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 SiennaBear2
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It's very annoying after spending so much time with make up and lipstick for it to be then rubbed around and off in some cases by the guy when he's kissing Lol. Like stop touching my face damn it ;)
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/23/2018 8:59:47 AM
Mustang, look at blondie's background. Did she have homec, instead of carpentry classes the guys had? I learned to make a sandwich in homec, when I was already cooking for family and friends. Guys learned real life skills. Did she have a mother or father that showed her how to do things besides encouraging "girl" behavior, and that kind of conditioning still goes on. You had said she bought lunch, so your helping her is really her paying for labor, like men do too. She's taking care of business.

Men are "offering" their skills. They say if you can't be handsome, be handy, and state that in their profiles.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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Posted: 7/23/2018 2:49:42 PM
my buddy married a contractor who started his own biz and built them a nice house. she didn't look over his shoulder and learn some of his business sense, but on the other hand, he always had that attitude that the man provides everything--and he was always going to be The Big Man to his wives and kids and anyone else. If you asked who could redo a kitchen, he would say, "oh, i'll do it for you" rather than tell you who in the area he typically hired for the houses he built.

She, meanwhile, will bust her ass on some project, and ask for a handout on the next. She just called while i'm typing this, she lost her health insurance and so called up the pharmaceutical companies and chased down coupons and programs to help her get her meds....while she's paying someone $35 to mow her lawn today.

:)

everyone seems to find their own way to get by in life. but some find a way that works most of the time, that causes the least amount of drama. And some just love drama.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/27/2018 10:50:46 AM
Is she physically incapable of mowing her lawn? What a nice way to earn (keep) money by working for yourself. Sounds like she's refusing to move on with life. If you had a husband that did typical man things around the house, and he's gone, time to do those things for yourself.

I never mowed. I had other lawn duties, but now I have to. Mowing is not a problem. She should look at it as exercise and saving money. Some people just don't like doing certain chores, I get that, but they still have to be done and this is a simple one to do.
 MachIMustangII
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Posted: 7/27/2018 2:39:56 PM
she's physically capable, I think when the weather's bearable (right now its 90, humid, and air quality isn't always great) b/c she's doing her dog pen, which the guy she hires will not do (I suspect no one wants to be responsible for opening/closing gates). Even when I broke my hip, I mowed lawns (broke out the sulky to add to the back of the Gravely lawn tractor). its good exercise if you have a walk-behind, get some sun, etc. Plus you get to check out your own yard, see if there's a hole in your fence you can't see from the house or a new mole hole, etc. the only problem is ticks, i'm pretty sure I picked up lyme disease doing her's last year. or playing with her dogs.

some of it is upbringing. those who lived the Barbie lifestyle, are used to doing things the way they used to. And of course when we get old, we find we can't run as fast, stay out as late, etc as we used to. I remember helping an elderly neighbor who kept taking breaks, and as a kid, I wanted to just get the job done. now i'm older and I understand taking a lemonade break in the shade in an Adirondack :) lol
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/27/2018 3:15:41 PM
Nooooo! You didn't really get lyme's did you? I know how debilitating that can be. I don't get ticks, I get fleas, probably from squirrels and cats roaming thru my yard. You can get ticks in your own yard. Do you have deer? If I lived in an area with ticks, I'd secure my pant's legs to my ankles while mowing, also use essential oils that deter them. I use a solution of lemongrass and cedar oils, mixed with water and white vinegar, on my dog to repel fleas, which can be used in grass too.

Blondie was socialised a certain way that does not help her to be an independent adult, which is okay if you have the 💰 and want to spend it. She needs to marry one of those guys that are doing work for her☺
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/27/2018 4:34:42 PM
It's all about choices...
If she's physically able....she just Chooses not to...
whether it's mowing or anything else around the house.

