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 LiterateHiker
Joined: 11/30/2012
Msg: 75
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I think people are crazy for a year after their divorce. I don't want to be the rebound girlfriend, dealing with crazy-making behavior: "Now I want you / Now I don't."
 Asarat11
Joined: 7/31/2012
Msg: 76
dating a recently divorced person?
Posted: 12/28/2012 9:34:32 AM
"Smart Barbie", heh heh, Hi YBNG.

Pre-determining an outcome based on a person's current situation, past history, experience, etc. almost always leads to failure or a missed opportunity - as expectations usually never equal reality - whether positive or negative.
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 78
dating a recently divorced person?
Posted: 12/29/2012 10:11:39 AM
Recently divorced men are difficult to date, I agree. I think everyone, male and female, needs time to figure out what they want before jumping into a relationship again. I also think that many men need some time to run around a bit before they get into a relationship again. Some people don't need this time, however, and are more "relationship" types. Statistics show that most men get married again after a divorce, but women are less likely to do so. If you are dating a recently divorced person, I think it's best to not put pressure on he or she and to take things slow. They just might not be ready for anything serious.
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 79
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dating a recently divorced person?
Posted: 12/29/2012 11:02:07 PM
Asarat's posts have been pearls of wisdom re: this topic.

Additionally, for some divorced folk, the actual divorce took place long before the legal formalities. Even when still maintaining the same household, the marriage was long gone. Sure, there may be some minor trauma associated with the actual legal parting of ways (who gets the Saw Stop table saw or the hand hammered Chinese wok) but the deep emotional agony of a marriage gone down the crapper is mostly removed from the present day. Their response to relational freedom may indeed be different than those who have had to deal with a sudden fracture.

TK
[Fracture?, more like dissociative (personality/identity) disorder]
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