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 julystorm22
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But what is "thin" in Los Angeles or Vancouver would be classified as anorexic and underweight in Texas and Saskatchewan. Its like in the movie The Devil Wears Prada when the main character is told she's fat when she's clearly thin but not by the fashion industry's standards.

I know a girl who's mother used to put her on diets in junior high because she insisted that her daughter needed to be a size 5. The daughter was clearly of a good shape, really beautiful but just not the same shape as her mother. The mom had zero boobs or hips while the daughter definitely had curves that developed. Unfortunately I think the mom really decimated her self-esteem because the daughter became the town ho. I was friends with her a long time but she was with a new guy every night and by the age of 20 was picking up guys 20 or 30 years older than her. And I know it was from lack of self-worth. I will also mention that the girl's sister had plastic surgery right after high school and from what I hear, by the age of 30 was having yearly surgeries to "fix" things. All the while that girl was really good-looking too until she began with the plastic surgeries.
 spot4username
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Posted: 9/13/2018 8:51:20 AM
I believe that what the majority of people object to is lying. Most people don't like a liar.

Clear, dated, full body shots tell the viewer what a person looks like. The classification a person chooses tells the viewer the person's mindset.

If I see a man who is clearly obese classifying himself as athletic or even average I make a hard pass. I can only guess that many men feel the same way when viewing women's profiles.

Yes of course choosing a classification can be very subjective but if a man has a gut that makes him look like he is nine mos pregnant and multiple chins and says he is athletic because in his mind he is I know that we wouldn't be a match. If a woman is clearly overweight but thinks herself as average because other people around her are also obese she is living in lala land.

So many people lying is why the viewers ask for more photos. I always had dated photos and listed my height and weight in the "about me" section. It did not stop men from asking for more photos. My take on it was that they had come across one too many liars and had little trust. Too bad really.

It is the same as people who say they are divorced or single but you find out they are actually separated or testing the waters. Or people who lie about living situations, jobs, what have you. This is not relegated to OLD of course. I decided that I didn't care for this process years ago and only date in "real life". I still meet people who lie. You have to learn to suss it out fairly quickly or you find yourself in a time suck. Easier done face to face (in my experience).

^^^ Those were a lot of words to basically say that people don't like liars so don't be one.
 Seahorse_Jockey
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Posted: 9/13/2018 9:45:53 AM

Msg 226:
I know a girl who's mother used to put her on diets in junior high because she insisted that her daughter needed to be a size 5... All the while that girl was really good-looking too until she began with the plastic surgeries.


The mother sounds like one of those moms who put their kids in beauty pageants, and in some cases, dress them up to look like mini-hookers. They send the message that without good looks, the girls are nothing.
 siisaa
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Posted: 9/13/2018 10:36:03 AM

I decided that I didn't care for this process years ago and only date in "real life". I still meet people who lie. You have to learn to suss it out fairly quickly or you find yourself in a time suck. Easier done face to face (in my experience).


Same, Spot. I find that when trying to date strangers, whether online or off, you're taking more of a gamble. With strangers there is no accountability - meaning they don't know anyone you know. Preferably, I'd date a man I already got to know through work or mutual friends. It's a lot less likely they'll be dishonest because you already share a social or professional circle with them. Trying to date a stranger I meet IRL is preferable over an online one because at least I can see his body language, energy, personality, etc. upfront. Online is just a ****ing mess. All you have to go on is some pixels and font, which is why a majority of first meets go nowhere.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 9/13/2018 10:39:04 AM

But what is "thin" in Los Angeles or Vancouver would be classified as anorexic and underweight in Texas and Saskatchewan.

True. It varies from area to area if you're borderline. Like in southern California, what here in the midwest we consider thin, could be average out there. She's not That thin, but she Is slender. But in LA, you'll find more gals saying Average, because, well, she's not Skinny, and a more average body is more on the thin side.

Either way though, it doesn't have to be all that skewed (this topic is about how it 'should' be). Many women when browsing out there are just as fitting Thin as many out here in midwest put Thin. Browsing out there in LA, you'll find more gals who are objectively thin but put Average than you'll find out here. But you'll still even find them out here oddly enough, because gals can be picky/critical about their weight. On the flip side, out here, you'll find more gals putting "Average" when they have more than "a few" extra pounds, where you're less likely to find that out in LA, due to all the slender ladies. There Is an Objective measuring stick, even if it does get a little skewed a bit if there's a high % of skinny or fat people around us in a certain area we settle into.
 julystorm22
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Posted: 9/13/2018 12:12:29 PM

Preferably, I'd date a man I already got to know through work or mutual friends.

