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 Inicia
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Women don't have a heat, damn.. just stupid.. sorry that is just ignorant. no i don't need netflix, coladge-meducated lol
 BaldwinMotionPhaseIII
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if women don't have the heat, what's with the hot flashes? :)
Posted: 3/29/2019 9:36:39 AM
just for laughs

https://www.fatherly.com/health-science/trying-to-get-pregnant-makes-women-hornier/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201503/how-the-menstrual-cycle-affects-womens-libido

https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/ne3zzg/getting-horny-right-before-your-period

we descend from animals, after all, so what's the odds.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 3/29/2019 11:51:33 AM

I don't think a woman who lacks money is at much of a disadvantage when it comes to dating IF she doesn't have kids.

A gal who has kids isn't at a disadvantage compared to a guy when it cums to casual sex either. But yes, if a gal doesn't have kids, she has an advantage over a gal who does. Whether it be casual sex, dating, LTR opportunities, or even being able to go out in general. :)

Usually the people who have had a lot of casual sex are the women- simply because it’s easier for them to do so.

If they're having casual sex -- the man also has casual sex. Takes two to tango. It's easier for women to do so -- they "call the shots", so to speak, with the Yay & Nay cards to hold up... whether it be getting a date, or porking around. But bottom line is, when a gal has casual (hetero) sex, it amps it up for a guy, too.

A lot of men look down at poorer single moms.

If the guy doesn't have kids and makes decent money, sure, I guess. But he looks more down on a guy who has kids who doesn't make much money. I say guy, but, I'll also include women in it. People in general will.

The better looking a single mom is, the more a guy is likely to overlook the fact she is both poor and a single mom and sometimes its even an advantage because a guy sees it as a chance to get someone above his league in looks.

Sure. Whether it be having kids, she lives at her parents', lives out in BFE where it'd be (sigh) drive for every guy, she works 3rd shift, etc. Her looks help overcum any disadvantages. Yes, an mildly-above-average Joe will have a better chance at the very-pretty Penny, if she has disadvantages -- or shall I say "baggage".

Single mothers with little money often have difficulty dating because they can't afford babysitters or nice clothes and such and it puts them at a real disadvantage.

The nice clothes part isn't a biggie -- more a personal thing. But the babysitter thing is a disadvantage in the dating world if she doesn't have friends/relatives available to babysit semi-frequently. But the good thing online is, the gal can say that to a guy she's chatting with -- and that can be his treat. Again, likely if she's a few notches up on the attraction scale than he is. But doesn't need to be That much, online (gals already have it tilted in their direction due to the ratio imbalance).

Maybe the desire for a lot of casual sex is emotional?

Well, the desire for sex -- casual or otherwise -- is emotional, of course. It's driven by hormones. It's emotional. I do agree that gals will have their ups & downs when it comes to the desire or openness for a casual porking. But the mileage's going to vary a lot. Especially when on the pill, but also there's so many differences in people, we can't just assume. Also -- I read about how there may be a bit of that in guys too, as far as sex drive -- some hormone cycle of sorts in a more low-key way.

Emotional in a sexual addiction or an attempt to reassure themselves that they are attractive and therefore worthy.

Or just liking a good romping. It feels & tastes great! :)
 browneyesboo
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Posted: 3/29/2019 12:28:42 PM
Honestly, I don't see what's wrong with lots of casual sex, as long as it's between
two consenting adults who practice safe sex. People seem to think there's something
wrong with people who have sex outside of a relationship, like it's dirty or
slutty, when the reality is, sex is a natural thing.

Sexual addiction is something else entirely, and should be diagnosed by a professional.
People who have sex regularly are not necessarily addicted or looking for reassurance.
Maybe they just like sex. You don't have to be attractive to have sex...I'm sure there are
lots that can speak to that fact, perhaps myself included.

 Inicia
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Posted: 3/29/2019 12:42:00 PM
us sick pervy people lol, who like the romping, it's not like it is physically enjoyable or anything-Got to be an addiction or hormones!
 Clytemnestra
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Posted: 3/29/2019 1:19:01 PM
msg#304:
Honestly, I don't see what's wrong with lots of casual sex, as long as it's between
two consenting adults who practice safe sex. People seem to think there's something
wrong with people who have sex outside of a relationship, like it's dirty or
slutty, when the reality is, sex is a natural thing.



not necessarily addicted or looking for reassurance.
Maybe they just like sex. You don't have to be attractive to have sex...I'm sure there are
lots that can speak to that fact, perhaps myself included


Exactly.
Let's be real here.
Sex when 'done right' feels pretty darn good.
Puts a spring back into your step.
And a smile on your face.
(Smile)
 Kokanee_Ice
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Posted: 3/29/2019 1:27:36 PM

If they're having casual sex -- the man also has casual sex. Takes two to tango. It's easier for women to do so -- they "call the shots", so to speak, with the Yay & Nay cards to hold up... whether it be getting a date, or porking around. But bottom line is, when a gal has casual (hetero) sex, it amps it up for a guy, too.


