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 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
Msg: 51
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fakes must prefer the meet me feature, I’ll get a notice of someone wanting to meet me, when I try to look up their user name, they’ve usually disappeared already ???

What’s the point?!? 🤔
 Cryptofabulous
Joined: 4/18/2010
Msg: 52
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Posted: 2/24/2018 6:40:52 AM
Most fake profiles/scammers can be easy to spot in the profiles I see in our local area...

If your reaction to her pic makes you go WOW! and she's messaging ME??
She says she's 55 - and the pic is of a 30 year old.
The woman in the pic is blonde with blue eyes, brown/brown in the writeup.
Right-click on the picture for image search and it comes up on 1000 sites,
or someone's account on Twitter, Facebook etc. on the other side of the world.
The profile body directs you to some other dating/sex site...
The location city/state/province is messed up - Dallas, Alberta
Often it's someone never close enough to actually meet "I'm moving to your city..."
(fine - lets talk once you've moved here...)
 Nestaron
Joined: 10/11/2017
Msg: 53
POF = Plenty of Fakes
Posted: 2/26/2018 10:16:39 AM
Well I can fake anger really good it seems, can you actually describe how to make yourself happy on screen with typing cause I really can't seem to get it right.

In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.
Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread.
 Belleatrix
Joined: 12/17/2017
Msg: 54
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Posted: 2/27/2018 7:36:22 PM
Its a bit complicated to understand the experience that men have on the website, as it greatly differs from that of women. I hear there are a lot of fakes, website sex workers, etc, they prey on the desperate nature of those seeking immediate company.

I can however see that all is done with the idea of the greater good, traffic even if fake is traffic to a website, and in a world where everything is "per click", I understand why all of these shenanigans can be.
 furishiko
Joined: 4/13/2016
Msg: 55
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Posted: 3/17/2018 9:46:56 PM
so heres the deal..if someone has a legit profile here they prolly have on on several other sites under different screen names..but most do us the curteosy of being too lazy to change profile pics so we can spot them easily. what you should be looking for in the multiple profiles is consistency in their intent. so if you see the person here on POF claiming to want a long term relationship, then see them on Bumble or whatever saying they only want to hookup that should raise a big red flag for you. this is why you do your dating homework first and check places like CL to see if they've posted an ad for hooking up and other places. nothing like seeing someone here claim to be straight then see that same person post a MM hookup ad over on CL. this is why no one should be in that kind of hurry to bed someone before you've actually spent time getting to know them in messaging. anyone saying that the messaging process is too long or cant be bothered with it as a process that gets you to actually meeting someone in person is someone that should be carefully considered as hostile, impatient, and prolly not a good match anyway.
 Nyeahsers
Joined: 12/7/2017
Msg: 56
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Posted: 3/17/2018 10:25:55 PM
furishiko A lot of people who want to meet up fast rather than messaging for a while have been put through the ringer with too many people on OLD who are, for whatever reason, leading them on and either have no intentions of a relationship or they are too shy to meet. I still will give it maybe three or four weeks but I much prefer to meet within two weeks of messaging.

A long time ago, I messaged with a women for four months, sometimes half the day, at least three days a week. I used one wrong word, just one word, ONE WORD, and she was done with me. All that time spent conversing . . . nothing. This is most certainly not the only time this happened but this was the biggest waste of time of all of them.
 CBGB77
Joined: 12/15/2017
Msg: 57
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Posted: 3/18/2018 7:08:09 AM
What was the word?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 58
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Posted: 3/18/2018 10:13:50 AM

furishiko
if someone has a legit profile here they prolly have on on several other sites under different screen names..but most do us the curteosy of being too lazy to change profile pics so we can spot them easily. what you should be looking for in the multiple profiles is consistency in their intent. so if you see the person here on POF claiming to want a long term relationship, then see them on Bumble or whatever saying they only want to hookup that should raise a big red flag for you.

It is not at all unusual for both men and women to have different profiles on different types of sites, looking for different things. I remember about 6 years ago I started talking with a woman over on AFF, and after we exchanged pictures I realized that she was a regular here on these forums. Her profile here indicated that she was looking only for long term, no hook ups, no causual sex (heaven forbid the very thought!!!) But on AFF she was looking for exactly the very opposite.

