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 PapiricaninDallas
Joined: 3/21/2006
Msg: 175
this is for all of us who hurt inside, please read and respond!Page 6 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
THIS IS IN PART SOMEONE ELSES AND IN PART MINE,BE PATIENT AND YOULL FIND THE WAYBTO HAPPINESS,at least thats what i tell myself everymorning, i divorced once however it wasnt my divorce what hurt me it was breaking up in my last relationship..... maybe you might like this
My Heart My valley
My Heart - it was a beautiful valley, where a stream of crystal clear spring water rapidly flowed through it. Flavorsome flowers - Tulips, Daisies, and Daffodils - wildly grew throughout my valley. Making it all most complete. The valley- that is my heart needed something - someone to share it with. So I searched and I found and then loved. And those who I loved where allowed in my valley, And those who I loved walked on through my valley, And each love that entered my valley trampled over - Dozens of daisies Hundreds of daffodils And thousands and thousands of tulips And ever so slowly they became extinct form my valley which is my heart. Each love that knew of my valley walked through it not knowing that with each step they took upon my heart- they slowed my sparkling stream. On one cold and starless night my once beautiful valley became a desert. And then I met you, who I felt a great attraction to. I don't know why but I did- and I don't think I ever will know why- but I let you in my desert. It was unbearable for me, so it must have been for you too. But yet I don't know why I let you in my desert. When you entered you helped me you helped my find something that survived in my brutal desert. You helped me find my soul. My soul is like a butterfly that lives within my heart. My soul spread its wings of the rainbow and it helped me see the colors of love. I want to be attractive, to love, And to be loved! Every night since the night I met you - it has rained in my discussing valley. And last night where my stream used to be I found a crick. And tonight I found that breathtaking butterfly in a patch of tulips in my desert. Because I Love You- My valley re-grew, THE GAME I rip my heart apart playing, that game that young kids in love play! There is a trail is a trail of peddles in my valley. Am I pulling up my flowers? Why do I play this game? Playing this game will only destroy my valley!! On the school ground girls play - "He Loves Me ... He Loves Me Not" Am I the one who kills my valley? Am I the one who destroys it over and over again? I am playing The Game. Sometimes I feel that she LOVES me - And some times I feel she HATES me. Am I killing the daffodils?. Am I ripping apart the daisies? ... Why do I pull up the tulips? Am I killing my soul playing The Game "She Loves Me, She Loves Me NOT”, knowing this I keep playing this game inside my head, in my valley, and even though I know that you are gone, and that that my valley hasn’t flourished completely yet, Every day I play this game, so much that my valley is turning back into that desert, and now not even the butterfly in the patch of tulips will survive. As I write this I realized and accept that is not your fault my valley is being destroyed or that it was not the ones I let in my valley who destroyed it, it was not them
IT WAS I.
 joe.degroot
Joined: 4/22/2006
Msg: 176
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Posted: 4/22/2006 11:57:25 PM
well I would like to say that after reading your profile I was really impressed. I honestly have never done this whole online thing for fear of meeting fake people but what the hell you seem to be real. Well, I am sorry to hear that your heart ways so heavy, but I do know exactly how you feel. I have been pretty much destroyed by my ex-fiance and it sucks. I wouldn't wish my feelings on my worst enemy but I do know that in the end if I keep my head up that things will get better hell they can't get much worse. Besides that, life may suck but the alternative is unaccepable. I do beleive that there is someone out there for anyone and I really pray I am not wrong for if I am whats the point. Well, on a lighter note I hope that I haven't made a tough situation tougher since I have been told that I can do that on occassion. Well like I said before please keep your head up its too beautiful to be hidden. Feel free to respond if I have said anything you like or for that matter dislike, hope to hear from you soon.
 TylerHunt82
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 177
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Posted: 5/21/2006 12:14:37 AM
I know how you feal I miss her so bad but as I look back I think did she ever love me well she did say she did but I think she never did but none the less I have never cryed like this and I know this will never go away hear are some poems I did right for her.

Thank You
Thank you my dear for showing me true love even if It's gone the way of the setting sun.
Thank you my love for my first kiss you will be missed just like my riseing fist and the morning mist of yore.
Thank you my baby for the endles love that made me,
and the inlightinment you gave me for God has a plan for us both.
Thank you my girl for being my world and geving me a look at being a dad even if that's all I had it wasint that bad to have had and thank you for being my first, last and only.

