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 ChorusAurora
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 26
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msg #23:
a kiss can be a more intimate experience than sex.
Have an itch? A friend can scratch it.
But I don't want to get lost in a kiss with a friend.
That's just me. I'm can already anticipate what some of the resident biddies will have to say about that.


Well, I'm not a resident biddie, but I will cop to my own 'cronehood' and bite.
To clarify, and let me know if I'm wrong here---
'Have an itch a friend can scratch it 'refers to a FWB type of thing?Enough 'like' and attraction there to indulge in some recreational sex, but no abiding attachment, no lovers till the end of time, you're the one, etc.

Whereas 'getting lost in a kiss' refers to a possibly unexpected passion for one you might get caught up in a mad torrid affair with? Someone you might lose your head over at least temporarily? With no thought of how long it might last?

Makes sense to me. I think a lot of people do this. Not sure why you think the resident biddies are gonna clutch their pearls.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 27
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Posted: 4/6/2018 2:59:44 PM

nope, if i dont like someone i sure will not be having sex w/ them.


Agreed 100%.

Now as to, "Resident biddies".
Copied from: The Urbandictionary

Biddies
Chicks, babes, or females.
We got to get us some biddies to hang out with tonight.


Sometime in the last 20 years or so, the term was recycled to mean a woman of any age. The connotation may exemplify the earliest expression synonymous with the concept now known as MILF.

Biddy
A "biddy" is one of those girls who wears very short skirts and very high heels in very cold weather, and walk around downtown areas on their way to parties where they're going to get smashed and act like hoes, and then make the walk of shame back to their dorms in the same heels and short skirts the next morning.

My favorite past time is definitely biddy watching. I always wait for one of those girls to trip over their ridiculous high heels and fall into a pile of snow. Too much fun.

Biddy
hot girls
lets go out tonite and get with some biddies.

I've never owned pearls, LOL!
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
Msg: 28
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Posted: 4/6/2018 8:21:13 PM
Cyn, I can't wait forever! I'm trying to be patient, I really am...
 pamioakley
Joined: 5/26/2013
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Posted: 4/6/2018 8:24:55 PM
2012. I'm done.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 7/23/2017
Msg: 30
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Posted: 4/6/2018 8:28:27 PM

'Have an itch a friend can scratch it 'refers to a FWB type of thing?Enough 'like' and attraction there to indulge in some recreational sex, but no abiding attachment, no lovers till the end of time, you're the one, etc.

Yes, this is what I meant in my case. We were friends before adding the benefits. Neither of us wanted more but it lasted long enough to learn that I'm no longer interested in FWB arrangements; that kind of scratch no longer relieves the true itch.


Whereas 'getting lost in a kiss' refers to a possibly unexpected passion for one you might get caught up in a mad torrid affair with? Someone you might lose your head over at least temporarily? With no thought of how long it might last?

Not quite what I meant in my case. The gentleman who was my last passionate kiss was someone I thought was 'forever', it was not a mad torrid affair. Although I definitely lost my head over him, our time together was measured in years so it was only temporary in the sense that it didn't last forever. Kissing him was passionate because it was intimate, authentic, intentional, and communicated my desire for him, not just some warm and familiar male stand-in. I've never been able to engage in 'recreational kissing.' I also do not use "I love you" lightly. He was the last for that too.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 7/23/2017
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Posted: 4/6/2018 8:56:11 PM

Biddies
Chicks, babes, or females.
We got to get us some biddies to hang out with tonight.
Sometime in the last 20 years or so, the term was recycled to mean a woman of any age. The connotation may exemplify the earliest expression synonymous with the concept now known as MILF.

Biddy
A "biddy" is one of those girls who wears very short skirts and very high heels in very cold weather, and walk around downtown areas on their way to parties where they're going to get smashed and act like hoes, and then make the walk of shame back to their dorms in the same heels and short skirts the next morning.

