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 sun_water
Joined: 5/26/2018
Msg: 51
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I would seriously date younger men to a point. Up to about 10 years younger or so. It would be difficult if a man was technically young enough to be my son such as 18 years younger though. I doubt there would be enough compatibility between us. If I was looking for casual sex, then the age difference is less likely to be a problem.


Agreed. A 50 year old woman dating a 40 year old man isn't a big deal. But the same 50 year old woman may often be in a different life stage than 30 year old men. Even if these men are mature. That can often cause incompatibility. Sure there can be exceptions. But most of time I think a 20 year age gap would too be much. Unless as you said, it was largely about casual sex.
 flowersinthelake
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Posted: 6/8/2018 7:16:25 AM
Younger men are hotter, fresher, and more virile -- the least amount of emotional and physical baggage carried. The best.

OTOH, there are qualities the older man have, and although their looks dramatic wane after 40, they tend to be more stable (without the child support obligations and a sad trail of ex-whatevers, of course) and responsible. If they have more time and more disposable income for real dates and I don't have to hear how broke they are and expect me to spot them a 20 for sympathy, I'm good with them.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 53
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Posted: 6/9/2018 2:34:32 PM
^^^ Not all men or women’s looks decline after the age of 40. Some people age like fine wine. I just reached 40, and I’m in better physical condition than I was at 20. My job has me doing 40 hours of intense physical labor a week. You’re also assuming that all younger men are broke, and don’t even have $20 to spare. Give me a break.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/11/2018 10:11:00 AM

You’re also assuming that all younger men are broke, and don’t even have $20 to spare. Give me a break.

True, but if they're under 21 and in college, they most likely have money restrictions that are noticeable beyond coffee dates. But that's Really young for someone at or near 40. I think folks in the over 35 + single range are less likely going to be partying like rock stars and more likely more attracted to ones with relationship-potential. But from my observational experience, it's quite easy to find someone over 35 who isn't, and one under 30 who is. Many more factors play a role: Kids/kid-situation, having or not having peers who Do go out & single, how far off a breakup they are, etc.

When one goes out bar-hopping to various ones on weekend nights, you'll find a variety of age-groups & types kicking back and having fun. But you will find a higher % of 'older' people around Happy Hour time VS at night.
 Dinno76
Joined: 3/3/2018
Msg: 55
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Posted: 6/11/2018 2:35:10 PM
As long as the guy is 18 and over it is legal. I know a lot of women over 30 with with 18 year old boyfriends.
 Dinno76
Joined: 3/3/2018
Msg: 56
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Posted: 6/11/2018 2:39:13 PM
Most of them will not date any man over 22 and they are in 30s 40s and 50s.
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 4/18/2013
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Posted: 6/12/2018 12:46:28 AM
With 24/7 access to free porn and the most successful genre
of the "older woman" has only served to make them the hottest
commodity.Take advantage of it and never look back!
 ssm508
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Posted: 6/13/2018 9:40:53 PM

As long as the guy is 18 and over it is legal. I know a lot of women over 30 with with 18 year old boyfriends.


Most of them will not date any man over 22 and they are in 30s 40s and 50s.

That wasn't true in my experience. I had FWB/casual relationships with older women. Although they did prefer younger men, they often had boundaries. Such as not being interested in men that are around their child's age or men that were under an arbitrary age such as 25 or 30.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/14/2018 4:20:08 PM

As long as the guy is 18 and over it is legal. I know a lot of women over 30 with with 18 year old boyfriends.

That is false. I really don't think you know a lot of women over 30 with 18 year old Boyfriends, let alone ones who will occasionally hook up with one. Women over 30 aren't interested in being in places where you actually meet 18 year olds (most bars being 21+ up; few that are 18+ don't draw 30+ women to meet teenager guys).

It's more like over-30 women having guys in their mid-20s as the "See? A gal can date a younger guy." Not guys just over their mid-teens.
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 6/15/2018 4:03:48 PM
Ugh 18 year old men are so cringy. Been there, done that. No thanks. It's like any possible immaturity in men x10 lol
 CBGB77
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Posted: 6/15/2018 9:41:33 PM
My sister is 70 and her boyfriend is 30.
 sun_water
Joined: 5/26/2018
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Posted: 6/16/2018 9:32:56 AM

As long as the guy is 18 and over it is legal. I know a lot of women over 30 with with 18 year old boyfriends....Most of them will not date any man over 22 and they are in 30s 40s and 50s.


Probably very few women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s would want anything to do with a 18 year old man that could still be in high school. Or younger than her kids in some cases. Especially for women over 40.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/16/2018 10:35:54 AM

My sister is 70 and her boyfriend is 30.

Cha-ching$? :)
 CBGB77
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Posted: 6/16/2018 11:19:53 AM

Posted By: norwegianguy456 on 6/16/2018 12:35:54 PM
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My sister is 70 and her boyfriend is 30.

Cha-ching$? :)


Nope,my sister is hot.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/17/2018 11:44:02 PM


Cha-ching$? :)
Nope,my sister is hot.

Okay, so the 30 year old guy is not financially supported in any way shape or form by your sis. OK. Where I could find this not Too difficult to believe:

- The 30 year old guy may be young & healthy, but Not a looker. I find 'average looking' 18 year olds better looking than I did when I was 20, due to the 'supple youth' carrying more weight. So a gal who's 70 and great looking amongst 70 gals could find the 30 year old guy who she Wouldn't find attractive 30 years ago, nor would she be attracted to him Now if he aged Well over 30 years -- she does now, even though he's No Catch amongst his age group @30.

