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 darkhorse723
Joined: 6/3/2005
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All we can ever do is just be ourselves and hope for the best, ultimately, or be a fake-ass and live some charade. just my opinion, thugh.
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 8/14/2005 4:00:59 AM
Oh yes we do.....

[ sorry I know everyone hates those bananas - but it felt appropriate]

Look the thing is this, affectionate and sensitive people are not as outgoing as those who may not appreciate it. This means that like minded people like yourself probably arent out there advertising, due to their sensitivity levels, fear of rejection is greater. So they tend to hang back and even then when poeple are out and socialising you tend to put the deeper stuff away while you're out for fear of being labelled " intense" So you got a bit more hard work to delve into that to find people that have these deeper levels of appreciation. Everyone is different at different stages of their lives. SOmetimes you are deep and wanting love and connection all different levels with just one significant other - other times you just wanta parteeeeeee and be superficial...hang true and sooner or later you will connect with someone who wants the same as you. Its worth it in the end.
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/14/2005 4:12:49 AM
oh man spherz...you just had to out-banana me didnt ya....
 Fingers
Joined: 6/8/2003
Msg: 24
Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/14/2005 1:17:01 PM
Yes, we are sought after! As long as we look like Brad Pitt or johnny Depp.
 TheLadyOfTheLake
Joined: 2/5/2005
Msg: 27
Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/14/2005 7:57:58 PM
Gee......Sensitive, Compassionate, and Affectionate = PERFECT in my book Aze! At least I can say that "I" don't know of any women who wouldn't be THRILLED to have all those virtues in her man! And whomever said you had to be "wimpy" to be those things as well doesn't know how precious those virtues are to a woman in love, that's for sure! Listen to Disco's post too ..... he's right on (again )!

Any man who understands and is comfortable with himself won't be afraid to BE himself with his partner, and that's a very special and wonderful thing! If you're around girls who don't appreciate that about you, then you just haven't found the right one yet. Don't give up ...... the chase is worth the effort!
Sandy!
 TheLadyOfTheLake
Joined: 2/5/2005
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/14/2005 7:59:37 PM
Oh ...... and CONTRARY to popular misconception, "Good Guys" always DO FINISH FIRST!!
Sandy!
 TheLadyOfTheLake
Joined: 2/5/2005
Msg: 33
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Posted: 8/14/2005 8:25:54 PM
Disco ......
Where DID you get so smart! It's nice to know there still ARE some nice guys around! Still have to find some up here tho......LOL!
Sandy!
 TheLadyOfTheLake
Joined: 2/5/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 8/14/2005 8:27:35 PM
Mystryred ....
Beautifully Said!
Sandy
 Pusher-Inc
Joined: 6/10/2005
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Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/15/2005 12:51:35 AM
RE:Yes, we are sought after! As long as we look like Brad Pitt or johnny Depp.

Yes, but Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp, are not regarded as being sensitive, compassionate and affectionate. So the answer is no. It's not the main/first thing being sought after.
 Myfakename
Joined: 8/11/2005
Msg: 43
Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/16/2005 4:09:19 AM
If you are wimpy, doormat, spineless, whiney, then no. If you mean considerate, pleasing,
tolerant, then yes.
 Simlasa
Joined: 10/30/2004
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Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/16/2005 9:12:56 AM
It seems to me... based on the women I've known... that they want the compassionate, caring, romantic guy... but for the initial attraction to the stranger they want a bit of mystery, a bit of danger... a rogueish quality. They seem to want to find a guy who looks like a pirate but has the heart of a poet... kind of the female equivalent to the 'maddonna/whore' complex guys supposedly have.
 YamIhere
Joined: 3/17/2005
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Posted: 8/16/2005 9:16:16 AM
Wow ... if there is an antithesis to this description - I am he!!!
 SICutie
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/16/2005 10:10:23 AM
looks like a pirate?? will he have a peg leg too? that's hot
 TheLadyOfTheLake
Joined: 2/5/2005
Msg: 49
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Posted: 8/16/2005 4:20:46 PM
WooZoo ... Aze ..... Simlasa ...

