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 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 26
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^^still cheaper than Air Force Amy & a round trip ticket to Parumph Nevada

Poor is the man pleasure depends on the permission of others!
 PennyAnte
Joined: 4/17/2016
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Posted: 5/22/2018 7:37:57 PM
77 wrote: These guys are nuts.

You would not believe what some of these guys want dom to their nuts.
 CBGB77
Joined: 12/15/2017
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Posted: 5/22/2018 8:17:24 PM

Posted By: BLONDE_ANGEL_1 on 5/22/2018 813 PM
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Message: ^^still cheaper than Air Force Amy & a round trip ticket to Parumph Nevada


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4dAqEDsEmXw
 reverendswine
Joined: 4/14/2018
Msg: 29
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Posted: 5/23/2018 6:17:02 AM
Oh, boy. There is clearly confusion here between pros, lifestylers, and hookers with a whip.

Any woman who thinks she has a guaranteed Insta-Pro-Domme path to a lifetime of fortune by simply purchasing some equipment, clothing, and a desire to dominate men is in for a rude awakening.

But hey, don't take my word for it. Go get yo' money, girl.
 backcreek7
Joined: 12/2/2014
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Posted: 5/23/2018 6:57:10 AM
dominance & submission ~ boc > Blue Oyster Cult
although this song is about a young man losing his innocence ( way way way back in the 60's ) & doesn't apply here ...

with lyrics like " in times square, people do the polka " & " Susan and her brother, Charles the grinning boy ~ put me in the back seat & they took me for a ride "

^^^ it's still a cool song & check another of their songs " I LOVE THE NIGHT " by Blue Oyster Cult ( a haunting melody )


> turn them up ^
heart / sun
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 31
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Posted: 5/23/2018 7:43:02 AM

77 wrote: These guys are nuts.

You would not believe what some of these guys want dom to their nuts.


This is easily one of my all time top 10 fav POF posts!


Oh, boy. There is clearly confusion here between pros, lifestylers, and hookers with a whip.

Any woman who thinks she has a guaranteed Insta-Pro-Domme path to a lifetime of fortune by simply purchasing some equipment, clothing, and a desire to dominate men is in for a rude awakening.


Not my circus, not my monkey. But there is prob some sap out there who would buy into it
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 5/24/2018 6:12:44 AM
Seeing as most guys just want pegging i think there's not much equipment needed at all.
 jco415
Joined: 1/4/2017
Msg: 33
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Posted: 5/26/2018 9:37:13 AM
I don't know about "most guys" but, I'm sure there are some.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 5/26/2018 10:07:58 AM
Most guys who approach me do. Only if they know you're dominant though, vanilla guys won't ask for that stuff.
 jco415
Joined: 1/4/2017
Msg: 35
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Posted: 5/26/2018 12:10:37 PM
I had one GF that attempted to insert a finger while doing oral...it freaked me out and never let it happen... that's as close as I've ever been.
That said if a sexually dominant woman said that's what she wanted, I would probably let her given the right circumstance, but I would never seek that out.
Through experience, I have discovered that although not a submissive, I do get mentally turned on by being sexually submissive to my woman and even incidental humiliation. In other words, doing or allowing her to do stuff I would never do otherwise to please her. One example is seeing her taken by another man...VERY humiliating (In my own head, neither of them actively were trying to humiliate me in any way.).
I found it all a very nice break from my usual role of being dominant (Not in a BDSM way...just dominant in general.).

I cannot stand the leather=clad dominatrix, bossy type though....the woman I could submit to would be suggestive, sensual and demanding in a soft way...gets me every time.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 5/26/2018 5:46:05 PM
I'm never gonna meet anyone off here anyway so don't mind publicly admitting that i found a lot of guys love a finger up the bum during oral, especially the vanilla ones as they think it's 'dirty'. The more kinky ones just seem to want something bigger, lol.

All that other stuff is very hot, thanks for sharing.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 5/26/2018 5:54:02 PM
I like variety, but not that variety.

How some can get pleasure from pain is beyond me. Broken bones, smashed fingers, or the memorial day weekend where I was awake for three days straight because of a bulged disc in my back is not my idea of sexual pleasure. I looked at those suggested websites. The way those women were dressed was interesting, but my interest stopped at that point.

You ladies want to whip something? Ok, go whip up a meal.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 38
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Posted: 5/26/2018 6:36:13 PM
I can’t figure out if this thread is supposed to be about a female leading a relationship or about woman being dominant sexually. These are two different things.
 feirene
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Posted: 5/26/2018 8:11:40 PM
Think we scared the OP off by saying it's not just about the sex, he may come back when he notices the mild sex chat.

