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 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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I totally thought you guys were being serious until I realized you were pretending to be "angry single people". I'm not too quick on the uptake. Is funny now.


Did I miss something?
Did everyone kiss and make up?
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 177
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Posted: 2/19/2018 6:43:54 PM

^^^Unfortunately I'm Canadian all I can do is pray.

... and watch hockey. :)
 Nestaron
Joined: 10/11/2017
Msg: 178
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Posted: 2/19/2018 11:40:54 PM
Their kinda done together actually pray to hockey gods. :P






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 Namuhraed
Joined: 3/6/2018
Msg: 179
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Posted: 3/10/2018 11:32:56 AM
So Ive been on here and off again..going WAY back..Mostly off.

I was going to start a thread, BACK after five years..and speculate on what people are doing here, in contrast to what they propose they are doing, what is it REALLY?? Truth? As if we all didnt wonder and have our ideas and theories..

I see this thread started a couple yrs ago and still is current!

Intellectual haven POF!! Yeah right, the longest running thread is which is better Tits or Ass..Real intellectual crucible of brilliance! (Everyone knows its A**.)

But Anger..its really at flood level and why? I could bring up the feminist insights which are so valid about patriarchy being essentially violent and the culture and history of rape, and the fact men rule and the genders are in effect at war in their desire for bliss..But what I want to point out is that downright BEAUTIFUL, bright and interesting caring women are on here with quite literally hundreds of offers from the best and brightest, and still no dice. Theyre still here.

I cant help but conclude without blaming anyone that no, they DO NOT WANT a man, they want a man to want them, and if he does they move on. Just as we know males have a conquest culture where they are somehow perversely gratified by f*king someone and then leaving them, so the women enjoy getting messages of interest and admiration and then blowing the guy off. And of course we are angry, until we realize this is not just 'our' pain but the pain of our way of relating from a framework of struggle and control.

Our Nations relate through power and threat, economy is based on control, power and ultimately the threat of violence in the form of forclosures or court orders and collections and our lives are base on ownership and property..so called laws..politics, and its not pretty. We are all in this together and for all the claims of friendship and affection and goodwill, that's not our world. So OF COURSE we are angry but lets help each other with our anger rather than fighting back..Lets get outside the pain and realize its not just OUR pain but the pain of being here as players in this game we inherited from our so called society..

Stop blaming someone for feeling anger which we all share, as if we have no anger ourselves..And with Rumi maybe we can say, Show me Anger, show me pain, I will show you love. Peel the Onion..

Thanks for reading and for the forum..
 mikeparkin2
Joined: 7/25/2016
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Posted: 3/10/2018 2:24:29 PM
Most people on here are out of a bad marriage or relationship.

When someone has cheated on you etc how on earth do you learn to trust again ?

People seem to be so easily put off when you message them.
The slightest word wrong and they no longer reply.

It makes me think whats the point in a relationship like that.
I don't do "break up to make up", once they go and I wont take them back.
If I want drama I watch Emmerdale or Coronation street !
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 3/10/2018 8:09:10 PM
Welcome to the world of exact wording.
Know precisely what you need to say to a woman. If you don't, you lose 15 yards and loss of down. Or you punt, and get to start all over with someone else.
It's such fun to find out you said something wrong. They cut ties, and never talk to you again. Problem- What did you say wrong that got you there? You don't get to know. We won't tell you. Gee, thanks a heap.
Sometimes, I think women can be their own worst enemy. Their talking points can be so flippin' specific, that no man could ever measure up to what they want.

Be an amature at dating, and you get to be forever single. It isn't something that can be hidden, ether. Worst part about it, is they never will believe you. The older you get, the more intolerant they become. Bet some have been on hundreds of meetups, first dates and such. Go on just a couple of first meets, and start studying to be a monk. Or learn to befriend a dog. Because the dog doesn't care. You're there, and that's all that matters to the dog.
 _Rise_Above_This_
Joined: 1/14/2018
Msg: 182
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Posted: 3/11/2018 5:36:01 AM
^^^^
"Know precisely what you need to say to a woman. If you don't, you lose 15 yards and loss of down. Or you punt, and get to start all over with someone else."

Actually it's a "false start" and only 5 yards.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 183
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Posted: 3/11/2018 3:35:39 PM

Welcome to the world of exact wording.
Know precisely what you need to say to a woman. If you don't, you lose 15 yards and loss of down. Or you punt, and get to start all over with someone else.


The best thing one can do is genuinely not care. I can't stress "genuinely" enough. Anything less will not suffice.

Any man who is tired of hypercritical women who have mistaken dating sites for a Create-a-Mate app needs to walk the f*ck away and stop writing them. The problem is, as I mentioned in another thread, they're too stupid and desperate to actually do it.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 3/11/2018 4:07:57 PM

Any man who is tired of hypercritical women who have mistaken dating sites for a Create-a-Mate app needs to walk the f*ck away and stop writing them. The problem is, as I mentioned in another thread, they're too stupid and desperate to actually do it.


