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 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
Msg: 151
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Because he's paying her to do it. I find the whole thing disgusting myself. Sex should be something both people want because they want each other, not just because someone is paying the other to do it. If you were to do that, pay someone for sex, it would definitely not be something to be proud of.

And as to your theory that men are more visual than women, it's bullshit. Women are just as visual, if not more. The only difference is that for sex, a man needs to get it up, a woman doesn't need to get anything up. And men masturbate on their own a hell of a lot more then women. So as to your LMAO belief that men need a woman there to get off, I'm gonna say not. You are seriously going to tell me you can't get yourself off on your own? If that's the case then you got troubles.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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Posted: 4/27/2018 5:23:21 AM
if women were as or more visual, Harlequin romance novels would go bankrupt and Playgirl magazine would have competitors :)
 SiennaBear2
Joined: 12/2/2017
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Posted: 4/27/2018 6:45:40 AM
I don't really see anything 'morally' wrong with paying for sex. It's just adding incentive for someone who wouldn't usually sleep with the person to sleep with the person.
I'm a female so obviously it doesn't really appeal to me and I don't even need to. Most of the male prostitutes are gay anyway.
I guess I never even considered it really and I also have a boyfriend.
I find it insulting if a guy tries to pay me for sex though because it's a bit cheap really. That is when he knows I'm obviously not going to sleep with him without extra incentive, happened quite a few times actually.
I've had more outlandish offers though that I rejected, but that was because it was kinda crazy. Somewhat good money though. Some guy wanted me to be a live in sex slave for a week for 12,000 I think it was, unsure. Was intrigued, till he told me he wanted his buddies to come over and use me too LOL. No thankzz
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 4/27/2018 6:51:31 AM
Women are just as visual BUT they are more mental than men too and I don't mean mentally crazy, they just tend to think more about non-visual things more than men.
 Braylen99
Joined: 4/19/2018
Msg: 155
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Posted: 4/27/2018 7:06:09 AM
^^^
Classic overthinking
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 4/27/2018 7:14:07 AM
What about audio I love to hear sexy sounds come on that's like leaving one whole sense out ;)
I think most people don't care much for sound though honestly.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 157
Should I hire an escort to wine and dine?
Posted: 4/27/2018 8:58:46 AM

Because he's paying her to do it. I find the whole thing disgusting myself. Sex should be something both people want because they want each other, not just because someone is paying the other to do it. If you were to do that, pay someone for sex, it would definitely not be something to be proud of.


Well it’s a hell of a lot easier for a woman to find casual sex than a man. Just to find out if this was true, I registered as a woman with no pic on this site. Right away I got men asking if I was interested in hooking up. Casual sex isn’t really wanting each other if you’re never going to see each other again.



And as to your theory that men are more visual than women, it's bullshit. Women are just as visual, if not more. The only difference is that for sex, a man needs to get it up, a woman doesn't need to get anything up. And men masturbate on their own a hell of a lot more then women. So as to your LMAO belief that men need a woman there to get off, I'm gonna say not. You are seriously going to tell me you can't get yourself off on your own? If that's the case then you got troubles.


Most women don’t get turned on just by seeing naked men and apparently they don’t want to see dIck pics. I didn’t say men need an actual woman, but they need some kind of visual stimulation, for example, porn.

I think sex robots will be able to help people who have disabilities but fully functioning sex drives.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
Msg: 158
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Posted: 4/27/2018 9:58:15 AM
Of course women have an easier time getting casual sex then men. Supply and demand. There's way more men on OLD plus men have a stronger need to have sex then women. It's why women hold a certain amount of power over men.

It's true many women don't like dic pics, myself included. We aren't into that type of visual. The visual we are into is the eyes and the face and the physical strength. It has to do with natural biology. Women (subliminally) seek out the partner who will make the strongest babies and historically that partner would be as tall and strong as possible, with the facial expression and eyes being a good indicator of inner strength. For men its much simpler. Men are designed to insert sperm into any vagina they can get into.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 4/27/2018 10:39:27 AM

^^^ Women don’t need another person to get off.

I have to inter-jack here -- guys don't need another person to get off, either. ;)

Because he's paying her to do it. I find the whole thing disgusting myself. Sex should be something both people want because they want each other, not just because someone is paying the other to do it.

It's disgusting because that's how we were raised, and present social reputation/image. It has no Concrete negative basis outside of that. It's not conceptually any more bad than gals going out on dates and liking a date for the sake of a date (what's his name again?), as long as the guy is OK with it. That kind of stuff happens.

Or kissing a guy at the end of a date, even though she's not that into him, but he's nice, he paid for a nice date, etc. Or a guy fooling around with a girl on Spring Break that he's not that attracted to, but, he's horny and she wants to make her Ex jealous.