I, for one, am REALLY HAPPY there are still guys out there like YOU! You guys are hard to find though .... a dying breed methinks :)

Don't ever try to change yourself to please someone else .... it always ends in disaster :) But being yourselves and finding a similar person to share your heart and soul freely with is a really LIFE ALTERING event. Very much worth the wait!

Sandy!
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
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Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/16/2005 5:47:00 PM
If we're not gay and consumed with self pity, you bet we are. Women the world over have been through the ringer with self absorbed mensa rejects. What you need to do is communicate your sensitivity with CONFIDENT actions, not negative PREOCCUPATIONS.
 Talitha001
Joined: 6/17/2005
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Posted: 8/16/2005 5:48:44 PM
Being sensitive, compassionate, and affectionate isn`t enough...The whole package has to be there...the CHEMISTRY...You must first be physically attracted to a person...get to know them, then the rest comes into play...That may sound shallow, but it`s the truth...A guy can be the most loving man on earth, but if I`m NOT ATTRACTED to him...it ends there...I don`t believe you LEARN to love someone...That`s foolish...It`s either there or it isn`t..And if it isn`t, you have nothing to build on...That is just my humble opinion!!!
 BBdrgn
Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 8/16/2005 5:52:30 PM
Hey OP ..."Chrissy's right...
 sammysalt
Joined: 9/7/2005
Msg: 79
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Posted: 9/12/2005 11:10:48 AM
Are they sought after? No. Relax I am just teaseing. Yes normaly...someday you will find someone...If it takes awile to get a good one, just relax and enjoy finding a good one. Most girls will be attracted to a man that they see is nice, and don't act like they are tring to be. Some day you will see. She is out there looking just like you are. When you least expect it, she will pop up. So stay the sweet person you say you are, and good luck.
 sparticuss
Joined: 5/9/2006
Msg: 82
Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 12/19/2006 1:48:50 PM
Women say, and crave, affection.

BUT

An extremely effective propaganda campaign, by a few manhaters, who have the sheeer nerve to call themselves feminists, has convinced most of the worlds women that
1/ All sex, including sex in marriage is rape

and

2/ All affection is harrassment.


This sometimes goes to ridiculous extremes. Try this one.

Texas Child Suspended After Hugging Aide

WACO, Texas — School administrators gave a 4-year-old student an in-school suspension for inappropriately touching a teacher's aide after the pre-kindergartner hugged the woman.

A letter from La Vega school district administrators to the student's parents said that the boy was involved in "inappropriate physical behavior interpreted as sexual contact and/or sexual harassment" after he hugged the woman and he "rubbed his face in the chest of (the) female employee" on Nov. 10.

DaMarcus Blackwell, the father of the boy who attends La Vega Primary School, said he filed a complaint with the district. He said that his son doesn't understand why he was punished.

"When I got that letter, my world flipped," Blackwell said in a story in Sunday's editions of the Waco Tribune-Herald.

La Vega school district officials said student privacy laws prevented them from commenting.

After Blackwell filed a complaint, a subsequent letter from the district said the offense had been changed to "inappropriate physical contact" and removed references of sexual contact or sexual harassment from the boy's file.

Administrators said the district's student handbook contains no specific guidelines referring to contact between teachers and students but does state that inappropriate physical contact will result in a discipline referral.
Texas Child Suspended After Hugging Aide

WACO, Texas — School administrators gave a 4-year-old student an in-school suspension for inappropriately touching a teacher's aide after the pre-kindergartner hugged the woman.

A letter from La Vega school district administrators to the student's parents said that the boy was involved in "inappropriate physical behavior interpreted as sexual contact and/or sexual harassment" after he hugged the woman and he "rubbed his face in the chest of (the) female employee" on Nov. 10.

DaMarcus Blackwell, the father of the boy who attends La Vega Primary School, said he filed a complaint with the district. He said that his son doesn't understand why he was punished.

"When I got that letter, my world flipped," Blackwell said in a story in Sunday's editions of the Waco Tribune-Herald.

La Vega school district officials said student privacy laws prevented them from commenting.

After Blackwell filed a complaint, a subsequent letter from the district said the offense had been changed to "inappropriate physical contact" and removed references of sexual contact or sexual harassment from the boy's file.

