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 GodlessGal
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So says the man who has been posting here for months about his issues with women, when I have been here for what? Two days? I made less than a dozen posts, yet you know me? Lol sure edgar cayce, your tarot cards tell all.

To the beautiful blond with the black shirt (didn't catch her name) I feel you sister!
 SS4544Spd
Joined: 8/31/2016
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Posted: 2/14/2019 5:38:25 PM
GodlessGal wrote:
I dont have office outfits. My photos reflect how I look in real life. I have huge boobs, I wear thigh thighs, boots, mini skirts and yoga pants. I'm put off by the idea that I should misrepresent myself so some sex obsessed morons dont treat me subpar. I also suspect clothing doesnt solely inspire it considering that perverts hawk on children and animals right alongside women. Perverts perv, that's what they do, blaming women for their behavior is just a deflection from the choice to be perverts
I remember you from back...whenever. And you resurface, with all the subtlety of a jackhammer. As usual. lol Unlike Playboy mag though....I must say….your writing is as fun to read as your pictures are to look at, lol…,

But unfortunately, your views on men and datine are a bit too idealized. It would be nice if it were as you believe it should be. That just isn't the way it is, though. Men will be men. At least some men, that is. Look on the bright side, I’d bet it’s only a tiny % of the men who view your pictures who send offensive responses. The other bright side is that you receive attention from men at all as there are probably many women who don’t get that much, once they get into their mid 40’s +. (And before the arrows arrive, from the female flank..in formation – this of course applies to men, too) Say la vee!!!

If a hot guy posted here complaining about attracting only bimbos and gold diggers, and he had only buff bare chested pics, gold chains, "Zoolander" pouts, and tough guy rapper poses in front of Ferarris and boats....I would say the same thing. Cuz switch genders - that's the oppo situation.

You say…."But that's me!”…fair enuffffff…but just cuz yyou have a librarian’s intellect and values doesn’t mean that’s what you’ll attract if your outside book cover (or lack thereof) signals the opposite.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 2/14/2019 6:24:02 PM
"So says the man who has been posting here for months about his issues with women, when I have been here for what? Two days?"-GodlessGal a.k.a. MadameBoisseau

MadameBoisseau. You have been lurking here just as long as I have so don't even try to act like you just arrived off a yacht.

You are just as dirty and damaged as everyone else on these forums.
 SurelyIamShirley
Joined: 7/22/2016
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Posted: 2/14/2019 7:58:45 PM

I find it extremely sad to see fellow women pull out the sexist trope that a woman must not have self respect or is damaged if she has cleavage or a short skirt on.

uhhh.....if it were that simple I would agree with you but your photos would be terrific in the back pages and you would get lots of calls. I was a damn fine looking woman at 43 having had 3 children but I would not have been caught dead dressed as you are outside of the bedroom or a Hallowe'en party. Get over yourself. There is more to a woman than a enormous set of ta tas and skimpy clothing. I receive lots of messages but none as disrespectful as those you describe in your mailbox. You reap what you sow and guess what? I am not the slightest bit jealous because we can all do what you do, should we want to get down in that ditch. Dress slutty and complain that only pervs want to date you. Oh Boo Hoo. I've lost patience with you. Carry on attention seeker.
 MyTrueCompanion
Joined: 9/20/2018
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Posted: 2/14/2019 8:05:51 PM
Not that Mdme. B needs me to take up for her, but your post, Shirley, does back up some of what she says.

Your words are reminiscent of another former poster who was also blonde & very opinionated. ? Sock Puppet alert?
 SurelyIamShirley
Joined: 7/22/2016
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Posted: 2/14/2019 8:18:21 PM

Not that Mdme. B needs me to take up for her, but your post, Shirley, does back up some of what she says.
Your words are reminiscent of another former poster who was also blonde & very opinionated. ? Sock Puppet alert?