Do You
Do you remember you told me forever no matter the weather you and me together, you said that you loved me that mouch I know is true so what can I do, say goodbye and nothing more.
Do you dream of me nightly like I do you where all seams so sad, if not I am glad for I dream nightmare's so sad that darknes would cry, for you would not say goodby.
Do you hear my name late late at night when I ask the lord to send you my blessing for I know that you are stressing, do you know that I'll love you for forever and a day till I'm in heaven where the angles do play.

Empty
Empty is my hart for we did part and I'v lost my will to strengthen this hart, if you had to go this I need to know why not try to say goodby.
Empty are my night's so gloom and full of fright for when you left be so did a part of me, o I can not let this be for you'r face I can not see and if I ever do it is a dream not truely you.
Empty and alone I whant to leave this place and be gone without a trace for everthing I see make's me remember where I can not be and with you I fealt so free, o why must I feal so empty.

I Miss You
I miss the way you kiss in all it's peacefull bliss the way hold my hand make's me feal so grand so I miss it every day in every single way so I must say I miss you
today.
I miss your angel eye's so much it make's me want to cry I miss you'r loveing glow yes I love it so and that one I can show and so I say I miss you.
I miss the way you look yes my breth it took as well as my hart, I miss the very way you would look at me to say {I love you Tyler, never leave me} so come on home and kiss me.

 SummerzReign
Joined: 5/17/2006
Msg: 181
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Posted: 5/21/2006 4:01:27 PM
Most of us have been there, some of us very recently. Well meaning friends naturally and instinctively offer sympathy when they hear that my relationship of almost six years has ended. I don't feel that I've suffered a loss. On the contrary, I feel that the time we had together was well spent. We grew together, blossomed and found love and joy along the way. When the dynamics changed and we realised we were growing apart, we agreed it was time to move on. The memories are priceless and yes, now sometimes bittersweet.
I have not suffered a loss. We had six years. We're both better people for having loved each other. Long ago I realised that it's idealistic, though certainly not impossible to expect a relationship of the heart to last an entire lifetime in todays' fast paced world.
To me, the relationship did work out. I welcome the sunshine of tomorrow with eager anticipation as I treasure my memories.

Margaret Mitchell expressed it well.

Summerz


"I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken -- and I'd rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived".
~ Margaret Mitchell
 Buzz S
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 182
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Posted: 5/21/2006 4:50:00 PM
Sounds good right? Suppose to make you strong, and secure right? well how come my heart still hurts and I find myself cuddled in a blanket at night alone and praying that someone will come into my life? Or am I weak

Ms.Elegance
Its a hard thing to deal with no matter how long you've been married. The kind of commitment many of us bring into a relationship you literally give part of yourself to the other person and the feeling that you are Lost or empty probably reflects that commitment.
These days the general attitude about marriage seems very non committal. Half of marriages last but a short time for a assortment of reasons.
Modern folk today just seem to dust themselves off and head for the next nightclub.
Some of us just are not wired that way jumping in the sack with anyone that is handy just doesn't quite fill the void.
I suspect If you don't look too hard, when the time is right, he'll probably fall out of a tree and break your leg!
Until then, try to enjoy your life, smell the roses, you deserve it.
From sunny Florida
Buzz
 mcbforyou
Joined: 5/18/2006
Msg: 183
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Posted: 5/21/2006 6:00:08 PM
sometimes i feel the same way i feel alone i work come home do the dishes while she plays on the com all night all day i thought i found the one but i mistakken now i feel alone thing should get better mabye they will mabye they wont i am not sure we will have to wait and see things have a funny way of getting better
 mcbforyou
Joined: 5/18/2006
Msg: 184
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Posted: 5/21/2006 6:00:14 PM
sometimes i feel the same way i feel alone i work come home do the dishes while she plays on the com all night all day i thought i found the one but i mistakken now i feel alone thing should get better mabye they will mabye they wont i am not sure we will have to wait and see things have a funny way of getting better
 genngi
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 185
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Posted: 5/22/2006 4:09:21 AM
You are not weak. You are human. It is better to be single than to be stuck in a rut with someone. It is a great thing to remember seriously when very lonely. But loneliness is natural. Human beings are social creatures, and of course you want someone to be with. Keep praying!
 lillg
Joined: 5/19/2006
Msg: 186
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Posted: 5/22/2006 4:23:25 AM
i also know what is like waking up with no one next to me you kind of get used to it, iv always been told chin up and move on and the right one will! come out of nowere.
im trying to find that one but no lasses stick around get to know me im realy not a bad person when you get to know me.
 hazel,eyes
Joined: 5/12/2006
Msg: 187
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Posted: 5/22/2006 5:13:11 AM
i have been single now for a very long time to it seems like after your divorce it is so hard to find anyone i always think that god is punishing me for the brake up, the nights i hate them, the weekends are lonly and nice walks at night when its still hot out miss those,sometimes i wish i had a dog just so i would have someone to walk with .. but i just keep thinking it will be my turn soon,,so i am trying to keep my chin up and just enjoy what i have now
 KILLERDOGSMOOCH
Joined: 5/21/2006
Msg: 188
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Posted: 5/22/2006 10:03:53 AM
I am stubborn and keep imagining success at meeting that person. That is really the fight, keeping your head on. I pray to God.

