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 oldwxman
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*^^^ i sure hope so. i went through the several threads where he posted foul language to me/ Sienna/ and old wx man. And reported him.

At first, I was fairly sympathetic to him but he just didn't know when to stop.
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 10/9/2018 11:16:56 AM
I left for a few days and he went off the deep end! I miss all the fun.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
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Posted: 10/9/2018 11:28:22 AM

Why kiss someone I'm not into. Intimacy is only for someone I actually love. It was meant to be just about servicing me yeah, I don't get into fwb situations where I'm not the beneficiary. He wasn't allowed or meant to get off.
I can be a bit of a git, not gonna lie lol.
It ended when he did something that made me very angry and then I started liking someone else and slept with them but that was pretty crap. Then my fwb got upset I wouldn't sleep with him anymore but slept with a different guy.
It is kinda complicated because the fwb was my ex that I was with for like 5-6yrs.


For someone who often comments negatively on the sexual exploits of others, especially numbers,
you've certainly got some weird history.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 10/9/2018 11:56:36 AM

Why kiss someone I'm not into. Intimacy is only for someone I actually love. It was meant to be just about servicing me yeah, I don't get into fwb situations where I'm not the beneficiary. He wasn't allowed or meant to get off.
I can be a bit of a git, not gonna lie lol.
It ended when he did something that made me very angry and then I started liking someone else and slept with them but that was pretty crap. Then my fwb got upset I wouldn't sleep with him anymore but slept with a different guy.
It is kinda complicated because the fwb was my ex that I was with for like 5-6yrs.


This is what I mean when I said that the sex isn't worth the headache. I'd rather masturbate to midget porn and get jacked off by a midget...
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 10/9/2018 2:06:00 PM
The more we know, …………………….. Simply mind boggling.

"...be a bit of a git...……….."
I had to look this up!

Git - definition of git by The Free Dictionary
https://www.thefreedictionary.com/git

git 1 (gĭt) v. Chiefly New England, Midland US, & Southern US Variant of get1. git 2 (gĭt) n. Chiefly British Slang An unpleasant, contemptible, or frustratingly obtuse person. [Variant of get, offspring, **stard, contemptible person; see get1.] git (ɡɪt) n 1. a contemptible person, often a fool 2. a **stard [C20: from get (in the sense: to beget

Noun
1.git - a person who is deemed to be despicable or contemptible; "only a rotter would do that"; "kill the rat"; "throw the bum out"; "you cowardly little pukes!"; "the British call a contemptible person a `git'"
dirty dog, lowlife, puke, rotter, scum bag, skunk, so-and-so, stinker, stinkpot, bum, crumb, rat
disagreeable person, unpleasant person - a person who is not pleasant or agreeable.
LOL OKKKKAAAYYY!
 curvylady1965
Joined: 12/31/2017
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Posted: 10/9/2018 2:32:17 PM
Sometimes, reading here reminds me of Paul Harvey's, "The Rest of the Story." (does anyone else remember that show)?

Thanks for looking that one up Ladyinred. I was wondering too.
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
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Posted: 10/9/2018 2:38:01 PM
O_o @ Sienna's story. Hook-ups, casual encounters, etc. seem to bring out the worst qualities in (especially younger) people, aka "drama". The hook-ups I've had with older men usually went smoothly but it didn't amount to anything & we aren't on speaking terms anymore. The sex wasn't even all that great. One guy had to use Levitra, the other couldn't stay hard & blamed it on the condom. *Rolls eyes* They weren't bad guys but at the end of the day, most of my hook-ups were just a waste of time & it's soured my views on sex.

The younger guys I hooked up with (ages 23-25) were mostly of questionable character. The sex was better with them but so what? They were either dismissive or flat-out disrespectful after we had sex. Again, not worth my time. No d*ck is that great that's it's worth being ignored and disrespected, which happens A LOT when it comes to hook-up culture.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 10/9/2018 3:37:52 PM

Why kiss someone I'm not into. Intimacy is only for someone I actually love. It was meant to be just about servicing me yeah, I don't get into fwb situations where I'm not the beneficiary. He wasn't allowed or meant to get off.