Me...I am way too much of a control freak about my yard to let anyone else mow it!!
I had to let my guy mow my yard when I first had my surgery...luckily he's anal about the lines too...
but it was funny because he had never drove a riding mower....(city boy - slowly learning to love the country life)...
first time he ever got "bossy" with me....made me go in the house and not "oversee" him!!
 I_Am_Con_S_Tip_ated
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Posted: 7/27/2018 8:04:14 PM

luckily he's anal


what else does he "mow" ???
 MachIMustangII
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Posted: 7/28/2018 6:34:53 AM
yep, hospital wanted $10K to diagnose it, too. Luckily Obamacare got that down to $3K, first time i'd feel lucky to pay only $3K :) and good thing I waited a while to go in, i'm told if you try to diagnose too early it doesn't get found in the blood work. and the meds keep you inside the house, too, in the middle of summer. And yep, i got a family of deer in the woods, Lyme disease is actually named after a town here in my home state. but I blame my friend's dog, only b/c when I played with her one tick dropped, and i'll bet there was ones I didn't see, and a week or whatever later I started having the chills and fever.

And yes, my friend was socialized, first by her family who considers her the black sheep "baby" of the family, always screwing up, so they're always giving her money. Having certain men to rush over and help didn't help, and then there's her bank--she's 61 and they gave her a 30 year mortgage re-fi? she's gonna pay this off at age 90? :) but that thousand dollar overdraft really helps, she pretty much lived on that when she had a job. in a manner of speaking, it made logical sense to live like Blanche DeBois.

that's amusing about rider mowers, never used one until my neighbor got one and I used it to keep it running. Never understood why they had headlights, I thought that was for driving down country roads to other lawns, but apparently its for the suburbanites who get home late and need to mow in the dusk? we're still getting rain every day for over a week now, hard to mow. My friend's gonna need her weedwacker for her dog pen, sounds like. but my town apparently needs the rain, the town center noticed their losing water from the water table--and the new senior center is suspect. That's how our population is changing, we're getting older :)

the details you are not told, when sold the romance of living out in the countryside :) or you find a neighbor's goats to hire.
why do do many women have body type = thin
Posted: 7/28/2018 7:08:18 AM

yep, hospital wanted $10K to diagnose it, too. Luckily Obamacare got that down to $3K, first time i'd feel lucky to pay only $3K :

Us Canadians take for granted how lucky we are, until we hear things like this. If you are poor and can't afford health care, do you get any health care?
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/28/2018 7:32:43 AM
Yes...we have Medicaid and Medicare for those that don't work or don't have work provided healthcare.

and yes....some of us use those headlights to mow at night!!
When it's 90 degrees and 90% humidity...I do my mowing late in the evening and end up having to turn on headlights by the time I'm done...
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/28/2018 8:03:05 AM
Forget obamacare, you wouldn't have needed coverage at all for a simple doctor's appt. Testing is only $200+. What did they do for $3,000? Why go thru a hospital?

It doesn't really matter if she pays off her mortgage. If she got a shorter term, it probably would have been too expensive. Why cut herself short on funds? Btw, her aging books don't matter. She can still get men to do things for her. On pof, plenty of men state they're handy.
why do do many women have body type = thin
Posted: 7/28/2018 8:18:19 AM
I had a conversation about this with a married female friend. She asked what I consider her body type to be? I told her if she wanted to be honest on a dating site, it would be a few extra pounds. She said she considers herself athletic. She's been a runner for over 30 years and is on a volleyball team. She's have to carry me on a run (she's strong enough to do it too) and would probably beat my ass in volleyball. She had a point. Before that conversation I just considered athletic to be fit and toned. I have a different look at it now.

I think thin, average and a few extra pounds are more obvious but it depends on perception. Someone with an average body type might have a lot of very overweight friends so they look at themselves as being thin.
 Coma_White
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Posted: 7/28/2018 10:23:33 AM

I had a conversation about this with a married female friend. She asked what I consider her body type to be? I told her if she wanted to be honest on a dating site, it would be a few extra pounds. She said she considers herself athletic. She's been a runner for over 30 years and is on a volleyball team. She's have to carry me on a run (she's strong enough to do it too) and would probably beat my ass in volleyball. She had a point. Before that conversation I just considered athletic to be fit and toned. I have a different look at it now.

