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 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 201
Why do men lie to get a womanPage 9 of 22    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22)
You are still a perv, & a nasty one at that- your "Idiot" reference just makes your true character show more.

Does your daughter(s), grand daughter(s), & ex wife know how you post on here?

All your salacious, misogynistic stories?

Like the young hairdresser, etc.

I see you as a cranky old man, frustrated bec. you are not doing what you post about so much.

Your John Travolta Wanna be Urban Cowboy Days are lonnnnnng behind you.

It's more like Jabba The Hut w/ Princess-Don't-Wanna-Lay-You


BOOM!
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 7/2/2018 7:16:37 PM
Predators think they're not seen for who they are, because they tell everyone they're not that way, then think everyone fell for it. Predators of adult women and children have cover stories for their behavior, to help women look the other way that want to. There's a fine line between adult and child predators.

Micki, you should think it's odd that the bf went on vacation with a child. Who does that? Yeah, sounds like dear old dad had issues too. Great excuse/cover up to say he likes pg movies as a way to put himself around kids. It makes things clearer as to why you have no boundaries with men, and actually enjoy them using you. Sexuality is developed by what we see at home. You may think you're making choices, but you're just following learned behavior. The bf has a good cover-up story too. Think about it. You're being victimized. Then of course predators are going to applaud your behavior, because it indulges how they feel about women.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 203
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Posted: 7/2/2018 7:25:49 PM
"Then of course predators are going to applaud your behavior, because it indulges how they feel about women."

Hell yes, one of them just showed his true colors here.

An idiot is one who tells all their info about groups they belong to & lists themself under their real full name.

I had a dox snail mail sent to me b4 Xmas last year, luckily it was to a rental, but the tenants gave it to me anyway.

I wouldn't dox, no one on here is important & I'd not risk myself legally, but at least one person has.

So just some friendly advice to someone who thinks I am an idiot...

A different person would contact your family & show all of this to them, plus the women at your meet up groups.

Then your posting history.

Not too smart.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 7/2/2018 7:54:56 PM
NY....why would I think it odd that a man that is raising his granddaughter would take her on vacation??
Is it odd that he is raising her and they are alone in the house?
Is it anymore odd for a single father to be alone with his daughter??
What is the difference??
Did none of you have a grandfather you spent time with? Pity if you didn't....because I sure did!
or know grandparents that are raising their grandchildren....or take them on vacation??

There is no cover up story for my boyfriend or my father....and the fact that you three women want to jump to all these conclusions because of your own sad, pitiful little lives makes you the joke here....not me.

as for my father....there isn't an excuse or a cover up.
He is one of the only true religious people I know (and there are very few of them IMO)
He doesn't just talk the talk....he walks the walk.
And in doing so....he will not see Rated R movies because of the content....along with other things in life that he deems inappropriate.
The man has every animated movie that Disney and Pixar has released....because he enjoys fun, silly things that aren't raunchy.
It never crossed his mind that someone would think that of him....because he just doesn't think that way...
and I will tell you and anyone else that thinks my Father has an ulterior motive to going to a kids movie...you are just flat out fukkin wrong.
You can go on and make all the assumptions you want....about him (and about me)....and I will just sit back and feel sorry for you for not having someone like him in your life.
He is the type of man you all claim you want in your life....and so is my boyfriend.

So you go ahead and laugh and feel sorry for me....while I'm the one enjoying having 2 wonderful men in my life... getting the last laugh!!!
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 7/2/2018 8:08:55 PM
I'm not laughing at you. None of this is funny. Did you say you entertain neighbor's kids at your house?
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/2/2018 8:38:45 PM
well....what we do is...
we dress them up at Little Bo Peep and then we have our way with them....
then we slowly roast them over a fire and then feed them to the hogs....

we are starting to run out of kids....
so we are sending my father to kids movies to bring us more.....
next, since we have her well trained in the art of seduction.... we will have his grand daughter start having slumber parties
to lure more little girls in....
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 207
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Posted: 7/2/2018 8:47:54 PM
^^


There are some very sick people in this thread.

Very, very sick.







In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.
Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 208
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Posted: 7/2/2018 9:05:57 PM
https://foreverymom.com/family-parenting/pediatrician-says-how-to-protect-your-child-from-sexual-abuse/

A Pediatrician Just Laid Out How to Protect Your Child From Sexual Abuse—And She’s Begging You to Listen
This pediatrician just laid out when, where, and by whom our kids are most likely to suffer sexual abuse, and gave us all the tools to prevent it.

By Jenny Rapson

Recently, a good friend of mine shared a Facebook post by one of her friends, who happens to be a pediatrician. The post was on something that should be of interest to ALL parents: child sexual abuse; specifically, when it happens, where it happens, and WHO victimizes our kids and how to talk to your kids about it and PREVENT it.

