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 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 137
Do guys take kindly to a women hitting on them?Page 10 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)


Msg: 181 --It is the ultimate compliment, when a gal moves first. Can be real HELL, when she isn't seasoned in the mating game, happened several times, having to let her down gently.


I imagine it can be a bit rough, especially when you are unseasoned in LETTING her down. I always stress compatibility and communication. I suspect that if either is lacking, she EXPECTS to be dropped. This is pretty much a no-brainer. If there is no attachment, there is no relationship, and there is no point in holding on if there is no clearly definable relationship, now, is there?
 victoriasnewsecret
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 138
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Do guys take kindly to a women hitting on them?
Posted: 8/14/2008 4:38:18 PM
Hitting on a guy is exciting, and makes going out so much more fun!

How awesome is it to really go through a crowd, pick the guy who's really caught your attention, and do what you can to make it happen? Social stigmas aside, if you work up the guts to do it it can be a blast!

This new years, I decided to do something I never did before.. as the ball started dropping, I positioned myself next to this guy that I thought was super cute. He was alone, and had been most of the night. When the ball dropped, I tapped his shoulder, and when he bent down to hear what I had to say (I'm short lol) I just grabbed him and kissed him!

(I did think before I did this, and I figured I'd like it if someone did it to me.. so I tried it out!)

He was really stunned and could barely think of anything to say, but he had the biggest grin on his face. We talked for the rest of the night once he got over the shock.. lol.

Normally I'd never be that forward, but hey, you only live once. The other night I did something a bit more normal lol.. a guy and I kept exchanging glances as we passed each other through the crowd.. and the crowd was just pushing us apart, so I just waved him over (which took a lot of guts) and his face lit up and he grabbed my hand. I ended up with someone who I was really compatible with. Turned out he thought I was really pretty, so I guess I lucked out :)

So hey! Maybe the secret to us girls getting the exact guys we want is just going for them. And one of the good things about making the move is you can pick a guy who hasn't already hit on 25 other girls before you.
 Thirdfromtheleft
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 141
guys do take kindly to a women hitting on them
Posted: 11/24/2008 8:56:49 PM
My father once said: "There are two types of girls. First type, the most common, you have to "chase" and "conquer". Second type are the once that chase YOU and ask YOU out. Have fun, but remember, when you finally want to settle down, pick only from the second type, because they see in you whatever it is they want from a man and you wount have to look over your shoulder for the rest of your life. Relationship without trust is a liability."
I know my father and grandfather followed this rule, and it has served me well so far. Its common sense. Women, that have to be talked into being with you, are just there because of all that sweet, silly shit you said, that made them laugh and feel good about themselves (not to mention what you spent). If you could do it, so can anyone else. How can you trust someone like that?

HOWEVER I'm not saying men shouldnt be making the first move! They should! Its just that that sort of relationship is not meant for anything long term (not saying it CANT be long term, it CAN, but its just not MEANT to be).
 mulberry4000
Joined: 2/2/2009
Msg: 147
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Do guys take kindly to a women hitting on them?
Posted: 2/7/2009 7:00:01 PM
oh oh yes please yes please I would love it such an ego boost if i happen to me but alas it has not but i would not mind at all. Please god let it happen before i die
 metagod
Joined: 7/5/2007
Msg: 150
Do guys take kindly to a women hitting on them?
Posted: 3/11/2009 4:54:28 PM
I prefer it personally, as I have absolutely no clue when a women really likes me.
First relationship I was in, she had been flirting with me for almost a year, but I had never picked up on it and always assumed she wasn't interested as she had rejected all of my friends advances already.

~Tyler
 LG2727
Joined: 1/20/2010
Msg: 156
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Posted: 3/1/2010 10:10:37 PM
hmmmm....I asked several men if they liked a woman hitting on them, they said no, they would think the women were skanks. So, just how does one know whether a man would like it or not? I dont really care, I would never hit on a man!
 Ron429
Joined: 2/26/2009
Msg: 161
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Posted: 3/3/2010 10:07:07 AM
Guys that are heterosexual, normal, healthy, appreciate sex and the opposite sex are thrilled when women hit on them. It only makes it easier to talk and chat and make a love connection. So yeah, I definitely take kindly to women hitting on me, in fact I would be happy if they did it a lot more than they do. Only trouble is most are not really intelligent enough to make themselves know to have interest in a man. They are totally befuddled by ancient beliefs, taboos, social conventions died long ago, and are not quite into the 21st century socially yet. But a dynamic, intelligent, good-looking, smart, woman that knows what she wants and aims to have it will not hesitate to approach a guy she's attracted to and will not let such nonsense come between here and her pleasure and future.
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