??? It is easy to make a couple of statements. Care to explain?
 Spectrallight
Joined: 9/14/2018
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Posted: 2/14/2019 8:44:51 PM
Anybody want some?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSb7mlz7Hag

 am70sguy
Joined: 6/11/2005
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Posted: 2/15/2019 1:42:05 AM
Back in the day, I was hell bent to show folks I could be a good systems and software engineer even though I had long hair and wore blue jeans, cause I didn't want to dress other than how I liked to dress. I won folks over, but it it costs me thousands of dollars a year in lost wages and was never considered for management positions. Could have gotten a heck of a lot further by allowing for some change in perception.

And since nicely displayed cleavage will always bring out the more basic instincts in man, in spite of the constant battle to suppress them; you'll always get more unsavory characters if your concentration is to display them.
 GodlessGal
Joined: 10/19/2018
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Posted: 2/15/2019 4:58:34 AM

You are just as dirty and damaged as everyone else on these forums.

Says the transexual who is mad because I told him his skirt wearing doesn't equate to real womanhood, and ever since has stalked many of my posts deliberately to respond negatively. Go put on some more lipstick, buffalo bill.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 2/15/2019 4:58:52 AM
Hmmmm.......Dress for attention then **** about the attention one gets!
Classic!

"But this is who I am"......
NOOO! This is who you present yourself to be.
Please....give me one good explanation of how putting your t!ts on display expresses "who you are" other than an
attention seeking individual.
 GodlessGal
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Posted: 2/15/2019 5:04:58 AM
Did you raise any of those female daughters of yours to think they were whores if their skirt were above the knees? And since you are so quick to label females slutty, could they even come to you about REAL issues not just rooted in appearance such as being assaulted, birth control, or their sex life? I feel terrible for your girls to be raised with such sexism, self loathing and capitulation to patriarchy.
 HawkingJr
Joined: 4/16/2007
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Posted: 2/15/2019 5:43:30 AM
“To the beautiful blond with the black shirt (didn't catch her name) I feel you sister!”

There’s a world of difference between any profile pics I’ve ever seen from MyTrueCompanion in our LONG history of coexisting on POF together and SOME of your profile pics. Cleavage isn’t really the problem. Both of you are too pretty and voluptuous not to attract a gigantic brood of men no matter what you’re wearing. The big issue is your couple of pictures in which you’re lying on a bed in borderline lingerie with a come hither look – and even then, the issue is not the men you’re attracting with that look, but the men you’re *turning off* with that look. You’re basically saying you want a better quality of man to contact you, but many “better quality” men who have no issue whatsoever with you wearing nice cleavage-baring tops and shorter skirts in public will look at those pictures and, rightly or wrongly, decide you are not the type of girl for them – I mean, the third word in your “About Me” (moral) many would consider a bit of a contradiction to your pictures, unfortunately.

Now *I* am not one of those guys. But I still might not contact you, because I might not believe you are real. You gotta understand, there’s a lot of that going on with this site: scams, fake profiles, etc. And the sexier a woman dresses (or not dresses) in her pics, the more likely she is fake. In your case, I’d probably lean toward “real,” because you have multiple pictures and a fairly complete profile, but I also have 12 years of experience on this site spotting fakes – some “great guy” that’s been on here a couple of weeks and been scammed/attempted scammed several times might not realize the telltale signs of a fake profile beyond “sexy pics” and skip right on by yours just based on the main telltale sign, “sexy pics.”

You’re probably going to ignore me because you think I’m just “slut-shaming” you, but if you knew me better, you’d know I’m the last guy on earth to do that to a woman – hell, I have actually lost interest in women because they never dressed sexy around/with me. I’m just trying to be helpful by giving you a male point-of-view that you haven’t considered, because for the most part I feel like you’re just getting a bunch of judgment from a bunch of Victorians. (BTW, your profile wording in general is now very positive and enchanting for pretty much any guy -- I'm pretty sure it was different with quite a bit of negativity when I read it before and a couple of posts in this thread suggests that.)
 GodlessGal
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Posted: 2/15/2019 5:59:59 AM
You arent one of those men hawking, because you dont have a reason to be so insecure you need your woman to cover head to toe so that you never have to exert yourself to protect her or worry about losing her.