It is my 22 yrs of business owner background. I design a product and make it successful all on my own faith.

Say to yourself that person is out there right now and he or she is laying their head on their pillow right now somewhere in my city. I am worth it. I say, "What am I doing to find her AND TO INSURE MY SUCCESS.", (just like an impersonal business plan)?
 puffthemagicdragon
Joined: 4/15/2006
Msg: 189
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Posted: 5/22/2006 10:28:48 AM
Try being just one year into the divorce after being married only 3 and1/2 years. At age 58 I am having a hard time myself, I thought the man I married would be the one for the rest of my life. There is no garentees on relationships. This Man wants his Divorce but he still wants to be in my life making it more diffacult than it needs to be. He wants to Date me but only on Saturday nights and for just a couple of hours and we are suppose to build a relationship on two hours a week? Any way this Man can kiss my big toe, And I don't care if I am alone for the rest of my life.. He is a user!!
 sweetseptember_1965
Joined: 4/20/2006
Msg: 191
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Posted: 5/22/2006 11:25:57 AM
i have been married for 14 yrs. but i have been with my husband for 25+ yrs. we just seperated about a yr. ago and i haven't dated for 25+ yrs. and i know how u fell i still love my husband and don't know how to go about starting to date agian. i find myself sleeping and cuddling in a blanket also. i can't sleep at night and i cry almost everynight i just don't know how to start over. so yes i know how u feel your not weak just lonely like me.
i hope things get better for u and me
 hazel,eyes
Joined: 5/12/2006
Msg: 194
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Posted: 5/23/2006 4:37:15 AM
GOD wasnt depressed till i read this thread so many people on this planet, and yet so many people r still alone ,doesnt make sence
 orphan
Joined: 5/22/2006
Msg: 196
Two sides of love
Posted: 5/23/2006 5:30:45 AM
When love happens it is so great, then if it ends it hurts soo bad!!!
 mrchucko
Joined: 11/8/2005
Msg: 197
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Posted: 5/23/2006 5:52:32 AM
have faith....by praying u get what u want, but sometimes not right away. It will come.
 puffthemagicdragon
Joined: 4/15/2006
Msg: 198
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Posted: 5/23/2006 6:54:41 AM
Dear senual one, Thanks for the reply, Before this Marriage I was widowed for 21 years, Lost my husband to a motorcycle accident. I didn't marry again untill 2001 and and thought He was the one and only, But it turned out I caught him around the corner with his arms Wraped around my sons girlfriend. There was no arguing about it he just said he was leaving.and the next day with out even discussing what had happened he came home from (work Late) and announced that he had filed for a Divorce. I like to think of it as I could forgive him but that he can't forgive himself. Of corse it hurts still after 1 year of seperation But he makes it harder by calling and just showing up in my drive way. He then wants to talk, Well he wants to have his Divorce but he also wants to have me. He also says we may decide to get married again in the future, I really don't understand just what it is that this guy really wants, But I am not into being used, He says he loves me, But it sure dosen't feel like love to me. I guess I am still bitter, I had filed potition for sposal support, but the soft hearted person that I am I went in and dropped it. So now I may have to move away from my home where I have lived since I was 10 years old, to go some place where I can make enough to support my self. Before I married him I was making enough to pay my bills and have a small amount left over. But he wanted me to give up all that and be at home, which I did, And after 6 months I wanted to go back to work He let me do that then he got fired from his job as a truck driver and I took on another job just to pay for the vehicles and all the things he took when he left. Now I am stuck in a job making $7.00 an hour . He doesen't want to help me with anything.I know it really hurts about your Father and the way it came about, But hang in there And be your sweet self, some day when you are least expecting it some one will come along and make you happy again, I have faith!
 lj2277
Joined: 5/11/2006
Msg: 200
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Posted: 5/23/2006 10:26:24 AM
the problem is all the good women I find, live so far away!! ms, if you were near me, I'd keep you occupied! you would not be lonely!
 MsViv676
Joined: 3/20/2006
Msg: 201
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Posted: 5/23/2006 10:52:35 AM
Ms. I feel your pain. I am going through the same thing. I just want someone to love me, to hold me and to be there for me when I am sad. Doesn't seem to make sense that we are alone, does it?
But hopefully we will find our mates and be the happy ones....sooon..
Good luck to you and don't give up...I am not gonna
 wonderrerr
Joined: 12/29/2005
Msg: 203
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Posted: 5/23/2006 5:28:39 PM
Wow..
Im almost sorry to have to say that you do look lonely.
Im only writing because I relate too well. At least you can do something about it. because you so young.
I have been married twice before. I doubt its every really just one persona fault that it doesnt work. But when thers only 2 in a marriage how many is it supposed to take to keep it working. I mean sometimes it seems like one of the 2 needs to consult with someone since they arent willling to with their mate during rough times. Anyway I dont have any answers.
But your far too pretty a gal to be so sad. I would love to be able to at least take you out but Im a bit too old I suspect.
Good Luck
sincerely
wonderrerr
 wilda
Joined: 5/6/2006
Msg: 205
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Posted: 5/23/2006 6:19:46 PM
Well ...I saw this and right at this moment I feel very Isolated as well....Just broke up after 7 years moved away to penticton and now .....NO friends....No gal..... Stress.....I often catch myself Thinking what is she doing now.... should I call?....But reality sets in and I overcome that 1 anxiety temptation / feeling...and find myself pre-occupying myself... it helps.....Then Im alone again...Damn ...brain kicks in high gear ....thinking things about her where she is is she thinking about me at all? ....and what not.... I at one point did think what difference would it make if Im here or not... not really contimplating the act but questioning my existance...But then realized that there Will be another there always is its just really hard and that THUMPING ache in my chest when I think of her hurts.....But I know time will heal.....PRE OCCUPIED TIME is the Key I think...But now Im starting to think that I need to some how vent or something....because pre occupation works until not preoccupied then I am caught thinking about her again and again.... SO.. to make the statement to kill ones self over a broken heart is probably more common at a teen lvl? As an adult hopefully life has taught some values as all is not so bleak through past experience.... I KNOW... take my own advice I am trying, it is hard but life is a constant battle .....and think IF you hit rock bottom there is only one way left to go.... UP!

