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 Tech30
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No I dont hate women . I have seen lots of my married friends and relatives are having the life sucked out of them because their wives lvoe to nag them all the time about little things.

They love coming out with me and getting away from that for a night here and there and they always complain about how they work all day to provide for their family but the wife will still nag them when they get home, and on weekends instead of relaxing they are being dragged to all kinds of events they have no interest in going to.

The only women who work more than their boyfriends are the ones in the earlier stages of life. in the 20s when they love the lazy bad boy type with no job or direction in life. Then they get knocked up, more than once, then kick him out and go looking for a responsible man to take care of her and her kids.

Its just the way it goes a lot of the time. I Know i will get hate for saying it, but it happens far too often to be called an exception. I see it far too often.

Then i hear women talk about how their ex was a dead beat and a loser and so on.... yet they still chose to have kids with him...
Men need to be far more picky with which women they get with.

I dont hate women . There are lots of good ones. My mom and sister included....but there are tons of terrible ones that will only drag a good man down.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
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Posted: 4/13/2018 12:53:49 PM
My ex-wife liked to nag me despite the fact that I was taking care of her, cooking and cleaning for her it was never enough. That’s why it’s important that the next woman I date understands what an equal relationship is.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 4/13/2018 1:04:42 PM
Thanks for explaining Tech30. I think you have to remember that you have the friends' points of view and not the wives. However, I have seen wives who nag too much. Often its because neither communicate well with each other. I think some couples would benefit on finding better ways of communicating.

I get how you think all these women who have kids with losers are dumb. Being one of them though, I would just like to say its not so cut-and-dry. I think a lot of women think that things will gradually get better with the guy they were with. We settle for someone less and get burned and its not until we are in to deep that we realize its never going to get better. Even smart women do this because women are ruled by their emotions and not their brains. Just like guys who are with naggy wives made their decisions with that thing between their legs and not their heads.

You are not someone who ever wants to get with a single mother. That's okay. That's good that you know that.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 4/13/2018 1:17:47 PM
coolD, I think many of these women in 3rd world countries are prostituting themselves, which of course men find to be completely acceptable. The problem are women with standards, for these men that enjoy using them here or in their countries, sometimes as underage prostitutes. Of course it doesn't apply to all of the women. I know an 80+ year old man whose wife passed on last year. Last weekend, his approx 40 year old Filipina replacement arrived to become his wife. She's basically signing up to be a sex slave/caregiver. I know men that go there and say they're "helping" the women, lol. I heard one guy talking to other men about how he targets disadvantaged women in South America.

Tech, sure there are not so great women, but then you also have men (example above), that are predators. So you know men that want to escape nagging wives. None of these men are losers/slackers/unmotivated? To me, it just sounds like incompatible couples, so both are unhappy. That's what you're focusing on, unhappy and miserable couples.

I'm not pushing marriages. Marriage isn't for everyone. For you to be this disgruntled with women, it sounds like you made poor choices, that's why I say that. Your mom and sister aren't the only good women. Really, a good woman isn't universal for who they are, they're who a person is compatible with.
 Tech30
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Posted: 4/13/2018 2:33:43 PM
Im not disgruntled. I have just been around to see how things actually work.
And no none of the men i know are losers. They are hard working people. The wives? less so.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 4/13/2018 6:15:46 PM

but then you also have men (example above), that are predators.


Really? Whom are you referring to?

I've agreed with everything Tech has said so far. I've heard it on the Tom Leykis Show. He may be a listener, too.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 4/13/2018 6:35:54 PM
I can only take your word that these are stellar men, and that requests from the wives are unreasonable. You do know that what you refer to as nagging is repeatedly having to ask someone to do something. Why does a woman even have to be put in a position to do that? In the end, it just means these guys are not compatible with their wives.

I feel you're giving away your power to women that were not great people, because they changed your thinking and your life based upon how they were in a relationship. If I was a guy, I'd say sign me up for a wife. I can't even imagine having a partner that would get pregnant to carry my child for 9 long months, being the main caregiver to that child, a constant source of sex, does the cooking, does the cleaning, looks adoringly at me, whats not to like?

coolD, predators being men that target and prey on women in difficult situations.
 julystorm7
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Posted: 4/13/2018 7:40:58 PM
Nagging is a result of a guy not pulling his weight in a relationship. Woman nag for reasons such as:

1) The man not doing his share of the housework or yardwork
2) The man not sharing in the childcare responsibilities
3) The man not being very loving to his wife or neglecting her
4) The man not financially contributing sufficiently
5) The man spending money irresponsibly

