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 he4she
Joined: 11/4/2005
Msg: 137
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I strongly approve. There is nothing sexual about a mother breastfeeding her baby.
People who disapprove, they have the problem, not the mother breastfeeding.
 bolotye
Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 138
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 10/28/2006 6:06:43 AM
cover yourself while breastfeeding.....simple.
 lovableladywanted
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 151
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 10/29/2006 10:44:14 PM
I have been breast fed in public than we both got 50$ citation for lewd behavior. I approve if you dont get caught
 Canoe Gal
Joined: 5/5/2006
Msg: 153
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 10/30/2006 9:23:36 AM

i think that should be done in private. thats like me saying "if i had to take a p i s s i should just whip it out go where i am.

What does urination have to do with breastfeeding? There is a difference between feeding with dignity and exposure. There is nothing wrong with feeding as nature intended as long as there is discretion. I breastfeed both my children and have no regrets.

I was asked to leave a coffee shop once because I was making an individual uncomfortable feeding my daughter. He would never have known I was nursing if the waitress hadn't practically shouted "you breastfeed?" Because of it I made a scene. I took off the blanket and told them if they didn't like it...arrest me. I had been discrete until that moment. I stayed put...he left. Simple solution.
 KIWI3nme
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 158
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 10/31/2006 2:27:38 PM
sooo im expecting my baby in may next year...and you bet yer ass im going to breastfeed as long as I can. I did it with my kids 1 yr each and it was such a rewarding experience a money saver and the best beginning you can give them.

I had ppl who smiled at me in the restaurant when i tucked my baby in to feed..and I had old hags who snarled and said for godness sake do that somewhere else!!! I pretty much fingered them and they sped off in their rascals lol... I have said it once before i got more looks and stares in the bathroom than I did on a bench or a cafe quietly in the corner. And also WTF whould want to sit for 20 min eating a sandwich in a stinky bathroom?? same goes for your baby...its getting its meal too..think about it..

If anyone has a problem next year when they see me whip it out somewhere you can kiss my white canadian ass!!
 KIWI3nme
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 165
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 11/1/2006 3:31:48 PM
WAS THAT SUPPOSED TO BE A BASH???

it was meant to be a funny joke...HA HA... what no one here likes to laugh?? shhesshh


its ok...my man kisses me everywhere ...no need for strangers.
 bolotye
Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 167
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 11/2/2006 5:59:02 AM
There seems to be 2 opinions in this thread.

1. Its ok to breastfeed in public, anytime anywhere. Fully exposed, regardless of who is watching.

2. Its ok to breastfeed in public. But cover yourself and your baby. Be discreet.

Ayep...its ok to breastfeed in public. Definitely. But cover yourself and your child. Simple and easy. When a breastfeeding mother knows she is going out, come prepared. Make sure you have a blanket or something that can cover you and your child.
 Canoe Gal
Joined: 5/5/2006
Msg: 171
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 11/4/2006 9:54:56 AM
miltownpr65...Making assumptions and judging someone before knowing them is very narrow minded. Considering all of your previous comments however, not surprising. Going by your previous comments, I am under the impression that your lack of maturity and intelligence is showing all to obviously. You might want to educate yourself on empathy and tact. You can disagree with me all you want. You don't even have to like me. That is your right. However, insulting me is not.

This lazy ass as you call it was working full time, raising my daughter alone and going to night school. What was lazy about that. So I took a 20 min break from my life to enjoy a cup of coffee with a friend and feed my daughter. Yes, I guess to someone like you that would be considered lazy. If it is so offending to you, don't look. No one has forced you to sit there and watch a women feed her child. There are just as many men out there as there are women who would prefer their child breastfeed. Regardless of whether or not it was in public.

I was discrete while in the coffee shop. It wasn't until someone, who had the right not to look at me or watch, decided for everyone that I was being offensive. With a blanket, no one even knew I was holding my daughter let alone breastfeeding. Nothing was exposed. Just a piece of education for you...breasts are on a woman...tits are on cows.
 Canoe Gal
Joined: 5/5/2006
Msg: 172
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 11/4/2006 12:06:15 PM
If nursing discretely with a blanket, no one even knows or realizes that you are breastfeeding. If you are in someone elses home, it is only common curtisy to find out if there would be a problem with openly nursing. If they have provided a private area for this, then you should be respecting their wishes and comply with them. There is not harm in that. You are afterall in their home.

