Googled it - it looks like a nice cruising car.
 whiterose0
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Posted: 5/5/2018 10:54:23 AM

Usually the older man is happy just to stay at home watching the game on TV. Older women, on the other hand, never seem to lose their desire to look for a relationship.


This isn't true for all older men. If he's not a couch potato, and takes good care of his health by getting regular exercise, he's never going to lose his desire for female companionship.
 five-marie
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 5/5/2018 5:33:08 PM
This also isn't true for all older women. Most women my age (61) that I work with and know personally aren't interested in a relationship. They've either had a great marriage and prefer to stay alone or have had troublesome relationships and no longer want the drama in their lives.
I myself am quite content to be alone for the rest of my life. I've noticed the opposite, men hate being alone and continue to look for a partner well into their 70's.
So maybe it all averages out in the end.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 5/5/2018 7:12:19 PM

Most women my age (61) that I work with and know personally aren't interested in a relationship. They've either had a great marriage and prefer to stay alone or have had troublesome relationships and no longer want the drama in their lives.

I don't think it takes hitting retirement age for that. I would guess it takes later in life for ladies VS guys for that mentality to kick in, as there's fewer ladies who aren't young (but not 'old') who aren't that interested in a Relationship.

I always have a distaste for the straight-arrow sector of society that thumbs their nose at said people who Still want to date though. If you're past (standard) child-bearing age, it's seen as OK -- although not ideal -- to just remain single if you've been in a super-LTR or marriage that is no longer & had kids... but don't you dare hit the dating scene while Liking being single! Stay at home and sew, or find an LTR-partner ASAP!

It's the social conditioning that if you're single & enjoying it While Dating -- you're messing with people and are doing something wrong. I think it's due to an assumption that you'll be sleeping with Anyone and/or leading people on. My guess is, in 20 years, it'll dim down to still not positive, but OK/acceptable.
 flowersinthelake
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Posted: 5/26/2018 8:45:14 AM

He's not clueless at all. He's looking to find someone that has no self respect. POF is filled with men like that.


Bingo.

It's especially amusing when said men have an exeggerated sense of their mortality - they think they'll live for ever, stuck in their 35th year of life, at 55+. I'm all for using one's imagination to build a life, but it's an entirely different situation when they use their vast imagination to create a life outside of reality, large pizzas, 3-D movies and all the beautiful Barbies from Canada.
 feirene
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Posted: 5/28/2018 2:12:55 PM
This topic is funny, i'm 45 this week and was not looking forward to it but now i am.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/28/2018 3:03:45 PM
Happy birthday! Age really is just a number. I guess it can serve as a heads up, if a person has goals they want to achieve by a certain age.
 BretIAm
Joined: 3/25/2018
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Posted: 5/28/2018 3:42:41 PM

This topic is funny, i'm 45 this week and was not looking forward to it but now i am.


@feirene: Happy birthday, girl!
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 5/28/2018 5:55:46 PM

@feirene: Happy birthday, girl!


From me too!
 feirene
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Posted: 5/28/2018 7:23:03 PM
Thanks all. It's not for a couple of days yet but i realised i'm half way to 90 already. Kind of scary in a way to think once the same amount of time has passed i will be that age (presuming i'm still alive then).
 spot4username
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Posted: 5/28/2018 8:15:21 PM

It's not for a couple of days yet but i realised i'm half way to 90 already.

Same here but I will be over half way to 100!
I honestly don't feel "old". /shrug/

Happy Early Birthday!!
 CBGB77
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Posted: 5/28/2018 8:30:35 PM
Happy Birthday feirene

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=58bAgVSYV1E
 feirene
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Posted: 5/29/2018 5:54:45 AM
Is it your bday too Spot?

Thanks for the weird music also CBG. :D

I was wondering also what changes when you get to 45 and why we need a forums for that, it says something about experience in the description.
 spot4username
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Posted: 5/29/2018 7:18:04 AM

Is it your bday too Spot?

Next Tuesday.

I was wondering also what changes when you get to 45 and why we need a forums for that, it says something about experience in the description.

Meh. I believe it depends on the individual and their personal circumstances.
Some things in my life seem to have done a 180 where other things are the same old, same old.
 browneyesboo
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Posted: 5/29/2018 8:15:01 AM
I'll be 66 this year...I'm more than half way dead!

Happy Birthday everyone!
 feirene
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Posted: 5/29/2018 8:17:25 AM
Oh, Happy Birthday then, i'm not doing anything special are you gonna bother?

I don't think anything had changed really, i vary between wanting a relationship and wanting to be single but it's not an age thing as has gone on throughout my life. I change what i'm looking for as well, like you say though these are personal circumstances.

Thanks Browneyesboo.
 hey_suze
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Posted: 5/29/2018 3:15:01 PM
I’m 49 today, heck, when did that happen..
Happy birthday to all of us having that special day this week ??
 feirene
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Posted: 5/29/2018 3:18:17 PM
Happy birthday, lol. Wonder who else has one this week also?
 BretIAm
Joined: 3/25/2018
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Posted: 5/29/2018 4:38:31 PM

I’m 49 today


@hey_suze: Happy birthday, young lady!
 purplerider1200
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Posted: 5/29/2018 5:08:19 PM
Well happy birthday to you all.

If you put 30 people together, at least two will have the same birth date. It sounds crazy, but it happens that way.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/29/2018 5:14:57 PM
My neighbor is the same age as I am, born in the same month, on the same day.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 5/29/2018 5:38:35 PM

If you put 30 people together, at least two will have the same birth date. It sounds crazy, but it happens that way.

Yeah, that's where ya bet. It takes about 70-ish people in the same room to hit right near 100%, but 23 is about 50%. You'll have casino odds in your favor with 30!

I’m 49 today, heck, when did that happen..

About 9 months after your mom talked dirty to your dad, vice versa, and wham-bam-oh-shoot-I-came-already! ;)
 CBGB77
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Posted: 5/29/2018 8:35:37 PM

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Posted: 5/29/2018 1045 PM

Posted By: browneyesboo on 5/29/2018 1001 AM
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Message: I'll be 66 this year...I'm more than half way dead!


Happy Birthday everyone!


Happy Birthday! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Da9a5m_N4xg
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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Posted: 5/30/2018 5:15:14 AM
happy birthday to all the ladies, hopefully they can put up some photos of their birthday suits :)

"I'm 49 today, heck, when did that happen?"

>>>time is so relative--when we were young, Christmas felt like it took two years to come around. Now its just a few months. High school took forever, now anything that takes 4 years seems to have occurred last year. the only thing moving faster than our lives is technology.
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