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Some sarcastic comments on romance either wanted to fuel this conversation into more rational edge but some might reflected an episode of their 'pear shaped' experience in their ex-relationship. Good point in this turning corner is that denying or dismissing it means -- k n o w i n g -- it and surely, romance might be dormant at this stage as we speak for some but it can be revived if ignited at the right time and at the right place .

Subtleties don't have to be touchable, yet can warm heart i.e. just by a simple look that differs from mundane glances. Yes, it is a two way street as anything else in a nurtured relationship and doesn't evaporate as we turn grey-sh.

Where do the noses go?
 wurl
Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 102
Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 10:12:37 PM
Now that would be equality
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Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/22/2006 12:06:45 AM
^^^^^
'lady-bugg65' - is it really so cold & white out there at yours as your last pic is showing? Brrrrrr ... but I'm pretty sure that even Eskimos tackle romance in their icy frosty living conditions ... nose to nose?
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 104
Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/22/2006 5:17:03 AM

when a woman truly loves a man, every word that he utters... makes her wet her panties...


Let's hope he is not too talkative. Might be very difficult to walk around with a bucket between your legs.
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Posted: 11/22/2006 7:49:46 AM

Might be very difficult to walk around with a bucket between your legs.

Someone's mind must be racing today.
 JWA
Joined: 5/21/2005
Msg: 106
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Posted: 11/22/2006 5:10:27 PM
Women need to know how to romance a man the same way men need to know all about using tampons----simply put THEY DON'T have the need!!
 ~softEDGE~
Joined: 6/12/2005
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still yet even more genderising?
Posted: 11/25/2006 5:06:53 PM
oh i dare to disagree; i too have needs, sometimes even salacious ones!
there are untold thousands ways to romance anyone.

just think a bit, water is but only one amazing and effective tool; well for me anyway.
a large heated ceramic pottery piece with almost hot water scented and infused with oils and a nice comfy spot to place your lover so as to bathe their feet in is nice for both; allow yourselves uninterrupted good bit of time; an hour should suffice for a decent foot and leg massage but i have a distinct foot fetish...

ever given someone a bath, in complete darkness while you are fully clothed, or wearing something silky yourself as you allow yourself to tactually please your partner? personally, i prefer to forgo any candles and have a very soft light wafting in from an adjoining room.
of course there's a lot to be said for scent. both on you, on them via any good infused oils. ahh dare i go on, there are so many of a plethora of ways to please.

my advice for those not knowing how to show their feelings is to get a copy of kama sutra or tantric tarot to learn together. it isn't work if it feels good is it?!

sheesh people any good emollient lotion, potion, cream or oil works wonders, it's not rocket science...

i don't dare say what really works best...
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 108
Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 1/26/2007 1:20:42 PM
I was recently quite shocked when I learned that this great guy I know has never been romanced by a women. NEVER. That's sad. Ridiculous really. No wonder he's never married ~ no one enticed him. LOL Seriously ~ it's a two way street. And it's important. JMO
 dave1234
Joined: 11/7/2004
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Posted: 1/26/2007 2:00:29 PM

(Msg 323)You know what...reading through these posts it seems to me that most women DO know how to romance a guy but there is a common thread through all of this....

Men dont want it....

I know how to romance a guy....I'm just never given the chance to.


Fiery~D, I checked your profile. I think you may be scaring guys way with the picture with the "eyes" tatoo and where it's located. The expression gives the appearance they're saying, "Hey! What are you doing there?!!"
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 110
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Posted: 3/26/2007 8:49:52 PM
Ok let me get this strait.

A female would actually get off the phone with her friends or sisters or mom long enough to ..... to even notice her husband?

What is this female to male romance that is being talked about?

Would she even ... gasp ...... would she even like make him feel desirable or would that be too extreme?
 randomstoic
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 111
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Posted: 3/27/2007 5:55:05 PM
I am afraid that purchasing ties, clothes, and fixing dinner just dont' work on me (but I will be very grateful and let her know it). I like conversation mixed with flirtation and and teasing. I also enjoy slipping into period roleplay because it turns love into an act and an act into love. This is all hard work and demands a great deal of improvisation, but, most importantly, it is engaging.

Nothing is more romantic than thoughtful and completely off-the-cuff surprises.
 chuchurillo
Joined: 2/15/2007
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Posted: 3/27/2007 6:31:47 PM
I've seen many posts here on this AWSOME topic. But there is one thing I haven't read, or at least no ones brought up yet. Is there a chance that maybe women should romance their men differently than they themselves are romanced?
I work on a construction site, outside all year, surounded by men, addmittedly not the most articulate bunch what I hear, (and sometimes feel myself), is the following
"All I want is someone who understands what this job does to me, and not break my ball everynight about being tired"

"My wife works in an office, I carry around a houndred pounds on my back all day, and all she wants if for me to rub her feet. What about my feet?"
The list could go on and on, I think I'll leave it at this, you as a woman may love scented candles, candle light, and pillow talk, but to a really large number of us, all that means is an over powering flowerey dark room, with someone reciting shakespear in their ear.
just a thought but most of us don't need that type of enticement.
just a thoght, I'll crawl back into my cave now.
cheers.
 eb3267
Joined: 1/29/2007
Msg: 113
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Posted: 8/23/2007 6:43:23 PM
I've been writing to mine...

Cute little hello's & I miss you's..

