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 Stephaniedayton2
Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 84
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lady
it has been my experience that only people who don't love themselves can say hurtfull things to others. I feel a bit sorry for your husband as he was obviously someone who missed out on a lot in life, not the least of which was not seeing the obvious beauty who he was so lucky to have shared his life with. If I was you I would take this as an opportunity to start something new and wonderful. live your life exactly as you want to and realize that you are as amazing as you make yourself and beautiful as god made you.
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 86
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Posted: 12/2/2005 11:38:45 PM
People can say really mean things about how other people look. When people make fun of someone because of how they look I get really upset, people do not realize that god could have made THEM that same person they are making fun of. I have seen really nice looking people but their whole aura and attitude towards other people just made them totally UGLY to me. I read an article in Cosmo once and it was titled "Are you beddable" and what it was saying is that it's a persons personality that makes them approachable. For instance, a drop dead beauty can walk on a plane, men will look at them but not say anything or even smile at them because of her attitude. Someone like me (not a twiggy) can walk on the plane, I"m not ugly but not a 19 year old, 6 ft, size 6 beauty queen either, but I'm always smiling and will make eye contact with people and therefore men and women will ALWAYS talk to me and make eye contact with me. I"m ok on the outside but I think my personal beauty is more inward and to be honest, I like it that way. A friendly person can make someone who is having a really bad day... much happier and relaxed. I like that about myself.

From your picture you look like a very pretty lady and your smile makes me think you are not only pretty on the outside but a very lovely person on the inside! I'm not sure why your husband said what he did and I think now with all the pof friends who've responded to you and in such possitive ways you know that you are a beautiful person and you should never feel anything but that!
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 87
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Posted: 12/2/2005 11:46:54 PM
And also, I'd be surprised if you do not have men knocking down your door!!! There are men all over the world who would consider themselves a king to have a woman like you.

Your husband was blind, I just hope that in your marriage you found happiness and that in his worldly ways he was able to show you many things. I hope you were allowed to travel and have children and have a good life. Life is what we make it and everytime something new happens then it's just another chapter in our book of life. I have lots of good chapters of the adventures in my life. You are a wonderful person, so get out there in the world and have some fun.
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 88
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Posted: 12/3/2005 12:06:38 AM
I agree Phoenix... and you can't FAKE being a nice person because sooner or later that ugly person inside of you will pop it's head out. If you have the money you can be physically perfect but without a personality and a heart you will just be a beautiful LONELY person. I happen to still have friends from 35 years ago! Some people say if you can count your true friends on one hand you're lucky... well... I'm surely blessed to have been a good enough friend to keep my friends for this many years. I had my younger years and I was a pretty thing but I never even realized how cute I was until I got older, so I guess I must have put alot of time into making my personality... and I have a one in a million kind.. LOL.. And it's taken me many years and alot of therapy to actually say that about myself. People who don't like themselves find it hard for others to care about them. Not sure where I was going with this..
 oneafternoon
Joined: 3/15/2005
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Posted: 12/8/2005 4:13:13 PM
Beauty is in the eyes of me ...
 sister_wife2005
Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 98
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Posted: 12/15/2005 9:40:14 AM
Yes, very much so, we have next to no beauty but that is ok with us as this is what Yahweh (God) gave us, and after all we are made in his image.

I personally think you are very lovely. Kara

Yahweh thinks so also.

Steve & Kara
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 107
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Posted: 1/13/2006 10:41:11 PM
ladypagey.. you are neat lady.. keep up the good work!!!
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 111
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Posted: 1/19/2006 7:57:46 PM
You know what ladypagey.. that is what life is about. As we age we have to learn to accept the good and bad in our lives. Appreciate the good.. use those memories for smiles during bad times and the bad things in our lives, we need to just use them for lessons of life. Once something negative happens in our life there is nothing much you can do to change it, but don't let it happen in vain, use it for something good. Either learn from it.. or try and see some good that might come from it. If you dwell on everything rotten that's happened to you then you are not living... you are not going forward with your life you are standing still or going backwards. God only gives us so many minutes on this earth and we need to make the best out of each and every one of them.