Naturally, I asked her about that. Her response was the she hoped to find someone for long term, and in furtherance of that aim she needed to appear “virtuous”. But while waiting for Mr. Right, she was willing to have a little fun with Mr. Right Now. I think many of us (most of us?) could recognize a little of that in ourselves, if we made an effort to try and be honest with ourselves.
 Cryptofabulous
Joined: 4/18/2010
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Posted: 3/18/2018 10:40:04 AM

Her response was the she hoped to find someone for long term, and in furtherance of that aim she needed to appear “virtuous”.

Yup - they're all "born again virgins" on POF looking for Mr. Right - even the escorts! LOL
 Kelley300698
Joined: 3/21/2018
Msg: 60
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Posted: 4/22/2018 9:51:24 PM
Either someone will message you or respond to your message or the won't. If they won't, whether or not they are a fake is not relevant. Otherwise, after several messages and that will take very little of your time, ask to meet at some public place. If they won't, likely they are a fake, but so what? You only invested a few minutes to write several messages. If they don't show or if they are not as described, even your trip to a public place didn't take up much of your time.

Therefore, even if 80-90% are fakes and I doubt that is that high, you eliminated most with only a few messages and the remaining small percentage by taking an hour of your time going to public place to meet.
POF = Plenty of Fakes
Posted: 4/25/2018 9:17:33 AM
I wonder about the meet me messages I receive from what I think are real users. Those are the regulars who have been here for awhile and live a few miles away. Not the super model type that have short profiles that sound to good. I'll receive the message that they are interested in meeting me then send them a message to say hi (I use more words than that :) ) . Most of the time I don't get a response. What say "yes" then not respond to the person when they send a message? Or, where those just generated by the site to make it seem like there is interest?
 Dinno76
Joined: 3/3/2018
Msg: 62
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Posted: 4/25/2018 5:20:00 PM
Their are other types of fake profiles. How many times have you heard some men complain that they met a woman from P.O.F and she appeared heavier or older in real life than in her profile?
 Kelley300698
Joined: 3/21/2018
Msg: 63
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Posted: 4/25/2018 9:26:16 PM

Their are other types of fake profiles. How many times have you heard some men complain that they met a woman from P.O.F and she appeared heavier or older in real life than in her profile?

It is not necessary to meet to know that. I have notice that here in the forums. That is norm, not the exception for women in their 40's. Before responding, I always look at their profile. When a woman age 47 has a photo of someone pretty, like maybe age 27, obviously her photo is years old. And, it is not just one 40ish woman in the forums, it is a number of them.

Also, I agree with Belleatrix that fakes are more likely to be fake women attempting to con desperate men out of their money. For example, I want to marry you, but I need money for a VISA and plane fare to see you. That works with men, but is near impossible to use a similar con to get money out of women.
 Cryptofabulous
Joined: 4/18/2010
Msg: 64
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Posted: 4/25/2018 11:19:46 PM

Either someone will message you or respond to your message or they won't.

When I send a polite "hello" message with a little bit about me... they delete their profile! ??
 Kelley300698
Joined: 3/21/2018
Msg: 65
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Posted: 4/26/2018 2:00:10 AM

When I send a polite "hello" message with a little bit about me... they delete their profile! ??

No doubt that is frustrating, but in general you have a tremendous advantage. First, you quite attractive for your age and second, in the USA and no doubt it is the same in Canada, at ages 55-64 there are approximately 7 single women for every 5 single men, and half the single men in that age range, the women don't want anyway.

If women in that age range on POF are crazy, there are plenty of places in real life that you can meet women. #1 would be church because, after a certain age, far greater percent of women then men attend church. In one of my social science classes parents without partners was mentioned as having meetings in most cites. I don't recall any other details because it doesn't apply to me, but you might look into it.
 reverendswine
Joined: 4/14/2018
Msg: 66
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Posted: 4/26/2018 4:54:18 AM
If someone gets duped by old/fake pictures, it's their own fault. I know personal accountability is a bitter pill to swallow in these parts, but it's true.

We've had technology available for quite some time now that makes it very easy to take care of any skepticism about any individual's appearance, whether it be Google images, Skyping, etc.

I believe there are some who don't want to go to those lengths because they don't want their illusion/fantasy ruined, which is ridiculous, because it will be destroyed by the time they actually meet, anyway.
 I_Am_Con_S_Tip_ated
Joined: 4/4/2018
Msg: 67
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Posted: 4/26/2018 6:15:05 AM
^
smart post

I may not agree with some of your other observations, but this one is so true, it must sting some folks.

Old saying, fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 68
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Posted: 4/26/2018 7:43:54 AM

We've had technology available for quite some time now that makes it very easy to take care of any skepticism about any individual's appearance, whether it be Google images, Skyping, etc.


