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 *cee~cee*
Joined: 2/21/2007
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I'm a fan of public affection as long as it's not over the top. Holding hands, stealing a quick kiss... all good, but not good seeing people or being a person that's getting their face/tongue swallowed at a bus stop or anywhere for that matter (even in your own home watching a movie with friends or roommates)... thus the oft shouted 'get a room'. It's seriously uncomfortable witnessing something that goes beyond sweet... loving displays of affection to being hot, heavy and sexual... and because of that I'm equally uncomfortable when I'm with someone and they get 'out of hand' so to speak and take the public display of affection thing too far. That pretty much guarantees they won't be getting any later! I'd rather see or be seen as someone that's in love, not out of control of their hormones thanks very much! lol
 crysania777
Joined: 8/23/2004
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Posted: 3/20/2007 5:24:06 PM
Holding hands....a smooch here ..a hug there it's all good there is also a time and place to get a room
 opgirl
Joined: 3/6/2007
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Posted: 3/21/2007 5:28:18 AM
There is nothing wrong with it. I love for the guy I'm with to hold my hand, hug me, kiss me, put his hand around my waist, etc.... Makes me feel like he really likes me, and isn't afraid to show me how he feels.
 IHAVEAMIND
Joined: 3/5/2007
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:08:42 PM
Depends on the people... for me I love it.. when its appropriate.. some places just aren't... but everything else is fair game.
 ktzmeow
Joined: 12/22/2006
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Posted: 3/22/2007 6:11:52 AM
I also think PDA's are wonderful, again as long as the cloths stay on. I know when Im happy I need to touch, whether its holding hands or hugging, I take and give as much as possible. And further to that, theres nothing more heartwarming then an elderly couple holding hands walking down the street, make my heart go flippy flop..
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 4:40:35 AM
This is one of those fascinating areas of human behavior, where there really IS no sure and certain border line. When we are young, it's common to think (at least it was when I was young) that long deep kisses in public should be accepted. I can imagine that there may have been times and places where public copulation MIGHT have been tolerated (I'd bet that was back before we discovered things like weaving to make cloth).
There are a fair number of folks who also connect HOW you show our affection for someone, with age-related indicators. So just as some would consider it 'wrong' for a woman over the age of 60 to wear her hair long and down her bare shoulders, there are people who think that after the age of 15 or so, holding hands in public is no longer "age-appropriate." Strangely enough, I have yet to hear someone complain about the other direction...if two young kids walk in a jittery way down the street, yelling incomprehensible things to each other, complaining that the world is purposely annoying them, the guy wearing lime green pants, and the girl wearing pearls and a jogging suit, no one says a WORD about it.
 Red Fish GF
Joined: 12/3/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 11:56:05 AM
I am only asking because I love to show my affection in public to a significant other no matter where or who is present at the time. Alot of people that I know or have spoken to said no way, not in public...save it for behind closed doors....Is this a dying practice?



I don't see anything wrong with holding hands in public and my SO and I often do while out walking or shopping together. It did take a little getting used to though as my ex was not the holding hands type at all. However, when my SO and I hadn't been together too long there were a few times he kissed me when I thought it was rude to those around us. Once or twice he made the cashier wait and I told him it wasn't the kissing I didn't like but the timing.


VVV I tried to hold my exes hand while walking in the woods so not really even public and he pushed me away. He said it was too hot.



JRodriguez81
Ive never been huge on public displays there. Ive always felt like the people that were huge on it, do it more as a statement to the world around them, rather than to their own partner. We know we love eachother, why do we need to show it constantly?

Plus, some out there lack a filter. When you're practically molesting your partner in public, then you're just obnoxious. Holding hands, and kissing here and there is all good. I dont even pay any mind to that....but groping your partner? Yeah, get the fu*k outta here with that!



It has nothing to do with being miserable, or being unhappy.



Exactly!
 JRodriguez81
Joined: 2/24/2010
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Posted: 4/1/2011 12:00:10 PM
I have even been known to be caught skipping hand in hand...)