I think thin, average and a few extra pounds are more obvious but it depends on perception. Someone with an average body type might have a lot of very overweight friends so they look at themselves as being thin.


I also consider athletic to mean a low body fat percentage. Even if you're able to run and do athletic things, it's still unhealthy to carry excess body fat. I try to keep track of my body fat percentage and measurements. Part of what motivates me to stay thin is to be a good example for the kids I teach at Karate.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/28/2018 11:21:06 AM
Coma, awww, that's very sweet how you consider the kids☺ They learn so much by what they view, no words necessary.


Endless, I go by pics, because people use interpretation for wording. I look at athletic as someone that's in good shape, not necessarily totally trim, but does athletic things. That is the way I view myself, but chose "average", because I think others think it could mean void of any fat. I think those categories would be better if you could list size, then add how fit (capable) you are to be athletic.
 LovingLoner2
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Posted: 8/9/2018 1:41:03 PM
What cindi_rella said:


You are also 'a few extra pounds' since you have a double chin and a bit of a beer belly in your pics.
 flyover_boy
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Posted: 8/10/2018 11:01:49 AM

I had a conversation about this with a married female friend. She asked what I consider her body type to be? I told her if she wanted to be honest on a dating site, it would be a few extra pounds. She said she considers herself athletic. She's been a runner for over 30 years and is on a volleyball team. She's have to carry me on a run (she's strong enough to do it too) and would probably beat my ass in volleyball. She had a point. Before that conversation I just considered athletic to be fit and toned. I have a different look at it now.


I agree with your observations and you make some really good points. I differ, however, with the conclusion...a bit. Like you, I know several women, exactly as you describe, you too might call athletic, but I wouldn’t.

Let’s start with this. You’re in a nice club, let’s say, and two guys by the door, with suits, some beer bellies working and balding heads. To add to the imagery...let’s say, lacking in the social and language skills. “Eh...I talk good.” But, you don’t wanna mess with Moose and Rocko, or test these guys to exercise their strength. There’s in the leg breaking business...if needed. Additionally, people overweight can be quite strong, although not healthy. These ladies we speak of, are not the monsters of these brutes. But, there is still another vision of athletic, when seen as ‘body type.’

Fitness models have overtaken the boney, skinny runway catwalk ladies of New York and Paris for visual star power. You still see the stick figure models, usually perfume and some lines of clothing. But the well proportioned, tone and cut woman is queen. Most people, who look that way, without question, work at it. Unfortunately, with all of us, some have to work harder than others. Body frame, metabolism and genetics all play a role. And...they are not all democratic and fair. The skinny ugly duckling in h/s or college may have discovered yoga twenty years later. The woman fighting weight all her life, does a grilling workout and the 20-something mile marathon but appears (privately) a little ‘chunky.’

Same could be said about the h/s or college football players. Fighting a belly by midlife. Maybe with the help of the suds and Jack Daniels, coupled with balding head. Body chemistry is different and if it weren’t so, drug companies wouldn’t have the H@ll to go through in drug testing.

If you think ‘body type’ is interesting here, check out places like Asia and see the profiles. What they call ‘average’...whatever.
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Posted: 8/10/2018 11:42:34 AM

I had a conversation about this with a married female friend. She asked what I consider her body type to be? I told her if she wanted to be honest on a dating site, it would be a few extra pounds. She said she considers herself athletic. She's been a runner for over 30 years and is on a volleyball team.


I've always thought an athletic body type was determined by your muscularity and the way your fat was distributed, rather than your activity level. A pear-shaped or apple-shaped woman who does a lot of physical activity can be athletic, but that doesn't mean she has an athletic body type.
 Coma_White
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Posted: 8/10/2018 11:44:54 AM

Fitness models have overtaken the boney, skinny runway catwalk ladies of New York and Paris for visual star power. You still see the stick figure models, usually perfume and some lines of clothing. But the well proportioned, tone and cut woman is queen. Most people, who look that way, without question, work at it. Unfortunately, with all of us, some have to work harder than others. Body frame, metabolism and genetics all play a role. And...they are not all democratic and fair. The skinny ugly duckling in h/s or college may have discovered yoga twenty years later. The woman fighting weight all her life, does a grilling workout and the 20-something mile marathon but appears (privately) a little ‘chunky.’