Nagging is useless but women sometimes become naggers because when the woman tries to communicate these things with the man he ignores her or refuses to talk to her.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 4/13/2018 7:47:13 PM
^^^ These guys were already like this, yet women choose them thinking they will change them.
 Kissfromarose77
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Posted: 4/13/2018 8:53:52 PM

Nagging is a result of a guy not pulling his weight in a relationship. Woman nag for reasons such as:

1) The man not doing his share of the housework or yardwork
2) The man not sharing in the childcare responsibilities
3) The man not being very loving to his wife or neglecting her
4) The man not financially contributing sufficiently
5) The man spending money irresponsibly

Nagging is useless but women sometimes become naggers because when the woman tries to communicate these things with the man he ignores her or refuses to talk to her.


None of that behaviour is exclusive to either gender. There are lazy, irresponsible men and women. If you were dating women you would find that out.
 julystorm7
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Posted: 4/13/2018 11:05:23 PM
Cooldog65
[Quote] ^^ These guys were already like this, yet women choose them thinking they will change them.

Yup. The warning signs are usually all there but women think they have magic powers. I remember visiting my ex at his parents house for Thanksgiving and noticing he didn't help one iota with making the supper or clean up. And I found out his mom did his laundry for him! He sat on his ass while everyone else worked. I dumped him the next day but he wouldn't leave me alone. He was relentless in getting me back, told me everything I needed to hear, even cried and begged and I was about 5 months pregnant at the time and worried about raising a kid alone so I let him move back in. I just told myself I'd eventually change him into the person I needed him to be, that he wanted to be better to keep me. In hindsight I know I was wrong but when you want to believe something you just ignore that voice in the back of your head and believe.
 SS4544Spd
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Posted: 4/14/2018 11:07:55 AM
Julystorm7 wrote:
Hiring an escort might seem like a good way to have a brief happy moment. But in your head you'll know its artificial and some men get into the habit of hiring as escort again and again to recreate those brief happy moments.
You'll need to clarify which head to which you're referring. I'm thinking one head doesn't really care.

SiennaBear2 wrote:
Man that’s good money I should have been and escort LOL.
You're hired.

Tech30 wrote:
Im not disgruntled. I have just been around to see how things actually work. And no none of the men i know are losers. They are hard working people. The wives? less so.
No, how things really work, is there are generally just as many "loser" guys out there, stressing their "hard working" wives. Just because what you hold true in your immediate corner of the world doesn't mean you can extrapolate it globally. Sample size matters.
 Kissfromarose77
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Posted: 4/14/2018 3:12:59 PM
^^^ There are just as many loser guys out there, but usually it’s assumed that women are the harder workers inside the home, although that’s not always the case. Men who cook and clean while their wives do nothing in return should know that they deserve better. There are women who say that they want an equal partner, and then treat the guy who doesn’t stand up for himself like shit.
 julystorm7
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Posted: 4/17/2018 8:55:40 AM
I'm not denying that. I've seen both. But I admit to nagging. Hated to hear myself do it but it was the only way to get my kid's dad to do anything. I worked 70 hours a week at a job and came home to a pigsty of a house and hungry dirty kids. Nagging is just the last resort of many people who have no other recourse. Of course their are naggers, usually women, who can't seem to not nag, they nag their husbands and kids all the live long day about anything they can think of and I think those women usually have some sort of mental issue, maybe OCD or control issues.
 Tech30
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Posted: 4/17/2018 2:19:08 PM
Nagging is a result of a guy not pulling his weight in a relationship. Woman nag for reasons such as:

1) The man not doing his share of the housework or yardwork
2) The man not sharing in the childcare responsibilities
3) The man not being very loving to his wife or neglecting her
4) The man not financially contributing sufficiently
5) The man spending money irresponsibly

Nagging is useless but women sometimes become naggers because when the woman tries to communicate these things with the man he ignores her or refuses to talk to her.


Thats a bit of BS .

Women dont nag because men arent pulling their weight.

Most of the time (im not talking about exceptions ) men bring in more income. They work more over time, they provide, they get tired and come home and the wife will nag.

Women dont nag because men arent pulling weight, its because women love to complain and love to degrade a man and chip away at him.

My cousin tells me about how he gets nagged . He gets nagged for coming home late even though its part of his new job . He makes good money and she enjoys the benefits but nags if he texts and lets her know and she nags if he doesnt.