Learn something new every day! Wasn't aware of that definition which is almost total opposite of this definition:
a woman, especially an elderly one, regarded as annoying or interfering.
"the old biddies were muttering in his direction"

Which is close to the definition I grew up with.
 mikeparkin2
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 32
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Posted: 4/8/2018 6:14:17 PM
60 seems to be the age when things get harder.
Many people have 60 as a limit for dating people even when they are over 60 themselves.
So a couple of months and I am 61 and many people will become unapproachable.

60 is an age where I am looking old and grey now and while I don't like my own looks I rarely like anyone else's my age.
So if any 21 year old is up for a date, get in touch lol.
 julystorm7
Joined: 12/25/2017
Msg: 33
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Posted: 4/8/2018 6:22:27 PM
So at what age does companionship matter more? Many older people get married in their 70s and 80s and an awful lot of them have separate bedrooms and I'd be surprised if sex was even on the table.
 five-marie
Joined: 7/31/2011
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/8/2018 6:49:33 PM
That's funny julystorm. I'm 61 now. Last time I had sex was about 4 years ago. About 5 years ago I kept thinking this might be my last time having sex every time I did.
So the last time I did have sex I thought "Hope this isn't the last time because this was horrible".
So the bad sex was my last time.
Still pisses me off.
 BombayBeach
Joined: 1/27/2016
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Posted: 4/8/2018 10:01:02 PM
40's started to be tough for me, after ten years in a relationship. Never was able to find another relationship, burned out on online dating and men just seemed utterly tuned out...not sure what is going on....celphones..Netflix...or being this age...probably a combo of all of this. I just never have men express interest, and the ones who do hang out with me only want to be friends. Very very baffling after being in long term relationships and discover I am invisible..but, it happens to the best of us!
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 4/9/2018 6:14:24 PM

woman age 63
2012. I’m done.


woman age 61
Last time I had sex was about 4 years ago. About 5 years ago I kept thinking this might be my last time having sex every time I did.
So the last time I did have sex I thought "Hope this isn't the last time because this was horrible".
So the bad sex was my last time.
Still pisses me off.


woman age 51
I just never have men express interest, and the ones who do hang out with me only want to be friends. Very very baffling after being in long term relationships and discover I am invisible..but, it happens to the best of us!

No, no, no! This does NOT happen to “the best of us”, or “all of us”, or any such silly statement.

What the hell is going on here? Did everyone go off their anti-depressants? Was there a national “Stop Taking Your Meds Day” and I missed the memo?

Look here, if you want to have sex, then by god, go out and have sex! It isn’t that damn hard, especially for a woman. And if the sex is “horrible”, maybe you should take some of the blame? It takes two, and you are equally responsible.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
Msg: 37
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Posted: 4/9/2018 7:15:10 PM
I suspect the issue is, they don't want to have ANY sex, they want to have GOOD sex :) But they are free to speak for themselves.

Some sex is bad b/c we choose the wrong partner. sometimes its bad b/c the person isn't as hot for us, as we are for them (like when we land someone outside our league). If we don't turn someone on, we can't really turn them on. We can just make their body feel something, but their head and heart may not be in it.
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 4/10/2018 4:14:41 PM
ohenryx

Look here, if you want to have sex, then by god, go out and have sex!

Good idea!

And if the sex is “horrible”

It wasn't.

It takes two, and you are equally responsible.

Exactly. I hold the two of us equally responsible for the excellent sex that was had.
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
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Posted: 4/10/2018 5:18:01 PM

60 seems to be the age when things get harder.


Not necessarily. ;/
 TheEvolutionOfJessi
Joined: 8/29/2015
Msg: 40
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Posted: 4/10/2018 7:17:28 PM
I know I'm 'still' somewhat young... because when I fell down the other day, everybody laughed at me.... people only rush to help you up when you're old **humor**

anyway... we were talking about 'bad sex'??? yeah, cruising into my third anniversary of last & bad sex... as Mustang says...
Some sex is bad b/c we choose the wrong partner. sometimes its bad b/c the person isn't as hot for us, as we are for them (like when we land someone outside our league). If we don't turn someone on, we can't really turn them on. We can just make their body feel something, but their head and heart may not be in it.