Oh, it’s possible that one woman could have had 10 one-night-stands with 10 different men. That means that she had casual sex 10 times and each man only once.
 Inicia
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Posted: 3/29/2019 1:30:04 PM
😎 i am looking forward to my spring being sprung Clytemnestra god that is hard to spell! looked at least three times
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 3/29/2019 1:48:41 PM

People seem to think there's something wrong with people who have sex outside of a relationship, like it's dirty or slutty, when the reality is, sex is a natural thing.

It's culture. Pure and simple. The argument that not all sex is entirely safe is only the backdrop support to it. Fast forward not tooo far in the future, when eliminating & preventing a virus of any kind with new tech will be like getting a mere flu shot -- the concept is Not going to go away at all. Daddy's not going to give the thumbs up to his teenage daughter to go porking around, that's for damn sure. :)

us sick pervy people lol, who like the romping, it's not like it is physically enjoyable or anything

Exactly. It's to make babies. Only the devil makes it feel good.

Sex when 'done right' feels pretty darn good. Puts a spring back into your step.

And when 'done right' breaks a spring in the bed to give you that spring in your step. :)

And a smile on your face.

Along with the possibility of other substances. YMMV!

Oh, it’s possible that one woman could have had 10 one-night-stands with 10 different men.

Not just possible, but required it'd have to be 10 different men for *1* night stands. :) And if a social person, and single long enough, assuming no lack of hormones or brutal upbringing, you can count on (even) a good gal having 1+ night stands with 10+ guys.

That means that she had casual sex 10 times and each man only once.

No it doesn't. This is one of the problems why some people (not saying you) can't grasp the fact that the # of people one has had (hetero) sexual intercourse with -- is basically the same among men & women, since the # of men & women is basically the same.

That scenario does Not Mean (=) each man only had sex once. You Really think each of those guys has only had sex with Her? :)

Take an island with 5 gals, 5 guys. Sally bangs all 5 guys at once. The other 4 girls are twiddling their thumbs, watching. The average # of how-many-you-slept with is Equal, among men & women: 1.
Women always wanting men quite taller than them
Posted: 3/29/2019 4:56:13 PM
Height has always been and will likely always be an issue with the online experience, simply because there are women who still look at this site as a restaurant menu. Any man who has been on an online dating site for even a DAY has seen more than his share of height requirement mentioned in profiles.

However, as I've always said, if online is failing you, get the f*ck off the site and focus on the real world.


We ALL believe we are 'average' and deserve at least a little better.


No, "we" don't. People who think of themselves as average inevitably act average, which leads to average or below average experiences. If one feels average, they need to do whatever it takes to NOT feel average or do without. But that's the problem, too many people want to accept their "average" selves and not focus on improving, but they'll sit HERE for years on end honing their "debating skills".

Ooooh, he/she can argue! Such an aphrodisiac!
 adventurejoe70
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Posted: 3/29/2019 5:12:45 PM
^^Well said:
The key is too think we are above average. What we are actually perceived of is irrelevant because once you truly believe it you will see women treat you like it.
 zonavar68
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Posted: 3/29/2019 5:19:02 PM

Let's be real here.
Sex when 'done right' feels pretty darn good.
Puts a spring back into your step.
And a smile on your face.
(Smile)


Absolutely. But that's also really, really, really rare when you're not in a commited LTR with something you connect with on a very deep level. Deep and meaningful sex is something I've not had for well over 2 years and don't have any expectation of having any time soon. It should be part of maintaining a very strong partner bond with someone.

Putting that aside I've had an interesting occurence more recently. Started chatting to someone who's shorter than me by quite a lot (I'm 5'7" aka 170 cm and she's about 5'2" aka 158 cm) yet in her online profile(s) (I've found her on other dating sites not just one) she outwardly states she wants really tall men about 5'10" or 5'11" (about 180 cm). Getting along ok so it may go somewhere but haven't met in person yet (I've been pretty sick with flu - ick). Kinda surprised as I'm way outside her preferred 'tallness spec'.

Is there any perceived 'range' of height difference that women on average appear to perceive and want when seeking male attention?

My first LTR was with a woman shorter. My other one (I've only ever had two) was with a woman slightly taller (just).
 browneyesboo
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Posted: 3/29/2019 5:30:23 PM
Welcome back Mr. Pig!
Women always wanting men quite taller than them
Posted: 3/29/2019 6:12:13 PM
Heeeey, thanks, Booceephus!
 SurelyIamShirley
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Posted: 3/29/2019 9:22:35 PM

Women don't have a heat, damn.. just stupid.. sorry that is just ignorant. no i don't need netflix, coladge-meducated lol


Inicia....My words were "in a sense". Many women experience more desire just before and during ovulation just as July said.

On a side note, I would swear that there are two people using the forums on your one profile. Notice the capitals, punctuation and only one hyphen in this post compared to many of your others. Lol.
Women always wanting men quite taller than them
Posted: 3/30/2019 2:58:29 PM
Holy shit. I had the mother of all height discriminators write me. She asked if I was a member of the Knights Kemplar. I checked out her profile, and it says if you're not OVER 6'3'' to pass her by. DAMN!

