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 Red Fish GF
Joined: 12/3/2009
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I am only asking because I love to show my affection in public to a significant other no matter where or who is present at the time. Alot of people that I know or have spoken to said no way, not in public...save it for behind closed doors....Is this a dying practice?



I don't see anything wrong with holding hands in public and my SO and I often do while out walking or shopping together. It did take a little getting used to though as my ex was not the holding hands type at all. However, when my SO and I hadn't been together too long there were a few times he kissed me when I thought it was rude to those around us. Once or twice he made the cashier wait and I told him it wasn't the kissing I didn't like but the timing.


VVV I tried to hold my exes hand while walking in the woods so not really even public and he pushed me away. He said it was too hot.



JRodriguez81
Ive never been huge on public displays there. Ive always felt like the people that were huge on it, do it more as a statement to the world around them, rather than to their own partner. We know we love eachother, why do we need to show it constantly?

Plus, some out there lack a filter. When you're practically molesting your partner in public, then you're just obnoxious. Holding hands, and kissing here and there is all good. I dont even pay any mind to that....but groping your partner? Yeah, get the fu*k outta here with that!



It has nothing to do with being miserable, or being unhappy.



Exactly!
 JRodriguez81
Joined: 2/24/2010
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Posted: 4/1/2011 12:00:10 PM
I have even been known to be caught skipping hand in hand...)




Through a flowery field, with a rainbow in the back drop, while whistling as well?






Ive never been huge on public displays there. Ive always felt like the people that were huge on it, do it more as a statement to the world around them, rather than to their own partner. We know we love eachother, why do we need to show it constantly?

Plus, some out there lack a filter. When you're practically molesting your partner in public, then you're just obnoxious. Holding hands, and kissing here and there is all good. I dont even pay any mind to that....but groping your partner? Yeah, get the fu*k outta here with that!



It has nothing to do with being miserable, or being unhappy.




My cousin is like this....but I find it to be rude depending on when and where, and to what level it takes place. He has a bad habit of full on tonguing down his girl when he, and I are hanging out and she is around.


Its like uhhhh okay man....IM STANDING RIGHT HERE. DO YOU MIND?


He was upset, because while doing that once....I proceeded to ask him if I could get in on the action?



Jerk.
 Out_of_the_Ash
Joined: 3/1/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 1:59:06 PM
I think it can be very sweet to witness and don't have a problem with it.

It's when I am in an elevator with a couple who are making all the sloppy kissing noises and such that kinda makes me gag. It's along the same lines as someone eating next to me in a quiet room I also have issues with, so...
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 2:01:58 PM
Hand holding, gazing fondly at each other,hugs, exchanging sly looks with a light kiss yes.

Exchanging body fluids in front of me while I'm eating or around young children NO.

I will say I am more "offended" by wardrobe myself in the Summer.
And its a LOOOOONG Summer here.

If your ta tas are huge stuff them back in the arm pits of that wife beater..and shave the pits if you are female, trim if male.

It's casual here but gawd..Arm pit hair in a restaurant is more disgusting than kissing in public any day.
Give me lime green pants LOL

I can offer a couple some ice water, not give them a shirt.

 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 4/1/2011 2:35:31 PM

It's casual here but gawd..Arm pit hair in a restaurant is more disgusting than kissing in public any day.
Give me lime green pants LOL

I can offer a couple some ice water, not give them a shirt.

I have to agree. Some things just do not need to be seen.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 2:57:21 PM

It's casual here but gawd..Arm pit hair in a restaurant is more disgusting than kissing in public any day.
Give me lime green pants LOL

I can offer a couple some ice water, not give them a shirt.


You get desensitized to it when you're staying somewhere right on the beach---there are lots of beachside bars and cafes in Florida, where men wearing nothing but swim trunks is commonplace. Of course, those that shave their pits are preferable when you're trying to eat your grouper sandwich.
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
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Posted: 4/1/2011 3:21:12 PM
I'm good with PDA's if they're respectful of one another and those around you. No a**
slapping while walking by a group of kids, for instance.


