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 GodlessGal
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What's funny is I made another profile after a year haitus because my last one was reported. The narcissists in here who harp non stop on people who wont cheerlead for them report until they get users removed. Then they act like the user making a new profile is some weird behavior. I supposedly have all same photos but many miracuoulsy have recent time stamps, but even if I took a new one right now, the jealous hags up in would scream I look like a slut in them anyways because I have big boobs in every angle.
 GodlessGal
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Posted: 2/15/2019 1:42:51 PM
There is no reason to call some woman or girl you dont know and never did anything to you, a whore or a slut. The ONLY reason why that verbiage is used is specifically to attack a woman, to go after her esteem and make her feel shame and cause shame. And for what crime? What EXACTLY did the woman do so horrible to make you irate enough to try and cut her like that? Because her appearance mak es you feel like you have to compete, THATS what it is. I have NEVER insulted a woman for looking how she wanted in ALL my years. But that's because I'm not a petty, envious, buffoon.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 2/15/2019 1:56:48 PM
"You label women sexists & bigots for not wanting to get naked with physically Male people. That's the same manipulative crap men always pull: "let me stick the tip in or I'll call you a tease and a ****!" Anyone with a brain can see the game you are trying to run, make a lady skin suit of another woman ed gein. This one wont fall for your gas lighting. "-GodlessGal


huh? what are you smoking? I never said you have to sleep with anyone. Who says stuff like that?

Then you compare me to a serial killer on silence of the lambs, or something.
Even if I wanted to, I don't have to make you look crazy at all, because you are doing a damn good job of it all by yourself.


Now calm down, drink some chamomile tea, or go play with a kitten or something. Come back afterwards and try not to act like you are in junior high, hopped up on pixie sticks.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 2/15/2019 2:49:32 PM

I think the fact that the type of man attracted to me, is NOT the type of man I am into, is part of my problem.

I think that is an issue people (of all types) have, and not fully realizing it. How they project themselves doesn't reel in the type of people of what they're ultimately attracted to. Extreme example just to point out the concept:
I dress in goth, but damn, I am NOT into goth girls. What is it with these goth girls asking for my #??"

I have a really curvy body and that attracts shallow types looking for a romp

Having a curvy/busty body, or having a slim/slender body -- or any body type -- if attractive, is going to draw in shallow guys and non-shallow guys. Shallow guys (and non-shallow guys) don't walk past attractive women. When emotionally sensitive, you'll feel it's "only" shallow guys. Especially when the kind of guys you DO like aren't into your Style that goes along with it (as noted above).

I couldn't be more turned off by the idea of a meaningless roll in the hay with someone who uses appearance as their main measuring stick.

People use appearance as their main INITIAL measuring stick online, whether they realize it or not. Appearance also conveys "type". Your pictures/style, the way you convey yourself in them, tell a completely different picture than what you're conveying in words. It's not that far off from my 'goth' example. Pride gets in our way, but pride in it's most common form, is not a good thing. It makes us not want to modify/change or accept being wrong when someone we don't like points out a real issue/flaw. Some people take pride in their gut-feeling, their way of life as The way, almost as if it's a religion. It's a clear sign of low self-esteem.
 MyTrueCompanion
Joined: 9/20/2018
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Posted: 2/15/2019 2:58:26 PM

What's funny is I made another profile after a year haitus because my last one was reported.
I can relate


The narcissists in here who harp non stop on people who wont cheerlead for them report until they get users removed.
yes, the nuking committee


Then they act like the user making a new profile is some weird behavior.
They r trying to flip the script


supposedly have all same photos but many miracuoulsy have recent time stamps, but even if I took a new one right now, the jealous hags up in would scream I look like a slut in them anyways because I have big boobs in every angle.
you said it!


There is no reason to call some woman or girl you dont know and never did anything to you, a whore or a slut. The ONLY reason why that verbiage is used is specifically to attack a woman, to go after her esteem and make her feel shame and cause shame. And for what crime? What EXACTLY did the woman do so horrible to make you irate enough to try and cut her like that? Because her appearance mak es you feel like you have to compete, THATS what it is. I have NEVER insulted a woman for looking how she wanted in ALL my years. But that's because I'm not a petty, envious, buffoon.
I have, esp. when they look 1 way but complain about their love life , expecting to be treated another way. I get tired of the whining or the bad info, or the blind leading the blind. Many older women look like Estelle Getty/Sophia Petrillo (nothing wrong w/ that) & expect men to act like they are Sophia Loren/Sophia Vergara.

