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 stevenkas
Joined: 12/14/2012
Msg: 174
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for me I wouldn't bother to, it seems like a lot of work just to get something that you usually can get in any bar
 p1moretyme
Joined: 8/28/2012
Msg: 175
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Posted: 12/22/2012 3:41:01 PM
I am reminded of Nick Cage's quote from the movie Lord of War:

"Some of the most successful relationships are based on lies and deceit. Since that's where they usually end up anyway, it's a logical place to start."
 lombar
Joined: 4/19/2012
Msg: 176
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Posted: 12/23/2012 3:45:25 PM
I don't lie, that's why I haven't gotten any for awhile! If you actually value integrity, honesty, and seek true intimacy, you can't lie. Usually though, I just get painted with that 'all men lie' brush anyways! ;)
 WaxItYourself122
Joined: 11/22/2012
Msg: 177
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Posted: 12/23/2012 11:14:02 PM
Lying just ends in problems. If things work out you are eventually going to have to explain that lie. Better to get everything right the first time around.
 elednuw
Joined: 1/11/2011
Msg: 178
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Posted: 2/5/2013 11:55:03 PM
I don't think theres anything to lie about.Thats a good way to lose a sweet honest type when she finds out the truth or for any type of woman for that matter.Your history of lying and your reputation for being a liar will sooner or later catch up to you.
 elednuw
Joined: 1/11/2011
Msg: 179
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Posted: 2/5/2013 11:59:03 PM
Don't forget,some women lie to get what they want as well,whatever thats is.So are they willing to lose their guy over it,or just milking it as long as they can?,not really caring about the guy and just using him?
 FatPandaz
Joined: 1/15/2013
Msg: 180
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Posted: 2/9/2013 3:54:40 PM
Agreed SuperFunGuy. Of course men do, but so do women. It's equally terrible but it happens.
 need4peace
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 181
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Posted: 2/22/2013 1:35:24 AM
wait a month...
 need4peace
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 182
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Posted: 2/22/2013 1:41:33 AM


Men are slime.

We will write absurd profiles, scour the net for "cute" pics, claim to have outrageous jobs, enormous genitals and even larger bank accounts.

Not me though, I really am a CEO of a huge Biotech company who works in international espionage in his spare time, except when I am volunteering at the local animal shelter. My luck in being the heir to an enormous aerospace fortune allows me to work for social justice and simultaneously be a go getter in the corporate world.

I am also a pro hockey player, rapper, snowboarder, race car driver, Nobel Prize winning author and UFC light heavyweight champ. And I love kids...

No, you do not look fat in those pants, and I have never felt like this before. In fact I think we were soulmates in another life and I only need you to make me complete. And that tatoo on your lower back does not make you look trashy at all...

No lies here.


oh that was priceless...LMAO
 forthewinwinwin
Joined: 5/21/2011
Msg: 183
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Posted: 2/22/2013 11:21:08 PM
It depends. I'm sure both genders lie.

I wouldn't lie on important matters, but I'd think many lie about say, interests to have common ground or conversation material.
 madwackplatipus
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 184
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Posted: 4/7/2013 10:01:31 PM
ask the right questions,so you can weed out the bullshitters,
 Ed Bear
Joined: 5/19/2007
Msg: 185
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Posted: 4/17/2013 7:01:35 AM
Hey! Men are NOT all slime!