How is that working for you though? I never ever meet any single guys anywhere. Every guy I ever meet is married or in a relationship. So many times I have met a guy and I get a little crush on them but after a while I learn they aren't single. I think all the single men have gone underground. And every time I know of a single guy around my age that would be any way suitable, he is in a new relationship asap. At the same time I know so many single women everywhere in real lie. But I know the single men exist because I go on pof and there they are.
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The weight thing is my biggest concern when meeting someone. I try to make it known what I look like, even sharing my weight and many guys say its fine but some guys meet me and tell me I'm not overweight and I am not sure if they are just saying that. I had one guy who I talked to for maybe a week and we agreed to meet but a few hours before he asked me my weight so I told him and he told me sorry but thats too much much for him so the meeting was cancelled. Then of all luck I ran into him in the gas station a few days later and he recognized me but I avoided him. He texted me telling me he'd been wrong and I actually wore my weight well and he wanted to meet after all. I told him no thanks because he was a shallow prick. I was mad because he had really hurt my feelings.
 Seahorse_Jockey
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Posted: 9/13/2018 2:09:13 PM
^" I think all the single men have gone underground."

Guys are thinking the same thing about women. Where are all of the single women? Have they been kidnapped by aliens and taken to another planet?
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 9/13/2018 2:10:03 PM
Just curious. Anybody here ACTUALLY know the math formula to determine what "average" is?
why do do many women have body type = thin
Posted: 9/13/2018 2:15:27 PM

He texted me telling me he'd been wrong and I actually wore my weight well and he wanted to meet after all. I told him no thanks because he was a shallow prick

Good for you, Glad to hear you are standing up for yourself! Give em hell! You deserve way better than that.
 adventurejoe70
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Posted: 9/13/2018 2:57:20 PM
Right on !
I agree with that Norwegian DUDE a bit though(does he still write pages of ....:? say it ain't so). It is relative. In some areas the "average" is overweight and in other areas average can be thinner. My area is full of athletic gals(everyone walks and /or goes to gym) so they put athletic but ones of European origin often wrote average because on their continent being thin was avg and walking and exercise is normal. Athletic covers such a big range that it can be confusing. A large football player with a beer belly will says hes athletic and a small runner is athletic. Photo's say it all. What is a Sumo wrestler though?:)

perhaps the multiple chins each work out individually? Your cruel!
why do do many women have body type = thin
Posted: 9/13/2018 3:18:01 PM

does he still write pages of ....:? say it ain't so

it ain't so

perhaps the multiple chins each work out individually

lololololol, now that was funny!
 johnfromzelie
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Posted: 9/13/2018 4:24:37 PM
Just curious. Anybody here ACTUALLY know the math formula to determine what "average" is? http://www.superskinnyme.com/body_type_calculator.html
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 9/13/2018 5:35:43 PM
Math formula for average
To calculate the average of a group of numbers, first add the numbers together and then divide by the amount of numbers that are in the group. The formula for average is: sum/(quantity of numbers.) The average is also called an arithmetic mean.

Thank you John …………...but this ^ ^ ^ ^ is the answer, I was looking for.
Soooooo, IF you have a room with 20 women, weighing anywhere from 100 lbs to 200 pounds, you would ADD ALL their weights together then divide by 20...…………...thus giving you THE AVERAGE weight.

It seems the use of the word "Average", somehow got skewed or lost in the translation. In my case I could be below average, or in the middle average or above average. TOTALLY depends on the weight of the other 19 women!
 siisaa
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Posted: 9/13/2018 6:01:08 PM

How is that working for you though? I never ever meet any single guys anywhere.


It's worked well for me. All of my longest relationships were with men I met through mutual friends, work or school. I met my ex-fiance in grad school. We were classmates for a few months before ever stepping foot on our first date. With OLD, all I got were a bunch of first & last dates and few short-term relationships (5 months, 4 months & 1 month). I'm not the type to keep plugging away at a method that does not work. You know that saying, "Doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity." And OLD made me feel insane.
 julystorm22
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Posted: 9/13/2018 7:20:28 PM
Okay, well school is different. Much different than work.
 johnfromzelie
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Posted: 9/14/2018 7:13:04 AM

Math formula for average
To calculate the average of a group of numbers, first add the numbers together and then divide by the amount of numbers that are in the group. The formula for average is: sum/(quantity of numbers.) The average is also called an arithmetic mean.

Thank you John …………...but this ^ ^ ^ ^ is the answer, I was looking for.
Soooooo, IF you have a room with 20 women, weighing anywhere from 100 lbs to 200 pounds, you would ADD ALL their weights together then divide by 20...…………...thus giving you THE AVERAGE weight.

It seems the use of the word "Average", somehow got skewed or lost in the translation. In my case I could be below average, or in the middle average or above average. TOTALLY depends on the weight of the other 19 women!
that goes back to my response earlier in this thread. go to your local Walmart and look around, how do you compare? more accurate would include everyone in a given area but that is still just the average of that area only. I still say thin is misused regardless of the average circumference of the locals. if your at a fat peoples convention and most are 400-600 pounds and in walks a 350 pound person. they are not just less than average but less than anyone else. are they 'skinny' or just less than average?
 julystorm22
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Posted: 9/14/2018 9:51:05 AM
I think the majority of women would fall into the 120 to 220 weight range so throwing out the outliers (those below and above) my estimate of average would be 170. Of course though that would be the estimate for my height. I'm marked as A Few Extra Pounds now at 195 but when I get down to 179 I am changing my profile to average. Will some disagree with me? Probably but that's what I am going to put.
 whiterose0
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Posted: 9/14/2018 11:20:09 AM

Of course though that would be the estimate for my height. I'm marked as A Few Extra Pounds now at 195 but when I get down to 179 I am changing my profile to average. Will some disagree with me? Probably but that's what I am going to put.


