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Joined: 5/21/2011
Msg: 183
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It depends. I'm sure both genders lie.

I wouldn't lie on important matters, but I'd think many lie about say, interests to have common ground or conversation material.
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 184
Question for the guys
Posted: 4/7/2013 10:01:31 PM
ask the right questions,so you can weed out the bullshitters,
 Ed Bear
Joined: 5/19/2007
Msg: 185
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Posted: 4/17/2013 7:01:35 AM
Hey! Men are NOT all slime!

Only the married ones!
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 186
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Posted: 5/17/2013 11:42:31 AM
Nope. Who wants to deal with all the drama and crap. Not me.
Joined: 4/7/2007
Msg: 187
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Posted: 5/17/2013 12:45:07 PM
I don't lie because:
- My memory isn't good enough;
- It takes too much effort;
- Jesus is watching....
Joined: 3/29/2013
Msg: 188
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Posted: 5/31/2013 1:10:36 AM
Me no.
If I am not honest, how can I expect honesty in return?
Joined: 3/2/2013
Msg: 189
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Posted: 6/26/2013 8:37:18 PM
Not me I believe in honesty, as I have been lied to and hurt by it.
Joined: 6/11/2013
Msg: 190
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Posted: 7/8/2013 11:46:27 AM
I imagine that would be a more age dependent issue. When I was in my young adult years, yep, and I did.
Being much older and FAR more mature, I would say, no, never. Honesty is integral to the value of ANY relationship, base it on lies, and it's worthless. Based on the truth...even if I don't wind up "getting what I want", I still have my integrity intact, which is priceless.
Joined: 9/1/2013
Msg: 191
Question for the guys
Posted: 9/22/2013 8:09:25 PM
ok, i'm pretty cute. I have a private image that I send to guys when they show interest.
why don't guys respond???
or if they do they mention nothing about the pic... ??
I am getting very disheartened. :(
Joined: 9/7/2011
Msg: 192
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Posted: 10/2/2013 12:01:16 AM
Didn't you read this book? Maybe when you read it, guys' thinking will be more understandable.
He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Greg Behrendt (Author), Liz Tuccillo (Author)
Joined: 11/10/2012
Msg: 193
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Posted: 10/7/2013 9:05:21 PM
Sometimes, some of don't come to realize that in the end-common values are really what bonds us. Dating can be a vehicle to self realization. Shame if people get hurt, or mislead along the way. We should all try to filter this stuff along the way, I think-(some don't)
What gets in the way? Endless delusion, ego what have you...
Sometimes you are just so damned attractive, we throw everything logical and moral to the wind.
Joined: 9/23/2008
Msg: 194
re Question for the guys such a stupid question
Posted: 1/19/2014 7:18:45 PM
with such obvious answers..... we'll let the girls answer and explain this one....
Joined: 5/6/2014
Msg: 195
Question for the guys
Posted: 5/23/2014 3:53:43 PM
No, I couldn't do that, but if I was a lawyer or car salesman with no scruples .....
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 196
Question for the guys
Posted: 5/23/2014 7:43:40 PM
Human beings seem to lie their way through every aspect of every day. Being honest takes effort and offers fewer rewards. Of the tiny number of people actually willing to be honest now and then, even they will lie sometimes.

Courtship involves all sorts of lies. To ourselves, to others, to the other person, etc. When an attractive person tells me her favourite flavour is strawberry, I won't say "oh yeah, me too" if that wasn't true but everything strawberry will suddenly look that much more appetizing.

I think it's perfectly natural for us to make exceptions, try to overlook things, be open-minded, take a chance, stretch our boundaries, try new things, put our best foot forward, etc. while dating. The stuff the OP is asking about though are bigger things, important things. To lie about those things has a predatory aspect about it. There certainly are people out there who do that. Amongst some men, the belief that anything you say to get a woman into bed "doesn't count" because it is assumed that they will say whatever it takes to "score".

Time and patience are the keys to avoiding these types of guys. Lying on a scale like that will unravel itself in short order. They are also in a big hurry because "it is a numbers game after all". The same rule would apply to investments: if there is a time constraint or they seem to be in a big hurry, take the time to do some extra homework. The trick is to find the balance that works for you.

You can't protect yourself from liars but you can learn to recognize them more easily. The best thing to do is live your life in a way that doesn't attract them. For example, giving nothing away easily or cheaply will cause the majority of them to never even look your way. It's like that saying, "You can't cheat an honest (person)". Of course it isn't true but it is more difficult and requires more time and patience from the liar, making it correct more often than not.
Joined: 2/4/2012
Msg: 197
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Posted: 10/13/2014 10:44:58 PM
funny question! but I don't lie, I have to much pride! plus if u cant get what u want u should have to lie to! just move on to the next girl! why spend time ruinging ur life trying to get girls ? id rather be the 40 yearold virgin then lose my pride, and btw I aint the 40 yearold virgin! lol NOT THAT T|HERES ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT!
but maybe I should start lying to chicks, idk they lie all the time to get what they want! lol and its true, im tired of all these babies and it works both ways, girls are as bad as guys ,, just depends on the person!
Joined: 2/4/2012
Msg: 198
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Posted: 10/13/2014 10:47:09 PM
and I have a heart of gold too, im like any normal person! I like to see the baddies suffer and the poor kids eat!
Joined: 12/29/2015
Msg: 199
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Posted: 1/19/2017 7:28:43 AM
Yes, the same way women lie.
Joined: 12/31/2016
Msg: 200
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Posted: 1/19/2017 11:31:41 AM
What would be the point. A lie just get found out anyways. Besides, if you lie then really start liking that person and later they find out about that lie, thats a wedge into the bonds of trust. And trust is not made of steel.
Joined: 1/17/2012
Msg: 201
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Posted: 1/27/2017 11:40:44 AM
I have always gone by the mantra "Honesty is the best Policy", and I believe it rings even true more-a-days now with relationships/dating. If you can't tell the truth to a woman you're interested in, than there will never be any trust built up toward the relationship.
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 202
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Posted: 1/27/2017 11:57:05 AM
Yes, believe it or not, some guys will say anything if they think it will get them laid.

Is this a serious question ?
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 203
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Posted: 2/24/2017 8:23:24 AM
Under 40 yes
Over 40 maybe
40 + 40 can't remember
Joined: 1/11/2011
Msg: 204
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Posted: 9/24/2017 10:17:02 AM
If shes the sweet honest type and I'm very attracted to her,I would never lie.I'd be as honest as possible as long as she is too.
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 205
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Posted: 9/24/2017 6:55:20 PM

Joined: 4/2/2012
Msg: 206
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Posted: 12/29/2017 3:49:42 PM
It's no turn-on for me to lie.
At the same time, it's a big turn-off for them to lie to me.
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 207
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Posted: 1/8/2018 3:34:49 AM
If you have to lie to get what you want be
prepared to except the same in return.
I rather take my chances with the truth.
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