I stopped that years ago. Bailing made the most sense. Less wear and tear on the nerves.
 30yoBlkM4Older
Joined: 3/13/2018
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Posted: 3/17/2018 12:59:39 AM
Life is pain.. it makes sense that there are a lot of angry single people.
I try to avoid women who say they are "tired of games"
they never define what these "games" are and come off childish, rude, and very demanding.
I mean.. it's fine to have boundaries... but define what they are.. don't just blanket your issues with the opposite gender with "games" makes me wanna through a 16 sided die at your a-- and cast Magic Missile
 _Rise_Above_This_
Joined: 1/14/2018
Msg: 186
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Posted: 3/17/2018 1:56:27 AM
^^^^
You state you have a masters degree yet you need someone to define what games means? Additonally I would expect someone with such a degree would know the difference between "through" and "throw"
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 187
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Posted: 3/17/2018 3:19:03 AM

(Wilbur) The best thing one can do is genuinely not care. I can't stress "genuinely" enough. Anything less will not suffice.

Any man who is tired of hypercritical women who have mistaken dating sites for a Create-a-Mate app needs to walk the f*ck away and stop writing them. The problem is, as I mentioned in another thread, they're too stupid and desperate to actually do it.


... and, if anyone knows "stupid and desperate", it's our l'il Wilbur!
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
Msg: 188
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Posted: 3/17/2018 5:54:09 AM
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/whats-hot/science-confirms-men-are-petrified-of-smart-women/ar-BBKjnxP?li=BBmkt5R&ocid=spartandhp

Its true, we need to stop chasing the hot hypocritical self-focused princess types. And we should also give up the tasty junk food that hurts our health. And we need to exercise more and stop smoking and cut down on the alcohol. At least when gravity does its terrible thing, we'll be able to curb our desire to put them on pedestals. Maybe you've heard a few former hotties mutter at middle age, "when did life get to difficult? it never used to be like this, or is it just me". I've heard some.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 3/17/2018 9:02:14 AM
Gto, I went and read the article you linked to. Interesting. I have always been aware that some men are intimidated by smart women.



Do men like smart women? Well, science has finally confirmed what we've all long suspected: Men find intelligent women scary. Oh, wait there's more! Science has also discovered that when a woman does something better than a man, his feelings of masculinity diminish.


That’s just not me. Never has been. I much prefer the company of intelligent people, male and female. And I have dated many women who are not only intelligent, but very successful. Well off due to their own hard work, initiative, and abilities.

Now I will admit there are a few areas that I don’t want my date to surpass me. Things like lifting weights. And just in the last few years, I have encountered a couple of women who are retired and have gotten into renovating houses. They do carpentry, electrical, plumbing, the whole 9 yards. And I admit that feels a little strange. But not enough to stop me if I find them attractive.


MachIMustangII
Maybe you've heard a few former hotties mutter at middle age, "when did life get to difficult? it never used to be like this, or is it just me". I've heard some.

So have I. But only the ones who let their appearance slide. The ones who kept up their good looks, their attractiveness, can still wrap men around their little finger. We have a few of those right here in these forums (you know who you are). Not condemning, rather applauding. Please keep up the good work, the men definitely appreciate it!

And I know a few women who were not so attractive in school, and in their 20’s, but who have “matured” into very attractive women. Some of them handle it very well, others go a bit crazy. Rather like someone winning the lottery and trying to spend all of the money at once.
 benartflick
Joined: 3/8/2012
Msg: 190
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Posted: 3/17/2018 9:35:07 AM
GTO, the title of your link is "Science Confirms Men Are Petrified Of Smart Women".

Do YOU believe 'science' did confirm that? Do YOU think it's true?

Most men MIGHT be petrified of gorgeous women at first, but we manage to get over it rather quickly and enjoy being with them. My guess most men think dating a smart woman is a big 'plus'. I always did! If the woman is arrogant and condescending, I doubt if many men would be petrified. Naturally most men would lose interest in her no matter what she looked like.

Other than on forums and talk shows the girls and women I've observed were always smart. In high school, except for math, the vast majority of girls were a lot smarter than the boys. Of course that didn't stop or even discourage us for chasing after them - if they were somewhat 'hot'.

I agree smoking and obesity should be discouraged, but not chasing 'hot hypocritical self-focused princess types' - no way. Most of those princesses are worth the chase - even if it only amounts to 4 or 5 minutes of pleasure.

