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 SiennaBear2
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I noticed this in gay porn and yaoi too, even though they are the same gender there are still the top and bottom or dominant and submissive. Usually the bottom or submissive is more feminine in nature and the top/dominant is more masculine.
Also when men want a domme/dominant women the man acts more feminine during sex or sometimes in general and they want the women to be more dominating and masculine.
Like calling the shots, ravaging, initiating, leading etc. Opposites definitely attract.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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Posted: 7/18/2018 6:07:33 AM
"Most men say they prefer a more natural look. You would be surprised at all the makeup that translates to 'invisible' or 'unnoticeable'."


>>>and in the end, what does the "natural look", look like? A fresh-faced women in her 20's. Peaches and cream, no wrinkles, bright eyed, etc.
 MeramecRiverRat
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Posted: 7/18/2018 6:31:17 AM
I prefer the natural look and definitely prefer when girls are more feminine. Natural != unfeminine.

The unnatural ones look less feminine. When women get excessively dolled up, for example on the big award shows, they look unappealing. They usually have their hair up, looking like a boy's haircut. Am guessing they have their hair up to show off expensive jewelry around their neck and on their ears. I prefer when they have their hair down. The gowns they wear at award shows are unflattering. They tend to squash curves. Fashion designers seem to hate men because they make women look unappealing (it could also be argued they hate women too by making them look bad).

The more obvious makeup is, the more they look like drag queens. No makeup or you can't tell they have on any makeup is most appealing. Painting on tons of makeup is ugly. About the only time to do so is when performing on stage, in which case it's a costume.

High heels are unappealing to me. Women should go with their natural height instead of trying to look taller. Being taller makes them more like a man.
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
Msg: 504
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Posted: 7/18/2018 9:17:17 AM

The short version of some of what I've said here ^ is that if you don't get many responses without makeup...it might just be because you're ugly. So you lie if you use makeup. If you get men who're ok with this, fine. That's y'all's prerogative. But this doesn't invalidate a man's preference for no-makeup.


Fact of the matter is, men respond more favorably to women who put some effort into their appearance. It doesn't mean she has to all decked out with a face full of makeup like she works at the MAC counter. Notice I mentioned my style of dress & corrective lenses. I'm not only talking about makeup like you're stuck on. There is not only bare-face and clown-face. There's a whole spectrum of makeup application.

I should have also mentioned environment also plays a huge part. I my 20s, I put more effort into my appearance with contacts, straightened hair, dresses/skirts and yes, makeup. I was also going out to clubs, raves and bars almost every weekend. Those types of settings are often crowded, highly social and people are usually under the influence. OF COURSE I was turning heads. Nowadays when I'm not working or at home, I'm hiking in the mountains, reading at my local library or running errands at Costco or Target. Thus, less effort & less attention.


Women should go with their natural height instead of trying to look taller.


This should read as: As long as she's a height that you like or prefer.


and in the end, what does the "natural look", look like? A fresh-faced women in her 20's. Peaches and cream, no wrinkles, bright eyed, etc.


A woman who a man personally finds appealing. Go to your local Wal-Mart: There's TONS of women who are "natural-looking", doesn't mean they're automatic heat-makers. Living in this very liberal area, I see lots of women around here with hairy armpits and hairy legs during the summer. They're natural....you (not you GTO, but a general "you") find them appealing too?
 drinkthesunwithmyface
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Posted: 7/18/2018 10:50:00 AM
BA - there was no threat. And I didn't say punch. I said backhand. There, that's accurate.

Fact of the matter is, men respond more favorably to women who put some effort into their appearance.

We are not talking about putting out effort. We are talking about makeup.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/18/2018 10:59:59 AM
Make-up covers up imperfections, brightens the face and highlights features. So it does improve one's looks. The less you wear, the more people accept your more natural look. I had a friend say she was camping, got up without her usual make-up on, and her fellow female campers asked her what happened to her☺
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
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Posted: 7/18/2018 12:55:18 PM

We are not talking about putting out effort. We are talking about makeup.


