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 *mandrake*
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 115
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them differentPage 5 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
OMG...if scars made a difference, I would never even get a woman to look at me. Under all my hair, my skull must look like a roadmap. I've had 320 stitches in my head over the years from accidents. I have a knife scar on my back about 4 inches long. I have a scar on my knee almost 10 inches long from having my kneecap repaired. I have scars on my hands from accidents. I have two on my face from going through a plate glass window.

Some of them have faded over the years, but most are visible. Thank god I have hair on my head!
 Chivo_diablo
Joined: 7/25/2007
Msg: 116
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/18/2007 10:54:39 PM
Scars are like a badge of honor. you had something bad happen and you came out the side. You don't "get" scars...you earn them. At least I feel like I earned all mine.
 Iam_memyselfI
Joined: 8/18/2007
Msg: 117
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/20/2007 6:19:34 AM
I have scars and it's visible.
I agreed with chivo_diablo: scars are like a badge of honor and you earn them.

U know, scars affect how women/men think- no matter what size they are and where it is located. It's hard at first to accept the scars but gotta learn to love it since it'll overlook in time.

I considered scars as flaws. Scars isn't only that happened to your body but your mind and soul as well. Everyone has a scar or two- nobody is perfect! Remember that.
 marcob
Joined: 9/14/2007
Msg: 118
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/20/2007 12:25:41 PM
I'd much rather deal with a woman with external scars, than internal.


And I've always thought certain scars, even facial, added character and attracted me.
 Thalia.
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 119
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/20/2007 12:48:55 PM
I would feel very sad for the person who would judge or be biased towards someone because they are scarred. They would lose out on knowing someone like me and the other wonderful people who posted to this thread. I am one of those women with a scar on their face, mine is from a childhood accident.
I feel for those who have endured such tragedy and trauma for their scars. A person without compassion for that is not worth meeting anyway.
I personally find a man with scars totally sexy. A definite plus in my book. :)
 Sassybabee
Joined: 9/1/2007
Msg: 120
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/20/2007 12:51:50 PM
I have a lovely scar on my lip from being bit by a dog when i was 10. Most people dont even notice it. and when they do...and they hear the story...they always ask..did ya bite back??
I as well have a scar across my neck...not to noticable..but its there from an operation, my chicken pox scars on my arms and of course the baby marks. Not one man has ever turned away from me cause of them. I dont care if I have scars. Means i Haved lived a little. I think because I hardly think about them and not self conscious in any way of them . The men i meet dont care either.

So I wouldnt worry to much...
 professorskip
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 121
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/22/2007 6:19:52 PM
Yay!! It is so good to hear a woman who is not self conscious about this stuff because really I think most men are pretty understanding about all of that! stretch marks and a couple of scars are not a big deal!!!! Anyone who makes a big deal about that stuff clearly lives in isolation and hasn't seen that the world is not an airbrushed and touched up, idealized, boring place. We live our lives and stuff happens, it is the imperfections and experiences that make us beautiful and unique beings.
 Serendipity_1
Joined: 7/1/2007
Msg: 122
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/22/2007 6:35:36 PM
Hey KindHeart..I have a scar on my face....not a big one..but its there just the same..Ive never had one guy ask me about it..Im guessing they look past it....and see me for who I am..
 scooter61401
Joined: 12/10/2006
Msg: 123
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/30/2007 8:10:16 PM
when you really care about someone those little imperfections mean nothing...........
 TxSweethart
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 124
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/30/2007 10:29:44 PM
I dont think there are any perfect bodies out there, for one reason or another. You are very self conscience about the scars because you know they are there. What we notice about ourselves the most, such as bodily imperfections, others that care about you will over look and not care. If they do care, they arent worth your time.
 RidingRich
Joined: 9/21/2007
Msg: 125
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 10/5/2007 2:27:55 PM
Maybe I'm an oddball, but no, I don't really look at a person differently for scars except for the fact that they're likely a bit more interesting. Scars usually have a story behind them. Intrigue can be a good thing.
 Kymi1968
Joined: 11/21/2006
Msg: 126
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 10/5/2007 4:11:18 PM
SHOULD the scars make someone look at you differently? NO!!

DO the scars make some people look at you differently (Men)? Probly.

Your a beautiful girl...there isn't anything you can do about them unless you have some cosmetic surgery....

Good luck
 Luv Karla
Joined: 9/29/2007
Msg: 127
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 10/5/2007 7:17:13 PM
If a man really cares for you,he will over look your scars.
I know this isn't the same,but I have scars as well(stretch marks)
And I've had them since I was 14,not once has a man said anything
to me about it.

Don't let your scars discourage you from being intimate with someone you care about.
 clay71
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 128
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 10/5/2007 7:44:24 PM
When the right person comes along, put away your fear.
That person won't let the scars, make you look any different.
 Nona37
Joined: 10/3/2007
Msg: 129
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:59:10 AM
Shimmer

I can sooooooooooo relate to you on this topic. I am a war veteran and I have scars as well. My scars are on my chest as well. I was actually thrown many feet after an artillery round landed near our tent out in the desert, even with my scars, I must say, I fared better than some of the other guys, there were no fatalities, but my wounds were far less than the guys I was actually in the tent with. My scars can not be seen unless a man is lucky enough to get me to take my bra off, I literally had a man stop once and asked me what happened, and it's not a good conversation when you are trying to "get it on" with someone!