I was immediately moved by the excellence of this information and asked if I could re-publish it here. The author, Dr. Tobi Adeyeye Amosun, replied: PLEASE republish this. Her invaluable post is below, and I urge you moms and dads: take it to heart. Follow the good doctor’s advice and talk with your kids, too.
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Without going into graphic details, I probably get about 1-2 kids a month in my office who have been sexually abused or molested. I will address each of the things that I mentioned above in light of the most common scenarios I’ve seen.

1. The location of an incident [of sexual abuse] is likely to be at a place where you are familiar.
Places where I’ve heard of this happening: known family members and friends are far and away the most common. Perpetrators ages ranging from young teens to adults. It is almost always a male cousin, known neighbor, friend’s older brother/cousin, babysitter, father/stepfather, uncle or mom’s boyfriend. Occasionally it is a female, but that’s rare unless she is grooming the kids to have access to someone else
. Church youth group is the number two location, usually because there is less supervision. School, camp and sports are the other locations, but less likely unless there are kids allowed to be alone with teachers and coaches. Ask the schools and coaches and churches what their safety plans are to protect kids. It’s never perfect, but I feel at least they know there are aware parents and it helps keep everyone accountable.

2. Slumber parties: I wanted to address this separately because of it being a sensitive subject.
My daughter is allowed to go to a select few friends’ homes (like five families) for sleepovers. Never parents that I don’t know extremely well, which means she doesn’t get to sleep over at school friends’ homes. Never large groups of kids, where one kid being separated might not be noticed. That said, I can’t tell you how many times patients tell me the first time they were touched inappropriately or the first time they saw pornography was during a sleepover. I only get one chance to raise my kids and I’d rather be a mean parent who is no fun than have the other possibility.

3. Please use appropriate anatomical terms for body parts.
Eyes are eyes, knees are knees and penises are penises (proceed with the pearl clutching). Don’t use cutesy names or vague names like booty or wee wee or cookie or treasure. It confuses the matter in case something needs to be reported. It also destigmatizes those body parts.

4. “Safe touch” vs. “bad touch”: make sure kids know which is which.
Safe touches I usually teach are the ones that are in areas not covered by your bathing suit, like shoulders, head and feet. Safe touches are also those that make you feel calm and safe, like a hug from your mom. Bad touches are those in the areas that are covered up by underwear. They are also the ones that make you feel nervous, scared or worried. If a bigger person is touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, that is a bad touch. Always tell your parents or other adult about bad touches. And let kids know there should never be secrets between kids and adults and that they will NEVER get in trouble for telling someone.


5. “Stranger danger” is a fallacy.
The vast majority of the time someone who molests a child is known to the family. Beware of so-called “grooming behaviors”. This is usually from an adult male (or female) who ingratiates themselves to the child and family to lower their defenses. Usually they will try to establish a trusting relationship with the family and seek opportunities to be alone with kids. They do this so that any accusations from the child will seem made up. This has happened in almost every situation I have seen.


6. Be aware of what kids are looking at on smartphones and tablets.
Especially from their friends whose parents may not monitor things so closely. I usually tell parents at every preteen and above well check that as long as they are paying for the phone and the kid is under 18, it is their responsibility to monitor their child’s activities in social media, texting, etc. There are so many really clever ways for kids to hide their activity online and parents are almost always behind the 8 ball on this.

7. Most importantly, trust your gut.
If someone seems a little off or a little too nice to your kids, trust yourself and keep your kids out of any situations where they would be alone with that person. We have all been in situations where you just want to be polite, even when someone is giving you the heebie jeebies. There is a great book called “The Gift of Fear” that talks about people forgetting to trust their intuition in potentially dangerous situations and why there are times when you need to listen to that spirit of discernment.


I don’t lock my kids up and throw away the key, as much as I would love to protect them forever. But these are hopefully some practical tips as a mom and pediatrician to make your kids feel safe and to highlight some potentially dangerous situations. By the way, we start this conversation around 3 or 4 years old in our house.

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Thank you SO MUCH, Dr. Amosun, for sharing this priceless insight with us!
 julystorm22
Joined: 6/15/2018
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Posted: 7/2/2018 9:54:59 PM
Holy crap some people are so crazy in the head. Yes there are many pedophiles in this world but does that mean every guy is thought to be one if he is alone with a child? For pete's sake that's nuts. I for one spent many hours alone with my grandpa growing up. I used go on the tractor/combine or swather in the field for hours on end. He did not abuse me and I have a ton of great memories of my grandfather. Yet you ladies would say he's a sick sick man for being alone with his grandaughter. WTF. MsMicki, I'm with you, those ladies are whackadoo.
 RoxyMoronic
Joined: 6/7/2016
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Posted: 7/3/2018 1:31:07 AM

well....what we do is...
we dress them up at Little Bo Peep and then we have our way with them....
then we slowly roast them over a fire and then feed them to the hogs....

