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 EpisodeIV
Joined: 6/28/2006
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Breasts seem to be originally intended to feed and nourish the youngest of the herd. As such breasts are not "sexual" in their original sense but utilitarian. Somehow we have sexualized breasts. And it is more so in the U.S. than in other countries including other industrialized countries.

Evidence indicates breastfeeding is so right and best for the new human. What can be more natural than the mother nourishing the young? Considering that I believe any woman should be able and allowed to feed their baby anytime and anywhere. Why make it such a big deal?

To those who have a problem with breastfeeding in public or anywhere, anytime I just want to say... grow up!!!
 mysteriousromeo
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 10/12/2008 2:26:17 PM
Breastfeeding in public is most definitely wrong. Mothers should have the decency to go someplace private when breastfeeding their babies. I find the argument that "breast feeding is natural" very humorous. Urinating is natural too but you don't see men pulling out their penises in the middle of the mall and urinating in the planters. And no, covering their penises with a blanket while they're urinating in the panter doesn't make it okay either.
 EpisodeIV
Joined: 6/28/2006
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Posted: 10/13/2008 4:30:31 AM
Breastfeeding in public is most definitely wrong.
"Most definitely?" What specifically makes it so wrong?


Mothers should have the decency to go someplace private when breastfeeding their babies.
So mothers, who by some accounts are doing their duty of increasing the population and thus the strength of a nation of people (in the archaic mindset), should be ostracized for reproducing? Maybe all mothers and children should be removed from everyday life, rounded up and sent to a secluded compound until the children are weaned and able to eat solid food. Would that be the decent thing to do? After all, every time the baby needs to feed, the mother would have to stop whatever she is doing, gather up her things and move to another location. So the 15-20 minute task of nursing her baby (or whatever it takes) every couple of hours or so should instead take twice that long so no one else is possibly exposed. Mothers couldn't return to the work force as quickly because of the lengthy interruptions impacting productivity. Oh wait, that happens now.

Or perhaps the rest of us, upon seeing a mother and her nursing baby, could simply go on about our business and leave the mother and child to theirs. Couldn't that be a decent thing for the rest of us to do? And then the mother, nursing child and the rest of us could continue to do whatever it is we are doing and coexist peacefully.


I find the argument that "breast feeding is natural" very humorous.
No doubt there are some pretty good jokes based on this process. I'd like to hear Paul Poundstone, Sarah Silverman or Wanda Sikes' take on this. Or even Steve Martin or Tim Allen.


Urinating is natural too but you don't see men pulling out their penises in the middle of the mall and urinating in the planters. And no, covering their penises with a blanket while they're urinating in the panter doesn't make it okay either.
In some cultures they don't even need to use a blanket. The men just face a wall and relieve themselves then go on about their business. The women tend to be left out though considering the different plumbing arrangements genderwise. And that is not just in third world countries. Wasn't that a common practice in France?

Also, as there are a few million of us that live in the rural areas of the U.S., we don't wait to run to the mall to a public restroom or planter either. It's an accepted practice to find a tree, a bush or behind a truck or car so as not to unduly disturb passersby should they be visiting city folk who wouldn't understand. Then we get on about our business or the task at hand.

I don't see why women should have to keep their chests covered at all times anyway. There are still many cultures and societies where women can go about their daily business without the encumbrances of the breast harnesses and other hot attire. And amazingly, the men in those cultures go on about their business as well. Their lives are not stopped by the men's being paralyzed by the sight of bare breasts. Imagine that.

It's a natural thang!
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 6/9/2011 11:04:37 AM
APPROVE ...

People need to quit being so inhibited about natural body processes.
I breastfed all four of my children for various lengths of time. I did not flaunt it but also did not run and hide when my baby needed nourishment.

Anyone who can't handle it just needs to look away and keep quiet while the little one has dinner.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 308
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Posted: 6/10/2011 3:27:18 AM
Every where we look there are boobies..partial boobies anyway.

Who cares?

Crying and unhappy baby..Oh no.

Shut it up!! Borrow a boobie if you need to.