The only reason for it to become offensive in a public area is if you are not being discrete and are intentionally making a scene. Maybe it is because I am a small woman and it only looked like I had a shawl on, but the only reason anyone ever noticed that I was breastfeeding in public was because of a waitress' lack of tact. If she had not practically shouted, no one would have been the wiser. Unless it is pointed out to someone and brought to their attention, most people never notice. They have more to concern themselves with such as their companion(s) or business that they are conducting than to find fault with strangers.
 bolotye
Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 177
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 11/7/2006 5:07:47 AM
Tieo..

sounds great.

Im curious why people gave you dirty looks tho...were you not covered?
 KIWI3nme
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 188
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 11/16/2006 12:57:38 PM
DUH!!! easy turn your head.

cover it up..plain and simple...descrection is the main thing no baby deserves to wait for thier food....nor sit in a germ infested shitter either...
 KIWI3nme
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 211
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 3:30:33 PM
^^^^^ suns know what you serousily need to lay off

I have a wonderful man...wonderful children and I DEFINITELY dont need some stuck up arrogant PRI!!! telling me im something im not.

I know who and what I am.. and thats all that matters.

Im happy...boo hoo for you if yer not.
 KIWI3nme
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 213
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 3:43:02 PM
AHHHHHHH THE HORMONES THE HORMONES...... HELP HELP!!!!


sorry im in happy mood today... boo hoo all the little whiny pissy snottbags.

get back on topic ppl!!

I COMPLELTY approve of BF in public been there done that. As long as a woman is discreet sitting off on a bench or at the table with a nappie no prblems whatsoever.

Just like us drinking our coffees its a natural thing.... we would'nt have our snacks in a smelly bathroom would we? Its unfair to make a hungry baby starve and wait till we're out of the public eye before feeding completly cruel!!

go ahead...be disceet cover up and watch thier grabby hands so they wont yank the blanket down!!
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 216
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Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 11:37:40 PM
Breasts exist to provide food for babies. They are the focus of male sexual attention and are sensitive organs, or probably more appropriately glands, for women but prior to the advent of formula, they were pretty much how all babies were fed.

I breast fed all three of my kids. I did the blanket thing, which was fine, I don't think I ever offended anyone, I think in most cases they were unaware. I have also gone into bathrooms or sat in my car for a few minutes because it was more comfortable than trying to make sure the blanket stayed where it was supposed to with active little hands.

There are also other alternatives in certain situations. My father was killed in a car wreck when my youngest was about six months old. My mother was in the hospital, we had driven a 1000 miles and the kid was hungry so I just turned my back to the room. My brother, whose wife was also breastfeeding their third child, asked my mom what I was doing and I was like, feeding the baby, what can you see? I noticed my sister-in-law was a little less uptight about feeding the kids around us after that.

I don't think it is appropriate to breastfeed in a restaurant or similar public place more because of children than adults because people should be able to choose what their children are exposed to. My stepson never paid any attention to it other than noticing that I was feeding the baby yet again and my kids just think it is normal but that was our choice, it is not everyone's.

I think you use common sense and behave accordingly depending on where you are and considering the thousands of women that breastfeed, how often does someone really encounter something that they feel is offensive?
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 227
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Posted: 2/4/2007 12:53:15 PM
I think breastfeeding can easily be accomplished in a way that makes no one uncomfortable.

The post about the topless beach is interesting and Susndeca, while I recognize that you are not anti-breastfeeding and that you and I basically hold the same opinion, the whole thing is just sort of funny to me at this point.

With the styles that are currently popular, I regularly see women who have on shirts that are so low cut that I find myself sometimes almost mesmerized waiting to see what is going to pop out when. We are often host to lace lingerie that allows a bit too much visual access for public and we are not talking attire that is for clubbing.

So the difference between what we all see at Wal-Mart or the grocery store is not offensive in comparison to breastfeeding because anything that might pop out won't be used for anything and the bra is more attractive while for a breastfeeding mother the bra is functional and often not attractive and I may see a nipple for like two seconds, not even long enough to really see it, while someone is feeding their baby.

