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 mountinmann
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 703
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 MikeTO12345
Joined: 2/9/2014
Msg: 704
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Posted: 4/21/2014 10:24:55 PM
Unless you want children you don't want a woman in her 20's. It's too much headache, it's wonder many guys prefer older women. On top of that these guys think older women are easier lay with less hassle. However if they want kids these guys will look for their own age since it's highly unlikely she will want kids in their 40's let alone late 40's. Usually these things don't last, yes there a few exceptions but that isn't the norm at least not yet. Once a woman hits near 60 it's all down hill unless she's very active even then the looks will fade. Not ideal situation unless a woman only cares about the short term.

I had a FWB with an older woman when I was 32 and she was 49. She was embarrassed to go out with me meaning dinners, etc. because of our huge age difference. Within a month she claimed she loved me and wanted to be me with me. I turned her down she was near menopause. Her sex drive was nowhere near mine.
 mountinmann
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 705
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Posted: 5/9/2014 11:38:45 PM
I get lots of attention from younger women in real life.

Online, the women seem kind of nuts because they demand same age dating.

To comment on the post right above, in Los Angeles women of all ages are obsessed with their smartphones,
not just the young ones. It's a degenerative disease, to be sure.
 skitrailmore
Joined: 12/18/2013
Msg: 706
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Posted: 5/18/2014 9:24:53 PM
Just a question, what would be considered inappropriate on a dating site like this to contact girls of a certain age. I am mid 30s' Is it ok to contact/message a girl who is 25? as i set that limit.

Would it be awkward to message a girl who is 21 at youngest from my age aspect?

would the other side see this as weird?
 pureandsimple4172
Joined: 5/2/2014
Msg: 707
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Posted: 5/27/2014 5:41:56 PM
I'm 41. I'm all for finding a woman older than me. Anywhere 5-10 years older than me is perfect in my book.

IF there are any women in the Houston area...
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 708
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Posted: 5/28/2014 10:50:00 AM

tall dark handsome Brazilian guy.


Uhhh. Karma. Very dangerous. Be careful if he plays the girl from Epanima at some point.

;-)
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 709
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Posted: 5/28/2014 2:52:49 PM

Be careful if he plays the girl from Epanema at some point.


The girl from Ipanema who's tall and tan and young and lovely? It's doubtful she'd be the one getting played.
 kittybiscuit
Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 712
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Posted: 6/1/2014 5:46:15 PM
All I know is that I delete messages from men who are older than me (45 range) but who have their age ranges set to exclude women their own age (think 25-38). I'm more of a cougar than a grandpa chaser anyway.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 2/14/2014
Msg: 713
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Posted: 6/1/2014 7:15:39 PM
kittybiscuit - right on! I'm the same way, and definitely NOT a grandpa chaser either LOL. It seems that especially at Match I used to get lots of messages from dudes in their late 40s-60s who looked older than my 70-year old father, but who probably thought they were still hot stuff since their target age range was 25-40 (they made an "exception" for me because I look younger - aren't I luck and ever so flattered - NOT). Some particularly delusional 70-something year old harassed me so much I had to block him - which I hardly ever had to do on Match.
 kittybiscuit
Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 714
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Posted: 6/1/2014 9:55:08 PM
Yep, I'm kind of a **** that way. It just cheeses me when I see men doing that. I guess we're getting the same experience just different age brackets because I get the 45 year olds who look older than my dad and are busy trying to snag a 25 year old for breeding but act like I should be bowing down that they would deign to message my old, shriveled up granny booty. Uh no.

Same goes for these turkeys who are 30lbs overweight and put in "slender/athletic toned" in their "must haves." It's like, cut back on your snickers first, chubby. And I say this as a fat positive individual, but don't make requirements of others you can't hold to yourself.
 Silverhawk_tkn
Joined: 12/3/2010
Msg: 715
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Posted: 6/7/2014 6:13:41 PM

Yep, I'm kind of a **** that way. It just cheeses me when I see men doing that. I guess we're getting the same experience just different age brackets because I get the 45 year olds who look older than my dad and are busy trying to snag a 25 year old for breeding


I have to agree with you and Karma about the age thing. As I get older I simply find it creepy to date way younger......it would be like dating my daughter and thats just wrong, wrong, wrong.

I enjoy the company of a woman my age as we have so much more in common and you are completely correct in that middle age guys that don't look after themselves need to get a reality check when it comes to dating younger or just dating in general.

I work hard to stay in decent shape and it gets tougher as I get older, but if I want to land a nice looking lady who is in shape at my age (45) it only makes sense that I should be in the same physical shape as her and be as appealing phyically as I can possibly be.

I don't think there is much of a double-standard here - you two ladies are proof of that. You will only date those that you are attracted to and if you both look after yourselves, there is no reason to expect that your mate shouldn't be on the same physical level as you.
 Janko26
Joined: 10/27/2010
Msg: 716
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Posted: 6/17/2014 2:41:02 PM
Heh... it's why after my last relationship ended just prior to Memorial day, I've only missed one day of not doing some sort of exercise. On that day, I cleaned my garage. I'm trying to work off years of lazy. LOL

As for the topic at hand? My last relationship was with a 27 year old. We connected fine on many levels and a lot of the small things and had a fantastic time. However, she didn't care about getting married at some point and did not want kids. And those are 2 major issues for me. I spent a lot of time thinking about whether I could compromise on those things and decided that I could not.