In order to maintain the most dominant quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.
Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread.
 jco415
Joined: 1/4/2017
Msg: 40
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Posted: 5/26/2018 9:22:16 PM

I can’t figure out if this thread is supposed to be about a female leading a relationship or about woman being dominant sexually. These are two different things.
There's probably much overlap.
Female Led Relationships
Posted: 5/27/2018 3:09:15 AM
ReverendSwine:

...the fact of the matter is, a D/s relationship is about symbiosis, not hierarchy...

Correct. Many confuse submission with humiliation. Submission with being a second-class member of the relationship. A true D/s relationship...in which there is equality and "love"...can be extremely wonderful for some who're involved in such things. There can be more respect and equality in these things than you find in many traditional chivalrous relationships...which I find to be very odd.

It should also be noted the great similarities, yet strange internal contradictions, with ideas of chivalry, relationship patriarchy, and some people's ideas of what female-led D/s relationships are all about - According to some posters, a conventional relationship in which a man pays for dates and opens car doors seems the same as a female-led relationship. That's too funny.
 reverendswine
Joined: 4/14/2018
Msg: 42
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Posted: 5/28/2018 12:18:20 PM

Seeing as most guys just want pegging i think there's not much equipment needed at all.


If a woman is aspiring to be a pro, her chances of success are greater with catering to a wider variety of kinks, which will inevitably require equipment and clothing. Being a pro makes what she's doing a business, and with that comes competition.
 feirene
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Posted: 5/28/2018 12:49:03 PM
CBA to quote (it's too hot here).

It was sarcasm about the pegging (even OP mentioned it himself), most guys approach me with butt stuff in mind unless i mention what i'm into and then it's guys wanting to try that out. It's really rare a guy is truly submissive, he usually heads on over expected to get his needs met with no consideration for mine apart that he thinks i am wanting to meet them for him, that to me implies he doesn't care mainly and is definitely not being passive.

If a woman wanted to be pro she could take clients to clubs even, all the equipment is there. It's not as discreet but if she didn't tell anyone then nobody would know. Guys will buy you stuff also, if they're certain you're legit, so there's no worry about getting clothes and that. I've had a guy offer to pay me to peg him and buy the strap-on, a lot of these guys have strap-ons of their own. So if you wanted to set yourself up all you need is the space and because there are so many guys wanting to get their needs met there is also a lot of them willing to finance that.

I don't think being submissive/dominant is a lack of equality. I respected my very long term partner, he wasn't seen as anything unworthy to me and i admired a lot of his qualities, he just didn't mind me taking the lead role in our relationship and i was happy to do that. But yes it was symbiotic, all relationships are though, i doubt anyone would be with their partner if it did not benefit them to be. Not one sided symbiosis, no relationship should be, it should be that you are both happy with the status quo.

And humiliation is complicated, my last ex wanted that and i questioned him a lot on it but what he'd say to me was stuff i didn't understand so it never happened. Turned out he was topping me from the bottom anyway and half his ideas had come from porn and weren't even humiliation so that's probably why i never got him. And even people doing this stuff might not understand why/what they're doing either. I'm highly independent and used to looking after other people so naturally i like to remain in that role even if in a relationship but is also the reason why i don't care if i am in one.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 44
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Posted: 5/28/2018 9:38:45 PM

... half his ideas had come from porn and weren't even humiliation so that's probably why i never got him.


How do you know guys their ideas from watching porn? Is it not possible to imagine some things without porn?
 feirene
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Posted: 5/29/2018 5:38:52 AM

How do you know guys their ideas from watching porn? Is it not possible to imagine some things without porn?


I said my ex, not guys. Plus he told me how he got his fetish coz it was part of explaining what he wanted.
 wrighty901
Joined: 7/6/2018
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Posted: 1/26/2019 7:36:57 AM
this is the sort of relationship i have been seeking for a long time!
and its not about the sex side either its a relationship but one has to seek the approval from the dominant one but also its about the respect and caring!
and obviously the sexual control side to!

uk based here!
 omgherecomesb
Joined: 12/19/2017
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Posted: 2/17/2019 2:49:00 AM
Women dont want to lead, they want a lead-er.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 2/17/2019 4:11:23 AM
^^^^^ I do not think that is true at all. There are many different types of women. Some want to lead, some want to follow, some want to stand side by side, and others don't want to stand anywhere near anyone else. It is a wide world out there.
 julystorm22
Joined: 6/15/2018
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Posted: 2/17/2019 8:34:29 AM
I want someone who says what he wants. I think that's something that bugged me so much about the last guy I dated. He just wanted to do whatever I wanted to do and I had to initiate everything.
 basilisk123
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Posted: 2/17/2019 1:15:52 PM
^^^^^ So you are looking for an assertive man, it seems. Nothing wrong with that, and I think it is an extremely healthy option
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