I call BS on this one!!
and if by the extremely slight chance it's true.....it is damned f*ed up!
But I'm gonna stick with your full of sh*t if you think anyone believes that...
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 10/9/2018 5:23:23 PM
LOL, You're welcome curvylady. I seem to have a bad habit of doing my homework...……………...and I not only remember Paul Harvey, I can hear the tone of his voice as he would finish his broadcast with, "The Rest of the Story".
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 10/9/2018 5:52:34 PM
well at least she didn't sleep around much, she just went straight for the gutter and hung out there.
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 10/9/2018 10:28:56 PM
At first I agreed to fwb because I still had sone sort of feelings and he said it would be all about my pleasure. I don't think there were many occasions where I actually was interested and wanted to have sex with him though.
For the most part the sex happened on our overseas holidays at the end of the year or jan/feb.
He would keep pestering me when I wasn't really interested till I gave in. On the later ones I outright wasn't interested and said no and he kept touching etc till I gave in. On last one I wouldn't let him near me but he still tried to harass me for sex then chucked a fit when I wouldn't.
I was just sick of it and was like yea no cruises with you anymore because you wouldn't leave me the F alone.
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 10/9/2018 10:56:50 PM
If I was single I'd probably look around for men who don't need reciprocation, maybe some bi MM duos. I've always wanted to watch 2 guys but never got to.
I dunno siisaa, I've never been with guys over 26 and my fwb experience was terrible. In terms of fwb I'd probably get bored having the same one but at the same time I wouldn't want diseases lol. I just need it to be really fun and wild to keep me interested. Otherwise I kinda get bored.
Guys are pretty bad when it comes to aftercare in hookups but I guess that is to be expected.
 julystorm22
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Posted: 10/10/2018 6:44:12 AM
I remember The Rest of the Story! It used to play on the radio here every morning around 830am. I'd be on the school bus and it would drop us off sometimes right when it was on and sometimes I didn't get to hear the rest of the story. I looked forward to that segment.
 hemingway234
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Posted: 10/10/2018 1:50:06 PM

I had a fwb too for about 2 years but very infrequently. I didn't kiss the fwb or touch.


- many prostitutes have a rule that they will not kiss their Johns....... so it seems understandable for women who have sex without love to not want to kiss.
 Tech30
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Posted: 10/11/2018 7:25:20 AM
This is why I dated older women when I was in my early 20s to early 30s. Just reading the posts they make hurt my head.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 10/13/2018 9:00:50 PM


I had a fwb too for about 2 years but very infrequently. I didn't kiss the fwb or touch.
- many prostitutes have a rule that they will not kiss their Johns....... so it seems understandable for women who have sex without love to not want to kiss.

Well, at least a prostitute Is going to touch - lol. If not, one's getting ripped off bigtime. If one's not touching a friend they hang out with who's attracted to them, there are no benefits either. :)
 julystorm22
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Posted: 10/13/2018 9:28:39 PM
Yeah, I'm getting confused. How do you not touch during sex?
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 10/14/2018 8:17:33 AM

Well, at least a prostitute Is going to touch - lol. If not, one's getting ripped off bigtime. If one's not touching a friend they hang out with who's attracted to them, there are no benefits either. :)

That is why I never asked to be paid, I'd have to put actual effort in with people I don't care about, ewww nooo.
 Peter_Hungus
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Posted: 10/15/2018 4:47:53 AM

Sir, I agree with what you said. However, these women are damaged. The other women you indicted are SANE rational women. The real fact they do not want a man, rather than a pony to take the burden off their shoulders. They are fighting with their ex-BFs. and never leave on a good note.


