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 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Personally I am going green...alien!
I hear they are outta this world.
 melissa0607
Joined: 2/12/2009
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Posted: 12/5/2010 6:27:54 PM
From one of my exes I found out that culturally in judaism its the opposite of islam. The children take the religion of the mother. In our case she was jewish I'm catholic, so difference...and I don't believe in snipping lil boys...so we had a lil argument about that, but alas we never had kids.

I think interracial pairings will always get dirty looks

In some weird retarded way I kind of get why some white dudes get bent out of shape seeing white women with black men, because black women on avg do not give white men the same chance white women give black men, so maybe those guys that get bent out of shape out of some kind of jealousy...that and the crap SOME white women spew about black men is really annoying (i'm talking about the women who will put in their profile BLACK MALES ONLY, and what not) to me that's just a form of racism.


Out of curiosity did she explain to you why this is true win Judaism? The reason behind it is that you can only ever be 100% sure that the mother is the paternal parent. That's where that came from.

I have dated only white and black men. I used to get dirty looks when I was dating this one guy, he was from the Bahamas, and every time someone gave us one of those looks we would start kissing. It was great. Really sent whoever it was over the edge.

Black women get bent out of shape because they say "there are not a very large number of "good" black men to choose form and we are taking them away", reducing that number even further. White guys are just jealous egotistical schmucks, that's why they get bent.

It's not racism at all, it's preference. I bet you have no problem with the men who say they only like athletic bodies. I have dated a lot of good looking white and black men, but if you took one of each, equally as good looking, I will almost always find the black man sexier. That's just how it is for me. I am currently dating someone that is half black half Puerto Rican. Sexy as hell. Hopefully he's as sexy on the inside as the out, time will tell.
 melissa0607
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Posted: 12/5/2010 8:09:36 PM

Although I can't agree about your analogy of weight/body type to colour of skin/racial features. You can lose/gain weight...short of surgery you cannot change your skin colour or your nose or etc. Big difference.


you said


the crap SOME white women spew about black men is really annoying (i'm talking about the women who will put in their profile BLACK MALES ONLY, and what not) to me that's just a form of racism.


I simply said it is not about racism, it is about preferences. No different than a man putting that he only wants a slim/slender/athletic type. A preference is a preference whether the person you prefer can change it or not. So no it is not a big difference.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 51
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Posted: 12/7/2010 5:25:56 PM

In some weird retarded way I kind of get why some white dudes get bent out of shape seeing white women with black men, because black women on avg do not give white men the same chance white women give black men, so maybe those guys that get bent out of shape out of some kind of jealousy...that and the crap SOME white women spew about black men is really annoying (i'm talking about the women who will put in their profile BLACK MALES ONLY, and what not) to me that's just a form of racism.


I don't think its so much that black women don't give white guys a chance- I think its a matter of white guys not having the sand to go for a black girl. Anytime I've wanted to date a black woman, I have had zero problem doing so.

Now I have seen white women go for black guys- and in my experience, the ones I've seen that go for black guys- they have tended to throw themselves at the black men they have been with.

White women can date black men all they want, I don't care, nor am I jealous. Because I really do not go for white women. So I am not in competition for those females.

I think its a preference- not racism. If I were "racist" against white women, then I would have zero friends that are white women . I would "hate" white women, that is what racism is to me- NOT just making a decision to date other women who are not white.

People are allowed to have preferences without hate. Hate is something different than attraction.


if you come across a white woman's profile stating black men only- perhaps you should send an unsolicited ""shot"" of yourself, so you could be qualified off the top.

See how far that gets ya....
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 12/7/2010 8:23:57 PM
^^^^I agree, so why not show a little swagger with all chicks?

ya, black chicks seem to dig swagger more than the rest...at least as a rule.
 zeryphex
Joined: 7/23/2006
Msg: 58
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Posted: 12/8/2010 10:09:48 AM
I'm totally down with dating a girl/woman of any race. I wish I could date more east asians, more Indians, more Middle Easterns (Arab, Jew, Turks, etc), and more central/south americans.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 59
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Posted: 12/8/2010 2:36:34 PM

Just saying to me there is a difference between :
- I prefer X
- I will ONLY date X


to me there is a difference between

- I prefer X
- I will ONLY date X
- I don't date X because I HATE all people who are the color of X

see the difference?

yours are both preferences....
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 65
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Posted: 12/9/2010 6:49:00 AM

Lol, damn Rush, you had sex with every Italian and Dark Guy on earth, to find out whose best


my my, someone's been busy...
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 73
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Posted: 12/9/2010 11:39:18 AM
~OT~ I've never viewed myself as a racist when it comes to dating, but I suppose there is a element of that in me. I don't particular fancy Caucasians. I prefer those of the Hispanic/Portuguese/Basque/Spaniard persuasion. That's not written in stone, but I do seem to be more apt to meet/date those people than any others. I've had a long-term relationship with a Native American/Italian mix, but my history would show the other rationalities have been those I've preferred more often than not. Personal preferences are what they are. JMO
 melissa0607
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Posted: 12/10/2010 5:47:22 AM

Lol, we have a new Olympic sport. This week it's the Italian "stallions" vs the "Mandingoes"........