Srry for the rambling...

(reposted)
 ~HAPPY~
Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 206
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Posted: 5/24/2006 7:30:27 AM
hey there
i know exactly how you feel.i ended up getting a teddy bear to fill my empty embrace,lol.
we can get answers and the exs can say its not you,your great,miss you but..but it will not heal the wounds nor make us see the light.i used to wonder is he out there,then i met him and well now i am in the same situation you are in.it sucks and i just hope that the man or a man will see me for the great woman,lover,best friend i am!!i am no more no less.i have lots to offer myself as well as a loved one/best friend and i just smile and keep walking in life.for the guy walking by may be intrigued by your smile and poise.
this doesnt really answer your question with pain there is no answer that we and our hearts want to see.we need to heal then we shall see that the light.
 tammygirl1056
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 207
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Posted: 5/24/2006 7:59:57 AM
HEY I AM SO SORRY I AM 28 AN MY HUSBAND OF 9 YEARS CHEATED ON ME WITH MY MOM WE HAVE 2 BOYS 12 AN 9 AN HE DOESNT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THEM I KNOW IT HURTS ALOT AN YOU FEEL SO LONELY INSIDE AN YOU ARE THINKING WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE DIFFERNT TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT AN YOU MIGHT FEEL LIKE YOU ARE NOTHING BUT GUESS WHAT WE ALL SOMEBODY SPEACIL IT HAS BEEN 5 YEARS SINCE WE HAVE BEEN D AN IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO GET OVER IT BUT OF COURSE WE ARE GOING TO THINK ABOUT WHAT WE HAD AN THE WAY IT COULD HAVE BEEN BUT I THINK THAT WHAT HURTS US CAN ALSO MAKE US STRONGER AN I KNOW YOU WILL FIND A REALLY GREAT GUY THAT WILL LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU SHOULD BE LOVED I PICKED MY SELF UP AN WENT BACK TO SCHOOL AN NOW I AM A R.N. AN I AM RAISEING TO BOYS ON MY OWN AN I GETTING MARRIED IN JULY SO THEY PROVES THAT WE WOMAN CAN BE JUST AS HAPPY WITH SOMEONE ELES AS WE COULD WITH OUR EX NOW I AM SO VERY HAPPY NEVER THOUGHT I COULD BE AFTER WHAT HAPPEN TO ME BUT I AM AN YES I THINK ABOUT HIM WHEN I SEE HIM BUT I JUST TURN A WALK AWAY CAUSE I KNOW I AM A BETTER PRESON AN THERE IS NOTHING HE CAN EVER DO TO HURT ME AGAIN GUESS WHAT NOW HE WANTS ME BACK BUT I AM NOT LOOKING BACK THAT IS THE PAST I HAVE MOVED ON I KNOW YOU CRY YOUR SELF TO SLEEP AT NIGHT JUST LIKE I DID BUT TRUST ME THERE IS LIFE AFTER EX I KNOW WITH ALL MY HEART THAT YOU WILL BE JUST FINE JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH AN YOU WILL SEE THAT YOU WILL FIND A GREAT GUY WHO WILL TRUELY LOVE YOU I DID AN YOU WILL TO
 Dahliakitten
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 209
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Posted: 5/24/2006 7:57:51 PM
I hurt inside for a mate. But, I won't rush into anything. And I won't stay in an abusive relationship like I'm done in the past.

