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 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Not my cup of tea...

Having three sons with
many friends, that have
made the moves. (My boys
didn't take that so well lol)
I've come to see younger men
more like kids not potential mates.

I also see how the future
usually works. Men in time
seek the younger women.

I'm fine with pll around my
own age.
 zbar12
Joined: 1/13/2018
Msg: 42
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Posted: 3/30/2018 8:26:32 PM
Of course the buzz and trill of a older lady is powerful
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
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Posted: 3/31/2018 2:47:00 AM

Of course the buzz and trill of a older lady is powerful


Older than me?

Geez, I am 65 and I was hanging out for a while with my mother's golden circle friends.

It did make me feel young to walk without a cane and I was the first one off the bus. It's better than being with those 40 years younger and trying to keep up.
 hey_suze
Joined: 8/28/2017
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Posted: 3/31/2018 5:43:28 AM
I’m with Cinderella on this.
Around my own age is just fine, and I agree that in time, and probably a short amount of time, they would prefer someone younger too.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 3/31/2018 2:05:51 PM

Around my own age is just fine, and I agree that in time, and probably a short amount of time, they would prefer someone younger too.

You both are very attractive for your later-40s age, so younger men are going to be attracted. And 7-10 years isn't That much younger, especially when the notion of casual dating is the focus. I think guys "end up" preferring younger women "more" than they did when they were 30, is because the # of older women (over 55) + very attractive becomes a very small minority.

It doesn't mean a 58 year old woman can't be Very attractive to a 50 year old guy, of course. Certainly can happen. It's just that there's not Enough older women at that age to give the whole "older woman" thing a positive effect by itself.

And guys Do like younger women, when he's at any age from 25+. It's just that he Also likes older women up to a certain point, and sometimes more when in a certain mood/mode.
 sundress1
Joined: 10/29/2017
Msg: 46
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Posted: 3/31/2018 4:14:56 PM
I would seriously date younger men to a point. Up to about 10 years younger or so. It would be difficult if a man was technically young enough to be my son such as 18 years younger though. I doubt there would be enough compatibility between us. If I was looking for casual sex, then the age difference is less likely to be a problem.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 3/31/2018 8:56:47 PM
Maybe the OP can give us an update 12.5 years later...
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 48
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Posted: 4/1/2018 4:33:06 PM

I would seriously date younger men to a point. Up to about 10 years younger or so. It would be difficult if a man was technically young enough to be my son such as 18 years younger though. I doubt there would be enough compatibility between us. If I was looking for casual sex, then the age difference is less likely to be a problem.


For a serious relationship, my general age range within 10 years in either direction although I did once date a woman that was 12 years older than me. I would have casual and/or FWB relationship with a much older woman. We can have common interests and the relationship can be more than just sex. We could go out and do things together. However one of the biggest problems with a large age difference relationship is 2 people often having different long term goals.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 4/1/2018 5:23:24 PM

Up to about 10 years younger or so. It would be difficult if a man was technically young enough to be my son such as 18 years younger though. I doubt there would be enough compatibility between us. If I was looking for casual sex, then the age difference is less likely to be a problem.

I understand the "has to be older than my oldest offspring" rule for any (real) Relationship, if there's any connection with one's offspring. But I don't think it's a universal compatibility thing if the younger one's explicitly not looking to have kids while the other one's past that point anyway and isn't tending to them (or both have them not wanting more).

IMO, it's due to it being a social no-no for a large age gap, thus the uncomfortability... where incompatibility would just be a concern in reference to physically-compatible-thru-All-of-life, if the thoughts of marriage-forever were on one's mind for the Future.
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Posted: 4/7/2018 8:30:07 PM
Twenty good years and a hefty life insurance policy. He'll be fine.

Seriously, maturity is, after a man or woman has gotten out into the work world, sort of a fixed thing, to a large degree. I've known women and men who haven't grown emotionally for 15 years and who are still very immature. Haven't changed a bit. Same issues. Same personalities.

On the other hand, I know younger men and women who are unnaturally mature for their age. So, for me, age is pretty much a number.

Only caveat is that such an age gap might pose some problems in regards to compatibility, such as what kind of things you enjoy doing (type of music, etc.) and how you want to spend your time together (she wants to go out, you want to stay in) and energy levels, things like that.

Should carefully explore these issues. That's the kind of stuff you will be asked about if you were to do premarital counseling. No magic. Common sense stuff. But important if you think about it.
 sun_water
Joined: 5/26/2018
Msg: 51
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Posted: 5/29/2018 8:31:32 PM

I would seriously date younger men to a point. Up to about 10 years younger or so. It would be difficult if a man was technically young enough to be my son such as 18 years younger though. I doubt there would be enough compatibility between us. If I was looking for casual sex, then the age difference is less likely to be a problem.


Agreed. A 50 year old woman dating a 40 year old man isn't a big deal. But the same 50 year old woman may often be in a different life stage than 30 year old men. Even if these men are mature. That can often cause incompatibility. Sure there can be exceptions. But most of time I think a 20 year age gap would too be much. Unless as you said, it was largely about casual sex.
 flowersinthelake
Joined: 5/11/2018
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Posted: 6/8/2018 7:16:25 AM
Younger men are hotter, fresher, and more virile -- the least amount of emotional and physical baggage carried. The best.