I have my age range set from the minimum (22) to 40. I typically wouldn't even consider messaging anyone under 25 and even someone at 25 is a long shot. Realistically, 27 should probably be the youngest I go. However, I set the age range like I did, because I like to keep an open mind.

If two adults of vastly different ages decide to date, I don't think that's an issue. It's all personal preference.
 jpwrnglrwmn
Joined: 10/21/2013
Msg: 717
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Posted: 6/24/2014 12:44:31 PM
Yep, I agree about wanting someone who is "on your level". Or if you are attracted to someone of a "certain level", it only makes sense to try and get there. Either by losing weight and toning up,and/ or getting laser treatments/chemical peels.The chemical peels sound painful, so I'm getting laser photofacials done soon (it brightens your skin, shrinks your pores, gets rid of discoloration, evens out skin tone;in essence takes years off). I also have no desire to date anyone older than 6 years outside of my age range.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 718
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Posted: 6/27/2014 8:09:42 PM
My general age limit is about 8-10 years in either direction. But there can be some exceptions. I once dated a woman that was 12 years older than me.
 sun_and_cinnamon
Joined: 7/18/2014
Msg: 719
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Posted: 9/22/2014 8:16:23 PM
I've always dated older, finding myself attracted to a few I've come across on here a little older than my preference, funny part is I can't even message them. I guess I am younger than their age preference. Well a few of them have favorite'd my profile, yet I have no way of contacting them, eh what a tease /:
 TLC200
Joined: 7/26/2014
Msg: 720
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Posted: 9/30/2014 10:57:09 AM
^^^^^^^


I've always dated older, finding myself attracted to a few I've come across on here a little older than my preference, funny part is I can't even message them. I guess I am younger than their age preference. Well a few of them have favorite'd my profile, yet I have no way of contacting them, eh what a tease



if YOU favorite me and I favorite YOU then POF allows you to contact each other even outside of POF's mandatory 14 year old restriction. try it!! it has worked for me.....

I favorited you
sun_and_cinnamon ^^^^^

now you favorite me and see if we can write to each other......


 TLC200
Joined: 7/26/2014
Msg: 721
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Posted: 9/30/2014 4:42:43 PM
thank you for favoriting me sun and cinnamon. I favorited you but our little plan did not work!

when I wrote to you it did not go through.

back to the drawing board!

I wonder why it worked for me before but not now??? the mysteries of life....
 sun_and_cinnamon
Joined: 7/18/2014
Msg: 722
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Posted: 9/30/2014 11:43:04 PM
Yeah I thought that was funny.....well I guess some of you older men will just remain the forbidden fruit
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 723
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Posted: 10/1/2014 9:17:56 AM

Yeah I thought that was funny.....well I guess some of you older men will just remain the forbidden fruit


That is why I find these rules that POF ridiculous. It's like it wants to legislate a particular sense of morality. Thou shall not communicate with anyone 14 years apart. Yeah right. Sun and cinnamon, you should be able to communicate with whomever you want to communicate regardless of age.
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 5/3/2014
Msg: 724
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Posted: 10/1/2014 8:29:54 PM
^^^

it could be having had a birthday. There is someone I had met at a casino and played at a table for an evening with who found me online and recognized me after and contacted me; and we went out though I had no clue how old he actually was until on POF; he seemed older and he thought I was younger so I kind of freaked when I realized HOW far apart we were, but since he was a lot of fun at the casino and we had a lot to talk about I figured why not. We got together a few times then I started dating someone and didn't see him for a while. But when the next time I had reactivated my profile and he found me, he could no longer contact me, even though we had dated previously, because he was too young by POF standards until he had a birthday and snuck to within the 14 years. Then he was allowed to email for a few weeks till my birthday, and then we were cut off again though by that point he just bailed on POF email and texted me. LOL> It does seem kind of stupid to not allow people who not only wrote but wrote for ages and dated even to not be allowed to make contact.

I don't get that. Though I guess that's not quite the same as older guys younger women. The person I have recently been getting to know recently is 61 so he's one year from not being allowed to write me either. So if his birthday is before mine? Then I will be blocked from him writing me too. Even though we have dated a few times.

It really is a stupid random rule. And don't even get me started with all the profiles of guys with 20 year old sons' pics claiming to be 40 who turn out ARE the 20 something son who want to write and know they can't without the fake aged profile.

That age thing doesn't work anyways; why don't they just bail on it?


(though cinnamon and what's his name above can have a secondary profile just for the purpose of being allowed to write each other. Who knows? Maybe we will be witnessing the beginning of something special in this very thread :)
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 726
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Posted: 10/2/2014 2:18:27 PM

(though cinnamon and what's his name above can have a secondary profile just for the purpose of being allowed to write each other. Who knows? Maybe we will be witnessing the beginning of something special in this very thread :)


Ahhhhh. Everyone is entitled to their own happiness.
 TLC200
Joined: 7/26/2014
Msg: 727
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Posted: 10/2/2014 4:09:07 PM
i'd like to do away with the age limitations but I don't own or control this site.


my only recourse is to :

1. start my own dating site.

2. go to another site with no age restrictions

3. ask women out in the real world.


I already do #3 and it has advantages over online dating for the most part.
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
Msg: 728
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Posted: 10/3/2014 9:13:00 PM
The real world is working fine for me. Online does not, at least for me.
 sun_and_cinnamon
Joined: 7/18/2014
Msg: 729
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Posted: 10/5/2014 6:51:30 PM
I don't recall Match having the age limit thing back when I used it in '06. I met my ex who was 15 years older and we were together for a little over 3 years…go figure!
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