Now what I do, if I see potential in the sexual arena with a man, I just go ahead and tell them, I have found that an open door here is very crucial and most do not mind, but I do understand how the "scar" thing goes, with both you and I where it's different circumstances, it was still out of "our" control, we are victims of what others have done to us, whether we knew them or not.

I would highly recommend you work on accepting your scars, they are a part of you, and once you have accepted them yourself, the men who will come into your life in the future will accept them as well, for you are more than those sscars, those scars are merely part of y our character, but does NOT represent the real you :) Good Luck to you.~~~Nona
 lonemonkey
Joined: 9/8/2007
Msg: 130
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 10/6/2007 3:27:27 PM
The right guy for you wont be hung up on your scar. If it really bothers you, see a dermatologist or a plastic surgeon. They have something called IPL now that might even out the skin tone. That is so mean that an ex did that to you. I'm sorry to hear.
 gibbyson
Joined: 2/27/2007
Msg: 131
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 11/12/2007 9:32:16 AM
not at all i dont see them i like to seethere heart if they want to share about there scar thats fine i like to look at the heat and feel them robert
 pastelpinkgirly
Joined: 2/4/2007
Msg: 132
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 11/12/2007 9:37:28 AM
I think that what happened 2 u is horrible!

But i guess u can look into getting some scar removing services if u didnt already. and seeking therapy over what he did...i know i be so hurt from that and really cant imagine something like that. If u didnt already as well.

Hope 4 the best 4 u .
 simplelady66
Joined: 10/26/2007
Msg: 133
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 11/12/2007 2:03:53 PM
Shimmerfree77,
We all have scars hun, both on the outside and the inside. I have both. I have stretchmarks from giving birth to three children, and nope, don't wear a bathing suit either. Nothing says you have to wear a skimpy bathing suit...you could do a short set and be fine (tshirt and shorts with a bikini top underneath).

If the guy truly cares about you, that will be one of the things he loves about you. It makes you unique. It also shows that you are a strong woman to have come back from such a horrible relationship.

Easier said than done, but hold your head up high and show the world the real you! I went to school with a girl who had purple (dark purple) birthmarks down the side of her face and arms...she was one of the most popular girls in our class. Not because she was putting out or anything, but just because she was beautiful inside and out. She still is 20+ years later.
 Prixley
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 134
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 11/14/2007 1:39:15 PM
This is a wonderful question. I too have scars which I am still self conscious about. I received permanent stains on my two front teeth from some life saving medication that I had to take when I was 5. I was picked on for it for most of my childhood. To this day I don't like to smile, especially in pictures and when meeting someone new I tend to cover my mouth with my hand sometimes. I also have stretch marks from childbirth, though they're not too bad (only on my hips and upper and inner thighs). I do believe that it's the inside that counts. However I also know human nature. We human beings have our own ideas of what constitutes physical attractiveness. Anyway, thanks so much for posting such a great and important topic!
 kid30
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 135
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/8/2008 8:32:37 AM
I have a good number of scars on my arms and men seem to judge me on them,it just shows me how very shallow they are.

I once had a guy tell me "I want to bring home a lady,no a frankenstien" I will never to this day forget that hurtful comment.

Hard to keep your head up when all they see is scars,that's why I hate summer,you can't wear long sleeves.

I really am a good person,if somebody just took the time to look past the outside,I know I am not very pretty but,I have a lot of heart....
 kid30
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 136
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/8/2008 8:37:14 AM
sounds like we have been through a lot.... I lost track of how many scars I have on my both arms,all done by my own hand since 13,I thought I was done when I relapsed last Christmas and,guys don't fall for "I used to work on a farm".Even if I try to get the fresh one fixed,it looks bad...I hope I find a man who won't judge me by my past..Though in today's world people are very shallow...
 Stringbeen
Joined: 4/27/2008
Msg: 137
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/8/2008 9:16:19 AM

A long time ago my X threw hot water on me. ...
OMG! So sorry that someone actually did that to you.

I have s couple of scars on my right knee cap and foot from a riding accident when a horse fell on me, I was 10 years old. It's never been an issue.
 ~~McLovin~~
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 138
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 12/15/2008 1:40:00 PM
I met a woman over 4 years ago. She was in a very serious car accident, almost died, the scars were huge, I didn't care about the scars, I thought she was very beautiful. She had a great personality and was very pretty in my point of view.

Too bad I lost all contact with her. She was a sweetheart.
 Pleasant Chaos
Joined: 8/17/2008
Msg: 139
If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 12/19/2008 9:51:20 PM
I think any guy who gets turned off by women with scars has some emotional scars of his own that he needs to heal. Embrace your scars for they are stories of your life and reminders of everything you have accomplished or are accomplishing.

Peronsally, like most that have posted I have surgery scars all over my body and one that has always gotten people asking me questions (I had open heart at a very young age). Luckily for me, the scar has helped me embrace my imperfections and realize that there are other things more important to worry about and to keep my sense of humor about it all. It has also come to help my dad's ex wife's daughter who was very young and on her 6th heart surgery by the age of 10, she was very selfconscious and when she saw I how handled myself when people asked or stared she became more comfortable with herself. So, if you look at it the right way, you can also become an inspiration to someone else that you come across who may have scars of their own that they are not comfortable with
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