It's casual here but gawd..Arm pit hair in a restaurant is more disgusting than kissing in public any day.
Give me lime green pants LOL

I can offer a couple some ice water, not give them a shirt.


NO kidding. When I used to live near the beach, it was commonplace to wear my bathing suit to casual places, but slipping on a cover-up first. I've seen a lot of people who could benefit from the cover-up. ;)
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2011 6:46:32 PM
OP: It depends how a person defines "public displays of affection". I'm a touching/feely type of woman (Hey! I'm Latina...that's how we roll! ahahaha), and therefore I have no intention of stopping.

However, that doesn't mean I am dry humping or shoving my tongue down my man's mouth! Everything can be done with class and some finesse..................
 SweetnessInFlorida
Joined: 6/26/2008
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Posted: 4/2/2011 2:11:49 AM
My boyfriend and I do, He is somewhat shy but we hold hands and hug and kiss.

My late husband and I were always into the PDA, we would randomly embrace and kiss in the middle of the grocery store, dinner, his Moms house, anywhere. We had amazing chemistry and were like 2 kids in love. As for PDA being an announcement to the world that a couple is sleeping together, i think the huge diamond on my finger and the baby on my hip did a good job of that.

I love seeing young couples holding hands, kissing, and obviously in love. It gives off great vibes, and reminds me of when i was a young newlywed, or the infatuation of having a new lover. Better than seeing people alone and sad. Makes the world a little brighter.
 sukkatash
Joined: 3/27/2011
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Posted: 4/2/2011 12:30:45 PM

Public Affection? What is your take on it?

Depends.

My friends and I once ran across people doing it in their car at the back of a cemetery. We snuck up to the car and started violently rocking it back and forth yelling "braaaaaains!" until they started swearing and threatening us.

If the people doing the PDA aren't all that attractive to me the MAD t.v. skit theme song of "lowered expectations" plays in my head and I find it hilarious.

If the people doing the PDA are attractive to me I tend to see it as a free peek into softcore porn.

If the people are just people and I don't see attraction or repulsion, I tend to ignore it and not really see it, assuming it's not groping, and frenching, and hotness. Or seen but not noticed.
If it is the groping and frenching and hotness, I tend to want to leave because they are spewing spit and germs all over the place and the woman could be a squirter. I'm a plain ice tea man, I didn't order an arnold palmer. In public I don't expect people to conform to my sensibilities, but will extricate myself from situations I don't want to experience.

If it's me, if I feel I want to do a PDA, then I do it. If they don't want it then I simply wait for later (assuming it's not a random stranger on the bus I am trying to do it to). I don't need that immediate gratification. It's nice, but it's just as nice to do it later.

If they are trying to do a PDA to me then it depends on what I am doing or feeling at the time. I might say no, I might say yes. Location has little bearing on it, it's more dictated by mood and what I am focused on doing.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
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Posted: 4/2/2011 1:28:11 PM
A gentle kiss, a hug, a tender touch (in a G rated spot), holding hands - all fine in public

X rated passion saved for private
 DemonLeather
Joined: 8/10/2007
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Posted: 4/2/2011 8:30:28 PM
Hmmm... bending someone over the car-hood on a nice sunny afternoon,.. is pretty public with your affection,.. I didn't find anyting wrong with it... (other than that sunburn,.. I have fair skin)
 kayla1963
Joined: 4/1/2011
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Posted: 4/4/2011 3:05:44 PM
Just make sure it is animated since it's illegal to have sex with a corpse anywhere in the United States.
 arisg75
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Posted: 4/6/2011 11:01:52 PM
i think its ok to show affection in public.
obviously depends how far you go..
also both should be comfortable.. many are different
 BlueTeaPot
Joined: 6/25/2011
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Posted: 7/5/2011 11:13:27 PM
There are a number of older couples in the church I attend. One couple I didnt even realise they were together until someone told me.

The other couples sit together, hold hands, talk with their eyes to each other, there is a sense of playfulness about them - its really lovely.