Standard Friday night.

BA is off her c0ck......but some of her posts are funny, and some unintentionally so.
 forumfairy
Joined: 3/20/2018
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Posted: 7/3/2018 3:19:28 AM
My, this sure has caused quite a stir. Thank you, Stratosfere for doing your best to explain. People for some reason seem to prefer denial, easier, I guess, than accountability. Many of you think Dr. Phil is a quack, he just teaches common sense and in my opinion is a right smart man. Accountability is quite big in my line of work, denial and excuses won't serve the population I work with well. Stratosfere, I see you work with the end result of my profession. Makes sense to me why you would understand this so well.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 212
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Posted: 7/3/2018 4:39:23 AM
Oh to be awake in a world that is mostly sleeping!

Once you wake up, ppl can't peddle their crap on you. And it terrifies them.

"People for some reason seem to prefer denial, easier, I guess, than accountability. "
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
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Posted: 7/3/2018 4:56:59 AM
It would not allow me to edit to add: July, I am glad you were not a victim. (of a grandparent- you chose a different poison instead) But just bec. you weren't doesn't mean no one else was.

You have a lot of work to do on yourself. But I applaud you for starting the journey.

PS- Roxy Moronic, what you put in a quote box was written by Ms Micki, not Moi.

You weren't by chance, trying to misquote her now, were you?

 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 7/3/2018 7:05:54 AM
ReverendSwine (Pig)...


I think the better question is, how is it that a woman who is supposedly happily married beyond her wildest dreams is compelled to spend her time pulling up old threads to rant and rave over, engaging in fights with an 82-year-old woman, and attempting to shout down any post that isn't devoted to kissing female ass BY USING CAPS AND BOLD TEXT??

I can't be the only person wondering this.


I'm wondering this myself now that this thread has taken a strange turn into geriatric pedophilia.

 reverendswine
Joined: 4/14/2018
Msg: 215
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Posted: 7/3/2018 7:24:44 AM
Wait a minute. Wait one god damn minute here. Men are to be treated and thought of as pedophiles by default?? To the point they can't and shouldn't be alone with their own flesh and blood?? Henry is right. That's just sick. Fück off.

Ok, you female geniuses who believe this asinine garbage, I have a question for you. If you genuinely believe this to be true,then why the hell would any of you even CONSIDER dating men??? Duuuhhh!!! Holy shit, the sheer idiocy here.

It's no wonder there are more and more men who don't want relationships. Some of you provide us with every reason why with your hysteria and paranoia based posts.

Oh, and Blonde Angel? Keep doing what you're doing. You shit all over your "Look at me, ladies, I have the marriage you all dream of" illusion with every post you make. No happily married woman does what you do.

p.s. - why are you still responding to people you claimed to have on ignore??
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/3/2018 7:49:02 AM

he just teaches common sense


do you mean the type of common sense that a grandfather could take his granddaughter on vacation without it being twisted into every man is a predator conversation...
or the common sense that a 70+ year old man could actually enjoy animated movies??

How about actually using some common sense instead of making assumptions that just make you look like a fool....
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/3/2018 7:51:06 AM

You weren't by chance, trying to misquote her now, were you?


Reading comprehension isn't your strong point....is it?
 SS4544Spd
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Posted: 7/3/2018 8:07:31 AM
What's really sad ...is what must have happened to these women for them to be so militantly anti-man.

To take a default position that a grandfather can't travel alone with his grand daughter is just plain ab-f*cking-surd.

Next thing they'll say is it will be OK as long as the man carries around his severed pen1s and b@lls in an envelope, to be presented on demand....for the "ped-police" or "creepy police" to review.

Henry, just find a park bench, and feed the pigeons, OK? We don't need any more trouble outta your type, allright?!?! And when checking out with that cute cashier, or getting your hair cut, it's ONLY shoegazing and "yes maam, and "no maam," allright?!?!

Otherwise your're creepy, a perv and a suspected pedophile!!!!

For f*ck sake.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 7/3/2018 8:36:30 AM
Many of the men here are very concerned a woman is using them for a dinner. They're obsessed with the idea that they'll possibly be out $15, and not get sex. Yet, women shouldn't be wary of the predatory ways of "some" men to use they're offerings of body and mind! So it's acceptable for a man to worry about a few dollars that can replace itself, over a woman showing concern over her personal self being used and abused. The abusers will protest that, while men that love & honor women will get that we need to be protective of ourselves. It's what they'd want for their mothers and sisters.

pred·a·to·ry

adjective
1. relating to or denoting an animal or animals preying naturally on others.