Administrators said the district's student handbook contains no specific guidelines referring to contact between teachers and students but does state that inappropriate physical contact will result in a discipline referral.
 sparticuss
Joined: 5/9/2006
Msg: 83
Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 12/19/2006 1:55:03 PM
okay here is the deal, all those qualities are awesome to have. It is nice and refreshing to hear that stuff, but it sends up red flags to us. Sometimes you can be too affectionate or too sensitive. No one wants a guy who is going to profess their undying love to us with in an hour of meeting us. Sometimes guys have the tendency to smother women. We are emotional creatures but really, we arent emotional in the same way.

so if you can be affectionate and sensitive in moderation you are awesome, if not then women are going to be put off by that to some extent.

(that is just my oppinion...dont bash me with hate emails)
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Now you have a problem m dear.
When guys tell you the truth, (which I am about to do) your ego won't tolerate the fact that you are ignorant and it keeps telling you, from inside your head, that this is a hate e mail and should be ignored.

Now here is the truth. It is more than possible for a guy to be genuinely in love with you within an hour of meeting you.
British Admirial Teddy Evans (Last man back from Captain Scotts ill fated Antartic mission) had returned to London and was at some formal dinner. He had been seated beside a young woman as aristocratic as he was, and, althugh he knew who she was, he had never bet her before.
He spoke to her for the first time during the soup course, proposed to her during the fish course, and his proposal had been accepted by the end of the meal.

You problem is that you still think that romance is meant to follow a schedule. Nothing further from the truth.
 ashleymp
Joined: 6/2/2006
Msg: 89
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Posted: 12/19/2006 3:00:59 PM
ever hear the famous and notorious saying, girls love bad boys?

It's wrong, but I'll admit it is appealing...
 crystal_00_43
Joined: 11/28/2005
Msg: 90
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Posted: 12/19/2006 3:14:37 PM
when you meet a woman you don't put your hands all over her its just dirty
nothing wrong with touching hands some but no one wants all hands or lips or body to push up againce her so they can feel his sex that is just not good.
 quietstorm8
Joined: 10/22/2006
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Posted: 12/20/2006 12:05:30 AM
i'm a sensitive type and fortunate enough
to have a fair amount of female attention in my life,but women
do have mixed feelings about this type--

after all we'r all influenced by the data in our genes, just as men are
sometimes over preoccupied by large breasts [in the
old days it meant more milk for the babies,better chance for
survival], women still in many cases linger over macho and sometimes

deadly men[ hence the popular myth about attraction
to bad boys]. when people used to live in caves, and in medieval days, sensitive
men often didnt survive battlefields, so women
unconsciously and otherwise selected men who were better at fighting
and
hunting....the ability to write poetry was more optional

now society is changing and we sensitive men are
coming out! with guns blazing!!!!
just kidding guys,,,,,,lets be compassionate to everyone with
whatever qualities they may have
bottom line---sometimes its good to be sensitive, sometimes
toughness is the order of the day
 DeepLuv09
Joined: 7/24/2009
Msg: 102
Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/12/2009 10:04:42 PM

I consider myself to be a sensitive and affectionate man. I enjoy romance a great deal, cuddling, kissing, general affection, kissing of the neck, pecking, holding hands, whatever feels right. My question is don't a lot of women admire these characteristics of a guy? The sweet sensitive guy. I always hear women wishing their guys were more sensitive and affectionate, and showed their love in more that just words, and I feel that way too. I find that sensitive guys like me don't really get a lot of attention. I just want to find that special girl to share my heart with. I wish love wasn't so hard to find. :P I am really grateful that I am a sensitive person because it really allows for a much more passionate relationship when you can truly understand your lovers feelings, and also being able to express love with a motion of your body, or even a sweet tender kiss. It's bliss. :P

Any thoughts ladies?


Just don't overdo it. When a man is becoming too "sensitive" it kind of turns me off. I hated it when I called my ex and he had an attitude like a girl, it drove me crazy. Of if he is whining about me, I felt like flipping him hard behind his head. I was most attracted to him when he had "controlled sensitivity".
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