A friend who is familiar w/ this forum often tells me about an old proverb: "The uglier the monkey, the dirtier the tricks"!

A confident woman doesn't play nuking committee or gang up w/ the main Mean Girl/Queen Bee, acting as the wanna-bees.
 flaneur001
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 2/15/2019 5:52:06 PM
GodlessGal:

I lived in Turkey, I was married to a Muslim, i lived under a veil for many years (funny how women who were with with more men than me and never lived under a veil can call me a whore, but I digress) the ONLY men I ever seen in that experience (and in the west) were either very bad learners, bad addicts, not attractive, weak compared to other men, etc and so they convinced themselves the only way to keep a woman with their inferior ass was to impede her socialization in every possible way.


GG, context helps, this particular post was very illuminating. I can't imagine how difficult (traumatizing) it must have been for someone who is strong and independent to be subjected to this form of domestic totalitarian control. I'm sure there is a complicated story behind this, especially if you were navigating all of this while raising and protecting your child(ren. )

I wonder if part of the reason you dress the way you do is a larger statement you're making. A response to your experience of totalitarian control. "Don't even think you can judge me, tell me what to wear and how to think. I am never going to be in a situation where I am disempowered. I like the way I dress...Period!"

Although I'm at odds with some of your responses to forum members, I do feel empathy and compassion for your struggles.

Natalie
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 2/15/2019 6:00:51 PM
Funny thing is.....
None of us would be having this discussion if the Madam hadn't started it with her comments about attracting the wrong kind of men.

The fact she can't seem to fathom that the reason is staring us all right in the face is her problem....not us "hags".

She acts like she's the only one in these forums with big ole' boobies!!
I've been carrying around my own set for many years.....and while the do garner their fair share of attention in the real world....
I choose to not to make them the star of the show.

“While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions.” Stephen R.Covey

BTW......there is a huge difference between calling a woman a whore/slut and trying to explain to her that her appearance gives that impression.
 GodlessGal
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Posted: 2/15/2019 6:33:12 PM

Funny thing is.....
None of us would be having this discussion if the Madam hadn't started it with her comments about attracting the wrong kind of men.


I agree there is a huge difference between calling a woman a whore/slut and trying to comment about impressions - so that's why you should go back and read exactly the kind of crap said here. Yes, I made a comment about attracting the wrong kind of men, I thanked someone for a suggestion and was seriously thinking about it, then some total morons on here took it for three pages calling me a whore, slut, say I have no self respect, am stupid, damaged, blah etc. So lets not pretend that their reaction was normal in response to my comment. Certain people deliberately hopped on my comment to use it to be verbally abusive.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 2/15/2019 7:04:55 PM

then some total morons on here took it for three pages calling me a whore, slut, say I have no self respect, am stupid, damaged, blah etc


Uhm.....exactly where are these name calling posts you are referring to??
I have read every post since your first comment and don't see one person actually calling you any of those names.
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 2/15/2019 9:59:35 PM

We all realize by the teenage years there are attractive and unattractive traits and we must compensate for them. Complaining, rather than addressing, does nothing but make one look like a self pitying narcisisst.
this was posted by her shortly before she started 'complaining rather than addressing'! since then, she has directly or indirectly insulted all except those that commented nicely about her tits. but don't look at her tits, that's sexist!
 basilisk123
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Posted: 2/16/2019 2:08:50 AM


edit: nevermind I found that post in another thread.
 GodlessGal
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Posted: 2/16/2019 6:12:03 AM
Stop with the pretending I'm seeing insult where none is. Do you really think the transexual following me across numerous threads, bringing up a past profile that he knowingly repeatedly reported, was relative to the conversation? He brought that up without saying why my profile changed and then also lying about my photos for one reason: to cause more drama. This isnt a constructive conversation, this is exactly what I said, a psycho transexual, a woman hating mra, and a couple of jealous hags having a verbal abuse session. You can make 5,000 more pages trying to contest that, I'll never relent one single inch.
 spot4username
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Posted: 2/16/2019 8:22:52 AM

This thread has turned into comedy gold.
 SurelyIamShirley
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Posted: 2/16/2019 10:49:54 AM
Now GG.
You just don't make any sense.
 flaneur001
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Posted: 2/16/2019 11:16:46 AM
Basilisk, I tried to send you a private message but you have restrictions on your mail so it wouldn't go through. Any chance you could change your settings so I can send my note to you?
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 2/16/2019 11:58:18 AM
From experience of using other forums most men looking for sex will literally fcuk anything, especiallywhen using online where their mates won't find out.
And i know all women online attract this type of guy because like i said above, they will literally fcuk anything.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 2/16/2019 12:10:02 PM

Basilisk, I tried to send you a private message but you have restrictions on your mail so it wouldn't go through. Any chance you could change your settings so I can send my note to you?


