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 ColdHeartedBastard
Joined: 6/30/2005
Msg: 84
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I believe as long as the mother shows some [un]common sense, tact and [reasonable] courtesy, the benefits (both to mother and child, as well as society) of breastfeeding far outweight the social stigma of todays [narrow minded :-P] society.. I say that it benefits society as well because the benefits for mother and child help strengthen them both as fit, strong, productive members of that society.

The part I just don't get is how are breasts "sexual organs?" The narrow definition of sex organs does not include them ( http://www.answers.com/main/ntquery?gwp=13&s=sexual%20organs ), and the according to the more broad view, anything involved in erotic acts is.. which would include guys nipples.. how many guys run around topless? Maybe we should outlaw that.. It would also include hands (they are involved in touching in many sexual ways), eyes (if they were not used in a sexual manner, porn mags would not be so popular :-P), mouth (kissing, sucking, etc).. Should we cover them up too? Seems to me that people who claim "sexual organs" are "crying wolf," and defining only those things which suit their purposes, rather than a completely valid argument.

C.
 Atlantic Ariel
Joined: 3/7/2006
Msg: 87
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 3/16/2006 5:12:47 PM
APPROVE!!!!

Are you SERIOUS? You have a friend who actually BELIEVES breastfeeding is WRONG because breasts are sexual organs????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I strongly recommend getting a different brand of friend.
 kitsguy4u
Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 91
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Posted: 5/14/2006 3:11:48 PM
I approve. People get far to uptight about it. Its normal and natural. Once the baby is around then it is just a milk dispenser and not "sexual". At least women use them responsibly. You know if men had anything in their nipples they would go around squirting it at their friends!

There is nothing wrong with it and anyone that has a problem should just close their eyes.
 chicaboom
Joined: 5/11/2006
Msg: 92
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Posted: 5/18/2006 10:30:26 AM
breastfeeding in public is fine
babies get hungry and must be fed

aaaaaaaaaand we get to see some tit lol
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 93
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Posted: 5/30/2006 8:25:17 AM
Sorry to drag this up, but I just had to add my two bits here.

Breastfeeding in public?? ABSOLUTELY! Not only did I nurse my kids, but any future children I might be blessed with will also be nursed. #1 son nursed for 16 mo, #1 son for 39 mo... yes, that's right... 3 yrs and 3 mo, altho he probably didn't NIP (nurse in public) after about 2 yo but that's because his schedule was to nurse mostly first thing in the morning, before nap, before bedtime at that point, and we weren't necessarily out at those times. I've been in a packed mall at Christmas time walking and nursing him and no one was the wiser. All anyone ever saw was his little toes peeking out from the sling, and of course if a person was taller then I was and could come up behind me and look down on just the right angle, they might see some boob... but that was highly unlikely.

Neither one of my boys had formula, and I actually got into an arguement with my son's dr because of it. She didn't know much about breastfeeding and felt he should be put on formula, and I disagreed and educated her more on the subject.
 missmom781
Joined: 5/21/2006
Msg: 94
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 5/30/2006 10:29:11 AM
I'll put my boob away when you put away your latex bottle

Yep I believe that is my full opinion on this
 ISORealismNOTPerfection
Joined: 1/30/2006
Msg: 96
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 9/22/2006 5:39:52 PM
Breastfeeding is one of the most natural things when becoming a mother. As far as in public, when I breastfed my children, I would always take a blankie or something to not show anything. Breastmilk is more nutritious for babies and tends to keep them from getting sick so often. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. If certain public places do not like it or think it is inappropriate, then perhaps pumping the milk into bottles would be best, but as far as I am concerned, if I were a business owner, a patron in a business, etc. it would not bother me in the least.
 Huggablehottie
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 97
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 9/22/2006 5:46:01 PM
To answer the question, I approve of breastfeeding in public, as long
as the mother is using a blanket or something to keep peeping voyeurs
from getting their jollies. And, yes it is distracting if you can see huge
pointy nipples hanging about.....
Unfortunately we live in a very sex saturated society, and for some people they
can not handle seeing exposed breasts in public, they would trip over
their own feet just to gawk!

I also approve of have breastfeeding areas.
Babies have to eat too you know!

The only thing that would look weird to anyone is if a mother
is breastfeeding an older baby, older than 1.........