And speaking of paying for a date, and buying some gifts -- a mild sugar daddy of sorts -- paying for the company of & physical rewards... still the same concept as an escort underneath it all (just otherwise not single; or exclusive to said escort). And you can also find Relationships where the gal is down on her luck and a guy by looks-wise she could do better than, but he's the provider and she shacks up with him because of that and she appreciates it and him for doing so. Not much different there.

At least with escorts -- you're not playing games. You're just cutting to the chase. It's no more 'disgusting' than a guy & gal at a bar at closing time, on Spring Break mingling a bit and agreeing to hook up in the bathroom after most people left and part ways. They both exchange their sexual desires. You could also trade with something else, too.

Women are just as visual BUT they are more mental than men too and I don't mean mentally crazy, they just tend to think more about non-visual things more than men.

I don't think so at all. Women, if anything, are more visual (about visual details more than men; "Sally, I don't care what kind of shoes she's wearing -- does she put out or not?!"). I think given the situation between men & women, women have more to Think about. Safety being one of them, where guys really don't. Gals care more about Reputation & Image -- guys don't, so less 'thinking' required. More gals worry VS guys -- which ends up being, you guessed it, more 'thinking' too. In that sense, you'll find more do. But, at the same time, guys will do a little thinking about things gals don't as much -- like scheming to garner a gal's interest, as the chaser is plotting/thinking more than the chaseee. But overall, yeah, in the world of dating, gals are concerned about more things than guys, for better or worse (thus, more 'thinking').
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 160
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Posted: 4/27/2018 10:52:02 AM

Of course women have an easier time getting casual sex then men. Supply and demand. There's way more men on OLD plus men have a stronger need to have sex then women. It's why women hold a certain amount of power over men.


You’ve been proved my point then. Don’t judge escorts who cater to men with disabilities as disgusting. Perhaps if you were these men you would pay for sex too if it meant you’d never get laid in your life.

There’s evidence that men think about sex more often than women, but when women do think about it their libido is just as strong as men’s.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
Msg: 161
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Posted: 4/27/2018 11:33:45 AM
I'm not judging escorts but I am judging the men that use them. Part of why I find it disgusting is because many of the women involved in the sex trade aren't doing it because it's a job they enjoy doing. Many of the women have been sex-trafficked, they've been tricked into the trade or blackmailed or were born into poverty in another country and that was the only road for them or they are working to support families back home, many of the families actually coerced them into it. Are there escorts that are doing this free and clear of the above? Yes, particularly a lot of drug addicts who have used the work as a way to support their addiction. There are also some that have chosen it because they like sex and they like the job. But there has been lots of research into the sex trade, including escort services and much of it shows that the majority of women doing so didn't come into it willingly on their own accord. The men who use these women tend to think otherwise but there's no way to know if the girl they're with is completely consensual. Where the sex trade is legal and more regulated, things are better but it's no way near a norm.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 4/27/2018 3:45:21 PM
Speaking to what July said, I've seen shows where sex workers, pole dancers, were interviewed. They came from dysfunctional homes, many times being sexually abused/raped.

Kiss, people have imaginations, so porn isn't 100% necessary.

Are women visual, hell yeah! We're looking at the total package and not just the package. About d!ck pics, wouldn't a guy prefer to see the entire person, and not just breast shots? Playboy, etc, they featured the entire woman, because there's a beauty to the entire body that also creates sexual attraction.
Should I hire an escort to wine and dine?
Posted: 4/27/2018 7:01:34 PM
We all pay... One way or another we all pay!

Don't look at it as the OP paying an escort to accompany him for the night. Think of it as him paying her to leave when the night is over. :)
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 4/27/2018 7:04:17 PM
^^^^^really? You can't ask someone to leave? Why not? I have.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 165
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Posted: 4/27/2018 7:32:22 PM

I'm not judging escorts but I am judging the men that use them. Part of why I find it disgusting is because many of the women involved in the sex trade aren't doing it because it's a job they enjoy doing. Many of the women have been sex-trafficked, they've been tricked into the trade or blackmailed or were born into poverty in another country and that was the only road for them or they are working to support families back home, many of the families actually coerced them into it. Are there escorts that are doing this free and clear of the above? Yes, particularly a lot of drug addicts who have used the work as a way to support their addiction. There are also some that have chosen it because they like sex and they like the job. But there has been lots of research into the sex trade, including escort services and much of it shows that the majority of women doing so didn't come into it willingly on their own accord. The men who use these women tend to think otherwise but there's no way to know if the girl they're with is completely consensual. Where the sex trade is legal and more regulated, things are better but it's no way near a norm.


You still didn’t answer my question though. If you were a man with a disability who knew that the only chance you had of ever experiencing sexual intimacy would be to pay for, would you not do the same thing?

And women have better sexual imaginations than men. Why do you think more women read romance novels? Men do need more visual stimulation. Some women watch porn, but not far so many as men. If men get turned on by looking at certain female body parts it’s because they’re looking for fertility in a woman and her ability to bear children, not because they’re shallow.
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 4/27/2018 8:14:50 PM

If men get turned on by looking at certain female body parts it’s because they’re looking for fertility in a woman and her ability to bear children, not because they’re shallow.


