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 Spectrallight
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Best one was when my disabled son was putting rubbish in a bin at a cafe and that was behind the door, this woman came in with a pram and trapped him there and then started whinging that nobody had helped her with the door...


I wouldn't be able to keep my gob shut. That would make my blood boil.
 feirene
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Posted: 2/26/2019 4:36:22 PM

I wouldn't be able to keep my gob shut. That would make my blood boil.


My son gets traumatised easily so i didn't go off on one, just asked him if he was alright first then turned to the woman and said he couldn't have helped you with the door even if he had wanted to.
 feirene
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Posted: 2/26/2019 4:44:01 PM

There is scientific evidence that women do age faster than men. Men have thicker skin which is less prone to wrinkles and facial hair that helps to protect skin from sun damage. Of course there are always exceptions. In my area it seems like there’s a lack of good-looking women in their 40’s who date online.


I met my ex when he was 23, he was quite wrinkly then. He hasn't aged since and is 41 now. So me and my sister think some guys look older when young and then don't age at all for some weird reason. I reckon he will become one of them silver foxes. He's always had a beard and that helps probably. What ages me so far is my muppet mouth obviously a beard would hide that.
 Kokanee_Ice
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Posted: 2/26/2019 7:32:41 PM

How do these rejects know the women are STILL on the site?


Because POF allows you to see if somebody else is online at the same time as you are logged into your account. These same women are always on-line. And quite often they never update their pics for years.


Why can't I find a woman who doesn't expect me to pay?


Nobody’s saying that. The last date that I went on the woman wanted to pay for me. It would feel awkward for me to accept that, so I suggested splitting the bill.


Your biggest issue is that you are "on the dole," have fantasized about moving to Sweden (where the benefits are higher for you), and just have no way to even properly take care of yourself. If you are looking for an equal, you should not have a hard time, but you may have to come down a cup size or two.


Huh, when did I say that? I’m an independent person with a steady job. I’m not looking for anybody to take care of me. I admire the Scandinavian governments’ way of making sure wealth is equality distributed. I wouldn’t mind paying more in taxes if it meant more benefits for society as a whole - for example, free post-secondary education and programs for elderly people. I do support a moderate form of socialism. That’s more of a political discussion- this is a dating forum.


My last partner had DDD’s. After her, I could never go back to dating a woman with a C-cup size.


I was being sarcastic. I was trying to show the irony of all the women on this saying that they could never go back to dating a man under 6’0 ft after they’ve been on POF. It’s funny how women only get their panties in a wad when it’s about men judging them by some physical physical attribute.
 BaldwinMotionPhaseIII
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Posted: 2/27/2019 10:08:38 AM
"Why can't I find a woman who doesn't expect me to pay? Nobody’s saying that. The last date that I went on the woman wanted to pay for me. It would feel awkward for me to accept that, so I suggested splitting the bill. "

>>>there are plenty of times, it feels wonderfully paternal to have to plan the date, have to drive to her house, have to drive her to the date's location, and have to pay for things. and other times, when there's no sex is almost like you took your kid someplace. i guess it depends upon what mood we men are in...do we want to be the protector, the knight, the lead in it all, and express how much we desire their company.....or do we feel that day like it would be nice if someone desired us so much, that they took the effort to pamper us.

just a rumination.
 adventurejoe70
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Posted: 2/28/2019 8:02:54 AM

I don't think people are 'raising' people at all. Having single parents or both required to work has been happening for the last 40-50 years, so people 'learn' from what they encounter or watch on TV. Suffice it to say the lack of a "Mr Rodgers Neighborhood" show teaching morality and the decline of shows like "Sesame Street" teaching kids to read means they have learned their life lessons from Spongebob and Grand Theft Auto video games. We have massive numbers of the population still clinging to an entitlement philosophy because parents who had money - but who couldn't afford the time to spend with their kids - threw money and gifts at the 'problem' and blamed others instead of trying to accept responsibility and find another way.

Lol. My nephew goes to Brooklyn Tech(one of the top science highs chools in the country) and most likely will be going to Harvard. I just learned from my brother, he doesn't know how to sign his name. Apparently, they don't have time teach that anymore.
 Clytemnestra
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Posted: 2/28/2019 10:25:18 AM
msg#31:
doesn't know how to sign his name. Apparently, they don't have time teach that anymore


I'm pretty much out of the 'kids in school' loop, but have heard they no longer are teaching cursive writing.
Which gives me The Horrors! Just on principle~

It was not just till reading this post that I even considered that kids would not know how to 'sign their name'~
I remember as kids we'd practice all the time with different scripts, etc. to see how 'cool' we could make our 'signature'. Good Times~
Will we go back to marking an 'X' in the signature line? ;-(
 Tarnished_Knight
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Posted: 3/1/2019 1:32:55 PM
yeah, heard about the lack of cursive instruction, too. Personally, my son could have used a lot, I mean A LOT, more practice with his writing - even today as he's near finished with his PT schooling I find his penmanship improved but still difficult to read. He may be getting a doctorate, but...

Anyway, I have a question re: Chivalry.