Bottle fed babies do fine also. Most posts that I read about the boob
fed ones doing much better than bottle fed ones, comes from your
personal experiences.
 Huggablehottie
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 100
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 9/23/2006 9:00:27 AM
These opinions are all nice, but not very realistic, given the
type of society that we live in.
Exposing the entire breast of a woman, has not been
something that has been done in public, and to
think it is time to warrant a change is absurd.
 MrGordonGecko
Joined: 6/29/2006
Msg: 103
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 9/23/2006 3:05:15 PM
If a baby has to eat, they have to eat. But not sure why there is such a debate over the discretion issue.

Discretion is designed to protect you, not other people. How many people here make a big cash withdrawal from the bank to take care of one thing or another and start counting it out in the middle of the street? Most don't, most people hide the money. Why do people hide the money? So they don't get shot in the face for the money.

So ok, if some of you women want to let your breast hang out in the middle of the park or some business district, that's on you. Just remember you don't know who is there watching you. Sorry but there are some sick twisted people out there. There are websites now dedicated to letting people know how many registered sex offenders live in their neighborhoods and people are usually surprised the number of results listed.

You can scream about rights and equality all you want, but it just means you are painting yourself as one big fat target for the predators out there. All the rights in the world mean nothing if some guy follows you home from the park, knocks you out when you unlock your door, molests your kid then drown the kid in your bathtub and proceeds to rape you 20 times with a corkscrew.

It baffles me, so many single mothers here whine over and over about how no man is gonna meet their kids upfront because they are afraid of predators and dangerous men, yet are willing to throw a breast out in public, where they risk danger not just from one man, but ALL MEN out there and don't care. How is that common sense? Do people pick up newspapers or watch the news anymore? It's not a new revelation here, the world can be a cruel brutal place for people who paint themselves as easy targets.

But if some of you ladies want to hang a boob out in public to make a point, just remember there are some men out there who are more than happy to make a point of their own.
 PlaynWithDummies
Joined: 9/18/2006
Msg: 104
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 9/23/2006 3:57:11 PM
Breasts are a food source. Our bodies were made that reason for that reason.

Dont listen to your friend. That is ignorance.

Tell her to watch a few wild life shows, and tell an animal to feed their young with a bottle.
 PlaynWithDummies
Joined: 9/18/2006
Msg: 105
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 9/23/2006 4:34:10 PM

I have a question about breast feeding, mabye they sag more when they are used to breast feed? Is that how she thinks they should be sexual only?


no, they dont.. In fact it makes the uterus contract and you get slimmer faster.

Breasts are about good support bras. You can have perky ones till the day you die, if you look after your body. It is all about taking care of yourself. Not just by working out, but by weight management, and a good bra.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 107
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Posted: 9/23/2006 6:54:04 PM
Ok... well boobs are not a sexual organ, or at least that was NOT the intent initially. They, like teats on a cow, dog, horse, elephant, cat, etc are there to serve the purpose of nurishing the offspring of the species. I nursed my first son for 16 mo. My second for 39 mo. I have nursed in public, on planes, at Thanksgiving dinner... I am sorry but if my child is HUNGRY my child is going to EAT. Period. I never, never, ever, never just whipped it out and hooked 'em up tho. Never. At home (with just us) I didn't care. If we had company then we covered up, or if out in plublic we covered. As any nursing mom knows tho, once the nursling reaches a certain age (about 6-8 mo) they decide it's way more fun to pull the blanket off then to stay covered. There are ways around this too. Learning to tuck the top of the blanket in behind you if you are able to does help. I found that using a sling to nurse in while out in public serves two purposes... unless a person came up behind you and was able to look down over your shoulder, no one knows what you are doing... plus you are able to continue on doing your shopping!! I remember nursing my second son at about 18 mo while doing Christmas shopping where he fell asleep in the sling, nothing showing but his little feet hanging out the one end, kicking happily away... just before he fell asleep!

I guess you can kind of tell where I stand on this, right? I am all for nursing. I think it's the most natural thing in the world for a mother to do... and I totally respect ANY feeding choice a mother makes. There are many that can't nurse, choose not to nurse, pump for the duration, can't pump, express, nurse for what feels like forever, etc... I do NOT like to see blatent exposure in the guise of feeding. Learn how to nurse discreetly while in public please.
 MrGordonGecko
Joined: 6/29/2006
Msg: 109
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 9/23/2006 8:25:18 PM
My point was and still is that discretion is not just about protecting other people around you, it's about protecting yourself.

