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 Ladyinred0407
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how many marriages or relationships of any kind last 30 years? Some, yes, but only a small minority


LOL, My mom, was telling me on the phone Friday night, that last year, she had sent a wedding anniversary card to her cousin, congratulating he and his wife for 70 years of marriage. His wife sent a note back to my mom. "Thanks but you are a year too early."
Sooooooo this year, this week, my mom has again sent an anniversary card, to them for 70 years of marriage. They have lived in northern Indiana, together in the same house, since they became husband and wife. I can't even imagine THIS!

And I agree with Henry, nice to see you are alive and well DragonBytes!

On the topic of too old / too young, my personal thought was 10 years one way or the other.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Posted: 2/18/2018 12:04:58 PM
Quit harassing the little girls, grandpa! Find someone your own age who looks younger.
 wadeinwaves
Joined: 8/7/2017
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Posted: 2/18/2018 6:41:21 PM
Of course older women could share/brag that they slept with a hot young bod but any ATTRACTIVE older woman can do that

"There, much better."

Okay, I'll admit I was going to add the word 'attractive' in that sentence but decided to leave it out. Why? Beauty is subjective and what the majority may think is attractive another person may not and vice versa. So, an older woman who isn't attractive to the majority may do it for some younger men. I remember a few years ago I met a man in his twenties. He was tall, slender and had full lips and chiseled features. The age gap bothered me. One day he wrote me and I told him I had a younger girl friend who he might like but added that she was quite obese. He told be to bring it on and shared that he likes all women of different shapes and sizes and looks! Was I shocked? Yes.
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
Msg: 54
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Posted: 2/19/2018 1:23:55 PM

I know there is a formula of "half your age plus 7" that some people point to when asked what is the socially-acceptable minimum age of anyone you want to date

So therefore starting at 32 for me? Yikes! no thanks, I would rather them be 7 years older than me , then 18 years younger...
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
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Posted: 2/19/2018 2:14:05 PM

So therefore starting at 32 for me? Yikes! no thanks, I would rather them be 7 years older than me , then 18 years younger...


So the theory goes that it's acceptable for an 86 year old women to date you. (1/2 her age +7 )

Since I am 65 a 114 year old woman would be an acceptable date.
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
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Posted: 2/19/2018 2:52:01 PM


So the theory goes that it's acceptable for an 86 year old women to date you. (1/2 her age +7 )

That would be like trying to open a warm grilled cheese sandwich ...I’ll pass then
 CBGB77
Joined: 12/15/2017
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Posted: 2/20/2018 12:34:42 PM
Too bad your a little too young for my 90 year old mom,she just broke up with her last boyfriend.
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
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Posted: 2/20/2018 5:26:22 PM
^^^ wowzers 90?!? Well done for her, the changes she must have seen in this world over 90 years!
 CBGB77
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Posted: 2/20/2018 6:34:35 PM

Posted By: HanoverFella on 2/20/2018 722 PM
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Message: ^^^ wowzers 90?!? Well done for her, the changes she must have seen in this world over 90 years!


Thanks man! My mom is a very active senior. She was married my dad for over 65 year but since he passed away in 2011(at age 93) she has 2 boyfriends. the first was a really nice guy,he used to take he out dancing or to a casino every weekend and they took a few cruises to the Bahamas too. Sadly he also passed away last year after a short illness.She met her new boyfriend a couple of months ago, and he seemed like a nice guy at first but she said he was too controlling so a couple of weeks she dumped him.
 GingersnapWA3
Joined: 11/20/2017
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Posted: 2/20/2018 8:54:19 PM
I prefer to consider this on a case-by-case basis. I have been involved with a man 13 years older than me, and with someone who was nine years younger than me.
 Cryptofabulous
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Posted: 2/21/2018 4:37:37 PM
Life is never easy. Even when you’re “older”.
To a 20 y/o – anyone over 30 is “old”.
To a 50 y/o anyone under 40 is “young”.

But people will have an appearance and behavior stereotype in mind based on age.

So a 25 y/o woman may assume guys over 35 needs Viagra “to keep up with her”.
And guys in their 20’s think every MILF is horny for their****– LMAO
Most of us 39+ know much better now IF they remember their 20’s.
Interest in love, sex and kink doesn’t “end” once you reach a certain age!!

But all that age have experienced stuff about life, sex, love and heartbreak – possibly several times for some. They have that life experience to incorporate into our thinking and how it may color their view on life.

For some of us that can be a great thing. Some “youngsters” are just “old souls” who just relate better to more mature people than peers their age. There ARE those who view us as a source of experience/knowledge, in life, love, sex and want to learn from us. Some have us as a fetish and are turned on by us even if we are not “perfect body” specimens.

Yup – age is a number. Can’t escape that. But some truthfully view it as “just” a number with little meaning in the long run, because “a meeting of the minds” doesn’t depend on them both being the same age.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 2/26/2018 11:42:00 PM

My first wife was 20 and I was 35 when we were married

That's a big difference, tho. She was below your 35/2 + 7 (=24.5 years old) line. So maybe that formula ain't so bad. :)

my second wife was 10 years younger than me but now I feel like it is inappropriate for me to try to contact woman that much younger than me.