Only the married ones!
ED BEAR
 SuperFunGuy
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 186
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Posted: 5/17/2013 11:42:31 AM
Nope. Who wants to deal with all the drama and crap. Not me.
 4x4+geek
Joined: 4/7/2007
Msg: 187
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Posted: 5/17/2013 12:45:07 PM
I don't lie because:
- My memory isn't good enough;
- It takes too much effort;
- Jesus is watching....
:-)
 PassengerOnEarth
Joined: 3/29/2013
Msg: 188
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Posted: 5/31/2013 1:10:36 AM
Me no.
If I am not honest, how can I expect honesty in return?
 KelMar5726
Joined: 3/2/2013
Msg: 189
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Posted: 6/26/2013 8:37:18 PM
Not me I believe in honesty, as I have been lied to and hurt by it.
 Mr.Joe_Average
Joined: 6/11/2013
Msg: 190
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Posted: 7/8/2013 11:46:27 AM
I imagine that would be a more age dependent issue. When I was in my young adult years, yep, and I did.
Being much older and FAR more mature, I would say, no, never. Honesty is integral to the value of ANY relationship, base it on lies, and it's worthless. Based on the truth...even if I don't wind up "getting what I want", I still have my integrity intact, which is priceless.
 sunnysmile1970
Joined: 9/1/2013
Msg: 191
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Posted: 9/22/2013 8:09:25 PM
ok, i'm pretty cute. I have a private image that I send to guys when they show interest.
why don't guys respond???
or if they do they mention nothing about the pic... ??
I am getting very disheartened. :(
 Iris125
Joined: 9/7/2011
Msg: 192
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Posted: 10/2/2013 12:01:16 AM
Didn't you read this book? Maybe when you read it, guys' thinking will be more understandable.
He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Greg Behrendt (Author), Liz Tuccillo (Author)
 CaptainTeebs
Joined: 11/10/2012
Msg: 193
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Posted: 10/7/2013 9:05:21 PM
Sometimes, some of don't come to realize that in the end-common values are really what bonds us. Dating can be a vehicle to self realization. Shame if people get hurt, or mislead along the way. We should all try to filter this stuff along the way, I think-(some don't)
What gets in the way? Endless delusion, ego what have you...
Sometimes you are just so damned attractive, we throw everything logical and moral to the wind.
 azurechill
Joined: 9/23/2008
Msg: 194
re Question for the guys such a stupid question
Posted: 1/19/2014 7:18:45 PM
with such obvious answers..... we'll let the girls answer and explain this one....
 campfires4us
Joined: 5/6/2014
Msg: 195
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Posted: 5/23/2014 3:53:43 PM
No, I couldn't do that, but if I was a lawyer or car salesman with no scruples .....
 AddHomonym
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 196
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Posted: 5/23/2014 7:43:40 PM
Human beings seem to lie their way through every aspect of every day. Being honest takes effort and offers fewer rewards. Of the tiny number of people actually willing to be honest now and then, even they will lie sometimes.

Courtship involves all sorts of lies. To ourselves, to others, to the other person, etc. When an attractive person tells me her favourite flavour is strawberry, I won't say "oh yeah, me too" if that wasn't true but everything strawberry will suddenly look that much more appetizing.

I think it's perfectly natural for us to make exceptions, try to overlook things, be open-minded, take a chance, stretch our boundaries, try new things, put our best foot forward, etc. while dating. The stuff the OP is asking about though are bigger things, important things. To lie about those things has a predatory aspect about it. There certainly are people out there who do that. Amongst some men, the belief that anything you say to get a woman into bed "doesn't count" because it is assumed that they will say whatever it takes to "score".

Time and patience are the keys to avoiding these types of guys. Lying on a scale like that will unravel itself in short order. They are also in a big hurry because "it is a numbers game after all". The same rule would apply to investments: if there is a time constraint or they seem to be in a big hurry, take the time to do some extra homework. The trick is to find the balance that works for you.

You can't protect yourself from liars but you can learn to recognize them more easily. The best thing to do is live your life in a way that doesn't attract them. For example, giving nothing away easily or cheaply will cause the majority of them to never even look your way. It's like that saying, "You can't cheat an honest (person)". Of course it isn't true but it is more difficult and requires more time and patience from the liar, making it correct more often than not.
 SkatingTheEdge
Joined: 2/4/2012
Msg: 197
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Posted: 10/13/2014 10:44:58 PM
funny question! but I don't lie, I have to much pride! plus if u cant get what u want u should have to lie to! just move on to the next girl! why spend time ruinging ur life trying to get girls ? id rather be the 40 yearold virgin then lose my pride, and btw I aint the 40 yearold virgin! lol NOT THAT T|HERES ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT!
but maybe I should start lying to chicks, idk they lie all the time to get what they want! lol and its true, im tired of all these babies and it works both ways, girls are as bad as guys ,, just depends on the person!
 SkatingTheEdge
Joined: 2/4/2012
Msg: 198
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Posted: 10/13/2014 10:47:09 PM
and I have a heart of gold too, im like any normal person! I like to see the baddies suffer and the poor kids eat!
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