it was an awful night of missed miscommunications prior, that had a few weeks of prior issues.. and the opportunity was 'long & boring'... it was one of those 'I know this ain't going anywhere' nights... (prowess needed to overpower his heart not being in it)
damn, the things I would have changed if I had known it was going to be my last time LOL

as for how I know I'm 'old'... the hormonal loss of hair, (that's hurting) those nana naps in the afternoon... and the fact that I have to be in bed by 9pm... it's gonna be an interesting 20 years ahead. lol
 five-marie
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 4/10/2018 7:23:33 PM
OHenry, "And if the sex is “horrible”, maybe you should take some of the blame? It takes two, and you are equally responsible"
I will not take any responsibility for that last time!
Man I had been dating for a year or two. lol It's kinda funny now but wasn't then. Sex had never been great but he had other good qualities and this balanced things out.
Some men as they age want to try/experience everything they ever thought about before they get too old. So this guy would make me dress up, bought me a sexy outfit with a thong. (Had never worn one and had it on backwards). Then he puts on a porn, it was based on the show "Who's The Boss" and the star was a lookalike of the skinny blond kid. Not sexy.
Then he refuses to accept my refusal to do a certain thing. The whole thing was kinda sad/desperate on his part. He showed no interest in my feelings or wants, it was all about him and his fantasies.
Another porn he put on one time showed a woman receiving double penetration and her crying, crying so much her mascara was running all over her face. How is that a turn on?
Some people are just ***holes. In and out of bed.
 Strawberry_Jello
Joined: 5/13/2014
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Posted: 4/10/2018 7:34:58 PM
I guess I've been lucky. 72 years old and never had horrible sex. My BF and I are going on 2 1/2 years. We are not just companions. We are intimate. We sleep naked in the same bed. We have old people sex. We take our time, we do what we can. We enjoy it. I wholeheartedly recommend it.
 fullmoonguy2
Joined: 6/14/2017
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Posted: 4/10/2018 7:38:23 PM

Some people are just ***holes. In and out of bed.


And yet, they manage to find people to enable them by dating them, rather than shunning them.

Mind-boggling.
 grover14
Joined: 2/14/2014
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Posted: 4/11/2018 5:02:44 PM
Hey Jessi, message 40. I have the same situation as you! Hair loss, afternoon naps, and in bed by 9. Well, I do read until I call asleep. But life is great. I get up when I want to, do anything I want to during the day, go to bed when I'm tired. I highly recommend retirement!
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 4/11/2018 7:17:25 PM

spot4username


It takes two, and you are equally responsible.

Exactly. I hold the two of us equally responsible for the excellent sex that was had.

It’s not that we don’t trust you or anything, but do you have any proof of that? Like maybe a video you could upload somewhere and we could all watch and form our own opinions?
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 4/12/2018 2:33:35 AM
^^
Henry you would love the restaurant where we had dinner/drinks. Yes, it was white tablecloth and expensive. We did walk about and hit a few bars afterward.

No video was made. Sorry, not sorry. *sweet smile*
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
Msg: 47
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Posted: 4/12/2018 7:38:15 AM
Henry, you forgot her post from a few months ago....she never discusses with friends her sex life :)

Going to bed early when old is interesting, I find I take the afternoon siesta and am up all night, and have had people who lost their jobs tell me their sleep pattern slips into the nocturnal as well. Then again, a lot of restaurants have the 4pm early bird dinner special...not many spring chickens there.

I guess we're all weird in our own way :)
 campin_joe
Joined: 8/25/2009
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Posted: 4/15/2018 9:36:23 PM
You meet a nice young lady, and offer to introduce her to your unmarried son.
She asks his age.
You answer.
She replies" I don't date older men".
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 4/16/2018 7:01:32 AM

..........I'd be surprised if sex was even on the table.


Now this I agree with! The surface is too hard and there is always the chance the damn table will tip over.
Prefer a bearskin rug on the floor, in front of a cozy fire. Less likely to incur personal injury!
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 50
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Posted: 4/16/2018 1:55:38 PM
Just don't roll around a lot while making out on the rug, because you might end up in the fire.
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