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 zinc_09
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 287
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!Page 13 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
Yes there is life after divorce!

When my husband and I separated I thought my life was over. I was living in a city where I knew no one, I had no job, I had no home and was a 12 hour flight away from all my friends and family. I stock piled painkillers and vodka and considered killing myself most days.

2 years on and I've never been happier. I started dating again for the first time a few months ago, and it's weird, but I now know that even if I never end up in a serious relationship again, I have a good relationship with myself (jeez that sounds corny - but it's true).

Time heals. It really does.
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 288
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Posted: 8/10/2009 4:19:11 PM

Yeah my heart is broken but I figure I'll be better off in the long run with someone else who is honest and faithfull.


Wow, what a powerful thread with some really powerful and heart wrenching
comments.

We always think we are the only ones. We think - My God, what have I ever
done to deserve to have this happen to me. We turn the tables on ourselves
when actually we should be looking positively and not negatively at ourselves.

We think something is wrong with us - The truth being that something is wrong
with THEM to leave something so good for them, in us.

I dont know why it ends - We try to see the positive in why it is the way it is
but sometimes it "just is".

Regardless of IF there is someone around the corner and Im sure there probably
is for most of us - We need to live for "us".

We need to drop the negatives of the situation and SEE the NEGATIVES in
who we have partnered with - Only then will we truly learn why we allowed
such negatives in OUR beautiful little world.
 denad
Joined: 7/26/2009
Msg: 289
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Posted: 8/10/2009 4:49:29 PM
i feel the same when i go to bed but if we dont rush it something good and right might come along
 Spaz1973
Joined: 8/2/2009
Msg: 290
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Posted: 8/11/2009 8:00:52 PM
Hey gorgeous, keep ur head up! I'm a true believer in" thers someone out there for every one. I'm REALLY sorry to hear ur lonely. some wounds take longer to heal , more so when u really loved the person that hurt u! now I understand why u women r the way u r!!!! but it sucks for the rest of us guys that want what these guys so recklessly threw away!!! even though I'm a guy I know what ur going through!!!!!!!!!!!

And keep in mind, u don't find TRUE love! It finds u! ?, Do u like
teddybears?

If so, I offer myself as ur teddybear to cuddle up with at night!
 caballero1
Joined: 6/13/2009
Msg: 291
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 8/15/2009 5:26:00 AM
[I know what you mean girl it happened to me to. here i thought i was going to be married for life with her the love of my life, when i got married i gave her my heart and soul and had faith in her that she would not break my heart. but she did i came home early and found her in our own bed with someone else. my heart shattered into a million pieces right there. all i did was ask her WHY U DOING THIS TO ME, she never answered my question.it took me 5 yrs of therapy to learn how to trust again. i believe i will get married again.when she comes i will reconize her. but she has to be a romantic lady, spontanous,and caring. in all the 29yrs hav been divorced i have had my share of young and older women most just wanted to do the act. which was ok with me.[cause i love making love to a woman] anyway i look at women with much more respect for them cause they are the ones who taught us men how to love and be loved with out them we men would be nothing. and by me learning this i find making love more passionate more intense. just by treating a lady like a lady
 jadeblu
Joined: 1/26/2007
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Posted: 8/15/2009 8:59:19 PM
Hello, ms e. I have never posted on this forum before but I read your post and felt like I could be reading my own. I live in San Diego or I'd invite you for chick flick night....most of my girlfriends are married (unhappily) and although I am comfortable in my own skin and do lots of things alone, like you, I am so ready to share my life and heart with someone. It's more than having a body in the bed next to you...that can be easy...it is about forming that special connection, like the kind you write about. We all yearn for that, all deserve that.

People ask me all the time why I am still single. I am educated, professional, stable, nice-looking, and have a lot of love to share. But, like you, that which I seek, has eluded me. Too fussy? Too demanding? Who knows. I don't have answers or I'd provide them. I have thought of moving, trying a new location, going out with someone who I wouldn't normally respond to on the site, trying something new. But the fact remains that wherever we go, there we are. Maybe I wasn't destined to have a partner in this life and if that is the sad truth, then I have to work at accepting my life the way it is.

So, dear sister, my heart and thoughts are with you. Keep searching for the answers, they will come. And if they don't, perhaps the new questions you find will give you peace.

Jadeblu
 animefan1980
Joined: 8/25/2005
Msg: 293
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 10/13/2009 1:00:30 AM
Get more confident, don't think negative. I spend all day doing nothing and don't have good social skills like I used to. Praying works but you have to be patient and go out there to make it happen. Being single is relaxing but makes you less confident and lazy in the dating scene. You have a lot of time to yourself but want to share what you have with someone. To be more confident and make others want you, do this. Don't set high standards, look at variety and don't just prefer one thing in someone. Write some greeting messages to more people and check for responses later. Take initiative and don't just dream. Don't wait for them to come to you. If anyone shows interests or hints at it, thank them and write them more. Don't get a habit of writing them all the time, they'll get bored of you or frustrated. Write them a few times in the month, and play hard to get and they start writing you more. That will boost your confidence. Also, it's hard but taking initiative makes you show you're really serious. Get more confidence and you'll feel in charge. It's hard but the more confident you get the less hurt you'll feel. Don't think you're ready to settle down right away, even if you feel ready it will take a while. Get more confident and it will make others look up to you more. Taking initiative will start boosting your confidence. Playing hard to get will help more. It's all about becoming more confident and strong and take control of any lonely feelings. It's hard but start with initiative and go from there.
 LMFAO925
Joined: 8/26/2009
Msg: 294
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Posted: 10/13/2009 2:14:22 AM
I am happy with my life, with myself, with the people I have. But i still need love from a girl.

I know i am young but i want a relationship, not some fling or a girl that i can just have fun with
 ~Pedro Sanchez~
Joined: 10/5/2009
Msg: 295
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!
Posted: 10/13/2009 3:08:40 AM
Awww a pity party!

Look at all these bananas on this thread.....why don't we all hold hands and teach the world to sing in perfect harmony? And furnish it with love? Grow apple trees and honey bees and snow white turtle doves?
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