I think that's a fair assessment, based on your new picture. You appear to carry your weight evenly. I think a bottom-heavy woman might need to get to a lower weight than that to be considered average. Others might or might not agree.
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 9/14/2018 1:10:50 PM

179 I am changing my profile to average. Will some disagree with me? Probably but that's what I am going to put.
Compared to american women's weight of your age (assuming you in American or near it lol)
195 at 5'8 is BMI 29.4, 78th percentile for age (weigh more than 78% of women).
179 at 5'8 is BMI 27.1 and 69th percentile (weigh more than 69% of women)
Still pretty overweight at BMI 27.1 in 69th percentile. As you'd weigh more than basically 70% of women.
156 to be at 50 percentile (50% women weigh less, 50% weigh more). However that weight is BMI wise still technically overweight, just is a statistical average for women of your age etc.
153 is normal BMI which is 46th percentile.
I'd say around the 55th percentile or under, it is probably appropriate for you to put "Average". That is 162 pounds for you.
 hemingway234
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Posted: 9/14/2018 1:47:04 PM
I think julystorm22 could put "average" in her profile.

In other news......what's more important is what's on the inside, the person's temperament and sanity. Looks fade with age, but personality is forever.

That said, everybody has a physical attraction bar that a potential mate must meet or beat. It differs from one person to the next. So, sure, pretty people will get more attention and options. However, there really is somebody for everyone........even ugly people have their matches, even if there are less matches available to them.

As for me.........I've tried dating some overweight women, and even have overweight friends. I once dated a woman who, from the neck up, looked exactly like Paula Abdul..........but from the neck down, it was Shamu (she did not have a body shot in her profile, and I am a sucker sometimes). I just could not continue to date her. I've had to use Viagra a couple of times in the past, just for the first time when I was nervous.........but if I had to use that stuff every time, I'm skeered I might go blind!!!

I'm not a hypocrite, I've been working out for 16 years. I can handle a woman short or tall, from skinny to voluptuous. For what it's worth, I've dropped many beautiful women because they were brats. But I do have my limitations. I wish I could take a pill and be shallow Hal.
 johnfromzelie
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Posted: 9/14/2018 2:51:08 PM

I'm marked as A Few Extra Pounds now at 195 but when I get down to 179 I am changing my profile to average. Will some disagree with me? Probably but that's what I am going to put.
not sure what the magic number is, nor do a care to be the one deciding. my issue with 'thin' is women bigger than you listed as thin. your idea of average may not match the next persons but don't think 10 pounds one way or the other would get you called our for b.s. pack on another 50 and claim thin and most would consider it a lie.
 sun_water
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Posted: 9/15/2018 9:28:53 AM

This is not relegated to OLD of course. I decided that I didn't care for this process years ago and only date in "real life". I still meet people who lie. You have to learn to suss it out fairly quickly or you find yourself in a time suck. Easier done face to face (in my experience).

Of course people can and do lie in real life. That being said, I still think lying is more common with internet dating. It's easier to put all types of misinformation on a profile. Such as interests, job, smoking, and height as examples.
 julystorm22
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Posted: 9/15/2018 2:46:02 PM
What is the point though? I want to make damn sure someone is aware of my looks including a full body shot.before I go on a date. I would hate to see the look of disappointment on their face when they realize I'm fatter than they thought.

First guy I met in real life on POF turned out to be way heavier than his pic, like I was expecting 220s and he was maybe 350 pounds. I wasn't attracted but I had just gotten out of a serious relationship and really wanted to _____ someone else. Went back to his place, we made out and there was some touching but ultimately I couldn't go through with it. I told him I wasn't ready to go further and later at home I texted him that I am sorry but just not interested. Felt guilty but ultimately I feel like he put pics on his profile that intentionally tricked me about his weight. Plus he had more hair in his pics so I suspect they were really old pics.
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Posted: 9/15/2018 3:46:48 PM
If I ever got down to a 'normal' weight or even 'average', I don't think I'd really change my heading.

I don't think I want a man who demands my weight always remain what he considers 'right'.
I definitely don't want a man who thinks I need to mold myself over to what he likes.
I don't want a man who demands that I never change. Stasis is death and I know I'm going to get older with more wrinkles and such.
I don't want a man who won't even look at someone who is out of his criteria; whose standards are immobile and unchanging. (see comment about stasis.)
 Coma_White
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Posted: 9/15/2018 5:29:47 PM

I don't think I want a man who demands my weight always remain what he considers 'right'.
I definitely don't want a man who thinks I need to mold myself over to what he likes.
I don't want a man who demands that I never change. Stasis is death and I know I'm going to get older with more wrinkles and such.
I don't want a man who won't even look at someone who is out of his criteria; whose standards are immobile and unchanging. (see comment about stasis.)


What does this mean? Stasis is death? Of course your skin is going to change a bit as you age, but what does it have to do with weight? You don't have to gain weight as you age if you stay active and eat right.
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