Through a flowery field, with a rainbow in the back drop, while whistling as well?






Ive never been huge on public displays there. Ive always felt like the people that were huge on it, do it more as a statement to the world around them, rather than to their own partner. We know we love eachother, why do we need to show it constantly?

Plus, some out there lack a filter. When you're practically molesting your partner in public, then you're just obnoxious. Holding hands, and kissing here and there is all good. I dont even pay any mind to that....but groping your partner? Yeah, get the fu*k outta here with that!



It has nothing to do with being miserable, or being unhappy.




My cousin is like this....but I find it to be rude depending on when and where, and to what level it takes place. He has a bad habit of full on tonguing down his girl when he, and I are hanging out and she is around.


Its like uhhhh okay man....IM STANDING RIGHT HERE. DO YOU MIND?


He was upset, because while doing that once....I proceeded to ask him if I could get in on the action?



Jerk.
 Out_of_the_Ash
Joined: 3/1/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 1:59:06 PM
I think it can be very sweet to witness and don't have a problem with it.

It's when I am in an elevator with a couple who are making all the sloppy kissing noises and such that kinda makes me gag. It's along the same lines as someone eating next to me in a quiet room I also have issues with, so...
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 2:01:58 PM
Hand holding, gazing fondly at each other,hugs, exchanging sly looks with a light kiss yes.

Exchanging body fluids in front of me while I'm eating or around young children NO.

I will say I am more "offended" by wardrobe myself in the Summer.
And its a LOOOOONG Summer here.

If your ta tas are huge stuff them back in the arm pits of that wife beater..and shave the pits if you are female, trim if male.

It's casual here but gawd..Arm pit hair in a restaurant is more disgusting than kissing in public any day.
Give me lime green pants LOL

I can offer a couple some ice water, not give them a shirt.

 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 4/1/2011 2:35:31 PM

It's casual here but gawd..Arm pit hair in a restaurant is more disgusting than kissing in public any day.
Give me lime green pants LOL

I can offer a couple some ice water, not give them a shirt.

I have to agree. Some things just do not need to be seen.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 2:57:21 PM

It's casual here but gawd..Arm pit hair in a restaurant is more disgusting than kissing in public any day.
Give me lime green pants LOL

I can offer a couple some ice water, not give them a shirt.


You get desensitized to it when you're staying somewhere right on the beach---there are lots of beachside bars and cafes in Florida, where men wearing nothing but swim trunks is commonplace. Of course, those that shave their pits are preferable when you're trying to eat your grouper sandwich.
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
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Posted: 4/1/2011 3:21:12 PM
I'm good with PDA's if they're respectful of one another and those around you. No a**
slapping while walking by a group of kids, for instance.


It's casual here but gawd..Arm pit hair in a restaurant is more disgusting than kissing in public any day.
Give me lime green pants LOL

I can offer a couple some ice water, not give them a shirt.


NO kidding. When I used to live near the beach, it was commonplace to wear my bathing suit to casual places, but slipping on a cover-up first. I've seen a lot of people who could benefit from the cover-up. ;)
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 6:46:32 PM
OP: It depends how a person defines "public displays of affection". I'm a touching/feely type of woman (Hey! I'm Latina...that's how we roll! ahahaha), and therefore I have no intention of stopping.

However, that doesn't mean I am dry humping or shoving my tongue down my man's mouth! Everything can be done with class and some finesse..................
 SweetnessInFlorida
Joined: 6/26/2008
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Posted: 4/2/2011 2:11:49 AM
My boyfriend and I do, He is somewhat shy but we hold hands and hug and kiss.

My late husband and I were always into the PDA, we would randomly embrace and kiss in the middle of the grocery store, dinner, his Moms house, anywhere. We had amazing chemistry and were like 2 kids in love. As for PDA being an announcement to the world that a couple is sleeping together, i think the huge diamond on my finger and the baby on my hip did a good job of that.