Now don't change that diaper in front of me..We will have words.
 robertkoascorpio
Joined: 6/20/2010
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Posted: 8/12/2011 10:46:32 AM
Scientifically- it's quite well documented that babies who are breast fed (and they can be both bottle and breast fed) tend to have more antibodies, and statistically are healthier.

If a baby needs to be fed and the woman is discreet and in a safe environment and covers herself with a blanket, whatever- why not ?

Remember- if someone moves away it may be about respecting privacy, not necessarily that he/ she disapproves of this.

A good place to breastfeed a baby if you are out all day is of course the car still using a blanket which gives a lot of privacy/safety., IMO then back to the Mall or whatever you were doing.
 shmodzilla
Joined: 10/6/2008
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Posted: 8/14/2011 5:26:03 AM
I'll bet if we told all the people that say its unnecessary to breast feed a baby in public that they have to give up public cell phone use in exchange ( which is 99 percent unnecessary) they would drop the topic in a heartbeat .
 shmodzilla
Joined: 10/6/2008
Msg: 312
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Posted: 8/14/2011 5:28:22 AM
My only complaint ( jokingly) is SOOO many times i have walked by and been checking out a cute mom not realizing that is what she was doing until it looked like i was staring because she was feeding the baby!
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
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Posted: 8/16/2011 5:10:55 AM
Approve-wish every mother would breast feed, it is the best food for a human, hands down.

Formula is a good filler for when Mommy cant be there, but breast is best, no matter what the ad campaigns say.

Im always shocked that people will react so negatively to seeing tit once in awhile...tits were not made to be pushed up and to create a sexual look...yes it is nice that they have that effect, but thier primary use is for feeding the young and we are too caught up in the sexiness of boobs to realise we make young mothers feel badly for thier bodies doing exactly what they are designed to do. Shamefull really.
 Bladesmith81801
Joined: 10/30/2010
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Posted: 8/21/2011 9:00:47 PM
Anyone who has a proble with a mother feeding her child in public, or sees something sexual in breastfeeding, has the issue, not the mother.
 KIWI3nme
Joined: 6/6/2006
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Posted: 8/22/2011 8:14:43 PM
me: anytime anywhere my baby cried and wants to eat of course I obliged. I would be discreet and cover up with a blanket or thier sling would cover me. There is NOTHING wrong with BF in public just dont go full monty and have your size D's out for all to see, be discreet and MOST ppl will hav no problems at all. Its a natural thing and I I did it everywhere I wanted when THEY WANTED.

I would also tell ppl to go to hell when I got snarky remarks THERE'S A BATHROOM FOR THAT!!! oh really so since YOU are eating too why dont you take your late and sandwich ,sit on the shitter and eat it? My child is EATING just like you so shove it! would you eat in the bathroom? NO.. neither will my baby.
 countryshorty31
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Posted: 8/24/2011 10:00:34 PM
To me, this is such a non-issue. Live and let live. Mind your own business. Let a mother feed her child. Get over it.
 gentleplus
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Posted: 8/26/2011 10:17:42 AM
As a culture we allow /approve of thong bikinis but have issues with breast feeding..... go figure.... I think it is natural and appropriate as long as reasonably discreet in any setting
 missraven1
Joined: 8/12/2011
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Posted: 9/1/2011 2:22:03 AM
This shouldn't even be up for debate. Baby comes first. Who cares about what anyone else thinks. Feeding from the breast mightn't be the easiest thing (so I've heard) but it's what nature intended. Anyway the wowsers can be comforted by the fact that the nipple and areola should be hidden from view as to properly latch on the infant's mouth covers the area including a bit of the breast itself, hence the term 'breastfeeding'. So only a mound of flesh (if not covered) is visible, not much different to seeing cleavage.
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
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Posted: 9/16/2011 10:23:38 AM
Approve, approve, approve.

I breastfed for over 13 months...if anyone ever had a comment about it, they were shut down by me with one look. You dont like to see it? Then dont look at it. The babies head covers everything just fine and there is nothing more beautiful than mother nature providing for her young.