Women just love to nag.
 Tech30
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Posted: 4/17/2018 2:26:37 PM
No, how things really work, is there are generally just as many "loser" guys out there, stressing their "hard working" wives. Just because what you hold true in your immediate corner of the world doesn't mean you can extrapolate it globally. Sample size matters.

there are lots of loser men. but the thing is that women choose them first over decent men. Because their animal brains love the irresponsible bad boy. Nothing wrong with that. Until these women start having kids with them.

"my body my choice" is the slogan women love to use, so how about you make better choices , especially when it starts to involve another human life?

There are loser men, but its the loser women who make the big choices that lead to children having less than ideal lives.

Then after they made all the mistakes many women before them made, they decide now is the time to find a decent but naive man to help me take care of my many mistakes. (kids, debt, materialistic addictions)

Again , I dont hate women, I just really dont like people in general who do stupid things.
 Tech30
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Posted: 4/17/2018 2:28:16 PM
'm not denying that. I've seen both. But I admit to nagging. Hated to hear myself do it but it was the only way to get my kid's dad to do anything. I worked 70 hours a week at a job and came home to a pigsty of a house and hungry dirty kids. Nagging is just the last resort of many people who have no other recourse. Of course their are naggers, usually women, who can't seem to not nag, they nag their husbands and kids all the live long day about anything they can think of and I think those women usually have some sort of mental issue, maybe OCD or control issues.

Do you not think women who think they can change a man from a lazy slob who cant take care of kids, into the perfect man has mental issues? I do.
 julystorm7
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Posted: 4/17/2018 3:11:46 PM
I did not grow up around lazy men. It sounds so nieve now but I grew up thinking all men were hardworking and had jobs. My dad worked hard, also cooked and did housework. Both my parents had jobs outside the home. My brothers did the same chores I did. When I got with the man I got with I just thought he had a run of bad luck when it came to jobs and I was seriously shocked when I found out how much of a slob he was when I lived with him. It's easy to judge women (and men) and say they should have known better but the truth is they didn't know better. Do you mean to say you've never made any bad decisions in life? Or did you hatch from the egg knowing everything already?
 Tech30
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Posted: 4/17/2018 4:20:21 PM
I came out knowing everything obviously.

Actually I made a ton of mistakes. Though I never made any that affected a child's life. I was very careful not to have children because i wasn't read, and because the women I was with i eventually decided i didn't want them to be the mother of my kids.
 julystorm7
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Posted: 4/18/2018 7:43:24 AM
I'm curious, did you always wear a condom? Because if not, a woman could have easily lied to you she was on birth control or taken it wrong and you could have easily become one of those dad's with a kid with a woman you don't like. Then again, it's much easier to remain independent in the situation as a man. Woman have the kid and need to take care of it but it's extremely difficult doing it on one's own especially in the baby stage.
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Posted: 4/18/2018 8:10:26 AM
I did a good job apparently , especially compared to many other people.
It is tougher on women, who choose terrible men.

So many women fight for the right to abortion, but seems like not many use it. Looking at the rise in single mothers ..... I wonder why.
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Posted: 4/18/2018 9:27:40 AM

You're hired

lol thanks ;)
 julystorm7
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Posted: 4/18/2018 9:52:35 AM
Tech30

So many women fight for the right to abortion, but seems like not many use it. Looking at the rise in single mothers ..... I wonder why.


Because there's still a lot of people who believe abortion is murder. Sorry, not wanting to get into this debate here so please no one start. I understand that other people feel differently and that's fine. For me personally, I find it wrong and would not be able to live with myself if I did something like that. I do not for one second regret having my kids. Do I wish I had done things differently? Yes, but I don't take back having my kids ever.
 Tech30
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Posted: 4/18/2018 10:38:44 AM
Ya i'd hate to get into that debate because I've been there before.

That said. I am against it . I think people need to be responsible.

Condoms are cheap.... birth control is widely available....but single moms....single moms everywhere!
 julystorm7
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Posted: 4/18/2018 1:08:54 PM
Yup, but all it takes is one mistake to make a baby. Condom breaks. Girl forgets to take a pill. A guy doesn't pull out on time. Medication interferes with the pill. Both get caught up in the heat of the moment and forget. One person is deceptive and pokes holes in a condom or lies about birth control. There's a hell of a lot of single moms everywhere. I suspect a large number of pregnancies result in deception on one person's part and just as many men as women are guilty of it. In many couples there is always one person who is more into the relationship than the other, someone who would be more likely to be dumped and devastated. Pregnancy can trap either person into a longterm relationship which most always fails after a few years hence single moms everywhere. Single dads everywhere too but many walk away from the responsibility.
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