I love seeing young couples holding hands, kissing, and obviously in love. It gives off great vibes, and reminds me of when i was a young newlywed, or the infatuation of having a new lover. Better than seeing people alone and sad. Makes the world a little brighter.
 sukkatash
Joined: 3/27/2011
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Posted: 4/2/2011 12:30:45 PM

Public Affection? What is your take on it?

Depends.

My friends and I once ran across people doing it in their car at the back of a cemetery. We snuck up to the car and started violently rocking it back and forth yelling "braaaaaains!" until they started swearing and threatening us.

If the people doing the PDA aren't all that attractive to me the MAD t.v. skit theme song of "lowered expectations" plays in my head and I find it hilarious.

If the people doing the PDA are attractive to me I tend to see it as a free peek into softcore porn.

If the people are just people and I don't see attraction or repulsion, I tend to ignore it and not really see it, assuming it's not groping, and frenching, and hotness. Or seen but not noticed.
If it is the groping and frenching and hotness, I tend to want to leave because they are spewing spit and germs all over the place and the woman could be a squirter. I'm a plain ice tea man, I didn't order an arnold palmer. In public I don't expect people to conform to my sensibilities, but will extricate myself from situations I don't want to experience.

If it's me, if I feel I want to do a PDA, then I do it. If they don't want it then I simply wait for later (assuming it's not a random stranger on the bus I am trying to do it to). I don't need that immediate gratification. It's nice, but it's just as nice to do it later.

If they are trying to do a PDA to me then it depends on what I am doing or feeling at the time. I might say no, I might say yes. Location has little bearing on it, it's more dictated by mood and what I am focused on doing.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
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Posted: 4/2/2011 1:28:11 PM
A gentle kiss, a hug, a tender touch (in a G rated spot), holding hands - all fine in public

X rated passion saved for private
 DemonLeather
Joined: 8/10/2007
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Posted: 4/2/2011 8:30:28 PM
Hmmm... bending someone over the car-hood on a nice sunny afternoon,.. is pretty public with your affection,.. I didn't find anyting wrong with it... (other than that sunburn,.. I have fair skin)
 kayla1963
Joined: 4/1/2011
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Posted: 4/4/2011 3:05:44 PM
Just make sure it is animated since it's illegal to have sex with a corpse anywhere in the United States.
 arisg75
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Posted: 4/6/2011 11:01:52 PM
i think its ok to show affection in public.
obviously depends how far you go..
also both should be comfortable.. many are different
 BlueTeaPot
Joined: 6/25/2011
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Posted: 7/5/2011 11:13:27 PM
There are a number of older couples in the church I attend. One couple I didnt even realise they were together until someone told me.

The other couples sit together, hold hands, talk with their eyes to each other, there is a sense of playfulness about them - its really lovely.

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm nice.
 the_better_one
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Posted: 7/6/2011 12:51:30 AM
i think there is nothing wrong with pda...i kno sometimes it is hard on some people to see two women holding hands but it is a new day and age and wake up we aint going away!! so if i hold my gf hand and you dont like it...guess what dont look!!!
 FlameNFire
Joined: 7/11/2009
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:13:24 PM
I don't mind what other people do as long as it's not at the get a room point. However, I recently dated someone that he and I were TOTALLY incompatible in the pda department. I learned that's a deal breaker question now. I was new to the relationship, trying to get to know him and he was insisting that we hold hands constantly, he was repeatedly kissing me, hugging and clinging all over me. He would get angry if we went to a restaurant and I didn't sit right next to him and us share the same fork! It was ridiculous! He turned out to be a real weirdo and I ended things with him. He's been hard to get rid of. Lesson Learned!
 gentleplus
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:31:39 PM
Flame you are correct....his behavior is not affection but controlling psycho behaviors.. glad you made a choice to move on

Prime you are spot on .... the key is situational awareness and balance... Still some good ole fashioned parking is fun too.... LOL
 FlameNFire
Joined: 7/11/2009
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:37:15 PM
I do have to confess though..."secret" places to hide and play in an ALMOST public place, where no one is looking but there's always that chance...That's A LOT OF FUN, with the suited partner! lol!
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