This has always bugged me: why is it considered "polite" or chivalrous to open the door for the lady so she can go first. Oh sure, it may be an honor thing but are you confident you know what's on the other side of that door? Frankly, I would prefer to go first in case there's something wrong on the other side. I've had people comment that I stop/pause before fully entering a room/enclosure until I've had a chance to make a quick assessment. (This is not to say I loiter there - do not get me started on those folks; or the ones who loiter at the head or top of stairs either. ) Yes, I also know that going first and then holding an outward swinging door is awkward.

Anyway, some of the things we do that are socially expected seem ... odd, or irrational.

TK
 flowersinthelake
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Posted: 3/2/2019 7:32:47 AM
I open doors for elderly people or parents with babies in baby prams. I pull out chairs for people can't do it on their own. I certainly won't pay to entertain men on initial dates.

If I have to switch roles to get a date, then I won't date those people who expect I change my viewpoint on this.
 Kokanee_Ice
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Posted: 3/2/2019 8:36:01 AM
^^^ Well there are more men willing to pay to entertain women than there are women willing to pay to entertain men. That is a fact because we live in a patriarchal society. Quite a few women would agree to splitting the bill on a date, but not many would want to take over the chivalrous male role in wining and dining men. It is easier for a young, beautiful woman to get a date. She could be in a minimum wage job such as a waitress, but that won’t affect her dating prospects. Younger men just starting out on there own do have a harder time dating, if they haven’t made much money yet.
 Kokanee_Ice
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Posted: 3/5/2019 11:24:18 AM

Suffice it to say the lack of a "Mr Rodgers Neighborhood" show teaching morality and the decline of shows like "Sesame Street" teaching kids to read


Yes, Sesame Street was truly ahead of it’s time. Burt and Ernie are obviously gay - I mean, they kiss each other goodnight.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 3/5/2019 1:26:46 PM

Nobody’s saying that. The last date that I went on the woman wanted to pay for me.

Butt, if you eliminate an already known I-owe-you situation, that's Rare. The only other time that wouldn't be "whoah" in my mind would be a couple times in my too-lengthy dating history: When there was no interest on her part, with a feeling of guilt. One, where the gal urged me to go out, and when we did I could tell she wasn't into me but thought I was a good guy -- and the other, a gal way out of my league who I did take out several times, then for another (the last) I called her out on her waivering on agreeing to one, she adamately confirmed... but could read off her a lack of interest/guilt, and she insisted on paying for it. In that, I had Zero qualms about it, as I don't think any guy or girl observing would either.

We have massive numbers of the population still clinging to an entitlement philosophy because parents who had money

I don't like calling it 'entitlement', because it's not exactly like that -- and calling them out as such, they can too easily pshaw the notion and not self-realize their situation. Also, I don't think it's due to parents having money, although that will obviously raise the liklihiood. I think it's about people in general being exposed to & interacting with more 'stuff'. It's taking things for granted, but when you're Raised that way, it's kinda hard to realize that you're taking things for granted by merely throwing that notion out there -- especially when most everyone else is rolling the same way as the norm.

I just learned from my brother, he doesn't know how to sign his name. Apparently, they don't have time teach that anymore.

Cursive is for the birds, and nostalgia's for nostrils. Cursive was made to make writing with a pen more fluid & flowing -- easier, while also 'nice' looking when that kinda stuff mattered in the stone age. The only people who write letters on pen & paper are old people and stalkers. :) That said, signing your name -- having a lesson in cursive and then focusing on your name -- that's all good. But no need to waste much time on it, as nobody's going to be writing essays in it. Mouse and keyboard, mouse and keyboard.

This has always bugged me: why is it considered "polite" or chivalrous to open the door for the lady so she can go first.

"Because". That's why. It's playing games for any lady to put that on the level of scoring points with them. But unfortunately, we don't call games 'games' when older generations give a positive nod to it. (rolling eyes)

Quite a few women would agree to splitting the bill on a date, but not many would want to take over the chivalrous male role in wining and dining men.

But I don't think quite a few women would Desire to splitting the bill on dates with guys who they didn't chase down to get one. Instead, I would say, a vast majority of women would rather have the guy pay all or almost all of the date, on classic/standard dates. Quite a few women aren't going to disagree with a guy on motioning that they split the bill, but that doesn't at all mean it was 100% fine with them.

It is easier for a young, beautiful woman to get a date. She could be in a minimum wage job such as a waitress, but that won’t affect her dating prospects. Younger men just starting out on there own do have a harder time dating, if they haven’t made much money yet.

I agree. But, a waitress in virtually every place, isn't going to be minimum wage. For a hot girl especially, there's a even a good chance it's double that (but depends on one's state's min-wage). But I agree that a hot gal doesn't need to get a career job to land Good dates. Waiting or bartending at a nice place will certainly cover it. A guy waiting/bartending at a nice place can get some poontang-tail among fellow co-workers & those working in the scene nearby too -- but as far as it being a source of relationships are concerned, that's not much an option once nearing 30.
 BaldwinMotionPhaseIII
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Posted: 3/11/2019 10:00:14 AM
"why is it considered "polite" or chivalrous to open the door for the lady so she can go first."

>>>there was a good guess, however....it was due to women of society wearing cumbersome dresses that needed two hands to lift and/or bunch up in order to cross the threshold (a term for a board that held the thresh floor inside), and so a gent rendered a third hand to keep the door open.
 Spectrallight
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Posted: 3/11/2019 1:21:16 PM
^^ while wearing his high heels :)
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