I wrote back and explained to her that not only is she looking for the proverbial needle in the haystack on the height, but he also has to cover her other preferences. She wrote back "I understand, but I would rather be alone than settle."

Hilarious.
 spectravision
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Posted: 3/30/2019 3:22:34 PM
^^ I'm sure you will lose sleep over it
Women always wanting men quite taller than them
Posted: 3/30/2019 4:05:00 PM
There had to be *some* level of interest on her part to write me to begin with. Women aren't on dating sites to discuss The Knights Kemplar.

She is expecting me to start dazzling her and trying to convince her to overlook her "requirement", but to borrow an old expression from the 90s - "Homey don't play that."

This chick is hot, but dime a dozen.
 Peter_Hungus
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Posted: 3/30/2019 4:35:08 PM

I checked out her profile, and it says if you're not OVER 6'3'' to pass her by. DAMN!


Since no one has brought this up, I'd figured I post this on here to illustrate how unrealistic some of these requirements are.

This is a bell curve breakdown of male height based on an average of 100 men.
https://investing.calsci.com/statistics.html

5'3 1
5'4 3
5'5 4
5'6 6
5'7 7
5'8 12
5'9 17
5'10 17
5'11 12
6' 7
6'1 6
6'2 4
6'3 3
6'4 1

It turns out that men's height falls onto what's called a standard distribution, or a gaussian curve, or a bell curve. Out of one hundred men, about 2/3 of them, about 68, are between 5'7" and 6'. About 2/3 of all American men are 5'10" ± 3". About 1/3 of them are outside this range, with about half of those on each side. So, about 1/6 are 6'1" or taller, and about 1/6 are 5'6" or shorter. If we start looking for men who are much taller than 6' tall, we find that as their height goes up, they get more and more rare.

This also means only half (50%) of men are 5'10" or taller. Only 21% of men are 6' or taller.

Remember this is just height. This doesn't factor in if the guy is tall and;
Bald, unemployed, under educated, obese, morbidly obese, not facially attractive, healthy, convicted felon.

So if he has to be tall, attractive, fit, educated, gainfully employed and have a good financial portfolio we are talking about men who are maybe the top 1-3% of any given age bracket. What kind of women are these men dating and are they the ones that have these requirements?
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Posted: 3/30/2019 5:18:43 PM
That may be the average for the population as a whole but keep in mind the ethnic and regional averages. People of Asian, Western European and Southern European tend to be shorter on average while Northern European, Eastern European and African people tend to be taller on average. Looking for a 6 foot tall man where I live is reasonably easy although I think on pof there tend to be more shorter men because they have more difficulty finding a mate due to the fact they are much shorter than the average. Keep in mind that where the men are taller, the women also are too so there are more women who are taller than short men too. I find that I am taller by an inch or two than most women (I'm almost 5'9) and for a 5'6 man here, there are not too many women who are shorter excepting the Asian populations around here. But from what I've observed, Asian girls here won't date non-Asian men.
 Inicia
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Posted: 3/31/2019 6:47:43 AM
It can't be fixed with make-up, wigs, plugs, skills, Viagra, toys, car, job, divorce, clothes, a diet, exercise, rehab, meds, therapy. However,
https://abcnews.go.com/Health/leg-lengthening-patient-hopes-grow-33-inches-painful/story?id=19451057 quit lamenting and save or get a loan money like many women do for cosmetic /body altering surgery
Resurrecting motown cowgirls 9/9/2013 response related to this ad.nauseam. (must be 300 forums)
I like a man I can toss across the room when he gets on my nerves.
i know, it sucks to have a physical trait you have no control over impede dating/mate choices.
Lots of men aren't interested in Amazonian women,
let us clear up with the facts it isn't
women
as a general group
always
or
quite taller
.. The whole assumption is BS!
 Clytemnestra
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Posted: 3/31/2019 8:45:05 AM
msg#321:
Resurrecting motown cowgirls 9/9/2013 response related to this ad.nauseam. (must be 300 forums)
I like a man I can toss across the room when he gets on my nerves.


Hahaha.
She was one funny lady.
I miss her acerbic wit~

;-)
 Seamist474
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Posted: 3/31/2019 10:09:55 AM
After a lot of years interacting with men, being married for half my life, my experience is - find a guy who makes you laugh, has your back, respects you, has a job, has interests that you can share or do your own, a guy who wants to share the kitchen and the bedroom, who encourages you to grow, has an open mind. Things like height and hair aren't as important as character, charm, intelligence and empathy. I'm at the age where when I take my glasses off, most men look hot...as do I.

As for "...toss around the room when he gets on my nerves" - I've always thought it would nice to have my own room - a man cave for him and a woman cave for me.
 spectravision
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Posted: 3/31/2019 10:18:34 AM

I'm at the age where when I take my glasses off, most men look hot...as do I.


I do it before looking in the mirror and saying who da man

All the other stuff I agree with. A person having your back and so on.
 Clytemnestra
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Posted: 3/31/2019 11:02:11 AM
msg#323:
I've always thought it would nice to have my own room - a man cave for him and a woman cave for me.


Oh gosh yes. This is a must have. Along with your own bathroom~

(your own wing of the house even better! hahahaha)
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