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm nice.
 the_better_one
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Posted: 7/6/2011 12:51:30 AM
i think there is nothing wrong with pda...i kno sometimes it is hard on some people to see two women holding hands but it is a new day and age and wake up we aint going away!! so if i hold my gf hand and you dont like it...guess what dont look!!!
 FlameNFire
Joined: 7/11/2009
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:13:24 PM
I don't mind what other people do as long as it's not at the get a room point. However, I recently dated someone that he and I were TOTALLY incompatible in the pda department. I learned that's a deal breaker question now. I was new to the relationship, trying to get to know him and he was insisting that we hold hands constantly, he was repeatedly kissing me, hugging and clinging all over me. He would get angry if we went to a restaurant and I didn't sit right next to him and us share the same fork! It was ridiculous! He turned out to be a real weirdo and I ended things with him. He's been hard to get rid of. Lesson Learned!
 gentleplus
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:31:39 PM
Flame you are correct....his behavior is not affection but controlling psycho behaviors.. glad you made a choice to move on

Prime you are spot on .... the key is situational awareness and balance... Still some good ole fashioned parking is fun too.... LOL
 FlameNFire
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:37:15 PM
I do have to confess though..."secret" places to hide and play in an ALMOST public place, where no one is looking but there's always that chance...That's A LOT OF FUN, with the suited partner! lol!
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:48:12 PM

i think there is nothing wrong with pda...i kno sometimes it is hard on some people to see two women holding hands but it is a new day and age and wake up we aint going away!! so if i hold my gf hand and you dont like it...guess what dont look!!!


You know..that attitude statement above, coupled with another of your statements of how you, being a gay woman; "hate it when a man says they are a Lesbian in a mans body"..sure smacks of you only caring about yourself and your lifestyle.

Let me ask you a question.

Have you ever increased your PDA level with your gf, when or if you saw someone was showing discomfort at your PDA to begin with?
 cenomeno
Joined: 4/21/2010
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:48:26 PM
Too much affection bore the hell out of me......especially in public... And what's up with holding hands ? What are we - five ? tsk tsk tsk... looks stupid, feels stupid... not my thing.

that being said..... small cute gestures are perfectly normal. One small quick kiss or a warm hug...etc..
 gentleplus
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:55:41 PM
^^^^^ winking to both....Prime and Flame
Reminds me of an 80 couple considering getting married.... they discussed dietary needs, aches and pains, medicines, health status, sleeping behaviors..... everything seemed ok until the issue if intimacy came up.... She says "I think intimacy is best when its infrequently"

The old boy quietly pondered her statement and asked, "Is 'infrequently' one or two words?"


so its all about being on the same page.... Lol

A young girl was talking with her 82 year old grandmother about her wisdom and life experience in relationship and love....

She said "I heard that when a woman gets older that sex is no long important to her life. Nanna at what age did this happen to you?"

Nanna replied, "Sweetie I really can't answer that accurately, but when it happens I will let you know first" LOLOLOL
 Choco237
Joined: 6/28/2011
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Posted: 7/6/2011 5:03:49 PM
Im for the public affection only if its natural between my partner and i.
Sometimes you just feel so connected to the person that both of you don't mind kissing each other in public, hold hands saying some sweet words. And who cares about what the others think?
Sometimes, the connection is just...not there ! Or maybe you feel like there is one but your partner does not feel the same. So he/she prefers showing her affection only when the doors are closed.
Personally, if i love my man and he loves me , ill not feel embarrassed to be affectionate in public ! My ex , i remember that i put food in his mouth sometimes when we eat out :p And i love that. Our story is between us, not the others around us.
Of course, DO NOT do TOO MUCH
 ekw1234
Joined: 5/31/2011
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Posted: 7/6/2011 6:46:14 PM
A little goes a long way!!
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 7/7/2011 2:36:40 PM
i loveee affection inside the house an outside the house

the person ur with wether dating or not who wants to hug an kiss on you an wants to hold hands an whisper sweet things to you an also wants to recieve that back from you when your out an about 2gether or indoors,

shows that they are EMOTIONALLY AVALIABLE and are NOT afriad of OR ashamed of who thier with espcially if your out with friends or family actions speak louder then words sometimes.. its like ya this is my girl she's mine an im glad to be with her!

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