2. seeking to exploit or oppress others.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/3/2018 8:41:35 AM
Careful now SS....you are not allowed to disagree with the Forum Queens...
you will be labeled a predator and have every word you have said twisted into some deep dark scheme ....

and Henry isn't allowed to go to parks anymore...he might see some panties and turn into a raving child molester...
 backcreek7
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Posted: 7/3/2018 8:44:24 AM
.... I believe Dr. Phil ~ is allowed to take his granddaughter on a vacation, or attend any movie he wants ~ without being accused of pedoPHILia.

..... What's good for the Duckter, is good for the Gander as well, col


In retrospect, I understand the feelings of those who post here ~ those who want to protect OUR children from sexual predators. There is no higher calling in my OP ...

^^^^ Having said that, I feel they have strayed here ~ an el - giganto bit ~
along a teenie tiny tangent.


heart / sun
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
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Posted: 7/3/2018 9:09:15 AM
Forum Fairy is a man, & myself & 2 other women seemed to share for the most part, the same opinion.

I can't speak for 2 other women or FF, but I do not hate all men, I do not like it when men or a man use women ( or other men or children), manipulate, lie, molest etc. & I do not like the denial/enabling that can surround such behavior.

And on a more global level, women's reproductive rights, slave trade, etc.

As far as H., he has posted salacious stories on here for years, no one suggests he sit on a park bench, but a few have noticed the misogyny in here & how it gets encouraged. Cheered on, actually.

I also find it very telling that very few in here have posted anything about children not being exploited along w/ women (or men)

It's been all about enabling certain men to do as they please w/ no consequences...

Even if you think the suspicions about a certain grandfather are unfounded, what about all the other children who have been injured?

Where are the responsible parents/grandparents in this thread?

And those of you who are childless, that have come in not to defend children, in the last few posts, you never had the responsibility of being a parent, how hypocritical.

And the post that Ms. M made thinking she was funny, really no joking matter.

Too much deflection & obfuscation here.
 SS4544Spd
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Posted: 7/3/2018 9:16:30 AM
My Mum struggled with 4 kids as a working single mother. Sometimes, she'd drop us off at "acquaintances," and I say that, cuz they weren't close friends or relatives. She had faith in her ability to read people. I never understood this til a long time later...dealing with my disinterested father, she knew she had to get her sons some "man" time, with a man who was interested in "man" stuff. One of her acquaintances, who she knew from work, was a man, ~25ish, with a wife, and two daughters <5 yo....

She dropped us off at his house, we were all under 12 yo. Then she left. What did we do? He took us snake hunting! Real snakes. First he showed us his house full of pet snakes and lizards. You can imagine how excited we were, as little boys who lived in the country. His wife and daughters had NO interest, and he was genuinely excited to have someone to share his interest. Then he outfitted us with the proper tools, (not much,lol) and we went out in the woods and fields to look for snakes! To say that it was a thrill for 3 young boys would be an understatement. And we caught snakes!

It was so much fun it became something we did a few more times. He enjoyed as much as we did. AND IN NO WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM, WAS THIS DUDE A PERV OR CREEP!!!!!

It actually brings back a lotta fond memories that I will never forget...and I ain't fraid of snakes either. And I will never thank my Mum enough for those experiences.

Anyone who stood in front of me and called my Mum a "crack addict" or other derogatory terms used here to describe a Mother who did such things with her kids would not have a pleasant response from me.

And it is sad to me that young boys in similar situations probably don't have the same experiences any more due to hyper nutjob neurotic parents. No wonder kids these days have so many problems leaving home.
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Posted: 7/3/2018 9:17:38 AM
^^^backcreek7:
.... I believe Dr. Phil ~ is allowed to take his granddaughter on a vacation, or attend any movie he wants ~ without being accused of pedoPHILia.


(love the highlighting of the 'PHIL'---FUNNY)
But seriously (right...) Dr Phil seems ALWAYS to be accompanied by his faithful wife and sidekick 'Robin'---I doubt he's EVER in a room alone with a female other than his wife. (shades of our VP)

But seriously, SERIOUSLY, the way this thread has gone, SOMEONE has definitely been flushing their meds down the toilet or feeding them to her cats. I see a straight jacket and rubber room (maybe an ocean cruise?) in her future.

SMH Unbelievable~
And very sad.
 backcreek7
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Posted: 7/3/2018 9:27:37 AM

Forum Fairy is a man


ahhhh ? ^^^ WELP !!!! That bursts my bubble !!!! I thought he was a mythical being, with magic powers !!!

( puts away fly swatter, col )
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