OTOH, there are qualities the older man have, and although their looks dramatic wane after 40, they tend to be more stable (without the child support obligations and a sad trail of ex-whatevers, of course) and responsible. If they have more time and more disposable income for real dates and I don't have to hear how broke they are and expect me to spot them a 20 for sympathy, I'm good with them.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 53
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Posted: 6/9/2018 2:34:32 PM
^^^ Not all men or women’s looks decline after the age of 40. Some people age like fine wine. I just reached 40, and I’m in better physical condition than I was at 20. My job has me doing 40 hours of intense physical labor a week. You’re also assuming that all younger men are broke, and don’t even have $20 to spare. Give me a break.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/11/2018 10:11:00 AM

You’re also assuming that all younger men are broke, and don’t even have $20 to spare. Give me a break.

True, but if they're under 21 and in college, they most likely have money restrictions that are noticeable beyond coffee dates. But that's Really young for someone at or near 40. I think folks in the over 35 + single range are less likely going to be partying like rock stars and more likely more attracted to ones with relationship-potential. But from my observational experience, it's quite easy to find someone over 35 who isn't, and one under 30 who is. Many more factors play a role: Kids/kid-situation, having or not having peers who Do go out & single, how far off a breakup they are, etc.

When one goes out bar-hopping to various ones on weekend nights, you'll find a variety of age-groups & types kicking back and having fun. But you will find a higher % of 'older' people around Happy Hour time VS at night.
 Dinno76
Joined: 3/3/2018
Msg: 55
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Posted: 6/11/2018 2:35:10 PM
As long as the guy is 18 and over it is legal. I know a lot of women over 30 with with 18 year old boyfriends.
 Dinno76
Joined: 3/3/2018
Msg: 56
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Posted: 6/11/2018 2:39:13 PM
Most of them will not date any man over 22 and they are in 30s 40s and 50s.
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 4/18/2013
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Posted: 6/12/2018 12:46:28 AM
With 24/7 access to free porn and the most successful genre
of the "older woman" has only served to make them the hottest
commodity.Take advantage of it and never look back!
 ssm508
Joined: 5/27/2018
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Posted: 6/13/2018 9:40:53 PM

As long as the guy is 18 and over it is legal. I know a lot of women over 30 with with 18 year old boyfriends.


Most of them will not date any man over 22 and they are in 30s 40s and 50s.

That wasn't true in my experience. I had FWB/casual relationships with older women. Although they did prefer younger men, they often had boundaries. Such as not being interested in men that are around their child's age or men that were under an arbitrary age such as 25 or 30.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/14/2018 4:20:08 PM

As long as the guy is 18 and over it is legal. I know a lot of women over 30 with with 18 year old boyfriends.

That is false. I really don't think you know a lot of women over 30 with 18 year old Boyfriends, let alone ones who will occasionally hook up with one. Women over 30 aren't interested in being in places where you actually meet 18 year olds (most bars being 21+ up; few that are 18+ don't draw 30+ women to meet teenager guys).

It's more like over-30 women having guys in their mid-20s as the "See? A gal can date a younger guy." Not guys just over their mid-teens.
 SiennaBear2
Joined: 12/2/2017
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Posted: 6/15/2018 4:03:48 PM
Ugh 18 year old men are so cringy. Been there, done that. No thanks. It's like any possible immaturity in men x10 lol
 CBGB77
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Posted: 6/15/2018 9:41:33 PM
My sister is 70 and her boyfriend is 30.
 sun_water
Joined: 5/26/2018
Msg: 62
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Posted: 6/16/2018 9:32:56 AM

As long as the guy is 18 and over it is legal. I know a lot of women over 30 with with 18 year old boyfriends....Most of them will not date any man over 22 and they are in 30s 40s and 50s.


Probably very few women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s would want anything to do with a 18 year old man that could still be in high school. Or younger than her kids in some cases. Especially for women over 40.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/16/2018 10:35:54 AM

My sister is 70 and her boyfriend is 30.

Cha-ching$? :)
 CBGB77
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Posted: 6/16/2018 11:19:53 AM

Posted By: norwegianguy456 on 6/16/2018 12:35:54 PM
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My sister is 70 and her boyfriend is 30.

Cha-ching$? :)


Nope,my sister is hot.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/17/2018 11:44:02 PM


Cha-ching$? :)
Nope,my sister is hot.

Okay, so the 30 year old guy is not financially supported in any way shape or form by your sis. OK. Where I could find this not Too difficult to believe:

- The 30 year old guy may be young & healthy, but Not a looker. I find 'average looking' 18 year olds better looking than I did when I was 20, due to the 'supple youth' carrying more weight. So a gal who's 70 and great looking amongst 70 gals could find the 30 year old guy who she Wouldn't find attractive 30 years ago, nor would she be attracted to him Now if he aged Well over 30 years -- she does now, even though he's No Catch amongst his age group @30.

- He doesn't look that "good", but he doesn't look bad, but he's not healthy or has some mental or emotional disability that doesn't have to be known about, and his self-confidence due to it & past dating experiences, is Shot. The "supple youth" factor still plays into it for the 70 year old, cerebrally.

In a nutshell what I can't buy -- although anything is technically possible -- is a 70 year old, even a looker for her age, being in a Solidified Relationship with a decent looking, healthy 30 year old guy when $$ plays no role, either. A hookup, or even a FWB? A stretch, but I can buy that one.
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