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 jimi77
Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 33
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I think if your attracted to them .. as a man you will always be thinking about there cookies and how to get them..

if your not attracted to them, sure..
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 35
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 12:55:46 AM
Of course men and women can be "friends". But if you are in another monogamous relationship, its crossing the line to "go out alone" together. Thats the cutoff, and I am no expert, so ask a relationship counselor. Let us know what they say.
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Joined: 4/15/2005
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Posted: 9/13/2005 3:48:05 AM
Sure I think so... Happens all the time...
 BarnBabe
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 37
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 3:57:28 AM
I'm living proof it is possible. Most of my friends are men.
 aradienne
Joined: 12/31/2004
Msg: 38
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 4:06:19 AM
I THOUGHT I had men that were just friends, but after listening to the guys here, I'm not so sure....

They just might be right.
 Mamiyaguy
Joined: 9/6/2005
Msg: 39
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 7:58:07 AM
Men, and women, can be friends without sex. However, once a guy has a romantic/sexual relationship with one woman, she should get most of his attention, and his platonic pals should be placed on the back burner. He can talk to his 'friends only' women on the phone, or see them in person, over coffee, while with his lover, so his lover can see that there is nothing going on between him, and the platonics. It's possible that your BF was cheating, but it is also possible that he was not. You should trust more, and he should have been more considerate of your feelings. The two of you were ill-suited to one another, and it is good that he is an ex. Keep it that way, and find a more considerate guy. As for me, I have several platonic pals...women who are, and will always be, 'just friends'. I chat with them often, but I currently have no lover. Once I find a lover, I will converse with her more, and the platonic pals less. I currently have all the platonic pals I need, and am not looking for more. What I want, now, is a 'friend plus lover'...a woman who can be: a friend, a lover, a companion, a hobby-buddy, a life partner, etc, all rolled into one. Wanting that does not make me a jerk, or a sexist pig, or a monster. I can be a friend without having sex, but currently have all of that type of relationship that I want. Now I am looking for a friend who will also be a sex partner, and women who don't want sex can look to someone other than me for what they want.
 queenrhiannon
Joined: 8/15/2005
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Posted: 9/13/2005 8:16:44 AM
It depends on the person...
I have many male friends (more male than female) - and thats just what they are - friends. In fact I am closer to a couple of them than my female ones. The only thing that happend is a kiss at new years, thats it. Even though I have a deal with one that if we are both not married when we are 45 - we are going to get hiched lol.
I have had boyfriends that couldn't handle it - but I made sure that when I went out - that the person I am seeing would meet them.
On the other side of the coin, i have had boyfriends who I trusted with their female friends, and shouldn't have. Especially when I call there and he is in bed with one of them.

It all depends on the person and how much they can be trusted.
 dud
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 41
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 9:01:37 AM
yes, unfortunately
 sleepless_in_Newmarket
Joined: 7/18/2005
Msg: 43
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 9:55:20 AM
I think friends of the opposite sex is b.s or people are naive. Or in denial. There is no such thing as a completely platonic relationship between opposite sex friends. One day, when you are both on the floor putting together a puzzle, putting your heads together to solve something, your scents are exchanged, his head turns towards yours, your eyes meet, and that primordial urge will rear its ugly head. Don't fool yourselves. It happens to "friends" everyday. Hell, it has even been known to happen between two straight women. (No problem there) The only truly safe friendship is two straight guys. Rest assured, they won't be humping each other if their eyes meet.
 ripley65
Joined: 7/29/2005
Msg: 44
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 10:24:53 AM
I happen to have 2 male friends and no,,we dont nor have we ever had sex. IVe had them over here for BBQ's or they'll just drop by to say 'hey'. No biggy. Actually when i was in my late teens to early 20's, i had 3 male friends that we used to just hang out and go cruising with. I had a bf at one point and they all told me they thought he was wrong for me and guess what,,he was. lol But hell yeah,,men and women CAN be friends with no sex.
 queenrhiannon
Joined: 8/15/2005
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:27:52 AM
between two straight women

Life is not a cheezy porno\

Maybe you cannot be just friends with a woman

but a lot of people do not have that problem. Unless you are a always horny - it can be done.
Ex. In another thread it is said that you have to be attracted to the person to sleep with them...
I am not attracted to my best friends, and my male friends, we have surpassed that. I love them - and respect them - but I don't want to jump their bones...