Nice deflection. Makeup (or lack thereof) is only a small part of a woman's overall appearance. My point still stands. Putting in some effort with some makeup, hair & wardrobe will cause her to be perceived as more attractive by men, regardless of how much men may claim they like "no makeup".
 ssm508
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Posted: 7/18/2018 3:41:56 PM
I can't speak for other men. But I didn't say women should not use any makeup at all. Some makeup is okay. I just think spending an excessive amount of time and energy on makeup doesn't necessarily make a woman look better.
 TomásIasan
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Posted: 7/18/2018 4:49:40 PM
Clearly you don't get the male subconscious and you want to be stubborn be my guest. Men want their women to be naturally beautiful if they are looking for long-term mates. It has to do with the subconscious and is science not something you can alter with a little bit of makeup. We see you without it and that is when our brain says yes or no as potential mate, you want to know why guys might tap you and leave they didn't like the end result as possible mate fact.

Males (most but not all) would prefer beautiful. (A woman should be amazing overall but being physically attractive would be a big plus!) This is where the variation lies because we all have different perceptions of beauty.

So let’s go to if males prefer women with make up or not.

Most males would say they prefer the natural look. In a male’s head, make up = risk (that the bare face might be disappointing).
or Make up = high maintenance.

They did a study and asked hardworking men who they would prefer same lady with makeup or with when looking for a mate chose the woman with no makeup it was the same person.

Males either perceive make up as a form of art or a form of deception. More like the latter. Several times I have heard my male friends from different circles make fun of women who wear too much make up. They equate it to overcompensation. Thus they tend to think something is lacking in other aspects of that female’s life because of this elaborate facade of a make up.

You ladies are talking all about men lying to you a whopping 65% of men feel makeup is you trying to trick males. You have no ground to stand on with the why do men lie if you do it in deception when meeting them from the get go.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
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Posted: 7/18/2018 5:48:31 PM
I laugh at some of the posts in this thread- to each his own, but at age 56, I remarried a retired chiropractor- wearing some makeup.

We met IRL. He has seen me with & without makeup & extensions-b4 the marriage, not after.

Some men just want a woman they find intelligent, cute & that they can trust.

Why other men have to turn it into a chemistry lesson or a Clinique counter excursion beats the hell out of me.
 jco415
Joined: 1/4/2017
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Posted: 7/18/2018 5:55:52 PM

I remarried a retired chiropractor- wearing some makeup.

Does he wear makeup often?
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
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Posted: 7/18/2018 6:01:23 PM
I laugh at some of the posts in this thread- to each his own, but at age 56, I remarried a retired chiropractor- [EDIT] I WAS wearing some makeup.

We met IRL. He has seen me with & without makeup & extensions-b4 the marriage, not after.

Some men just want a woman they find intelligent, cute & that they can trust.

Why other men have to turn it into a chemistry lesson or a Clinique counter excursion beats the hell out of me.


Does he wear makeup often?

Not at all, do you?
 backcreek7
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Posted: 7/18/2018 6:17:37 PM

male lies to female


.... A possible theory ? Maybe it is part of his dna.

.... As men continue to merely survive ~ we head ever so quickly, down the rabbithole of extinction. The world will be left to women, if it lasts that long.

.... Reproduction will be achieved thru synthetic sperm techniques. A " clone " period will occur & only disappear after disease ravishes the world. Singleness will produce no totally random antibodies, disease will run rampant.

At this point, normal birthing will become mandatory, women will rule the world ~ men are history.

^^^ We lie ~ hoping to trick a woman into thinking, we are something we're not. Yes, we are totally desperate !!!
We need to enjoy being with a woman, before we go ~ while we can ...
( sniff sniff > wannnn ! )...

heart / sun
 backcreek7
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Posted: 7/18/2018 6:24:17 PM
I ment > At this point " synthetic sperm " birthing, will become mandatory ...

toodles !!! col
 drinkthesunwithmyface
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Posted: 7/18/2018 6:30:26 PM

Make-up covers up imperfections, brightens the face and highlights features

Blah blah blah. Just makeup rhetoric lingo. Y'all gotta stop messing with some of those "imperfections". Those are what make you awesome. Instead, we end up with a series of homogenized-looking women. Ick.

siisaa:

Nice deflection...My point still stands

Not a deflection. And your point does not stand. We have been talking about makeup. Not a person putting effort into their appearance. Very simple.

...regardless of how much men may claim they like "no makeup".