Seems a bit ironic
 melissabella
Joined: 1/29/2007
Msg: 250
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/10/2007 4:39:11 PM
I approve of it. BUT....everyone is different. I breast fed my son but for some reason i couldnt do it in public, so i made sure if i was going out, i would have breast milk in a bottle for him.
Some women find it uncomfortable to breast feed in public, even though its very natural. And some people just dont want to see a woman breast feeding. But as alot of women have said they used a blanket, now thats covering all the stuff up, so i dont see why someone would get so offended by it. all they can see is a blanket and you already know the mother is feeding her child. i think its natural and healthy. as one of the other women said in here its a great time to bond with baby. i am just sad that i had troubles breast feeding, i had such a heavy flow of milk that yeah it became very painful to continue. but those who can, go for it.
i think its very beautiful and people who are offended by it....HEY its nature, weather or not you think its the old way or not....Have a look at yourself. And i know from expereince not being able to breast feed in public was the fact that i was sexually abused for many years when i was younger. And i just felt very uncomfortable if a man slightly saw my breast. So i worked around it and pumped my breast milk into a bottle b4 we went out. When i was at home, i didnt use a bottle, baby just had my breast.

So yeah i approve of it!!!!! you got a problem with it....dont go out lol
 treemanbdj
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 257
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/11/2007 12:14:36 AM
Okay after more then a dozen post of BS.. Indecent Exposure WTF??? What are you smoking Sus??? Please for someone that professes to be schooled in the law , site me ONE case in OK in the last 3 decades of a breast feeding felon ORSTFU.

Judge Roy Bean in his wildest days of drunken courtroom shenanigans would never under the slip of a nipple while jr. is catching a liquid lunch fine a women guilty of Indecent Exposure.

Here, I have taken the liberty to print verbatim YOUR Statue of INDECENT EXPOSURE.

Sit the beer/joint/rail down for 5 minutes, gander below, and come up with you most outlandish magical trick of smoke and mirrors ,red herring, grasp of straws on how at a legal point you could fathom this law being applied to breast feeding..............




Oklahoma Statutes Citation
Title 21. Crimes and Punishments
Chapter 39
Section 1021 - Indecent Exposure





§21-1021. Indecent exposure - Indecent exhibitions - Obscene material or child pornography - Solicitation of minors.

A. Every person who willfully and knowingly either:

1. Lewdly exposes his person or genitals in any public place, or in any place where there are present other persons to be offended or annoyed thereby;

2. Procures, counsels, or assists any person to expose such person, or to make any other exhibition of such person to public view or to the view of any number of persons, for the purpose of sexual stimulation of the viewer;

3. Writes, composes, stereotypes, prints, photographs, designs, copies, draws, engraves, paints, molds, cuts, or otherwise prepares, publishes, sells, distributes, keeps for sale, knowingly downloads on a computer, or exhibits any obscene material or child pornography; or

4. Makes, prepares, cuts, sells, gives, loans, distributes, keeps for sale, or exhibits any disc record, metal, plastic, or wax, wire or tape recording, or any type of obscene material or child pornography,

shall be guilty, upon conviction, of a felony and shall be punished by the imposition of a fine of not less than Five Hundred Dollars ($500.00) nor more than Twenty Thousand Dollars ($20,000.00) or by imprisonment for not less than thirty (30) days nor more than ten (10) years, or by both such fine and imprisonment.

B. Every person who:

1. Willfully solicits or aids a minor child to perform; or

2. Shows, exhibits, loans, or distributes to a minor child any obscene material or child pornography for the purpose of inducing said minor to participate in, any act specified in paragraphs 1, 2, 3 or 4 of subsection A of this section shall be guilty, upon conviction, of a felony and shall be punished by imprisonment in a state correctional institution for not less than ten (10) years nor more than thirty (30) years.

C. Persons convicted under this section shall not be eligible for a deferred sentence.

D. For purposes of this section, “downloading on a computer” means electronically transferring an electronic file from one computer or electronic media to another computer or electronic media.

[1] R.L. 1910, § 2463. Amended by Laws 1935, p. 18, § 1; Laws 1951, p. 60, § 1; Laws 1961, p. 230, § 1, emerg. eff. July 26, 1961; Laws 1967, c. 111, § 1, emerg. eff. April 25, 1967; Laws 1978, c. 121, § 1; Laws 1984, c. 91, § 1, eff. Nov. 1, 1984; Laws 1996, c. 37, § 1, eff. Nov. 1, 1996; Laws 1997, c. 133, § 276, eff. July 1, 1999; Laws 1999, 1st Ex. Sess., c. 5, § 179, eff. July 1, 1999; Laws 2000, c. 208, § 1, eff. Nov. 1, 2000; Laws 2002, c. 20, § 1, emerg. eff. Feb. 28, 2002; Laws 2003, c. 308, § 1, emerg. eff. May 27, 2003.