People do it everyday in all forms of context.

I'm not saying a pregnant woman who lets her boob hang out and that's a factor in her beating deserves a beating. I'm saying it's just not common sense.

Anyone here tell total strangers intimate details about their finances or their family problems? Why not? Because that discretion protects you. It's common sense.

To say a woman who lets a boob hang out in public for any reason, when she has a reasonable option to cover herself, will NEVER draw a negative situation to herself, even a potentially violent one, is absolutely ridiculous.

Because you have a right to do something doesn't mean it's the smart move to actually do it. Someone has the right to wear a pro Klan t shirt in the middle of Compton. But how smart is that move? Because a woman has the right to let a boob hang out without discretion in public does not mean it's always the smart move to make.

There are women who won't accept a drink from a man at a bar or a club for fear of getting a spiked drink. There are women who won't let new dates meet their kids for fear of that man being a predator. There are women who won't walk to their cars alone if they work late at night unless they have an escort of some kind. All in the name of safety and common sense. But it makes sense to not be worried about sitting in public with a boob hanging out, because you want to make a point about equality and parents rights, knowing full well you could attract the wrong element or situation to you and your child?

Single mothers make this huge to do about protecting their kids and their kids come first and how they will do anything for their kids. Yeah, that true? How about some common sense over trying to prove a point about mother's rights.
 LoonyTunz
Joined: 8/11/2006
Msg: 111
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Posted: 9/23/2006 8:56:29 PM
Maybe I am weird but asmuch as I love breasts, breastfeeding is a completely non-sexual site. Actually it's sort of touching, not to mention all the psotives attributed to it from increased immune systems, higher intelligence, I would imagine the physical closeness does wonders for both the mother and the child being the social creatures we are.
So for me I just try not to look, not out of shame but in trying to respect the privacy of the mother. Now I might just rubberneck a time or two if your 6 or 7 year old tries hiking up your shirt for a quick drink (and yes I have seen that happen)
Overall, not that my opion should encourage or dissuade anyone is approval.
 bolotye
Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 112
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 9/23/2006 10:00:29 PM
Breast feeding in public is fine IF IF IF you cover yourself and your child. It does not matter that its normal or natural or for the good of your baby. What matters is, we are a long ways off from little house on the prairie.

There are perverts everywhere. You have no idea when someone is walking by or staring and wondering if they have something perverse in mind. Id much rather breastfeed while my child and my breast was adquately covered, then leave my child and myself exposed to the possibility that something that is good, is being twisted into something that is perverse.

Regarding the other posters who are adamant about breastfeeding anywhere anytime, you are doing the *stomp your foot I can if I want* but using the excuse because its good for your baby. You are not taking the time to consider the possibilities of what is around you and how someone may be viewing you and your baby fully exposed. And if you are considering the possibilites, yet disregarding them, then you have an even bigger issue.

This would really have nothing to do with you wanting your right to breastfeed on the basis you are doing something healthy for your child. What you are really doing is sticking your nose in the air and doing it for the simple reason * cuz I can*

Any mother with some class, is not going to EVER pull their breast out in public and leave their child and themselves exposed. Cover yourselves for modesty purposes.

Loonytunz. You mentioned the child that is 6 or 7 walking up for a quick drink. Hell no. That is far too old to be doing any breast feeding. Ridiculous.

Naturally this all different if we are in the jungles of wherever...but we arent. Act like it.
 LoonyTunz
Joined: 8/11/2006
Msg: 114
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Posted: 9/24/2006 12:02:24 AM
lol bolo yes I had a bit of trouble understanding the 6-7 y/o myself, I knew I couldn't be the only one that thought that was a bit odd. The more relaxed attitute here could have something to do with the fact that it is perfectly legal for women to go toples if they so desire. Too often though those that do much like the guys in speedo's are the ones you wish had the sense to cover up . But it has led to desensitisation, so it really doesn't register, it's just something u notice at a glance and then tune right out.
 LoonyTunz
Joined: 8/11/2006
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Posted: 9/24/2006 1:03:11 PM
Exactly Chaz, there are far too many puritans here even today that insist if it feel good it must be bad, if it involve a good 30% of the body of THEIR choosing it must be a sin. There could also be a bit of a jealousy issue, and the hush-hush attitute toward the human body and all it's functions as the only complaints I have personally heard expressed when a woman has fed her child in public have come from older women (by older I mean retiree age group).