I lived in Turkey, I was married to a Muslim, i lived under a veil for many years (funny how women who were with with more men than me and never lived under a veil can call me a whore, but I digress) the ONLY men I ever seen in that experience (and in the west) were either very bad learners, bad addicts, not attractive, weak compared to other men, etc and so they convinced themselves the only way to keep a woman with their inferior ass was to impede her socialization in every possible way. Men who have their crap together dont need to to take such measures.

(My profile wasnt ever really negative. Just like I'm not really a huge whore. People like to buttress their gossip with invention to make their unfounde opinions stick)

Wish more people were like you in general! I can take constructive criticism, I just dont tolerate abusive behavior.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 2/15/2019 6:20:28 AM
"Says the transexual who is mad because I told him his skirt wearing doesn't equate to real womanhood, and ever since has stalked many of my posts deliberately to respond negatively. Go put on some more lipstick, buffalo bill." - GodlessGal

Pfffffttt!!! HAHAHHAAHAHA

I am sorry Godless, but that is too funny! If I am trans, I am failing miserably at it. I know I don't got a picture up, but damn that is hilarious!!! Oh my god! ROFL!!!
Just because I stick up for some other groups equal rights does not mean I am one of them. I have family who are trans and I watched their struggles. I support them whole heartedly in their pursuit of equal rights.

Ummm, I wouldn't have to call you out so much if you didn't try to spread bigotry against a group that has no real voice on these forums.

But, I digress, we are going off topic big time.


Pertaining to this topic. I think you got some real solid advice from all the ladies here, and you have the option of following it or throwing it away. It seems you chose the latter, which is your choice, but it also means you are still on the same path attracting the same type of guys.
honestly, despite our disagreements, I do not hate you or wish you ill will. I just called out the bigotry and the sexist behavior in our interactions, though I admit I went too far in saying you liked the attention. I am sorry.
 whiterose0
Joined: 2/3/2009
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Posted: 2/15/2019 8:17:55 AM

The big issue is your couple of pictures in which you’re lying on a bed in borderline lingerie with a come hither look – and even then, the issue is not the men you’re attracting with that look, but the men you’re *turning off* with that look. You’re basically saying you want a better quality of man to contact you, but many “better quality” men who have no issue whatsoever with you wearing nice cleavage-baring tops and shorter skirts in public will look at those pictures and, rightly or wrongly, decide you are not the type of girl for them – I mean, the third word in your “About Me” (moral) many would consider a bit of a contradiction to your pictures, unfortunately.


I agree with Hawking on this. There's nothing wrong with short skirts and lower cut tops per se. It's the way you're posed on the bed with your skirt hiked all the way up. Most of your pics are taken from odd camera angles from above that zero in on your chest.

You've had the same photos in three different profiles: blasphemousbombshell, MadameBoisseau, and now GodlessGal. You're no babe in the woods. Maybe you should consider changing things up a bit for better results with men - get some new pics with you standing up and showing your whole body, and not taken on a bed or with trick camera angles. Much classier that way.
 MyTrueCompanion
Joined: 9/20/2018
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Posted: 2/15/2019 8:37:56 AM
Hawking & GG I spent some time writing a response to your very awesome posts & sadly the internet gods zapped it someplace in Cyberspace.

Personally, I find both of you Mavericks who should continue to march to the beat of your own drums & not take wooden nickels from The Henny Pennys that seem to lay eggs all over his forum ;0P

Better to be king for a night than schmuck for a lifetime!

Rupert Pupkin

The King of Comedy (1983 film)
 MyTrueCompanion
Joined: 9/20/2018
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Posted: 2/15/2019 8:42:05 AM

You've had the same photos in three different profiles: blasphemousbombshell, MadameBoisseau, and now GodlessGal. You're no babe in the woods. Maybe you should consider changing things up a bit for better results with men - get some new pics with you standing up and showing your whole body, and not taken on a bed or with trick camera angles. Much classier that way.


