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 Hoping36
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 187
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!Page 13 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
I do the very same thing. Everyone else has someone why not me. I'm a good person. It 's good to be alone but, it's better to have that special person in your life. I keep thinking there is something wrong with me. I've been on dates but, that spark is not there.
 karllee
Joined: 7/14/2009
Msg: 188
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 8/8/2009 10:42:34 AM
I feel your pain... it hurts.... was with my ex for 13 years... and went down the drain.... thanks to my friends for helping me through it... i still haven't found the right one yet... but hopefully one day God will send the right one to me... Keep your head up.... everything happens for a reason... we will never know why the things happen to us... but keep your head up and keep that smile on your face.....
 IdRtherBeHiking
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 189
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:39:38 PM
Des'ree - You Gotta Be

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r32vw4260G4

Listen as your day unfolds
Challenge what the future holds
Try and keep your head up to the sky
Lovers, they may cause you tears
Go ahead release your fears
Stand up and be counted
Don't be ashamed to cry
You gotta be
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day
Herald what your mother said
Readin' the books your father read
Try to solve the puzzles in your own sweet time
Some may have more cash than you
Others take a different view
My oh my heh, hey
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day
Don't ask no questions, it goes on without you
Leaving you behind if you can't stand the pace
The world keeps on spinning
You can't stop it, if you try to
This time it's danger staring you in the face
Oh oh oh Remember
Listen as your day unfolds
Challenge what the future holds
Try and keep your head up to the sky
Lovers, they may cause you tears
Go ahead release your fears
My oh my heh, hey, hey
You gotta be
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day


Sending you hugs...javascript:smilie('')
 zinc_09
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 190
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 8/10/2009 7:10:33 AM
Yes there is life after divorce!

When my husband and I separated I thought my life was over. I was living in a city where I knew no one, I had no job, I had no home and was a 12 hour flight away from all my friends and family. I stock piled painkillers and vodka and considered killing myself most days.

2 years on and I've never been happier. I started dating again for the first time a few months ago, and it's weird, but I now know that even if I never end up in a serious relationship again, I have a good relationship with myself (jeez that sounds corny - but it's true).

Time heals. It really does.
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 191
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this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 8/10/2009 4:19:11 PM

Yeah my heart is broken but I figure I'll be better off in the long run with someone else who is honest and faithfull.


Wow, what a powerful thread with some really powerful and heart wrenching
comments.

We always think we are the only ones. We think - My God, what have I ever
done to deserve to have this happen to me. We turn the tables on ourselves
when actually we should be looking positively and not negatively at ourselves.

We think something is wrong with us - The truth being that something is wrong
with THEM to leave something so good for them, in us.

I dont know why it ends - We try to see the positive in why it is the way it is
but sometimes it "just is".

Regardless of IF there is someone around the corner and Im sure there probably
is for most of us - We need to live for "us".

We need to drop the negatives of the situation and SEE the NEGATIVES in
who we have partnered with - Only then will we truly learn why we allowed
such negatives in OUR beautiful little world.
 caballero1
Joined: 6/13/2009
Msg: 192
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 8/15/2009 5:26:00 AM
[I know what you mean girl it happened to me to. here i thought i was going to be married for life with her the love of my life, when i got married i gave her my heart and soul and had faith in her that she would not break my heart. but she did i came home early and found her in our own bed with someone else. my heart shattered into a million pieces right there. all i did was ask her WHY U DOING THIS TO ME, she never answered my question.it took me 5 yrs of therapy to learn how to trust again. i believe i will get married again.when she comes i will reconize her. but she has to be a romantic lady, spontanous,and caring. in all the 29yrs hav been divorced i have had my share of young and older women most just wanted to do the act. which was ok with me.[cause i love making love to a woman] anyway i look at women with much more respect for them cause they are the ones who taught us men how to love and be loved with out them we men would be nothing. and by me learning this i find making love more passionate more intense. just by treating a lady like a lady
 animefan1980
Joined: 8/25/2005
Msg: 193
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 10/13/2009 1:00:30 AM
Get more confident, don't think negative. I spend all day doing nothing and don't have good social skills like I used to. Praying works but you have to be patient and go out there to make it happen. Being single is relaxing but makes you less confident and lazy in the dating scene. You have a lot of time to yourself but want to share what you have with someone. To be more confident and make others want you, do this. Don't set high standards, look at variety and don't just prefer one thing in someone. Write some greeting messages to more people and check for responses later. Take initiative and don't just dream. Don't wait for them to come to you. If anyone shows interests or hints at it, thank them and write them more. Don't get a habit of writing them all the time, they'll get bored of you or frustrated. Write them a few times in the month, and play hard to get and they start writing you more. That will boost your confidence. Also, it's hard but taking initiative makes you show you're really serious. Get more confidence and you'll feel in charge. It's hard but the more confident you get the less hurt you'll feel. Don't think you're ready to settle down right away, even if you feel ready it will take a while. Get more confident and it will make others look up to you more. Taking initiative will start boosting your confidence. Playing hard to get will help more. It's all about becoming more confident and strong and take control of any lonely feelings. It's hard but start with initiative and go from there.
 LMFAO925
Joined: 8/26/2009
Msg: 194
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 10/13/2009 2:14:22 AM
I am happy with my life, with myself, with the people I have. But i still need love from a girl.

I know i am young but i want a relationship, not some fling or a girl that i can just have fun with
 ~Pedro Sanchez~
Joined: 10/5/2009
Msg: 195
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 10/13/2009 3:08:40 AM
Awww a pity party!

Look at all these bananas on this thread.....why don't we all hold hands and teach the world to sing in perfect harmony? And furnish it with love? Grow apple trees and honey bees and snow white turtle doves?
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