Its called control and respect.
 sleepless_in_Newmarket
Joined: 7/18/2005
Msg: 46
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 10:29:50 AM
It's also possible to walk a tightwire without a net. But is it smart? No. It's dangerous. The potential is there and that creates an unhealthy environment. It would for me.
 techgirl27
Joined: 9/5/2005
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:30:56 AM
Yes. Sex is not necessary to show you care about someone. If someone wants sex out of every type of acquaintaince, they better stay away from me!!! That said, it will come to it when the time and person is right.
 sleepless_in_Newmarket
Joined: 7/18/2005
Msg: 48
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:33:17 AM
Life is not a cheesy porno? So you are saying that lesbian encounters only happen in porno movies? More naivete. My sister had her friend of 25 years proposition her one night! Anyway, that is beside the point. The point is that it happens a lot between men and women.
 queenrhiannon
Joined: 8/15/2005
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:36:44 AM
I know some lesbians as well - and I am sure I have done a lot more living than you have! (gee please read the postings before responding!)
Your fomer comments said it cannot be done - I am stating it can. And you last comment about straight female friends it happens? Then those females are not straight they are bi (and yes I have plenty of bi friends, men and women also)
But then it is natural for people to disagree.
Its not like two straight friends break out into a pillow fight and end in a sweaty embrace!
 sleepless_in_Newmarket
Joined: 7/18/2005
Msg: 50
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:45:47 AM
I didn't say no two individuals opposite sex friends can resist sex. There are a million examples that do. I said the idea of the strictly platonic relationship is a myth. That means a sexual undercurrent often exists between two such friends. And often, across the general population, that supposedly platonic relationship goes sexual because of that sexual undercurrent. That doesn't mean it will be acted upon by you or anyone in particular. You still need the right situation to arise. And usually the right situation never presents itself. But just because it hasn't, that is not to be taken as proof of the absense of that undercurrent. That therefore indicates to me that for two people to enter into a platonic relationship is risky. Especially if they are married.
 queenrhiannon
Joined: 8/15/2005
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:49:29 AM
But its a matter of self control - and the people involved!

Yes - a situation like that did arise for me with one of my male friends eons ago - but we just looked at eachother and bursed out laughing - realizing how silly it was...

Since then we are still friends, and nothing like that arose again.
 queenrhiannon
Joined: 8/15/2005
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:52:30 AM
and please excuse the spelling folks, i am still hopped up on drugs from the hospital lol
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 53
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:54:48 AM
Yes it can be done, some people have climbed mt everest too, EVERYTHING IN PERSPECTIVE.
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 54
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:58:16 AM
Aradienne and blue eyed gal seem to be catching on. Good for you two ladies (heck even I just read the chicks posts....kinda fits in with this topic too???).

I am LMAO at women here who say "Most of my friends are male" Take one guess why those guys hang around you? Women should have women friends and men should have men friends. Yes I've had female friends, thats not the point. I was single, one I was hot for and married 14 years later, the other was ugly and I felt sorry for her.
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 55
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Posted: 9/13/2005 11:01:06 AM
Thank you fun and confident.

I can drive my car for years without getting in a wreck too so maybe I dont need to wear my safety belt. And you can too, if you are undisciplined and dont care about consequences.
 queenrhiannon
Joined: 8/15/2005
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Posted: 9/13/2005 11:01:41 AM
Oh yah , and they have been hanging around me since we were 5 for that reason! LOL
 kmoc1966
Joined: 5/22/2005
Msg: 57
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 9/13/2005 11:06:56 AM
i have read a lot of truth in all the posts here......yes, we can have friends who are of the opposite sex and never have sexual contact! the most common link to all these posts is that it boils down to trust and respect for one another, regardless of the hormonal attraction that exists (and yes, it exists for all of us - stop being in denial!). also, you do have to ask yourself just how important that friendship is to you. Sexual encounters come and go, but lasting friendships tend to be rare. Life is all about choices!!
 queenrhiannon
Joined: 8/15/2005
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Posted: 9/13/2005 11:15:57 AM
kmoc

You just summed it up perfectly!
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 59
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Posted: 9/13/2005 12:24:39 PM
Have trust in god and lock your bicycle, but there is trust!
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