^^^
That post sounds like a bitter old gal whose shelf life is beyond it's expiration date.


Vintage H. Skies, I wonder if her attorney BF forbade her to post, so she came back as someone else, or if she got dumped & is too embarrassed to come back as herself?
 basilisk123
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Posted: 2/15/2019 9:01:07 AM
"Anybody want some?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSb7mlz7Hag"-spectrallight

Lol, I have to admit, this is pretty fun!
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
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Posted: 2/15/2019 9:46:19 AM

Vintage H. Skies, I wonder if her attorney BF forbade her to post, so she came back as someone else, or if she got dumped & is too embarrassed to come back as herself?


Why do you keep doing this?
If anyone is proficient in the use of other profiles and sock puppets...it's you.
Any why are women who criticize others either jealous or dried up or bitter old
gals?

Come on Angel. You used to be better than that.
 SurelyIamShirley
Joined: 7/22/2016
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Posted: 2/15/2019 10:11:17 AM
Finally, I can thank those who said some really nice things to me. You know who you are.

Regarding the woman in the 'escort' outfit, I'm done here. Your initial complaint is in total contradiction to your responses to the construction criticism that many offered. Carry on and enjoy!

P.S. I've never had a profile under a different user name, Miss Sock Puppet.
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Posted: 2/15/2019 11:01:13 AM

why are women who criticize others either jealous or dried up or bitter old gals?

Exactly. I find it reductive, repetitive and offensive that the same profiles accusing women of "pulling out the sexist trope" in support of the patriarchy on women's attire are the first to fall back on the tired old trope of "jealous, catty women" as a reason for those opinions.


5 Reasons The Catty Woman Trope Has Got To Go, Because It's Fueling The Patriarchy
By SUZANNAH WEISS
June 27 2016

"Women are catty." "Most of my friends are guys." "Women are meaner to each other than men are." You've probably heard these claims from women and men alike. But their commonality doesn't make them true. There are so many reasons this catty woman trope has got to go. Yes, plenty of people have been victims of Mean Girls-style bullying, but when we perpetuate the idea that women are generally, exclusively, and inherently catty, we hurt all women.

Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg and psychologist Adam Grant recently addressed this "mean girl" myth in a New York Times article:

Sheryl Sandberg on the Myth of the Catty Woman http://nyti.ms/28PpFnY "Women aren’t any meaner to women than men are to one another".

They cite a study in the Strategic Management Journal showing that actually, in workplace settings, women have an easier time climbing the corporate ladder when the chief executive is another woman. The person blocking women from moving up is most often a man. Sandberg and Grant cite a number of other studies showing that women tend to create more opportunities for women, not plot and scheme against them as stereotype would suggest.

Aside from being untrue, the "catty woman" trope is all kinds of problematic. Here are a few reasons we really need to get over this idea that women are catty.

1. It Perpetuates The Belief That Women Are Their Own Biggest Threat
The "catty girl" stereotype sometimes comes up in discussions about feminism. "But women experience the most sexism from other women," the argument goes. It all comes back to that same stereotype of jealous, catty women. This erases the fact that even though women may perpetuate patriarchal conventions, they didn't create them. Women are not women's greatest enemy, and neither are men — patriarchy is. The idea that women just decide on their own to make one another's lives more difficult is completely ridiculous and insulting.

2. It Perpetuates The "Cool Girl" Trope
When we talk about how catty women supposedly are, we encourage women to pride themselves on being "different." "You're not your average girl" has become a compliment, and saying "all my friends are guys" has become a form of bragging. Because people view women as catty, women feel pressure to separate themselves from their gender as a whole. The problem is, when we compliment someone on the grounds that they are not, well, who they are, we're really insulting them. We're also pitting women against one another by forcing them to choose between being associated with women and being highly regarded.