to mess 206: wow, why did you move? And so far away? A move to another house, another city, another job are individual stressors. And then dealing with the loss of a bad negative relationship is also a stressor. I advise you to get into a support group of some kind. So you don't depending on street drugs or booze, or abusing meds. Not that you are. But, as a human being we turn to whats covenient. Going to a gym is a good idea too. Also, attend a singles church seminar to meet other singles. Even if you don't believe in God.

For me, church and prayer helps me out. For me, it was dealing with an abusive husband, then wild teenage kids. That was a long time ago. My husband passed away 9 years ago. My kids are married and responsible adults now. And I still attend christian and catholic church off and on, all through the years. Now, I am waiting to get bariactric and wrist surgery. So, then, I can go to night law school. Life is what you make of it. With or without a supportive mate by our side. And going to bars and clubs is stupid for me. I don't and can't compete with the little girls who are 18 or 21. My own daughter turned 30 in Feb. My son is 27.
Both of my children were very hurt by previous mates. But, I encouraged them to find a God believeing man and woman. And both did. And both are in healthy relationships. I'm just too picky for being an old broad, older lady, I mean.
 dingedarmor
Joined: 5/8/2005
Msg: 210
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Posted: 5/24/2006 8:31:09 PM
[it's better to be single and happy than stuck in a rut with a dud. Being single is a great opportunity to grow as a person--to appreciate yourself and your idiosyncrasies. The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled and Independent. ]


Oh, Ms. E! I've found a lot of comfort and wisdom in books and some partial truths, foolishness and misperceptions as well. If you will bear with me for a minute, let's examine the author's aphorism. Being happy is a fleeting state of being--single or joined with another doesn't mean any of us will be happy. At best, we can hope to content or satisfied with our lives. There will always be emotional ups and downs. If there is any happiness in life it is to be content with who we are. Which is what I think the author of that particular statement means. Or as one wise person once observed: before you can truly love another you must first love yourself.

As for duds and ruts--that to is really about perception: is prince charming really prince charming? Isn't he the one who won Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and Snow White's heart? Say, wait a minute--that sounds more like a player than the ideal fellow! Perception is everything. One person's prince charming is another's dud. And one person's rut is another person's contented life.

Try to focus on the good things in your life and truly enjoy what and who you are.


One very wise old woman once told about how sad she had been as a little girl when her dog died. She stood weeping in the living room of her parent home when her grandfather can into the room and asked her why she was crying. She pointed out the west window and snuffed 'Daddy is burying Prince'. Her grandfather put his arm around her and took her across the room. He said to her,"Ruth, look out the window. What do you see?"
She responded, "I see Saul planting a rose." Her grandfather smiled and replied: "That's right Ruth. Your brother Saul is planting a rose....for you. Life, sweetheart, is what window you look out."
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