Larger people can definitely be strong and fast. It's basically a muscular body covered with fat. I think the big difference is how genetics makes everyone store fat in different locations. Some people are more top heavy and some more bottom heavy simply because of genetics.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 8/10/2018 2:23:05 PM
Of course you can be athletic with a pear-shaped body. That's just body shape.

Athletic and fit can be subjective. Also, fit or athletic for one sport doesn't make you fit and athletic for all sports.

ath·let·ic

1.
physically strong, fit, and active.
"big, muscular, athletic boys"
synonyms: muscular, muscly, sturdy, strapping, well built, strong, powerful, robust, able-bodied, vigorous, hardy, lusty, hearty, brawny, burly, heavily built, broad-shouldered, Herculean; More
2.
relating to athletes or athletics.
"athletic events"
synonyms: sporting, sports; Olympic
"athletic events"

fit

1.
(of a thing) of a suitable quality, standard, or type to meet the required purpose.
"the meat is fit for human consumption"
synonyms: suitable, good enough; More
2.
in good health, especially because of regular physical exercise.
"I swim regularly to keep fit"
synonyms: healthy, well, in good health, in (good) shape, in (good) trim, in good condition, fighting fit, as fit as a fiddle; More
 whiterose0
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Posted: 8/10/2018 5:06:02 PM
I don't think anyone here is disputing the definitions of athletic or fit - however, the subject of this thread is about a woman's body type, not how fit or athletic she is. They are not the same thing, although many people confuse the two.

A woman can have a genetically athletic body type, high metabolism, and a low body fat percentage, but be a heavy smoker who doesn't work out and is not physically fit.

I think when a man requests a woman who's fit or athletic, he actually wants a woman who has a nice shape and isn't overweight.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 8/10/2018 6:10:28 PM
Yes, I'm sure that's what they expect from those 2 words, even though many men I see online describe themselves as athletic when they're overweight, and don't show any active interests. That's why I say to ignore that descriptive word, and go by pictures, and by how active you see they are. Thin doesn't mean a man or woman is fit, though. A thin person may not have any muscle tone.
 whiterose0
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Posted: 8/11/2018 7:35:29 AM

Yes, I'm sure that's what they expect from those 2 words, even though many men I see online describe themselves as athletic when they're overweight, and don't show any active interests. That's why I say to ignore that descriptive word, and go by pictures, and by how active you see they are.


This is in no way a gender-based issue. It works both ways. Men seem to be just as confused about their own body type as the women they are accusing. The OP is a perfect example. I don't think you can necessarily go by pictures to get the complete truth if the pictures aren't current. You have to meet them in person.


Thin doesn't mean a man or woman is fit, though. A thin person may not have any muscle tone.


I think I pretty much covered that when I used a heavy smoker who didn't exercise an an example. But it could also be applicable to a thin person who has a hidden health condition. I think where we differ is that I don't consider a person to be fit if they have layers of fat over their muscle, even if they are physically active.
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Posted: 8/11/2018 8:00:05 AM

I think where we differ is that I don't consider a person to be fit if they have layers of fat over their muscle, even if they are physically active.

Agreed. A person that has a little bit of extra body fat might be able to get away with calling himself athletic or fit if he is muscular. The muscles would be more noticeable than whatever extra body he has. But not someone with a football lineman's type body. Sure he might be very strong. But he is most likely very overweight as well.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 8/11/2018 10:41:18 AM
Lots of men at the gym with fat covering muscle, and those that only focus on how their biceps look. I consider athletic to mean you're fit enough to do very physical activities. Doesn't matter if the person carries extra weight. There's something to be said for stamina, something overweight people can have more than a lighter weight person.
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