3. It Masks Actual Anger And Aggression In Women
The idea of the "catty" woman is often used to discount actual aggression and anger. Even the name is trivializing: When women are angry, they're depicted like little kittens clawing and scratching. Men's anger is often viewed as justified and even noble if it's about an important cause. When women are angry, they're supposedly just being hormonal or feisty. Men cause actual damage, we're taught, while women's anger is smaller — cute, even. Perhaps we're afraid to acknowledge that women have very powerful, real anger and aggression that can be used in both positive as negative ways — and this can have much more severe consequences than a cat ever could.

4. It Diminishes Women's Potential To Be Allies
When women are warned about one another and their "cattiness," they're taught that they can't trust other women. Rather than helping one another face sexism and all the other challenges live throws at them, they learn to keep one eye open and view one another as competition, especially for men.

5. It Promotes A Negative View Of Women
It goes without saying that the "catty" stereotype is not a positive one. It depicts women as myopic, unpleasant, and untrustworthy. While there certainly are women (and people of all genders) with these traits and women should not be put on a pedestal or heralded as angelic either, we definitely don't need another negative idea about women, and that's just what the "catty" stereotype is.
 BaldwinMotionPhaseIII
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Posted: 2/15/2019 11:43:15 AM
"I feel terrible for your girls to be raised with such sexism, self loathing and capitulation to patriarchy."
"I lived under a veil for many years"

>>ah, to watch someone with a chip on their shoulder, seeking the right person to knock it off. we wonder if they are even conscious of the walls they put up for the right person to crawl over. Barriers that, in fact, distract the right person they are seeking for confirmation, while instead attracting others with something to prove. this debate about profile pix isn't new, there used to be NDTFan who insisted she couldn't leave the house without getting molested like a cast member of TWD. she had some support, too, until i asked what middle aged women she worked with thought of her revealing clothes. then she posited the old hags were just jealous they couldn't look as hot as her :) oy vey. but its nice to see as we get older, more of us get onto the same page. we can ad hominim someone for the advice they give that we don't like b/c it strikes at the heart of identity...however...even stopped clocks are right twice a day.

In a healthy relationship, we initially give a little to get a little, as AM70 was suggesting. we present ourselves as a stranger wants to see us, and if we're smart we know how far to go before we lose ourselves. once we've gained some seniority in the relationship, then we can be as eccentric in our uniform as we wish. Yes, there are pervs around, but it doesn't help the argument any when the person making it is offering them bait as a way to fight, "i won't be that person that you fantacize i am based on how i present myself to you!". pervs don't look at profiles, and so they won't see what Hawking pointed out. the people who look at profiles, of course look at the photos as well, and i'm sure some will say, "obviously she's looking for a man who dresses like her, and has the sexual confidence to do a bedroom photo like that...and i'm not in that league so i won't waste time". and others will find it a challenge to "win over" that vamp.

ultimately, the definition of insanity is to repeat behavior expecting a different response. if you keep doing something that fails and fails and fails, then its obvious your goal isn't to succeed, but to attempt to prove something. When we get the same results with different people...we are the constant.
 MyTrueCompanion
Joined: 9/20/2018
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Posted: 2/15/2019 12:41:40 PM
There are some men, regardless of how we present ourselves who will be respectful & some will be pervs regardless of how we obfuscate our "charms".

Dressing in a certain manner doesn't give anyone any right to be sexually aggressive towards them.
 _Rise_Above_This_
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Posted: 2/15/2019 1:21:25 PM

obfuscate?

You know you're getting old when you need to use a dictionary.
 GodlessGal
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Posted: 2/15/2019 1:25:17 PM

Ummm, I wouldn't have to call you out so much if you didn't try to spread bigotry against a group that has no real voice on these forums. 


You label women sexists & bigots for not wanting to get naked with physically Male people. That's the same manipulative crap men always pull: "let me stick the tip in or I'll call you a tease and a ****!" Anyone with a brain can see the game you are trying to run, make a lady skin suit of another woman ed gein. This one wont fall for your gas lighting.
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