OUCH.. I just fell off my soap box... dang it....
 carribeanking7
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 113
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Posted: 1/19/2006 9:41:01 PM
Beauty in the eye of the beholder





True, its just that some have more "beholders" than others -but numbers dont matter,
if its the right one , 1 is enough.
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 114
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Posted: 1/19/2006 9:42:21 PM
^^^ awww.... king that was sweet...
 Real_Brunette
Joined: 8/4/2005
Msg: 116
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Posted: 1/19/2006 10:54:22 PM
Lady, I do believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I happen to think you are beautiful. Both physically, as well as inside.
 AnthonyJ
Joined: 11/17/2004
Msg: 118
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Posted: 1/21/2006 8:35:35 PM
I agree. I don't find Uma Thurman or Gwyneth Paltrow all THAT attractive, but alot of guys I know think they are bombshells. Or even Camren Diaz. Those girls are considered very pretty by alot of people, but to me they are so so. Now, Eva Mendez, Leah Remini(King of Queens) and Salma Hayek - WHOAH! Those girls float my boat like nobody. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That's why I kind of chuckle to myself when I hear someone label someone else as being pretty or ugly and they say it as if their opinions are absolute. Each individual is different.
 Little Lady
Joined: 4/2/2005
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Posted: 1/23/2006 12:31:26 AM
It shocks and saddens me. I started reading this thread (can't sleep) and I was supprised at what I was reading in many ways. The tender beauty that I can see on the internet???

I had to open your profile, looked just at your picture and saw such tender beauty. I can not figure how a man would not say that you are beautiful. There are a lot of beautiful people on this site, and a lot of kind people on this site. But to have both the tender and beauty shine through on the internet is a rare thing that I treasure.

I do not mean to sound mushy, just damn honest.
 Little Lady
Joined: 4/2/2005
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Posted: 1/23/2006 2:16:49 AM
I had/have a mother that years ago was a very beautiful woman. Through the years her insides became her outside. After two face lifts (never should have been needed) her looks just kept deteriating so badly. She could not understand why, I am so sorry to say I understood. Her inside became her outside and no doctor could fix what was inside of her.

I say I had/have, she is very much alive. But in my life I choose who to allow to be unkind to me. I have a choice to open a door, go in a room and be abused or to just stay away.

I choose who I am with therefore I choose how I am treated. We all have to remember it is in our control even if it is so difficult to walk away from family or friends.

You my dear lady, are beautiful and I could only wish, and I mean wish hard, that my mother was able to keep her beauty as you have done.
 DnickieD
Joined: 5/30/2005
Msg: 124
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Posted: 1/23/2006 5:38:04 AM
My heartfelt condolences and prayers, dear Lady on the passing of your beloved father.


I know how you feel right now, because my own dad was my main source of support, growing up in a household of 3 sisters and mom. They picked my self esteem apart because they were smaller than I was, and he would tell them to leave me alone, I was fine the way I was. The school children were even more cruel and it was so bad that they even made me think I was so fugly that I would overeat. It wasn't till my dad passed that I lost his support and kind words. I went on a starvation diet, and suddenly started having more men notice me in my 20's. My sisters and mom had beat my self esteem into the ground, so I found men that would try to bring that back up, but it was so ingrained in my mind that I felt unattractive still. I hit a stumbling block when I met and lived with an abusive jealous man over 10 years ago. He too tore me down, and when we split, I went back to my own destructive behaviour, so he wouldn't try to come back. Till 2004, I hadn't wanted to go out of my comfort zone, to meet anyone. It's been an amazing experience to meet so many people that would tell me that I was beautiful. I think we're all a work in progress, and we all try to improve on what God gave us, except my X. He's gotten fuglier in the last 10 years, because of the way he treats people and his fugly attitude towards life in general. It's even affecting his health too.