It befuddles me why in the world one would think that I'm just claiming to not like makeup as if I had some ulterior motive and didn't know what I was talking about. Jesus woman, I'm 51 fucking years old. You don't think that I'd know whether or not I like makeup? There would be some other reason why I'd "claim" this? Sometimes some of you people are just fucking weird.

This confirms a suspicion of mine - the makeup mindset among women is so strong and entrenched that it has to be defended like one defends a religion that is wacked-out. A man says that he doesn't like that shit, and somehow the women are going to tell that man that he's just gotta be wrong in what he thinks that he likes. He is deluded, is just claiming such-and-such erroneously, and must be set straight by the women of the makeup-culture. What a trip...you people make me bust out fucking laughing at my keyboard. Thanks. Fo-rizzel byatches.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/18/2018 7:54:13 PM
No lingo, that's what makeup does. I only wear mascara and lipstick, sometimes blush at night if I'm going out. The lipstick brightens my face, and the mascara darkens my lashes to be seen better. No one has ever told me to use more or less makeup.

Every woman has her own reason for wearing makeup. Some grew up in an era where it was "in" to wear a lot of makeup. I think Henry said he likes a decent amount of makeup on a woman. For myself, I rode horses every day, so I felt it was ridiculous to wear makeup to the barn, then just never got into wearing it.

My experience is that men like women wearing some makeup. It's seen as feminine, and can improve one's looks. Men do appreciate their partner looking their best.
 jco415
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Posted: 7/18/2018 9:08:29 PM


Does he wear makeup often?


Not at all, do you?



Nope! I do know how to construct a sentence so that it's clear who was wearing what though...
 whiterose0
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 518
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Posted: 7/19/2018 11:54:08 AM
Who really cares how much make-up women wear or who they met while they were wearing it? It's just not that riveting of a subject. Some men like a little artfully applied make-up, and some men don't like any make-up at all.

Some men like women to have nicely defined eyebrows and full lips, while other men don't care. Some men like the look of a tan, while others prefer pale skin. Everyone's tastes are different.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
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Posted: 7/19/2018 12:53:17 PM

Jesus woman, I'm 51 ****ing years old.


And what is your relationship history & work history?

Under 1 year & starving artist?

What's your plan for the next 51 years?

Pinning Peggy Sue & flipping burgers at Bob's Big Boy?
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
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Posted: 7/19/2018 12:55:23 PM

Nope! I do know how to construct a sentence so that it's clear who was wearing what though...


Good! Maybe you can have sex w/ your spell check & get a BJ from your thesaurus...



















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 Tech30
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Posted: 7/19/2018 2:35:33 PM
Makeup (or lack thereof) is only a small part of a woman's overall appearance. My point still stands. Putting in some effort with some makeup, hair & wardrobe will cause her to be perceived as more attractive by men, regardless of how much men may claim they like "no makeup".

This is true . I like that my girl looks great with no makeup, but when we go out and she puts on a bit and dressed up nice , its great.
 jco415
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Posted: 7/19/2018 7:39:16 PM


Good! Maybe you can have sex w/ your spell check & get a BJ from your thesaurus...
Quite the eloquent response...
 drinkthesunwithmyface
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Posted: 7/19/2018 7:39:33 PM
whiterose0:

and some men don't like any make-up at all.

There you go. That was easy. The most productive statement/acknowledgement in this little discussion. Not rocket science.

BA:

And what is your relationship history & work history?

Under 1 year & starving artist?

What's your plan for the next 51 years?

Pinning Peggy Sue & flipping burgers at Bob's Big Boy?

God what an idiot.

Tech30:

...regardless of how much men may claim they like "no makeup".

I refer you to the first part of this post (whiterose0).

Thank all of you, by the way, for the entertainment.
 SomewhereInTheStratosfere
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Posted: 7/20/2018 5:22:13 AM

God what an idiot

Pot calling kettle black. Dude, you are the biggest idiot on these boards! That is quite the honor because your competition is brisk .
 Tech30
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Posted: 7/20/2018 6:57:56 AM
Tech30:

...regardless of how much men may claim they like "no makeup".

Hey maybe your hat is cutting off your circulation but you quoted me as saying this when i was just quoting someone else.
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