But there's also some old technology that can still be used today, but has lost popularity due to the new technology.
It's called Meeting in Person within a short period of time and minimal messaging. What a concept. But there are too many people who want to keep the fantasy image going for eternity while exchanging zillions of messages, instead of entering into the real world of interacting with fellow human beings. That's becoming a lost art that's for "old" people.

People want to make sure that before meeting a stranger in real life, that the stranger is going to be the person they marry and live happily ever after with in a fairy tale fantasy land. Meeting a stranger that they are not going to immediately marry would cause too much heartache and will emotionally scar them for life. Then they will come on here, whining about how they were duped.
 reverendswine
Joined: 4/14/2018
Msg: 69
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Posted: 4/26/2018 8:22:18 AM

But there's also some old technology that can still be used today, but has lost popularity due to the new technology.

It's called Meeting in Person within a short period of time and minimal messaging.


Yes, that was always my preferred method. I met several women within the same day of the first message, but there are those who refuse to get with the times and want to drag the process out. My point was, the tools to clear up any doubts have been available for them, they just didn't use them
 CBGB77
Joined: 12/15/2017
Msg: 70
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Posted: 4/26/2018 8:36:12 AM

Posted By: Kelley300698 on 4/26/2018 4:00:10 AM
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When I send a polite "hello" message with a little bit about me... they delete their profile! ??

No doubt that is frustrating, but in general you have a tremendous advantage. First, you quite attractive for your age


Haha,yeah I thought that was a photo of Charles Bronson!
 Cryptofabulous
Joined: 4/18/2010
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Posted: 4/26/2018 1:38:58 PM

Posted By: Kelley300698 on 4/26/2018 4:00:10 AM
No doubt that is frustrating, but in general you have a tremendous advantage. First, you quite attractive for your age...

And it's funny... the "Sugar Baby" looking for a "Sugar Daddy" appreciates that...

Meanwhile an "age appropriate" woman, even if not a Cougar, will put an age restriction
on her profile as to who can respond - as if 59 is OK, but 60 is "old"...
 Kelley300698
Joined: 3/21/2018
Msg: 72
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Posted: 4/26/2018 10:47:11 PM

...an "age appropriate" woman, even if not a Cougar, will put an age restriction...

I don't have any restriction, let alone age. My only restriction is a minimum number of characters for the first message. Apparent older guys are not interested in messaging me since not a single guy age 30 or above has sent me a message.
 Cryptofabulous
Joined: 4/18/2010
Msg: 73
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Posted: 4/26/2018 10:59:51 PM

I don't have any restriction, let alone age. My only restriction is a minimum number of characters for the first message. Apparent older guys are not interested in messaging me since not a single guy age 30 or above has sent me a message.


POF has a built-in age restriction.
Men cannot message anyone more than 13 years younger.

Not sure if it applies to women as well.
Maybe a 50 y/o Cougar can message a 35 y/o guy.
 Kelley300698
Joined: 3/21/2018
Msg: 74
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Posted: 4/27/2018 1:48:00 AM

POF has a built-in age restriction.
Men cannot message anyone more than 13 years younger.

I didn't know that. However, that explains it; thank you.

A lot of guy have restriction such as distance. However, I don't know why since few women will initiate a message. I did attempt to send a message to two guys on the forums. I couldn't send a message to either because of their location restrictions. Guys are more afraid then I am, like they think there is a ax murdering woman hiding behind every tree.
 47Seagulls
Joined: 3/16/2018
Msg: 75
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Posted: 4/27/2018 10:39:34 AM

For example, I want to marry you, but I need money for a VISA and plane fare to see you. That works with men, but is near impossible to use a similar con to get money out of women.


Many women have been duped by men for their money. There was a documentary 6 or 8 years ago about a Canadian man duping women out of money. The thing that I remember about this is that in this case the guy was on POF and so were the women, both the man and one of the women were very prolific on the Forums.

Many women have been scammed by men. I don't think as many as men being scammed by women but enough to make both gender wary.

The Sugar Daddy sites are very popular. More so young women going to university or in low end first jobs looking for someone to take them to the nice places, weekend getaways and the Louis Vuitton bags and the Manolo's. They don't call it being a hooker, but it is. This is more popular than women getting a boy toy.

I was on a road trip a month ago and passed a road called Cougar Smith Rd. I thought I'd use that name the next time I check in to the No Tell Motel. lol.
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