Now this ^ ^ ^ ^ is funny!

SUPERMAN!
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 4/27/2018 8:23:23 PM

If men get turned on by looking at certain female body parts it’s because they’re looking for fertility in a woman and her ability to bear children, not because they’re shallow.


Fertility and the ability to bear children are the last things I'm thinking about.

Call me shallow...
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
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Posted: 4/27/2018 8:30:51 PM
^^^ Perhaps subconsciously you are. Like women who say they don’t need a man to protect them but subconsciously are attracted to the biggest, strongest male.
 basilisk123
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Posted: 5/2/2018 1:44:48 AM
I get how lonely it can be eating by yourself, but I like it better than having company that I have to pay to be there.
Sometimes, when I get a decent amount saved, I will go out to eat at a restaurant alone. While there, I observe the customers around me, and the employees working. There is a subtle orchestra at play if you ever have a mind to hear it. If you look close enough, you can see a hidden dance being performed by everyone subconsciously. It is quite fascinating, how the animal known as man functions in concert with his fellow man without realizing it.
It would be impossible for someone to experience this delight if they had another person with them. Paying attention to the other person would take all your focus away from the art that is happening around you.

Sorry, I got a little sappy...it is late, leave me alone. DONT JUDGE ME!!! lol.

Seriously though, whining and dining an escort seems odd to me. Why waste the money on it? I think part of the thrill of dating is the fact the other person wants to be there for you, and not your money. I know there are gold diggers and people who only date to get free food, but what I am talking about is the ideal situation.
 from site to sight
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Posted: 5/2/2018 2:52:28 AM

If men get turned on by looking at certain female body parts it’s because they’re looking for fertility in a woman and her ability to bear children, not because they’re shallow.


If a guy meets a woman who is attractive and the woman says she's infertile, does she suddenly look unattractive because of her inability to breed? I don't think so. Most guys would be thinking "Oh good. No chance for an oops baby."
 basilisk123
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Posted: 5/2/2018 3:19:46 AM
^^^ Yes and no. As beasts, our instinct is still to breed even if our higher functioning brain knows it is impossible. Basically when it comes to basic reproduction, the more primal part of the brain has more power.
 from site to sight
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Posted: 5/2/2018 7:53:37 AM
Does the "need to breed" instinct apply to gay people as well, since they know from the get-go that it's impossible to reproduce in a gay relationship?
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 5/2/2018 8:17:38 AM
I read about that very topic once. Often, gay men look for the same thing women look for in a man. There is still a desire to breed though. Many gay men have had sex with women for the purpose of procreation. But because they are attracted to men they often leave a wife after they've gotten their kids. Not being a gay man myself though I don't know the exact answer.

Physical attraction is still about breeding. Even if there isn't the intention for breeding. Women are most horny when they are most fertile. And women will look for various physical attributes like strength and height because it's in their subconscious mind to look for the best genetics for their baby. Men are wired to seek out females with specific scents (which actually indicate fertility) to have sex with even if they don't realize it. But men aren't concerned with genetic selection necessarily. Men's natural instinct is to spread their sperm as much as possible to carry on their genetic line as much as possible by fathering multiple babies. However, humans differ from animals in the respect that there are also psychological needs they want met too and if they don't restrain from fathering multiple childr3n with multiple women, this may result in them not getting psychological needs met. Actually, in the animal kingdom there has been a lot of studies on on pack animals like lions and wolves which show that a male pack member will show sexual restraint because their need to be part of the pack supersedes their need for genetic legacy.
 Tech30
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Posted: 5/2/2018 9:01:02 AM
Face it, men always have that little nagging voice in their head telling them to bang any attractive women they see. Its instinctive. Though we also know women can be nothing but trouble.

So again, hire an escort .... Dont worry about what women here say about it. If I were you I wouldnt give much thought to a womans opinion on things like that.

Also , if men want to, get those realistic sex dolls. And again dont even concern yoruself what women might say or think about it. It doesnt matter. In the end you're saving money and sanity.
 sun___flower
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Posted: 5/2/2018 9:05:36 AM

I get how lonely it can be eating by yourself, but I like it better than having company that I have to pay to be there.
Sometimes, when I get a decent amount saved, I will go out to eat at a restaurant alone. While there, I observe the customers around me, and the employees working. There is a subtle orchestra at play if you ever have a mind to hear it. If you look close enough, you can see a hidden dance being performed by everyone subconsciously. It is quite fascinating, how the animal known as man functions in concert with his fellow man without realizing it.
It would be impossible for someone to experience this delight if they had another person with them. Paying attention to the other person would take all your focus away from the art that is happening around you.

Thank you for posting this, Basilisk. It made me smile, and I needed that.
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