You'll have an easier time doing that than being 35, getting into an LTR with a 20 year old. If you're 64 and you go out with a 54 year old woman, it's not seen as creepy. The previous example is seen that way for many. It's just that women are more independent now. They're not looking for the "older man" as much, but it does exist. It's just that 10 years older more of a stretch VS a while back. So it's just tougher. The 54+ yo *Attractive* women, by and large, aren't going to want guys 10 years older than themselves much. I think as it's pointed out, a +/- 7 years as the general norm.

That formula you refer to isn't referring to what women generally want -- but where it gets into the "creepy zone". I think you're just experiencing it harder for younger cute gals liking the "older man". That part is true, I believe.

I prefer to consider this on a case-by-case basis. I have been involved with a man 13 years older than me, and with someone who was nine years younger than me.

You're right. It's not the size of a man's age, it's the size of his... boat. ;)
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 2/27/2018 11:46:39 AM

gotta say this is untrue also, any woman can get a hot young guy(s or even more than 1 willing to meet her for a menage a trois). any time she wants to. the internet is pretty awesome for that.


Any older woman might be able to get a younger man. Not all older women are necessarily able to get a younger HOT man. An decent looking or attractive young man may not settle for any "cougar" that shows interest him. He can be a bit more selective because he would be in relatively higher demand than a less attractive man.
 Magellan2017
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Posted: 3/1/2018 9:21:23 PM
Sometimes Women way too young for me are often attracted to me in my personal life. Just last week a young Woman could not believe I was 55, lol. My hair certainly shows it these days, what's left of it! I had to show her my D.L. to prove it I bicycle 6 days a week year round so maybe that's what helps me look a bit younger sometimes. Anyway Women who I feel are too young I simply ignore as far as showing any romantic interest in them.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
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Posted: 3/2/2018 11:27:17 AM
If I were still single and looking, my preference would be to date men around my own age, and up to ten years older. I'd consider dating a man up to ten years younger, but only if he had no children, or they were already grown and living on their own.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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Posted: 3/2/2018 3:31:37 PM
"I bike 6 days a week"

>>>no doubt, being in shape helps. But it also helps we aren't panting after them, like their peers (b/c if you are a dirty old man, you may wonder why your peers seem to get all this attention and you ain't). We aren't living in mom's basement. We don't seem to be trying as hard as their peers to "pump n dump" them. And of course, we're flat out more mature than we were back at their age.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 3/2/2018 4:57:16 PM

MachIMustangII
And of course, we’re flat out more mature

Say what? Where do you come up with these crazy ideas anyway?

Or as Tonto said to the Lone Ranger when they were about to be overrun by the hostile Indians, “What’s all this ‘we shit’, White Man?”
 Seki1949
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Posted: 3/3/2018 7:34:37 AM
The formula is simple: -7 to +3.

Of course, to the human heart nothing is absolute, but it's a good guideline.
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 3/3/2018 8:11:32 AM
Magellan2017
I bicycle 6 days a week year round so maybe that's what helps me look a bit younger sometimes. Anyway Women who I feel are too young I simply ignore as far as showing any romantic interest in them.


Wow, you are from the Chicago area, how do you bike in winter? Or do you use an inside stationary bike? I haven't done any biking when the temp goes below 50,and then there is the snow and slush which rules out biking many days.
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 3/3/2018 8:16:29 AM

The formula is simple: -7 to +3.

Of course, to the human heart nothing is absolute, but it's a good guideline.


Good for you, but not a good guideline for the majority.

Because if you are 20, then a 13 year old is good to date.
 Molly Maude
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Posted: 3/3/2018 1:41:43 PM
I know nothing of formulas ... I dated a man 19 years my senior for a while but we didn't have a lot in common to talk about ... dated a man exclusively for 4 years who was 8 years my junior ... we biked most evenings after work and skied or biked (depending on the weather) most weekends ... in the end, he was too controlling ... right now, I'm being a lot more selective!!! (meaning I haven't dated in almost a year!!) ... I doubt I'd date anyone + or - 5 or so years ...
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 3/4/2018 2:29:44 AM
I have my parameters set at 48 & 72, but that's really too young for me, and definitely too old on the other end. I think I'd cap that at 65, tops. I mean a real 65, not a 70 year old saying he's 65.
 Cryptofabulous
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Posted: 3/4/2018 3:30:51 AM

I know nothing of formulas ... I dated a man 19 years my senior for a while but we didn't have a lot in common to talk about ... dated a man exclusively for 4 years who was 8 years my junior ... we biked most evenings after work and skied or biked (depending on the weather) most weekends ... in the end, he was too controlling ... right now, I'm being a lot more selective!!! (meaning I haven't dated in almost a year!!) ... I doubt I'd date anyone + or - 5 or so years

You should still be selective, but personality types and interests have nothing to do with age relative to yours. You could have just as easily had the +19 man be controlling and the biker and the -8 guy with nothing in common. So much of that depends on their upbringing and background.
 Seki1949
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Posted: 3/4/2018 5:51:12 AM

Because if you are 20, then a 13 year old is good to date.


Silly, the age of consent is 18. The rule stands!

Since I believe that the age of consent should be raised to 26, this should not be an issue. From watching current events, women under the age of 26 are innocent Snowflake and are too immature to make these sort of decisions. They need to be protected from the consequences of their actions. Except when they are women HEAR ME ROAR except when they are INNOCENT SNOWFLAKES. And sometimes both within 24 hours.
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