Since you're 25 years older than him, that won't be possible.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 2/16/2019 2:07:56 PM
Not once....I repeat.....not once did Basilik call you any of those names....

This one comment you are taking way too personally...and too far....

You are just as dirty and damaged as everyone else on these forums.

You don't see the "everyone else on these forums" getting all butt hurt over it...and we were included!!

he even goes on to apologize....

I do not hate you or wish you ill will. I just called out the bigotry and the sexist behavior in our interactions, though I admit I went too far in saying you liked the attention. I am sorry.


but ...hey.....you are creating the drama in which you choose to live....
your pictures prove it....and your posts prove it....

I see no need for anyone here to offer anymore advise....you really don't want it....
you just want to draw more attention to your true agenda here......
 basilisk123
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Posted: 2/16/2019 2:25:52 PM
"Stop with the pretending I'm seeing insult where none is. Do you really think the transexual following me across numerous threads, bringing up a past profile that he knowingly repeatedly reported, was relative to the conversation? He brought that up without saying why my profile changed and then also lying about my photos for one reason: to cause more drama. This isnt a constructive conversation, this is exactly what I said, a psycho transexual, a woman hating mra, and a couple of jealous hags having a verbal abuse session. You can make 5,000 more pages trying to contest that, I'll never relent one single inch."-GodlessGal

1. Who is the transsexual? If you are referring to me, which I assume you are because you tried to paint me as one before in this thread, I only brought up your past deeds to highlight a pattern in your behavior and to call you out on a blatant lie. It isn't my fault you tried to lie and have tantrums.

2. I never followed you across threads, it is more like I ran into you in a couple of threads and decided to respond because our interests matched up (though we are on different sides of the debate)

3. I never reported you, even for your past comments. If I do, this place would get kind of dull. Every wrestling match needs a good heel. Why look at this circus you made all by your lonesome just now. Most trolls don't do this well.

4. It doesn't look like any of these other women are hags, or even jealous. They gave you good advice, and you insult them for it. It looks to me that your character is more fitting for the definition of the word, "hag".
 SurelyIamShirley
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Posted: 2/16/2019 10:12:11 PM
Thank you Basil and Ms Micki. No one called her names. They may be in her head....sadly. I already said and will say again that I feel sorry for her. I will add her to my prayers, in spite of being the atheist she claims to be. Everyone is worth saving. We can only offer our opinions which may seem judgemental to her. I don't think any of us meant it that way. We were just responding to her original complaint that only men who are interested in sex contact her and we tried to offer solutions based on what we saw in her photos and profile. We can't make anyone change unless they want to. Sadly.
 basilisk123
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Posted: 2/17/2019 1:47:09 AM
"Basilisk, I tried to send you a private message but you have restrictions on your mail so it wouldn't go through. Any chance you could change your settings so I can send my note to you?"-flaneur001

Sorry, I think it must be something inherent in their email systems. I have it set to receive any email, so it has to be something with PoF itself.
 SurelyIamShirley
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Posted: 2/17/2019 7:38:10 AM

then some total morons on here took it for three pages calling me a whore, slut, say I have no self respect, am stupid, damaged, blah etc.

I'm with Ms. Micki, Basil, White Rose and several others. No one referred to anyone in this thread with those names and labels although someone did suggest that you were doing better than any "troll". I'll go with that one.
 GodlessGal
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Posted: 2/17/2019 8:30:00 PM
Inicia makes a suggestion in response to my comment and I thank her, the topic should be over there, but it didn’t because:

SurelyIam went on to say:
“you are dressing in a way that represents who you believe you are.” “I have too much self respect and confidence in myself to think that I have to sail through life with my titz and azz on display in order to feel beautiful. I actually feel bad for you but you'll learn. “

“your photos would be terrific in the back pages and you would get lots of calls.”

