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 NewYorker58
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Lulz, why don't you have a pic, especially since you know it attracts desperados?
 lulz567
Joined: 7/6/2018
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Any expectations of who would be attracted to you?
Posted: 7/9/2018 7:06:30 PM
Its too soon to know if it’s a good avenue so I’m testing it out slowly to get a feel for it. It’s half hearted attempt not that I’m a time waster its just if I do feel it’s a good avenue or string to my bow I’ll plunge in and possibly line up lots of different dates often and give it quite a bit of time so I will need to know first if it’s worth it with online dating.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
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Posted: 7/9/2018 9:01:44 PM

Yeah, they're less visual. That's why they're busting down the doors of ugly men with well-written profiles, eh?

Less visual my ass.


less visual doesn't mean deaf, dumb and blind.

I think it's pretty obvious, whats the ratio between chippendales type places and strip joints / lap dance joints? 100:1?

Now if you think about harlequin romance novels Vs whatever men read, it tells us something else, not sure what. I have zero interest in romance novels.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/9/2018 9:33:56 PM
I think male strip joints aren't as prevalent because women have been socialized to not show their sexual side that way by going to them. It's not socially acceptable. If you ever speak to a woman that's gone to one, she'll tell you the women go berserk, screaming and yelling and having fun there.
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
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Posted: 7/9/2018 9:43:28 PM
Male strip clubs are very fun but not sexually appealing at all. Half-naked, oily men (who are probably gay) wearing G-strings gyrating on my or other women's laps is pure comedy. Who would even take that seriously? I went to a male strip joint in New Orleans and I was laughing the entire time, probably due to the sheer goofiness I was witnessing and consuming 4 double gin & tonics.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/9/2018 9:57:01 PM
They have those shows every so often at the Muck.

I've gone once in NY. I know many are gay or bi, like with female strippers, but I enjoy their dancing and think it's hot. I like watching men dance, like some of the guys on DWTS. The women going crazy is funny, and how the guys interact with the ladies.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 9/9/2018 12:01:13 AM
Sadly, I've learned that there are virtually no women interested in me; statistics say <1%, and then of course I have to consider all the normal compatibility issues. Molested as a kid, a couple of decades of gender identity dysphoria, add in the difficulty in having intercourse due to flashbacks to the sexual abuse, and I'm simply not the standard issue, always erect in a moment, male, that women have grown to expect and are attracted to. Oh, they feel sorry for me, and some are friends, but sexual attraction? Nope. Doesn't happen. Basically, I'm like one of the dented cans of food in the grocery cart at the front of the grocery store, with no label, being sold off at a huge discount just to get someone to buy it to get it out of the store. Maybe I should start a 'dented can' club of psychologically damaged people where we can all get together once in a while to reassure ourselves that there's always an outside chance we'll meet someone in life. Oh, I've learned all the other social and sexual skills, but true romance evades me once the woman learns more about me. I feel destined to a lifetime of short term, eventually failed relationships.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
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Posted: 9/9/2018 1:13:59 AM

Male strip clubs are very fun but not sexually appealing at all. Half-naked, oily men (who are probably gay) wearing G-strings gyrating on my or other women's laps is pure comedy. Who would even take that seriously? I went to a male strip joint in New Orleans and I was laughing the entire time, probably due to the sheer goofiness I was witnessing and consuming 4 double gin & tonics.


Therein lies the difference between men and women.

I don't really like places like that, but if a half naked woman gives me a lap dance I will get horney regardless of whether intellectually I know she is just going through the motions. Especially at the age of 20-45, I will take it seriously regardless of what I know intellectually.

I don't think I would fall for "she really loves me" but I know a lot of men do.
 purplerider1200
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Posted: 9/9/2018 6:45:47 AM

I think male strip joints aren't as prevalent because women have been socialized to not show their sexual side that way by going to them. It's not socially acceptable. If you ever speak to a woman that's gone to one, she'll tell you the women go berserk, screaming and yelling and having fun there.


The polar opposite of what men do in a female strip club. I haven't been in years, but it used to be that men sat quietly, watching. It might have changed since then, but I highly doubt it. It kinda reminded me of a bunch of school boys with the teacher watching them like a hawk. No rude gestures, no inappropriate touching. (For fear of being tossed out) That was a long time ago, and I haven't been in ages.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 9/9/2018 7:44:40 AM

Posted By: lulz567 on 7/9/2018 727 PM
Subject: Any expectations of who would be attracted to you?
Message: I can’t say I’m that analytical about it. I do know that I have over twenty messages(some I’ve replied too) with no picture up so that tells you how ultra fussy some guys are on here! My profile isn’t award winning either like bare minimum I exist sort of thing took me four seconds
so I’m thinking I’m attracting “I’m desperate” at moment . Not much of a turn on. Will bin them if I progress further with profile.


Maybe you are attracting "I'm intrigued" at the moment.
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 9/9/2018 9:18:07 AM
so you put up a profile with no pic ant then assume any who respond are desperate? why even bother having one at all?
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 9/9/2018 9:50:48 PM
I agree. As for dipping a toe in the water either plunge in or forget it.
 bearcat44
Joined: 10/24/2014
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Posted: 10/19/2018 10:19:01 AM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iVXdxaaRiAU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pPGijYBaVE&t=95s
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 10/24/2018 5:24:16 PM
Not too many people are attracted to me and I'm not really attracted to very many people online. Even if I was just judging attractiveness on a physical basis there's probably only about 1 out of every 75 people I see that I think look remotely appealing in my area. I'm more attracted to how someone acts and what they say so it's really hard to find many people attractive on a dating site since it's all about judging someone from a pic and short paragraph or two.
 _Cinnamon__Girl_
Joined: 3/28/2016
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Posted: 11/24/2018 8:55:06 PM
Judging from the type of guys I usually get messages from, I'd say horny, illiterates, without a job or car are attracted to me. Very unfortunately.
 ponyelvis82
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Posted: 12/6/2018 3:04:40 PM
Online: You know that girl that has never put any care at all into how she looks. Clearly hasn't showered anywhere within a few days of every single picture. A lot of times, the low level of hygiene and personal care has her looking more like a drug-addicted man than a woman? That's what's attracted to me on here, and almost all that ever sends anything to me. Besides the fake porn star profiles.

Offline: No idea. I attract people who I would never expect to have any shot with, unfortunately, I can be clueless and don't catch on until it's too late, usually after she tells me she used to be a year later now that she's engaged. And a lot of times, it's the people that I have enough chance to talk and have a conversation with. That's kind of my strong point. It's great for these sites when they respond, I can do great from that point, the challenge is getting that response.
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