- He doesn't look that "good", but he doesn't look bad, but he's not healthy or has some mental or emotional disability that doesn't have to be known about, and his self-confidence due to it & past dating experiences, is Shot. The "supple youth" factor still plays into it for the 70 year old, cerebrally.

In a nutshell what I can't buy -- although anything is technically possible -- is a 70 year old, even a looker for her age, being in a Solidified Relationship with a decent looking, healthy 30 year old guy when $$ plays no role, either. A hookup, or even a FWB? A stretch, but I can buy that one.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 6/18/2018 12:17:47 AM

Nope,my sister is hot.


Strange thing to say, but we'll have to see for ourselves.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 6/18/2018 6:49:32 AM

Posted By: cooldog65 on 6/18/2018 247 AM
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Nope,my sister is hot.


Strange thing to say, but we'll have to see for ourselves.


Lol,I'm not trying to pimp my sister.Just repeating what my mom told me last week.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 6/18/2018 8:24:44 AM

Posted By: norwegianguy456 on 6/18/2018 102 AM
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Cha-ching$? :)
Nope,my sister is hot.

Okay, so the 30 year old guy is not financially supported in any way shape or form by your sis. OK. Where I could find this not Too difficult to believe:

- The 30 year old guy may be young & healthy, but Not a looker. I find 'average looking' 18 year olds better looking than I did when I was 20, due to the 'supple youth' carrying more weight. So a gal who's 70 and great looking amongst 70 gals could find the 30 year old guy who she Wouldn't find attractive 30 years ago, nor would she be attracted to him Now if he aged Well over 30 years -- she does now, even though he's No Catch amongst his age group @30.

- He doesn't look that "good", but he doesn't look bad, but he's not healthy or has some mental or emotional disability that doesn't have to be known about, and his self-confidence due to it & past dating experiences, is Shot. The "supple youth" factor still plays into it for the 70 year old, cerebrally.

In a nutshell what I can't buy -- although anything is technically possible -- is a 70 year old, even a looker for her age, being in a Solidified Relationship with a decent looking, healthy 30 year old guy when $$ plays no role, either. A hookup, or even a FWB? A stretch, but I can buy that one.


I really have no idea how they met or what their relationship is about. She just told me she was seeing someone when we spoke last week.She said he was younger but she didn't tell me how much younger but my mom did. She also told me that my sister's new boyfriend is black,so going by her Facebook page I think I know who he is(the only black guy who is Facebook friends with both my sister and my mom,lol). He seems like a decent guy.They both work in the same industry(travel) and share some views about politics and social justice. That's really all I know about their relationship. Oh and my sister is hot,lol.

http://bestnetworx.com/uploader/files/208/13607035_10154195102476280_3399649350362985120_n.jpg
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 6/22/2018 4:06:37 AM
Ideally, I would prefer only 3 years younger or 3 years older that looks good for their age.
 Tech30
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Posted: 6/22/2018 9:50:25 AM
I dont think its always more older women with younger men. I know a girl my age who was with a 65 year old for about 7 years, and i know a 50 year old woman with a 38 year old man...

What about overweight women with thin men? I see this a lot.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/22/2018 10:48:49 AM

I really have no idea how they met or what their relationship is about.

That's why I wouldn't put much stock in it being a Solidified Relationship-Relationship, given the significant Key difference in age -- sans significant issues with he himself that's not known, when $$ is not a factor into the equation. If in Vegas, I wouldn't hesitate to throw down some nice $$ on that, if a Gods-eye POV came into play to give the true answer to it all. :)

I dont think its always more older women with younger men. I know a girl my age who was with a 65 year old for about 7 years

I agree. When there's a Wow difference in age, it's almost always Older Guy -> Younger Gal. Almost always it's $$ coming into play, but if it's not, I can see the genders flipping on that, but it wouldn't be a Serious Relationship with the guy @30, lady @65+. It'd be more of a FWB. Which there are significantly older women who don't look that bad, and it's an interesting endeavor to pork a truly old lady. But to be truly An Item? If it were to be so, and $$/fame were not an issue, you can bank that the guy @30-40 has some health and/or mental issues if he's chasing that. But you can also bank with more confidence that although it may be talked about as a true item, that they're Not, and it's just a FWB.

and i know a 50 year old woman with a 38 year old man...

That's more understandable and not shocking for a serious Relationship.
 ssm508
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Posted: 6/22/2018 12:56:33 PM

i know a 50 year old woman with a 38 year old man...


In my viewpoint, a 10-15 year age difference was the gray area / general boundary for myself possibly having a serious relationship with an older woman. If the age difference was higher than 15 years, then most likely it would be a FWB / casual relationship.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 6/22/2018 10:57:19 PM
https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/avyq5p/the-40-year-age-gap-what-its-like-to-date-across-the-generations
 Like2dance
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Posted: 6/25/2018 8:39:49 PM
The only relationship I can see for a fellow with an older woman is to be adopted by her.
 jco415
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Msg: 75
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Posted: 6/26/2018 5:29:05 PM
I see no reason to be concerned either way...as long as it works and both are happy, for whatever reasons...go for it!
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