“I would not have been caught dead dressed as you are outside of the bedroom or a Hallowe'en party. Get over yourself. There is more to a woman than a enormous set of ta tas and skimpy clothing.
You reap what you sow and guess what?
Dress slutty and complain that only pervs want to date you. Oh Boo Hoo. I've lost patience with you. Carry on attention seeker.”

“Regarding the woman in the 'escort' outfit, I'm done here.”

“No one called her names. They may be in her head....sadly. I already said and will say again that I feel sorry for her. I will add her to my prayers, in spite of being the atheist she claims to be. Everyone is worth saving. We can only offer our opinions which may seem judgmental to her. I don't think any of us meant it that way.


Reckoning me to a hooker? Telling me I have no self respect or confidence? Then pretend I’m nuts when I say you took it too far? Ohhhh, but you feel SORRY for me, because I’m delusional, and how silly of me to be an atheist, I need the pity and power of prayer for you to “save” me.

Its YOU who needs to “get over yourself”. Not only do I have self-esteem, but I’m no hooker, I’m probably more educated and have a better career than you, which is why I’m not a religious nut bag either. While earning my degree from Marquette in comparative religions I learned well what a sham your religion is. This “hooker” works every day saving people’s lives in the health field, which is a far more positive contribution to this world then sitting on an internet forum stroking my own narcissistic ego pretending to "save people" with prayer from my own judgment because I was brainwashed into a patriarchal cult. Maybe you should worry more about your good deeds before condemning women as sinners for not adhering to your dress code. Or better yet: try reading your own damn bible, so you can learn about Jesus's best friend Mary, a hooker, ironically enough...

I could go on and on pointing out all the crap written here the last few pages that MsMicki conveniently can't see from the weirdo conspiracy accusations that I seek to tease men only to condemn their lust, to the accusation that I seek to create drama and “weaponize” my breasts to “put men down”

This situation is simple: I considered Inicia’s advise, I will handle my situation as I wish and don't need further commentary, my situation doesn’t require 4 pages of complaining because some self important people feel the need to virtue signal as a stroke to their own bloated egos. But since some people persist, they shouldn’t be surprised to read me telling them to go F themselves. As I said before: I won’t relent one single inch.
 MyTrueCompanion
Joined: 9/20/2018
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Posted: 2/18/2019 5:02:48 AM

petty, envious, buffoon

jealous hags


In the past, I've seen the same group go after a stunning woman named Eternity, a pretty & shapely nurse named Karma & a pretty older gal named LH. Currently, you & I are targets.

The ppl who are associated w/ the descriptors in the quote box either are alone or in unsatisfying relationships & project onto what they see as competition. Many have aged & can no longer use their sex appeal or sex to manipulate & are bitter.

They lie, twist things, try to shame & have a nuking committee.

If you & I left or were u, they'd find a new target.

If you read their posting histories, you'd see...but your a smart cookie & u already know this.

IRL I only associate w/ smart & secure women who don't engage this way, sadly there are few & far between (at my age)

In case I get nuked, I want to thank you GG & tell you how much I like your posts!
Any expectations of who would be attracted to you?
Posted: 2/18/2019 5:15:47 AM

I could go on and on pointing out all the crap written here the last few pages that MsMicki conveniently can't see

I agree, ironic how some posts are conveniently skipped over.



“you are dressing in a way that represents who you believe you are.” “I have too much self respect and confidence in myself to think that I have to sail through life with my titz and azz on display in order to feel beautiful. I actually feel bad for you but you'll learn. “

“your photos would be terrific in the back pages and you would get lots of calls.”

“I would not have been caught dead dressed as you are outside of the bedroom or a Hallowe'en party. Get over yourself. There is more to a woman than a enormous set of ta tas and skimpy clothing.
You reap what you sow and guess what?
Dress slutty and complain that only pervs want to date you. Oh Boo Hoo. I've lost patience with you. Carry on attention seeker.”

“Regarding the woman in the 'escort' outfit, I'm done here.”

“No one called her names. They may be in her head....sadly. I already said and will say again that I feel sorry for her. I will add her to my prayers, in spite of being the atheist she claims to be. Everyone is worth saving. We can only offer our opinions which may seem judgmental to her. I don't think any of us meant it that way


The shaming language in this post is quite vivid. To say it is anything else is being willfully blind. You may not have come right out and called this poster a slut but its quite clear that is what you're suggesting.
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