YES?????

Going out here on a limb, cause that's what I get paid to do..... I think it's much more of a detriment to a young boy that his father miss scheduled visits then the slip of a nipple... just MHO...... not trying real hard at being at @ss....

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 treemanbdj
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 260
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/11/2007 9:26:13 AM

Treemanbdj?
- I’m disappointed you didn’t post the legislation that gave breastfeeding mother’s immunity to the *felony charges* you posted. If you Google it a little more I’m sure you’ll learn that although they have immunity from felony charges they can still be charged with misdemeanor counts if the nipple/areole is exposed in public view.


Again I fine example of Ok taxpayers money spent while politicians are spinning their wheels.

Why waste time drafting a law when ONE is pretty clear already on the books as a legal statue.

Oh holyone....please do give us a link....T.Y.

It's crystal clear that the indecent exposure laws in your state clearly don't apply to breastfeeding in pubic as I posted the Statue in message 449.

That's why Sus, my googleing fish you can't cite such a case where a women was convicted on such by the mere act of feeding her child in public Maybe you could Shepardize it.....LMAO@U

As one on your soap box of "For the children speech" Blahhahahaha.....I'd truly put the bucket of stones down from that translucent/silicate house you live in, and the weekend that you might have jr..just pull the shades...


As for the spurious arguement of strip clubs covering up a nipple in comparison to breastfeeding.....

You might make an easier grasp at the moon for a slice of cheese to go with that bolonga sandwhich your trying to feed us.


Plain and simple an adult club with strippers are purely an enterprize based soley on profiteering on LEWD entertainment as rebuttal for feeding an infant?????? (((incert smile icon with fishing waders here))))

The covering of nipples is probable the LAST catch-all snuck in by lobbist to circumvent zoning laws.... Come on any pseudo-counsel of your likes can see that.

Again as in message 449, I bring to your end of the debate the showing of "indecent exposure" application , and not a kaleidoscope of fecal blather repetively taking up bit space in this thread.

If you can't I might just say message 450 is right on the point of matters( pun intended)


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 treemanbdj
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 261
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/11/2007 9:40:39 AM
Here Sus... It's perfectly legal to breast feed in all 50 states in public.

http://www.007b.com/breastfeeding_public.php

That's not enough???? Here try this link. You will see in the first paragraph that says


states have laws with language specifically allowing women to breastfeed in any public or private location


http://www.ncsl.org/programs/health/breast50.htm


Yep, if you haven't guessed it...Oklahoma is on the list..



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Post Edit: Ooopps!! Here you go Sus!! House Bill 2102 from the State of Oklahoma...stating breastfeeding is NOT a crime... Of course I already infered that from the criminal Title 21 of your state...ROFL....But here is the link anyway,,, Maybe these 3 links will have you off to other threads as a dog chasing a parked car...LOL

http://www.lalecheleague.org/Law/Bills31c.html
 treemanbdj
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 263
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Posted: 2/11/2007 10:04:53 AM
Ah Yes.....Sus...

Another.."For the children speech"




Dare I not look at criminal, and school stats in O.C. Ok??

Better yet, put a lock on the new plasma tv and cox cable ya got..

Wouldn't want Jr watching that..

Oh he11 FREE public tv...has more lewd activity then Jr will ever EVER need.


The new laws allow for breastfeeding in public but not the nipple in plain view.


As in ROME.....Link please....T.Y.



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 Smjle
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 268
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/11/2007 10:14:48 PM

I live in a state that is pretty compliant with mother's breastfeeding their babies in public but i know there are some states totally against it.

I also have a friend who believes breastfeeding is wrong because breasts are sexual organs...
Obviously, some states agree with her.

First states don't agree or disagree with anything--people do and no politician is going to propose a law against breast feeding a baby. Women that breast feed always do it as modestly and discreetly as possible so they are not putting themselves on display. You cannot please everyone but humans have been breast feeding babies for millions of years so it’s certainly normal.
 Smjle
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 274
Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/15/2007 5:16:16 AM
i'd love to know more, read the studies, etc.

See http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/6356827.stm for an article on a sixty-year study that supports the existing body of knowledge that breastfeeding results in better outcomes for babies.
 ontario_woman
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 275
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Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/15/2007 5:20:53 AM
The only problem I have with women breastfeeding their child in public is that it brings back bitter-sweet memories of me breastfeeding my little girl. (sniff) They grow up so fast.
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