I've even typed to him while talking on the phone. I've started the email with something like.. "I'm talking to this Handsom man, who doesn't know that I'm writing this." "I won't tell him what I want to do with him while we're on the phone, but I'll tell you, here now.." Then I go into what ever is running through my mind at the time.. He seems to like it.. He says it gives him something to think about after he reads it..

We also send little texts back and forth all day too.. The closer the end of the week gets, and we are going to see each other, the sexier they seem to get.. lol
It's Fun !! He's an awsome guy... So far he seems to be the one !! We shall see...
 Who.Me
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 114
Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 9/30/2007 1:22:59 PM
I have never had a man plan a romantic interlude...however, I have done the following:

A hotel suite complete with a jacuzzi...before his arrival I set the stage....

Candles everywhere, favorite wine chilling in the fridge, cd burned with our favorite music, hundreds of red and white rose pedals sprinkled all over the floor leading from the front door to the bed, room service and a sexy outfit complete the scene.

When he arrives:

he will go to take a shower and find a love poem on the bathroom counter,

we have dinner and wine...soak in the jacuzzi....the rest is history....
 richkfj
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 115
still yet even more genderising?
Posted: 9/30/2007 5:12:29 PM
Putting the foot thing aside for a moment, I think you bring up the best way for either gender to romance and that starts with attitude. Nothing is more of a turn on than a woman who 'wants' to be with me and however she wants to display affection is going to work. A foot massage with warm oils is very nice.
 richkfj
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 116
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Posted: 9/30/2007 5:20:30 PM
Exactly! Equal treatment and equal attention. I just came out of a one sided thirty year relationship because it was not equal. I was the one wanting to keep doing the romance, but after a while of no return, no refund it became to hard to keep it going. You are spot on. You need someone to appreciate and be appreciated.
 harleygyrl
Joined: 2/6/2006
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Posted: 10/20/2007 10:22:12 AM
Well, this is my story. I was seeing this guy who lived about 3 hrs away. I was going to visit him for the weekend and decided to give him a surprise. So I drove the 3 hrs with nothing on but a leather trench coat and thigh high boots. He seemed to think that was a great romantic gesture. Atlthough it was kind of hard when I had to stop because the coat only had like 5 buttons and the wind was tremendous that day. I am sure the truckers were surprised too. What do you guys think is that romantic enough?
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 119
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Posted: 1/14/2008 4:20:37 PM
i think romance should be a regular part of a love-life...to me it's letting the person know they're treasured, someone special...it's an individual thing, some people like some things, some people like others.. it's about finding out what they like and doing them, those things that show i've thought of him in particular.....

anything from massages when he's weary, to buying him tickets for he and his friends to go to an event they'd enjoy... or maybe even leaving him notes and messages all day about what i want to do to/with him when he gets home and giving him a night of passion and love, without his having to do anything, except enjoy it...

all about what he'd find romantic and how best he'd feel loved..

things to show we understand that person and love who they are, for who they are..

 Rance13
Joined: 6/18/2009
Msg: 120
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Posted: 8/4/2009 4:49:30 PM
Geeze what a dork. This guy give's guy's in general a bad reputation. If my girlfriend said that (if I had one ;=) ) who the hell cares what kind of wine. Let the lady pick it out. I might like to bring a book of poetry and some ideas on how to get to know her better and what she thinks about. What kind of wine? I don't care.
 readyornot57
Joined: 1/19/2008
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Posted: 8/4/2009 6:34:59 PM
So women think that the guy won't appreciate it, so they won't even try.

Romance is dead.
 Vannili
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Posted: 8/4/2009 6:44:21 PM
If a man is a true a lover and deal with me honestly, I 'll give him The BEST ROMANCE ,he ever have in his life......
 Vannili
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Posted: 8/4/2009 7:33:04 PM
[ quote] This really irrtitates me.....women expect us to give up,but they don't even make an effort. I expect flowers, a nice dinner,may be a movie .Is that too much to ask?


Instead of flowers, I gave a man a Danielle Steel 's romance pocket book to read.
Nice dinner ?, I 'll get Ceasar's 5 bucks big peperone pizza .
I'll rent a video or cd of Stephen King's Horror movie ,if he got scared of the black widow spider on the screen and he'll hug me and burried his face in my 30 grand silicon bossoms ,he he ,he I'll say that is soooooooo romantic.
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 124
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Posted: 8/4/2009 8:52:43 PM
Yes, that is a tricky topic. My guy was a science teacher, and believed that romance was an artificial, phony sentiment. Yet he often liked to surprise me by taking me someplace special (like a location here on Vancouver Island we hadn't explored yet).

I realized early on that, unless it is a warped expression, one should accept love in the form your partner is comfortable giving it, and reciprocate in ways he or she is comfortable receiving it. So, that's what I did.

Now, though, I need to learn how to be romantic to at least some extent, in case the fella who becomes my boyfriend and hopefully life mate appreciates romance. So I've been reading this Thread with great interest. Thanks, Sandy, for posting it, and thanks, folks, for adding your input.
 varinia
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 125
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Posted: 8/4/2009 8:52:50 PM
To me romance is about doing and saying little things that are above and beyond the necessities to keep the relationship going. Little things to show the other that you are/have been thinking about the other or that they're on your mind.

So, within that framework it can take on any kind of shape: sending a funny hallmark card via email - being in a fancy restaurant, going to the bathroom, taking off your panties and when you sit down, giving them to him under the table - cooking a favorite meal....basically anything that tells the other person that you're thinking of them.
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