(Seems like it's easy to walk away from a plain Jane over a trivial matter, but ya can put up with a lot if ya date can take your breath away by just looking at her.)
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 3/17/2018 1:39:30 PM

4 or 5 minutes of pleasure

Bless your heart.
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
Msg: 192
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Posted: 3/17/2018 7:37:27 PM

4 or 5 minutes of pleasure


Better ask for a refund on your viagra Ben. 😆
 furishiko
Joined: 4/13/2016
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Posted: 3/17/2018 9:24:30 PM
what a load. in most cases you dont see a date of when someone joined. the forums seems to be one where you can see how long a person has had a membership. however the construct given for the .htm refers to nothing telling. must be that NEW math..that abstract stuff that isnt really applicable.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 194
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Posted: 3/18/2018 7:50:18 AM

what a load.


That's what she said.............after 4-5 minutes of pleasure.


but ya can put up with a lot if ya date can take your breath away by just looking at her.


No.
 benartflick
Joined: 3/8/2012
Msg: 195
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Posted: 3/18/2018 8:14:14 AM

Bless your heart.


Ya realize that was a whimsical exaggeration of what might've had a wee bit of truth in it - right? Or am I wrong thinking only you out of 3 posters suspected that?
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 3/18/2018 10:48:59 AM
What next, so many angry people in relationships? LOL.
 beercookies
Joined: 5/24/2012
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Posted: 3/18/2018 12:03:44 PM
Angry online daters yes, probably just sad daters in real life.
Anonymity online leads to the same thing as driveby cutting you off on the freeway types, flipping bird and screaming horns, following too closely.

We live in a culture of aggression( it’s rewarded), be it nasty gossip, or overt hostility. Online is creepy because its public and now all the creepy crawly bottom dwellers can finally get at you.

They might refrain from publicly accosting you because there are consequences. Expect to be beaten up online because there are no consequences to bad behavior. It’s why many people don't go there. I find it odd people can stand the gross talk and threats.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 3/19/2018 5:38:52 AM
Some of us can, because we've been targets in real life.

Vile cracks in real life can be handled in two ways. Turn a deaf ear to the person insulting you, or hand them their teeth after you finish with them. The first way is usually what happens. It's less messy, and you avoid sore knuckles as a reward.

After a while, one realizes that it's only words. In here, It becomes expensive to confront the offending party. Travel expenses, and then you must track down the offender. It's very impractical.

But we can hand comments back to them. Remember before this? When people would write nasty notes, but never mail them? By the time we went to the trouble of mailing them, we realized that wasting the cost of a perfectly good stamp wasn't worth it.

On here, the cooling off period isn't used. Some will just fire away, and push the submit button before they bother to think about it. So, nasty comments show up, that wouldn't be said in real life.

Angry people? Sure, some are. Do we hold that anger in? At least for me, If I unload it in here, then I have no reason to toss it out to anyone in real life.
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 199
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Posted: 3/19/2018 6:25:25 AM
It doesn't help when you have a world leader (Trump) promoting hatred as being a good personal quality-hate Muslims because they are all terrorists, hate Mexicans because they are all rapists, hate everybody from sh1thole countries because they are not white, hate Hillary and everybody else who I tell you to hate, hate football players who take a knee, and so on. But when a white supremacist uses his car to run over people, trying to kill as many as possible, who are opposed to blatant hatred at a rally, Trump says there are good people on both sides. So in a way, being filled with anger and hatred is seen as being patriotic-as American as apple pie.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
Msg: 200
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Posted: 3/19/2018 6:28:46 AM
"Vile cracks can be handled in two ways".

>>>not to promote passive aggressive behavior, but denying them attention can sometimes really get under their skin. Tho I remember back in school, one popular girl kept bustin' my bawls about how I couldn't even get a prostitute, and so I started agreeing with her about how bad I looked, but what could I do, I was born this way...and of course, she felt like a heel and turned it around and tried to buoy me back up. of course, her suggestion was to go to her hairstylist and for only $80 (about $100 in today's money)...

One of the few nice things about getting old, you worry less about insults. I used to figure that someone who insulted me, had an issue if they had to pick on me, and now I know it for sure. Now the internet allows stranger who don't even know me, to fire off. In other words, they literally don't know, the subject they are talking about. What does that say about their intelligence? At another website, I met some of the people in person, and found that their online bark didn't match their real-life bite. I suspect that's more common than not.

America's political climate is red-hot right now. I was a baby when we went to Vietnam, but i'll guess feelings were just as strong then, too. And perhaps during the Civil War. The good thing is, on a forum like this, I get to hear both sides. This isn't a bubble. People explain their thinking, and how they got there. they may be quite emotional about what they feel, or what they believe is right, but its good to hear how other people think. its a healthy reminder that not everyone is the same, even if the way its expressed may not always be healthy. for every heated expression of "how things should be if I was ruler", I can look at the poll numbers and realize a majority does not agree. there's a little bit of comfort in that, even if the result is little inaction.
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