And I agree with what you said. My experiences has been just that. They are looking for a beast of burden to pull the plow of economic generation to provide for them. They do bring something to the table, its just nothing positive. It's generally drama; drama from the ex, drama from the kids behavior and drama from the financial struggles that are a constant in their lives.


That is absolutely hilarious because men sleep with more people than women do.
Sorry to break it to you dude but is mostly you men having orgies and 1 nighters
So you might want to retract that whole post.


The OP started this thread asking why women, not men, are no longer looking for hook-ups. This isn't about who has more hook-ups than the other. A woman's history in regards to promiscuity is much relevant then men's. Why? Well;

1. Women are more likely to have contracted a STD then men ( heterosexuals). HPV for example.
2. Unplanned pregnancies commonly result from sex. If this is from hook-up(s), shes likely in a situation where she is saddled with kid(s) in regards to the costs and lifestyle restrictions from raising them on her own. This impacts future relationships.
3. Studies have consistently shown that after a certain threshold of sexual partners a woman has, she is no longer able to pair-bond to future partners. That is to say rates of divorce and infidelity are proportionally higher the more sexual partners a woman has had.
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 10/15/2018 9:10:53 AM
On average most people sleep with 5-20 people so your point is basically redundant?
Like whare are you getting at here.
 Tech30
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Posted: 10/17/2018 11:05:47 AM
Yay im above average in one more way!
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 10/21/2018 9:19:59 PM
Is that surprising?
I think its common knowledge that 20 is the maximum avg for males.
 oldwxman
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Posted: 10/21/2018 11:42:40 PM
I guess there are plenty of pro sex and plenty of anti sex people. I probably fall into the second group. When I first get involved with a woman, sex is important to me and then it falls way off to where every other month is about my speed. I think that maybe, early on, I want to know if she is connected enough to have sex with me. Once I know that then that is enough. Could be trouble with a very pro sex girl but I have only run into two or three that made much of a fuss about it.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 10/22/2018 11:01:05 AM

That is why I never asked to be paid, I'd have to put actual effort in with people I don't care about, ewww nooo.

Well, lol, my point is -- there's no benefits if there's no touching. Thus, it's not even close to FWB. Heck, some people who are Friends but with Potential benefits or dating, won't be "eww" about touching them at all, either. Your situation wasn't even close to FWB, if there was no touching + the concept was "eww" in your mind.

I think its common knowledge that 20 is the maximum avg for males.

I don't think that's common knowledge. Those #s have proven to be Unreliable when surveying people anyway, and so many people have their own #s in their own head, too.

Also, it's SO "high school" (and college) to go by #s. A number *should* grow for every non-sheltered adult, the # of years they're single. That's why you could find a newly divorced gal in her early 40s pshaw-ing a gal who's 25 having slept with more men (or assumed to; again, #s aren't very accurate cumming from the horse's mouth) -- when said older gal got married at 23 with her boyfriend in college right after college and was "off the market" for 20 years.
 Tech30
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Posted: 10/22/2018 2:08:48 PM
Is that surprising?
I think its common knowledge that 20 is the maximum avg for males.

No its not surprising, ive always been exceptional.

And no its not common knowledge. Also , you seem to have a very sheltered life so how would you have much real world knowledge to apply to things you have read online? Or even heard in school?

That isnt an insult, i just wonder how someone can read stats alone and think they know all there is. How many men have you personally asked? What kind of backgrounds did they have? Have you asked men from different countries ?

I personally dont believe the numbers as too many people lie. Yes some men cut their numbers way down because lots of their notches were added while married so they dont want to share that info. Also I know lots of married men who only had a couple before getting married young and never strayed.

And as for numbers for women. Women tend to not include blow jobs, anal, sex they thought was bad. They dont count that one time they were drunk and banged ugly bob.

I remember a catholic girl who wanted to stay a virgin so she offered anal sex. So when people asked if she had sex she would say no.
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