For one I am glad those attitudes have changed for the most part over here. It really shouldn't be an issue, it is natural and healthier than the alternatives for both the mother and child.
 KIWI3nme
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 118
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Posted: 9/25/2006 5:44:05 PM
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!

for a thousand plus yrs humans have fed this way..........and now all of a sudden ppl think oh my goodness put that away!!!!!! shoo shooo....!!!!!

screw that...i b fed both my children successfully..... i made huge napies from soft flannel for the sole purpose of breastfeeding. I dont give a danm what ppl thought if my baby was crying and wanted mum she/he got me...anywhere, anytime. I would cover up...sit down and most ppl had no idea i was feeding.

Plus and I also had a sling i could breastfeed simply by pulling the side up and be discreet about it...no one knew.

BUTTTTTT there are the extremists who pull out a triple DDDDDDDD for everyone to see and thats simply no cool...we dont need to see THAT!!!!! yuk...and not even cover up...gross...

LOLLLL I used to work in a maternity store for years and seen it all lol..
 campoholic
Joined: 9/26/2005
Msg: 121
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Posted: 9/25/2006 8:47:48 PM
Approve.
First off, we must all consider this. It was society that has made female breast sexual. The reaseon why we have them, is to feed our babies. Now, yes, nowadays it is a personal choice whether you breast feed or bottle feed. Is is scientifically proven that breastfeeding is indeed heathier for the baby, YES. however, for all the women who have had bad experiences, i.e. diaper rashes, did you consider what you were eating? how about the diapers that you were using? how about how often you chaged the baby, how about heat rash, you see, I could go on and on forever, but here it is. Would you want to eat your dinner sitting in a bathroom??? or in a closet not even big enough to spread your arms out?? It is disgusting to think that someone would shun you if you feed your baby in public. no one tells you not to eat that sandwich while you're sitting there, how dare they tell you that you can't feed your baby!
 KIWI3nme
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 126
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Posted: 9/26/2006 3:40:31 PM
nope soak it in it....

i got more looks feeding my kids in the washroom than I did sitting down somewhere in the mall or in the kids section at toys r us....ppl think its ok to stop and stare...coo at it...or annoying kids would lean over and watch me....

I actually found more privacy in public than banishing myself to the bathroom where a parade of ppl in close quarters watching me..

and btw...I WAS one of those moms who bled...had fevers...had bad latch...but a lactation nurse came to my house and stayed with me all day until my baby had a good feeding.She squeezed me and fed my daughter allowing me to flow freely and had releif.

after that day no prblems....but yes i was so upset...and wanted to give up too...
 Masala_1
Joined: 6/3/2006
Msg: 132
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:16:31 PM
This is one of the most natural things we do as mothers. It is mainly in our cultrue here in North America that we find problems with it. Children that are breatsfed have the right to eat when they are hungry just as does a bottle fed baby.
I ran into this problem lots when my daughter was a baby, even had a gentleman come up to me at a restraunt when I was feeding my daughter ( everything was covered with a blanket) and ask me to go feed my daughter in the bathroom.
 bolotye
Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 135
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Posted: 10/26/2006 6:44:45 AM
Again...breastfeeding is fine. Matter fact its great.

Its having yourself and your baby exposed during breastfeeding thats a problem.

We are a long ways from little house on the prairie days...a mother feeding in public, should cover herself and her baby.

For the people who think its ok to pop out your boob and starting feeding regardless of where you are and give the * screw em attitude* Thats a problem.

Modesty and privacy should be given to the act of breastfeeding itself. If you breastfeed, always carry the proper provisions in public like a thin blanket or some sort of cover for you and your child.

The OP's question was do you approve or disapprove. I approve. But do it with finesse and modesty.
 goodfishgonebad
Joined: 8/20/2006
Msg: 136
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 10/26/2006 1:11:24 PM
any form of breastfeeding is great.
only thing that puzzles me is, why do people get so up tight about exposed breasts...
are we that sexualy starved or just sick in the head?

course church has a lot to do with that, while priests are molesting our kids, they teach and we learn how to be sexualy demented.

anyhow my hat off to those who are breastfeeding.

keep up the great work ladies.
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