So yes dear Lady, if you love yourself and see yourself as beautiful, believe it, you are. Others will perceive it as well, and so will your love of your life. If others try to say you're not, get away from them. They don't love themselves period and will try to bring you down with them. As was mentioned ealier on the first page, that when he took the time to get to know a lady, he saw her as beautiful, whereas his friends did not. I feel that would be key in finding someone that is truly the one you're were meant to love and cherish.

I wish y'all the best, especially Lady and M.
 lulubelles
Joined: 2/9/2006
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Posted: 3/20/2006 7:45:21 PM
Here, Here. Northwind
 love123
Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 128
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Posted: 4/3/2006 10:21:43 AM
Well my lady,

How are things? My neice just brought to my attention POF Speed Dating events

Next one in Waterloo...I go to local POF dances and events. I have found I just have to have my emotions balance me after coffee dates etc and sit back and see where friendship goes. Even online friendships. I am new as of Nov/05...controlling..self esteem went down..my side of the street is' I let the sultle control get worse....suggested counselor..to show us how to treat one another..but he said we're not going to counseling so you can get the use of the car back..that was one of the last straws...................but this butterfly underneath, I remember the strong athletic 17 year old woman I was; and still attend and taught water aerobics. I buy local theater events and get out to movies myself...I just sit in car window down with sun to rejuvenate me and tunes playing...kicking my feet out the window; talk to everyone, parking lot, grocery store...pool, the more encounters in life..the more alive I feel...a part of...I was debating to take a glass blowing class $495; "classes" promote company and inter action, fun....I also sing alto in choir, another family and read bible at breakfast to my 17 yr old and send e-mails to my 22 yr old, including neat affirming verses..There is change and if we start liking changes and go for things...we'll bounce back and thrive...Best of luck gal ladypagey
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 130
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Posted: 4/5/2006 9:02:07 PM
^^^^ BritPrince.... You are so good with words. I'm so glad you came over and have joined in, I think you will have alot to offer in all your wisdom. YOU as Ladypagey are very special people with wonderful kind hearts. I only wish more people could see the beauty within a person and not just look on the outside.
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 133
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Posted: 4/5/2006 11:09:06 PM
Oh.. Lady... you didn't break anything when you fell did you??? I wish I were closer to you I would come help you. You are allowed to take a break from here once in awhile but your kinds words mean alot to us all.
 chauntra
Joined: 3/19/2006
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Posted: 4/8/2006 7:20:29 AM
I would honestly like to think beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I thought I found someone who felt that way about me.....and he did, but 2 other women also lol. Anyway, I think if more people honestly looked at the inside instead of the outside, they would find the most beautiful women in the world under the surface.
 jacktraven
Joined: 3/28/2006
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Posted: 4/8/2006 10:07:45 AM
Its the "she has this something" thing you can't explain. Ever felt that? For every man, there's a special woman. A woman that inspires you with her beauty, with her actions, with the way she makes you feel. Its a matter of sensitivity, I guess. If a man has the eyes, the heart and the sensitivity, he will bring out the beauty in a woman naturally, because he feels it.
 chauntra
Joined: 3/19/2006
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Posted: 4/20/2006 2:54:36 AM
Jack and Filmmaker......I feel you 2 gentlemen have the right view. In todays society, beauty is based on the outside. Everyone has to be tall, thin, shapely, radiating. I am all that, but I keep it well covered to protect it The man who takes a chance with me will find the beauty on the inside, along with intelligence, and a good sense of humor. But alas, the outside is currently under construction
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 146
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Posted: 4/20/2006 3:07:08 AM
^^^ the same with me.... men will just miss out on a really neat person if they are just looking at my "protective" coating.. LOL Their loss not mine.
 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 147
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Posted: 4/20/2006 6:49:10 AM
Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder. I don't like it when teh media and society and stuff try to influence our perception of what is beautiful and "ugly". Thats why so many people views on beauty and "ugliness" are so perverted.

Everyone is beautiful in their own special way and that should be know and understood that societies "vision" or "idea" of beauty should NOT effect our decisions and views of how we judge others on it.
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