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 SICutie
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 6
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i don't answer them all. i'll be snobbish then. maybe my circumstances are different cause i'm not looking and my profile clearly states that. i have no patience for guys who are too ignorant to read a profile so i delete their mails.

good luck on your search and maybe punch up your profile a bit. you have a TON of competition so you really have to stand out
 SICutie
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 16
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Posted: 8/26/2005 7:40:58 AM
that's also what maturity id for. they don't respond....so what?
 BBdrgn
Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/26/2005 6:40:55 PM
Or UNBLOCKED!!! depends on your willie......

OT: Can't read?
 americangentleman
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 25
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Posted: 8/27/2005 6:38:23 AM
Zhubin,

I know what you mean and I can sympathize with you; however if a woman doesn't respond, don't lose sleep over it. Like you, I think it is rude to not reply back to at least acknowlege your existance but you can not force them to and secondly if they do not want to respond, I wouldn't want to be in a position where "I have to" reply. Try to put yourself in their shoes and understand their side.

In a way, no response is a response and if you look at it like this, if the person doesn't respond than they are missing out on a good person. Be patient, that is all I can say, when I first started on this this, I got no emailis and now I do. When you do get your reply, it will much worth the wait in the end!
 Talitha001
Joined: 6/17/2005
Msg: 26
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Posted: 8/27/2005 9:32:35 AM
I respond to all my e-mails and I get alot, so it`s time consuming...But I think if someone took the time to write to me, I will take the time to respond!!!! Of course, I`m not interested in ALL of them, but I`m interested to chat with them, if that is what they want...I don`t look at every email I receive as LOVE...Friends are important too!!! Can never have too many!!!
 carribeanking7
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 9/1/2005 1:54:35 AM
at the OP

No reply = not interested...
just take it as that...otherwise you'll be second guessing all the possible reasons..

There....its easier trust me.


Personally....I reply almost all my mail... I only ignore the rude ones.
 Talitha001
Joined: 6/17/2005
Msg: 39
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Posted: 9/1/2005 5:27:17 AM
I think ALOT of women on here really exagerate the number of e-mails they get daily!!!!! 50-80 DAILY!!!!!! Sorry!!!! I don`t believe that...I get my fair share but I think creating those high numbers is a feeble excuse to not e-mail back a Thanks but no thanks because there are just soooooooo many e-mails they would have to respond to, don`t ya know!!!! I think when people just read/delete...it speaks alot to their character!! Just my humble opinion!!!
 carribeanking7
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 43
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Posted: 9/4/2005 11:44:35 PM
Quote : THere is a meaning to my zaniness.


I see your zaniness and raise you a dollar
 thebomb1971
Joined: 6/22/2005
Msg: 52
set to ignore after she lost interest (found better?)
Posted: 9/5/2005 1:28:06 PM
A woman and myself were emailing each other.... things were going smashingly. Then things just stopped. I let it slide about a week (she was busy?). I then invited her to a company party that is happening this sat and I got a response. It said something about being sorry about not being able to make it. I looked at and realized from the wording that she had picked things up with some other guy. So I sent her a letter stating good luck in her jouirney but she never got it. She had set me to ignore! That made me mad. Not the rejection (I am sooooo used to it) but being set to ignore. Oh well.
 thebomb1971
Joined: 6/22/2005
Msg: 53
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Posted: 9/5/2005 1:38:05 PM
sarah 38, you get so many email because your pics are so suggestive of you being easy. I doubt you are but your pics are borderline soft-porn. What do you expect?
 D_olnae
Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 62
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Posted: 6/12/2006 8:44:43 PM
Don't expect courtesy from the discourtesous; you'll have better luck milking a bull. If you send an e-mail to someone and that person doesn't respond, that's a person you DON'T want a response from.
 Splinter
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 66
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Posted: 6/13/2006 5:30:23 AM
I find that guys are the same way. If a person has enough time to read and delete an email then they have enough time to respond to the email. I guess there are a lot of lazy people on this site.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 73
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Posted: 4/6/2010 11:49:30 AM

As of right now, the majority of those whom I've emailed have checked the email and have neither deleted it NOR responded. I'm not sure anyone could send a more confusing signal at the "first contact" - you don't delete my message, you don't respond, what gives?


