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 Katy_124
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Thank you everyone!!

I especially found Penny and Norwegianguy's advice insightful and very helpful. Penny's post had the advantage of making me feel angry about the current situation which spurred me to on to talk to him.

I wrung my hands for days with dread and then decided to tell him how I felt. He replied that he shares my feelings exactly and he wants to develop the relationship and see where it leads us :) I'm glad I spoke up because I felt immediately unburdened by the pain I was carrying around 24/7.
 Katy_124
Joined: 11/14/2014
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Posted: 4/12/2019 12:58:03 PM
And good luck with your treatment Penny.
 fullmoonguy2
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Posted: 4/13/2019 2:11:08 PM

decided to tell him how I felt. He replied that he shares my feelings exactly and he wants to develop the relationship and see where it leads us :)


Another SMH moment.

It never ends.
What do you think my ex wants from me?
Posted: 4/13/2019 3:01:55 PM

He replied that he shares my feelings exactly and he wants to develop the relationship and see where it leads us :)


As if you haven't already been given a sneak preview?
 spectravision
Joined: 3/20/2019
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Posted: 4/13/2019 3:20:10 PM
If it is even real in the first place...
 LetitiaLeGrande
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Posted: 4/22/2019 7:19:43 PM
pigofyourdreams

lol! Yes. so dinner stretched into midnight at least and no kissing or cuddling?
 dynamicones
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Posted: 4/23/2019 8:04:14 AM
spect I've been reading your replies and am really impressed, not the usual troll drivel you find in forums :)

as for op's situation, try honest communication, it works wonders
 spectravision
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Posted: 4/24/2019 9:15:26 AM
^^ It's been known to get me into trouble haha
 SurelyIamShirley
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Posted: 4/24/2019 9:56:54 AM

These issues, (including a flare up of depression) meant he would become quite inconsistent with contacting me and making plans. I asked him to change this or we were done. He said he didn't want me to feel neglected and finally offered to be 'friends'.


IMHO....this guy had more than one fish on the line and substituted the one already in the pan for the other which he then put back on the hook to leave dangling in case he didn't like the flavor of his substitute.....lol.

Now you are giving him a 2nd chance while he is probably still trolling for the next bigger and better fish!
 julystorm22
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Posted: 4/24/2019 10:51:09 AM
You asked him to "change" this? Sigh...that's the nail in the coffin right there. And Shirley is right, his inconsistency denotes that he is inconsistent about his feelings for you. He likes you but not enough to put his best foot forward. Either that, or he is just not in a good place for a relationship and that's not something that can be forced. Walk away rather than exerting your energy for nothing.
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