I have also stepped in when a mother was being made to feel 'dirty'...its the onlookers who are dirty...they peobably also see children as sexual beings...they are the screwed up ones, not the natural mother doing exactly what nature intended.

It is a sick society who can only feel comfy with fake milk being served from fake nipples.
 allthegoodnamesrtaken1
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/20/2011 6:32:26 AM
Breastfeeding in public .......great idea. However its been said in this forum, see above, that onlookers can see something else & some may even view children as sexual objects.

Given that even you (femaleconnection) are aware of this possibility.......breastfeed with discretion. Easy fix for everyone.

Its a beautiful thing for mother and baby, but the moment I see a woman who is all about whipping her breast out....fully exposed....then looking around like *What!!??*

She's challenging the public at that point. She's *seeking* out confrontation.
 LoveBeautifulDays
Joined: 2/21/2013
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Posted: 3/12/2013 9:44:14 PM
As long as babies face and mom's boobs are covered im good!
 mitchozie
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Posted: 3/12/2013 11:07:15 PM
Next to childbirth itself, breastfeeding is the best thing a mother can do for her infant. The BS, encouraging giving the child formula, is just that BS. Follow your instincts, and don't worry about public approval (or disapproval).
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
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Posted: 4/3/2013 5:25:05 AM
Do what is right for your little one. But I agree with above that if you're going to do it, don't be upset by onlookers. What we do in public is just that, public. So deal with it.
 Sciencetreker
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Posted: 4/3/2013 3:56:55 PM
I don't care. Go for it. I do my best not to stare to make a mother uncomfortable. However as a healthy male I do fantasize about the unoccupied breast. Is there is an extra place setting?
 whippedboi
Joined: 3/12/2013
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Posted: 4/4/2013 7:21:33 AM

.they are the screwed up ones, not the natural mother doing exactly what nature intended.


"nature" also' intended' men too pee ( and also poop) outdoors wherever convenient.."nature" didn't 'intend' bathrooms and outhouses, etc.

by this logis why is there a big problem about whipping it out & relieving pressure on the bladder wherever, whenever. it is certainly not "SEXUAL" only DIRTY people would see it that way

it is a natural function of getting rid of bodily wastes.

also I don't think that "nature intended" people to wear clothing yet people seem to get upset if one doesn't do so in public.

if you insist on the "natural way" it would open up many things that people have made up silly rules about
 Aristotle_Amadopolis
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Posted: 4/4/2013 7:57:17 AM

"nature" also' intended' men too pee ( and also poop) outdoors wherever convenient.."nature" didn't 'intend' bathrooms and outhouses, etc.

by this logis why is there a big problem about whipping it out & relieving pressure on the bladder wherever, whenever. it is certainly not "SEXUAL" only DIRTY people would see it that way

For starters based on your post you seem to have a limited understanding of nature, as making statement with reference to what nature intended really show that you do not understand.

Nature does not intend anything, nature is what nature is.

Now that said, if you can not understand the difference between having a crap in public vs breastfeeding then the problem of understanding is all yours and you should wear that derp proudly, as clearly you have no idea what you are talking about.
 milklover
Joined: 3/10/2009
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Posted: 4/13/2013 6:14:43 PM
I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Damn this country is so prudish compared to other places in the world. People need to get over a lot of things here in the US and concentrate on things that are actually important.

And whether it's sexual or not is perspective. Obviously if you're feeding a baby it isn't. If you're feeding me then it is. Nothing wrong with that either lol. Well, maybe not in public..
 satx78218
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Posted: 4/14/2013 7:27:32 AM
"this country is so prudish"

Australian joke on USA:

"you Americans ridicule Australia because of many of its original settlers were English POMmies (prisoners of her majesty), but America was founded by English Puritans, and that's much worse" :)
 Debyduz_
Joined: 5/4/2012
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Posted: 4/27/2013 7:19:41 PM
Breasts were made for babies to eat from not to be sexual organs.

If you can't deal with seeing boob stay home. Guys walk around with shirts of all the time.

Grow up. Evolve a little.
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