Yabut, they aren't sending you anything...nor do they need to, so how can their
"first contact" be a confusing signal?

Some people get lots of mail. Some people think everyone should answer every
message even if its to say no thanks. Some people think you only need to respond
to the ones you're interested in.

"shrug"

It's the nature of online dating...it's not for the faint of heart!
 Canadian Ink
Joined: 7/12/2009
Msg: 76
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Posted: 4/6/2010 12:21:57 PM
This crap has really got to stop. No one on this site owes anyone anything. If you send someone a message and they don't respond, it means they're not interested. Move on to the next one. Online dating takes thick skin. If some people are getting this worked up over not receiving a response back, then maybe online dating is not for you.
 NarcissusTemple
Joined: 4/23/2009
Msg: 77
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Posted: 4/6/2010 12:51:08 PM
OP, why don't you try a wedding invitation style letter?

Write your own acceptance and rejection letter in the body of your first-contact email.
Then instruct the woman to simply cut and paste the appropriate response in the no-postage-necessary reply form.

Presto! You will have exactly the answer you want!

edit: oh, i see this is an old post from 2005 and the OP is long gone.
hmm. still like my idea. i'll redirect to josh.
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 83
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Posted: 4/6/2010 1:21:04 PM

As a matter of fact, after you send an email, delete it. Then it will save you frustration of what other people are doing.

Forget that. Delete the email before you send it. That'll send `em the right message.
 *Eiledon*
Joined: 8/6/2007
Msg: 86
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Posted: 4/6/2010 2:14:31 PM


I would just prefer feedback so I can be a more attractive POFer and better person overall. It's hard to improve the formula without feedback, but I'm fine.



Go to PROFILE REVIEW and may be they can help you "improve the formula".
Best!


Ditto!

 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 87
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Posted: 4/6/2010 2:15:01 PM
I don't mind people not responding to me;

don't believe you. you want some kind of acknowledgement. that's understandable but not reasonable. putting a stake in something you have no control of is the way to frustrate yourself out of using this site to your advantage.

I would just prefer feedback so I can be a more attractive POFer and better person overall.

think about what you're saying. you know virtually nothing about these women you're messaging. you have no idea who among them are raging crackpots. if one says, 'i can't stand facial hair,' are you gonna run for your razor? the next woman you try may date ONLY men with facial hair. one woman's feedback isn't going to serve you. do you really trust some stranger more than you trust yourself?

a lot of women come onto the site wanting to do the polite thing and answer every email. but when they say 'no thanks,' they get profane replies or pointless arguments. this is not what they came here for, so they avoid such time-wasting nonsense by not replying to any they're not interested in.

the rules of politeness are different here. don't blame the women. blame the jerk-off guys who have no manners and/or think they're owed a conversation. they're the ones who largely set the tone.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 89
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Posted: 4/6/2010 3:25:51 PM

Agreed - and it is also human nature to want feedback after rejection, which some cite as the reasoning for not responding in the first place.


Joe Dulce song lyrics help me answer copy/paste and Hey baby send me more pics!!
You're hot blah blah blah and I am wonderful messages.
1-2-3

What'sa matter you, hey, gotta no respect
Whatta you tink you do, why you looka so sad
Itsa not so bad, Itsa nice-a place, Ahh shaddupa you face

Mama she said it alla da time, What'sa matter you, hey, gotta no respect
Whatta you think you do, why you looka so sad
Itsa not so bad, Itsa nice-a place, Ahh shaddupa you face, Thatsa my mama

Hello everybody, outs-outta dere in a-radio and a-TV land
Did you know I hadda bigga hitta song in Italy with-a dis, Shaddupa you face
I singa dissa song, alla my fans applaude, they clappa dere hands
That make-a me-a feel so good
You oughta learna dissa song, itsa realla simple
See, I sing, "What'sa matta you", You sing, "Hey", then I singa the rest
And then at the end we can alla sing "Ah shaddupa you face", OK let'sa try i

Ahhhhhhhhh..everybody sing shaddupa you face.....


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