LOL, that would be something. Too funny. When you manage to get that going, give me a shout
 Worbug
Joined: 4/23/2009
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Posted: 12/10/2010 7:52:19 AM
"Where do us mutts fit in the competition??? "

No where, there is no novelty and you won't get under her daddy's skin. LOL


On topic: Date who you want. If you have fallout or what not, who cares, live by your own decisions and not those of others. We all have our own preference I guess. I prefer a decent lady, period. Does any one race have a monopoly on that? no, nor does any man. That is what cracks me up when a women says she will only date this or that race. cleary just for the attention. If it was a decent man she was lookng for, race wouldn't matter. But the forbidden fruit has always been a temtation, and some wear it as a badge of honor.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 12/26/2010 12:16:35 PM
^^^^perhaps dougie, but gocanes is from the south of the United States (fka Conferderates States of America). if his parents grew up in the south, then that also adds into it. while there is tons of opportunities to date interracially black/white in the south (due to the higher population of african americans in this part of the country) to the older generations, it can still be frowned upon perhaps greater than current generations.

people are still concerned about perceptions and many times those perceptions are merely based on race, as opposed to the actual class any particular person and their own family background.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 92
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Posted: 12/26/2010 1:42:04 PM

I remember reading one time that the only way for the old ways to end, the older generations need to die off first. Unfortunately, their ways have already been passed on to the younger generation.


racism is a part of every single society on earth. right, wrong or indifferent- that is a fact of life.

where one person will be on the bottom in one society, they could be higher in another society.

it is what it is, seeking to minimize it within your own outlook on life is the best you can find and finding like minded people to surround yourself with.
 Boon100
Joined: 8/31/2010
Msg: 93
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Posted: 12/26/2010 3:37:01 PM
im sorta in the same situation. ive always wanted to date indian girls but interracial dating is hard in this case. i suggest u give up.
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 12/27/2010 5:41:40 AM

The girl I was dating went through this same problem. She was milano. She told me stories how the black girls didn't accept her because she wasn't fully black and the white girls didn't know what she was so she had a really hard time growing up and people were really mean to her in middle school and high school.


Milano? Do you mean mulatto, aka biracial?
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 99
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Posted: 10/18/2011 2:33:54 AM
^^^ thx for that add i speak and write - YET...the vast majority of folks in this country refer to ""interracial dating"" as being between whites and blacks...

whites and orientals get a bit of play on it as well, but its not as ""taboo"" as white/black.

white/Arab...

hardly a biline....
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 10/18/2011 3:31:04 PM
Also, I did date a Muslim man briefly, years ago...but his family was worried that it would go beyond dating. They were very nice to me...but his father sat me down and explained that the relationship would have to end at some point as they would not give their permission for him to marry anyone that was not of the Muslim faith. And...while some families will allow the partner to convert...this man's father was against it. He wanted his son to marry someone of a 'true blood'. It's funny because we did break up shortly after and he (the man I was dating) continued dating caucasian woman many years and each time...his father refused to give his permission for marriage . Last I heard he did get married (at age 43) to a much younger woman from Lebanon.


And..chances are, he is still messing with Caucasian women..

My daughter's girls are triracial; 1/3 Native America (my late wife), 1/3 Caucasian (me), and 1/3 Black (their fathers). The eldest is 'embracing' her black culture, and is in full diva/biotch mode right now. Won't talk to me...I'm an old white dude.
Eh, it's a phase, she's 19..knows it all..etc.
 frijolera_ninja
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 105
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Posted: 10/24/2011 5:07:30 PM
I have to date IR Ive yet to find someone the same mix as me let alone the religions that go along with the different cultures. When I was a kid I didnt really know we were different just figured my dad was a really good cook.

In regards to the few that had negative remarks towards muslim men? Really? Do you know these men personally or just what you read in the paper or see on youtube? I work with many arab / muslims even arab / jews that are very thoughtful and considerate. Truly loving their spouse and honor them in every way. As for the mixed younger ones their babys are beautiful and happy so something must be working!
 Rotifunk
Joined: 12/13/2009
Msg: 107
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Posted: 11/13/2011 2:58:43 AM
Quite an interesting dialogue with Ahron, I understood what you said from your first posting. It never insinuated generalisation either, but of course, there are those who will read this and interprete as such. My thoughts....you should not have wasted your time explaining this, people tend to believe and interprete statements in various ways. If you are familiar with political spins you will understand. I will subscribe to some of your assertions, though there are exceptions, hence reducing risks of branding and being a stereotype. This occurs across all races.
 Rotifunk
Joined: 12/13/2009
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Posted: 11/13/2011 1:30:01 PM
You got a point there. The converse in terms of gender and racial preferences is also true. So let us all BE!
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 112
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Posted: 6/13/2013 8:00:24 AM

I have dated men from, every race that there is


Cat, have you dated an eskimo? How about a pigmy?

;-)
 LoneScottishBoy
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Posted: 6/13/2013 8:10:35 AM

Cat, have you dated an eskimo? How about a pigmy?



I asked an Eskimo girl out once...she gave me the cold shoulder.
I dated a pigmy once...we never got beyond small talk.
 premed10
Joined: 10/24/2009
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Posted: 6/15/2013 2:51:09 PM
True, black women are like that with black men too.
 LathaMath
Joined: 1/2/2013
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Posted: 6/15/2013 3:12:28 PM

The girl I was dating went through this same problem. She was milano. She told me stories how the black girls didn't accept her because she wasn't fully black and the white girls didn't know what she was so she had a really hard time growing up and people were really mean to her in middle school and high school.

Milano? Do you mean mulatto, aka biracial?
No, he means she was from Milan, Itlay. Italians are all crazy. They'll tell you that themsleves. Watch your step. :)
 BlackLady1953
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Posted: 7/26/2013 8:26:08 PM
Don't know about the "racial" thing....I think it is more religious. I have a Muslim friend (black), who I would date in a heartbeat, but he has made it clear that we never can because (1) I am a Christian, and (2) I have dated outside my race. But with him, I think it's more religiously-based.
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